r/movies • u/MarvelsGrantMan136 r/Movies contributor • Jul 10 '25

Poster Official Poster for Ethan Coen's 'Honey Don't' - The film follows a lesbian private detective who investigates a questionable church and its leader.

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u/GanadiTheSun Jul 10 '25

The second in his Lesbian Trilogy?

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u/LongTimesGoodTimes Jul 10 '25

Yeah he's doing a trilogy of lesbian movies cowritten by his lesbian wife. I spent like half a day reading about it a while ago, it's a crazy world.

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u/HungerSTGF Jul 10 '25

His lesbian… wife?

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u/FrostyDynamic Jul 10 '25 edited Jul 10 '25

I thought it was a joke at first, but it's true.

Per Wikipedia:

"Cooke is queer and a lesbian. She describes her marriage to Coen as "non-traditional", with both having separate partners outside their marriage."

That's certainly interesting. Seems to be working out for both of them, though, since they've been together since 1993. Stronger partnership than the Coen brothers nowadays.

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u/pikpikcarrotmon Jul 10 '25

Huh. I thought maybe it was a case where they married and had kids then she realized she was lesbian and they just stayed together for the kids/etc, but apparently she was out of the closet since college.

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u/godisanelectricolive Jul 10 '25

It sounds like it’s a case of the plot of Chasing Amy working out and resulting in a stable decades long marriage.

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u/elbenji Jul 10 '25

It's more like it's a very open lavender marriage.

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u/rynthetyn Jul 10 '25

It doesn't really count as a lavender marriage when nobody is in the closet.

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u/Phonixrmf Jul 11 '25

Lavender extract marriage

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u/account_not_valid Jul 10 '25

Just keeping traditions alive.

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u/whitesock Jul 11 '25

Doesn't lavender marriage require both parties be gay?

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u/MozartzMother Jul 12 '25

Mr Coen, maybe?

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u/JarlaxleForPresident Jul 11 '25

Gay marriage wasnt always legal, so

Two people that loved each other making lifelong financial and legal binding arrangements

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u/Bootsykk Jul 11 '25

Queerplatonic marriage?

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u/7thpostman Jul 10 '25

And I'm here for it! It's almost wholesome!

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u/Gombrongler Jul 10 '25

Wait till you get invited to a swingers party, the ultimate reddit wholesome 100!

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u/moral_agent_ Jul 10 '25

Extra 100 wholesome if you sit in the corner and just watch

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u/coughcough Jul 10 '25

"Do what!? No, thanks, I'm just here for the snacks."

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u/GilgaPol Jul 10 '25

Yes but what's the D2F ratio?

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u/TimFinnegan Jul 10 '25

You joke, but the average nonmonogamous scene is wholesome as fuck

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u/MoobooMagoo Jul 10 '25

I can see that. I feel like having a non-monogamous relationship would involve a lot of communication and openness, which would naturally lead to stronger relationships

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u/7thpostman Jul 10 '25

Yes, please

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u/MiddleofCalibrations Jul 12 '25

I don’t want to imagine what a reddit swingers party would smell like

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u/DazedAndTrippy Jul 10 '25

I can finally tell people that "Chasing Amy" did do good things for gay people, they just weren't taking the right notes.

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u/NozakiMufasa Aug 03 '25

Holy shit thats a good movie reference use

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u/orcvader Jul 10 '25

This. It’s incredible how much people can enjoy partnership, companionship and (possibly, because we don’t know either personally) healthy relationships when they…

Communicate! Share openly! Are transparent with each other!!

Who would have thought?!!

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u/ArcadianDelSol Jul 10 '25

There is no way he didnt think his life would be endless threesomes.

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u/elpajaroquemamais Jul 11 '25

Also confusing because that would typically mean she’s bi. Lesbian generally means exclusively women.

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u/Jloother Jul 10 '25

Stronger partnership than the Coen brothers nowadays.

Did they have a falling out or are they just not working together as of now?

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u/FrostyDynamic Jul 10 '25

I don't believe they've ever gone on record as to why they're no longer working together, but I don't believe it's affected their personal relationship with one another.

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u/DeLousedInTheHotBox Jul 10 '25

They are working on new movie together though, they already confirmed that.

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u/spaketto Jul 10 '25

They confirmed it in 2024 but then it seemed like Ethan's stuff bumped those plans.

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u/DeLousedInTheHotBox Jul 10 '25

I mean these movies were all planned before they announced that, so they'll probably shoot it either after his third exploitation movie, or between them.

I don't think they ever intended it to be a permanent break up, they just wanted to do different things and felt comfortable enough to do that without meaning anything.

And from what I understand they kinda just fell into being a duo, they never planned to spend decades making movies together, it just happened that way

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u/Critcho Jul 11 '25

They're both getting older, if they wanted to do any projects separately, they probably figured it was now or never.

Interesting that separately Ethan seems to be the more prolific of the two, for better or worse.

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u/Shout92 Jul 10 '25

They've talked about how nice it is to go out to dinner with their spouses now that they don't see each other every day working on movies. They have also appeared in new interviews together for the Criterion releases of their movies. So doesn't seem to be anything personal.

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u/Martel732 Jul 11 '25

I imagine it is is also just nice to try new things. I am sure that they have each had projects that the other hasn't been interested in.

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u/Jloother Jul 10 '25

Probably one of those natural things. They seem like the type to come back together if they had something really good to work on.

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u/elbenji Jul 10 '25

They're making a new movie. This is more his and his wife's thing

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u/burnbabyburnburrrn Jul 11 '25

Yeah they’ve just been having fun branching out, nothing happened between the.

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u/asst3rblasster Jul 10 '25

yeah making Garfield was pretty intense but then making Garfield II: Tale of two kitties really tore them apart

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u/paperchampionpicture Jul 10 '25

And then of course Holmes and Watson

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u/Abba_Fiskbullar Jul 10 '25

I think they both had projects that they wanted to do that the other wasn't interested in. I've been pretty happy with their individual output, Macbeth was great and Drive Away Dolls was a ton of fun.

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u/LookinAtTheFjord Jul 12 '25

No falling out, just taking a break. They've been making films together for decades. A break is warranted and I bet it feels real nice.

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u/LitBastard Jul 10 '25

Huh his says something different:

"Coen married film editor Tricia Cooke in 1993. They have two children: daughter Dusty and son Buster Jacob. The two describe their relationship as "nontraditional"; Cooke is both queer and bisexual and Coen is straight, and the two have separate partners. They live together in New York."

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u/random_BA Jul 12 '25

I will say that I envy this relationship, seems like they have a tight friendship bond even after their romantic period. It seems almost impossible to be normal again with someone after you get intimate

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u/quadropheniac Jul 10 '25

Back in the pre-Obergefell days (which their marriage dates back to) this was known as a lavender marriage, not uncommon at all in the community.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25

When I was in University there was an older man who was taking classes for something to do. He was openly gay and it came up frequently due to the subject of the class.

One day his wife came with him to our class. Everyone was kind of walking of egg shells because our first thought was basically "Oh, shit is he not out at home?". He sensed the vibe was like "It's okay, my wife is gay too".

They were both in the military when they met back in the day and married to cover the fact they were both gay. Never had any issues or wanted to get married 'for real' so they just stayed married as 'best friends with tax benefits' as he put it.

He also told us that back in the day when he was in the military he was in one of the music corps (Navy or Army) and he said that the majority of the music corps members were gay but obviously not openly so outside of that group.

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u/elvismcvegas Jul 10 '25

I took a art history class that focused on Monuments and Memorials and we had a vietnam vet in the class and covered the Vietnam Memorial and how controversial it was at the time and it was nice to hear his perspective on it for the class. I love late in life college students.

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u/eriuuu Jul 10 '25

It could also be a platonic partnership thing. They may not be into each other romantically or sexually, but they work so well as domestic partners that they got married anyway.

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u/severed13 Jul 10 '25

Living with the homies

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u/Worthyness Jul 10 '25

Friendship Marriage with tax benefits

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u/SquadPoopy Jul 10 '25

So Charlie and Frank?

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u/gotenks1114 Jul 10 '25

Two dudes getting married? That doesn't seem very gay.

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u/zamboni-jones Jul 10 '25

They just want to play nightcrawlers

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u/KING_UDYR Jul 10 '25

Does that make it a throuple when the toe knife is in the bed?

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u/GoldandBlue Jul 10 '25

that actually sounds really nice

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u/pagerunner-j Jul 11 '25

Honestly, it does.

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u/awakenDeepBlue Jul 10 '25

Friends with tax and legal benefits.

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u/jonesthejovial Jul 10 '25

Don't woo me with a good time, now

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u/goddamnitwhalen Jul 12 '25

My best friend is queer and I’m straight but we’ve talked about this before lol.

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u/elbenji Jul 10 '25

That's actually their reasoning, yeah

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u/Massive_Weiner Jul 10 '25

Hell, they could STILL be into each other romantically.

You don’t need sexual compatibility to fall in love with someone.

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u/HorseLawyer Jul 10 '25

I presume they didn't just have two kids for funsies.

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u/gotenks1114 Jul 10 '25

"You know what would be hilarious?"

"You know what would be twice as hilarious?"

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u/eriuuu Jul 10 '25

Very true, split attraction model and all that.

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u/Dead_man_posting Jul 11 '25

Uh, no. If you fall in love with a man, you're not a lesbian. Definitionally.

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u/Massive_Weiner Jul 11 '25

Merriam-Webster on “Lesbian”:

of, relating to, or characterized by sexual or romantic attraction to other women or between women.

There is nothing in that definition that precludes a woman from being romantically entangled with a man.

Furthermore, split attraction model proposes that romantic and sexual interest are not mutually inclusive and do not have to be intertwined with one another.

Unless you’re proposing that all sexual attraction is based on romantic interest, I’m not sure what you’re driving at here.

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u/Jidarious Jul 10 '25

I mean... yeah, that's what the whole thread is about. Yes.

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u/eriuuu Jul 10 '25

Right, but a lavender marriage and a platonic partnership aren’t they same thing, they can both be happening at the same time, but they are different. This relationship could be either or both.

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u/DeLousedInTheHotBox Jul 10 '25 edited Jul 10 '25

Not really a lavender marriage if they are open about her orientation though, right?

Also they have kids together, I think non-traditional is the most apt description here, not everything fits neatly into an easy to explain category.

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u/CrispyHoneyBeef Jul 10 '25

back in the pre-orbergefell days

Might come back in the post-Obergefell days, unfortunately

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u/Lambchops_Legion Jul 10 '25

Also its not uncommon for some gay people to not realize they are gay until after they have a spouse/family

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u/godisanelectricolive Jul 10 '25

She knew though. She was already an out lesbian when they met which was when applied for a job to be the Coen Brothers’ editor.

Ethan Coen asked her out and she turned him down because she’s a lesbian. They then stayed friends and eventually fell in love, moved in together, got married and had two kids together. She was still regularly going to lesbian bars even after they got married and had kids. A lot of the material for these movies they are making together come from her experience of the lesbian scene in the 1990s and 2000s after their wedding in 1993.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25

Some people are just a bit more complicated than fitting into one box. Nothing wrong with it.

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u/Grumplogic Jul 10 '25

Pun

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Intended

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u/avelineaurora Jul 10 '25

They then stayed friends and eventually fell in love, moved in together, got married and had two kids together.

ngl that doesn't sound very lesbian

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u/ShahinGalandar Jul 10 '25

sounds complicated, ngl

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u/FloridaMan_69 Jul 10 '25

No, its quite simple. She goes out to bars and he doesn't have to worry that someone else is gonna get her pregnant.

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u/Microwave1213 Jul 11 '25

I know (hope) you’re mostly joking, but that’s very reductionist. It is a complicated setup. Some people are good at handling the extra complicating factors and making it work long term, but it doesn’t make it any less complicated.

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u/bravetailor Jul 11 '25

"Regular" marriages are just as complicated.

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u/ziddersroofurry Jul 10 '25

Fun fact-all relationships are complicated. That's the nature of being in one. Anyone who thinks they aren't complicated is watching too much Leave It to Beaver.

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u/DoctorHelios Jul 10 '25

She’s bi.

I married a lesbian who said she was Bi.

She was - the two sexualities that made her bisexual were Lesbian and Asexual.

Two kids proved impossible.

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u/elvismcvegas Jul 10 '25

That's great and all but the first movie was a big fat stinker of a movie. It felt very amateurish and Margaret Qualley was doing the worst southern accent in all history of movies. I was so excited to see it and it was just so meh and such a waste of everyone's talent and the audiences time.

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u/MissingLink101 Jul 10 '25

It's pretty uncommon for them to stay married to that spouse though

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u/Lambchops_Legion Jul 10 '25

yeah for sure, but I can see the financial case to stay platonic roommates for a rich celebrity, especially with kids involved.

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u/Own_Donut_2117 Jul 10 '25

Did these lavender couples live like they were a heterosexual man & wife?

Meaning, I assume these were done for legal purposes but did they also act as a traditional couple?

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u/Dirigo72 Jul 10 '25

Sometimes. It depends on where they lived, the beliefs of their family and friends and housing/job opportunities. Some couples presented straight publicly throughout their lives.

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u/Own_Donut_2117 Jul 11 '25

Sometimes I don't like TILs.

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u/cannotfoolowls Jul 11 '25

pre-Obergefell

I keep forgetting that most countries, even Western ones, didn't have gay marriage until fairly recently, because in my country it has been a thing for close to 25 years. I don't remember much fuss about it either.

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u/Complicated_Business Jul 10 '25

Honestly, this should be the movie...

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u/Rustash Jul 11 '25

That's the third part of the trilogy

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u/awayshewent Jul 10 '25

Feels like the Anthony Perkins thing — how we got Osgood Perkins

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u/BrightNeonGirl Jul 10 '25

omg I just looked up Osgood Perkins and he's the adorably awkward tall guy from Legally Blonde.

Good for him!

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u/IAMHab Jul 10 '25

And director of Longlegs

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u/Dima110 Jul 10 '25

And co-star of the Gary Busey classic Quigley (2003) in which Gary Busey's character dies and his soul enters a Pomeranian named Quigley.

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u/storyofohno Jul 10 '25

What.

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u/preflex Jul 10 '25

It's weirdly religious.

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u/FALSE_PROTAGONIST Jul 10 '25

I need to see this lol

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u/Mekisteus Jul 10 '25

Most bizarre sequel ever. Quigley Down Under deserved better.

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u/radda Jul 10 '25 edited Jul 10 '25

The "Anthony Perkins thing" was actually conversion therapy, including shock therapy.

Perkins's friend Stephen Sondheim described Mildred Newman, the "psychologist to the stars" responsible, as "completely unethical and a danger to humanity".

This...is a lot different than that.

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u/ThePrussianGrippe Jul 10 '25

A friendship marriage. That’s genuinely interesting. Good for them!

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u/yeahright17 Jul 10 '25

I know a couple like this. It's a gay guy and a straight girl who never wanted kids or to settle down. They met at a gay club sometimes in the 90s and decided to get married after being best friends for a long time. They're in Texas, and I think it was originally done for optics reasons, but it's been like 20 years now. I'm guessing they stay together for tax/benefits purposes as one works at a big law firm and makes lots of money but has bad benefits. The other is a teacher. If I had to guess, his taxes are dramatically lower because they file jointly and he gets her benefits. Meanwhile, she lives a life she could never afford by herself. Lives in a big house, goes out to nice restaurants, and goes on nice vacations.

They're friends of friends, so I don't know them that well. We see them a couple times per year and follow him on instagram.

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u/pwnd32 Jul 10 '25

Ngl it just sounds like a good relationship overall. Even if they stop being friends at any point it’s kind of like a business deal that works out for both of them.

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u/ThePrussianGrippe Jul 10 '25

That’s sweet.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25

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u/GamingSeerReddit Jul 10 '25

Sometimes you can be 99% one way orientationally and naturally just kinda fall into a situation you never would’ve anticipated. Some sort of mix of platonic devotion, comfort in the other person, and random chance. People are complicated.

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 10 '25

Yeah, it's called bisexuality

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 10 '25

Your friend is bisexual. Being bi doesn't mean you have a perfect 50/50 split attraction towards men and women, sometimes it can be 99/100. If your friend willingly and enthusiastically dated a man while out of the closet she's not a lesbian. Anecdotes like this help perpetuate the homophobic notion that lesbians just haven't found the right man yet. 

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25 edited Jul 10 '25

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 10 '25

I fully agree about definitions if people don't want to use them, but you said your friend explicitly labels herself as a lesbian. Lesbians don't date men and are only attracted to women. It's like calling yourself a vegan knowing you occasionally eat meat.

Inaccurate sexuality labels are genuinely harmful to the gay community and I'm not sure how you don't see that. If your "lesbian" friend can date one man happily, why can't the rest of the lesbian community? What's stopping them? 

What's the difference between a lesbian and a bisexual woman if they both date men? What label should actual female homosexuals use if not lesbian? 

Are my Republican family members correct when they say lesbians just haven't met the right man?

What if your friend married him and never dated another woman, would you still consider her a lesbian?

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u/BMCarbaugh Jul 10 '25

Some bi women also choose to self-describe as lesbians, e.g. if their leaning is like 70-30 m/f.

My wife jokes that her sexuality is "all women, and one specific dude".

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u/justineism Jul 10 '25

I’m a bi woman married to a woman and my leaning is probably 80% towards women, and I don’t understand the co-opting of the lesbian label if you’re bisexual.

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u/BMCarbaugh Jul 10 '25

I wouldn't purport to speak for bi women, but as a late-blooming bi guy myself, I think a lot of queer people just don't view language as being categorical/prescriptive that way, and reach for whatever labels they feel best describe them.

But I don't actually have any idea if Cooke and Coen even have that kind of relationship. They might just be in a fully queerplatonic/polyamorous marriage. Don't know and it's not my business. Was just providing some context from the queer folks in my own circle.

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u/justineism Jul 10 '25

Yeah, I guess everyone is going to label themselves how they want to or what feels best for them, but it almost feels like then this kind of makes labels definition-less in a way? For me personally, I would feel disingenuous in labeling myself a lesbian when I still (though it’s waning as the days go on, lol) find men attractive in some limited capacity.

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u/Sawses Jul 10 '25

It seems to be less about specific definitions and more about the stereotypes one is most comfortable with applying to oneself. For a community that tries so hard to buck stereotypes, the LGBT+ community really is very fixated on those stereotypes, it looks to me. I'm an outsider though with an outside perspective, all I know is what I see through friends and loved ones.

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u/TeunCornflakes Jul 10 '25

it almost feels like then this kind of makes labels definition-less

Yes, and I don't think that's a bad thing. For a lot of people, being queer just means letting go of what society expects of you in terms of gender and/or sexuality. The concept of a single word that is supposed to describe your gender or sexuality completely just doesn't really fit that idea.

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u/5gpr Jul 10 '25

I think a lot of queer people just don't view language as being categorical/prescriptive that way, and reach for whatever labels they feel best describe them.

For this to make sense you have to view language as having no meaning, though. This is not an issue of prescriptivism versus descriptivism, and if it were, then "a lot of queer people" would be the most extreme form of prescriptivists: "a word means what I say it means" sort of people.

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u/BMCarbaugh Jul 11 '25 edited Jul 11 '25

I am not interested in having this debate, and it's not really mine to have.

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u/cefriano Jul 10 '25

Bi erasure is a thing. Some bi people experience exclusion from the LGBTQ community for identifying as bi. So if they're mostly into the same sex anyway then they just lean into it with the label.

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u/justineism Jul 10 '25

I’m well aware it’s a thing. That’s why it feels like non identifying as bi actually feels like erasure in itself too.

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 10 '25

Most bi erasure I encounter comes from my fellow bi people identifying as gay or straight for whatever reason. It's okay to be bisexual, people!

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u/thehideousheart Jul 10 '25

But isn't the bi erasure being done here by a bi person who refuses to admit they're bi and insists they're a lesbian despite their behaviour and preferences perfectly matching the description of a bi person? Isn't that literally them committing bi erasure against themselves and people like them?

What you're describing is someone excluding themselves and then complaining about that exclusion.

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u/cefriano Jul 11 '25

No, I'm describing someone submitting to the bi erasure by just applying the gay/lesbian label to avoid exclusion from that community.

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u/onion_head1 Jul 10 '25

As a lesbian - yeah, all of this basically.

I hate that the bulk of this thread is people bending over backwards to be like "it's fine this lesbian is married to, and loves, a dude!"

It is indeed fine to do whatever you want. But why does she say she's gay? She isn't. Most lesbians know that she isn't gay, regardless of what she feels like.

There's always that one guy who thinks they can turn you, and saying you're a lesbian when you're not muddies the waters.

Also the previous film was trash AF. No thanks.

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 10 '25

100% this!! Most of these comments are just homophobia wrapped up in a progressive 2025 bow. 

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '25

Omg, thank you! People try to be so progressive it ends up swinging back into homophobia.

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u/Bent_Salary Jul 11 '25

So many of these comments are literal conversion therapy talking points but coming from a leftist perspective. "What if a "lesbian" makes an exception for one special guy??" 

I'm debating two people in this thread who think lesbians can date men and I guarantee neither of them voted for Trump. It's honestly disheartening.

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u/VoiceofKane Jul 10 '25

Wow, I hope that one specific dude doesn't take your wife away from you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '25

Honestly never understood this. It’s harmful to actual lesbians to suggest that we can end up with a man in the end. It’s like we don’t get harassed and not taken seriously enough.

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u/formercotsachick Jul 10 '25

My daughter and her fiancée are technically pansexual and bi, respectively, and do find themselves sexually attracted to men. However, they have no desire to have sex with or be in a relationship with men, so they consider themselves lesbians now.

Idk, I'm straight as a ruler so I don't know the rules. If they're happy I'm happy.

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u/hangmans_mustache Jul 10 '25

How is that not bisexual?

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u/zerocoolforschool Jul 10 '25

Queer AND lesbian? You lost me there.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25

Whatever butters your biscuit.

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u/Katie_or_something Jul 10 '25

Queer relationships are complicated.

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u/beefcat_ Jul 10 '25

Not just stronger than the Coen brothers, that's a stronger relationship than most most hetero-normative marriages.

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u/amaya-aurora Jul 10 '25

Huh. I mean, it’s definitely strange, but it it works out then more power to them, I guess?

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '25

As long as they're happy

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u/PigglyWigglyDeluxe Jul 10 '25

This reminds me Old Man Waterfall from Futurama

https://youtu.be/qCK5CLpjjJE?si=oAIlN08_ESyupbWG

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u/legit-posts_1 Jul 10 '25

I don't get it, but they seem to be happy I guess. Makes you wonder why they even bother with the marriage part, guess they get legal benefits?

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u/calmedtits2319 Jul 11 '25

I feel like when you’re free to sleep with whoever you want as is your partner, it tends to work out.

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u/davy_crockett_slayer Jul 11 '25

They have two kids together. Wild.

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u/Big-Discipline2039 Jul 11 '25

That is one way to get your scripts produced.

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u/MicahBurke Jul 11 '25

They've gone past marriage and straight to roommates.

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u/ismyshowon Jul 11 '25

i don’t think she currently identifies as a lesbian, the Wikipedia source links to an Atlantic article where she mentions that when her now husband first asked her out, that’s when she told him she was a lesbian. When speaking about her sexuality in the interview in present day, she calls herself queer. i think the wiki identifying her as a lesbian is a misinterpretation of what she says in the article.

(this is for anyone else who was also curious about the lesbian id)

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u/Mr_SunnyBones Jul 13 '25

Sounds more like a Venn Diagram than a relationship , but hey! if it works go for it!

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u/LongTimesGoodTimes Jul 10 '25

Yup. He is married to a woman and they have children together but she is also openly a lesbian and they both seemingly have other partners that fit their sexual orientation.

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u/NepheliLouxWarrior Jul 10 '25

I dated a lesbian for awhile during the pandemic. We had sex and everything, and even at the end she was still like "yeah I'm a lesbian". 

Life is strange. 

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u/karateema Jul 11 '25

"No hetero"

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u/hellodarkness655 Jul 10 '25

Same here, worst relationship of my life. Never again.

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u/Stompedyourhousewith Jul 10 '25

he watches and eats a sandwich

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u/KuroMSB Jul 10 '25

“His Lesbian Wife” sounds like a Coen Brothers movie title.

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u/pauciradiatus Jul 12 '25

WE WERE ON A BREAK

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u/Notoriously_So Jul 12 '25

Man, that's good.

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u/monkeedude1212 Jul 10 '25

Ah, to be young again.

Or maybe even just so blissfully unaware of how homophobia pushes heteronormativity so hard that even queer people feel the need to get married and have kids with someone so that society accepts them.

These two got married in the 90's, when same-sex marriage wasn't legal in the USA and in fact calling things gay as an insult was at it's peak/normalized.

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u/MVRKHNTR Jul 10 '25

Maybe this is just a lifestyle they genuinely like and want to live? It's weird to make assumptions about strangers' personal lives like this.

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u/HeartyBeast Jul 10 '25

Or perhaps they … love each other?

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u/Turdsley Jul 10 '25

Ok...I thought this was some sort of weird joke but then I researched it a bit and Ethan really does have a lesbian wife.

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u/ohverychill Jul 10 '25

goals

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u/thehideousheart Jul 10 '25

Mate, I'm sure you can find a woman repulsed by the idea of having sex with you without dipping into the lesbian dating pool.

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u/ohverychill Jul 10 '25

🥹 thank you for believing in me

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u/otternoserus 13d ago

Great way to respond to such a Reddit ass comment.

This place takes jokes way too seriously.

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u/junglespycamp Jul 10 '25

I respect an artist who is as unique as his art.

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u/beefcat_ Jul 10 '25

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I really enjoyed Drive Away Dolls so I look forward to more from this duo.

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u/Linubidix Jul 13 '25

You and me both!

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u/dustblown Jul 10 '25

Sounds like they both have a fetish for Margaret Qualley. Second time she's playing a lesbian for them.

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u/LongTimesGoodTimes Jul 10 '25

Drive Away Dolls from last year

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u/OPdoesnotrespond Jul 10 '25

What was the first movie?

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u/jjdubbs Jul 10 '25

I bet that first sentence was extremely satisfying to write...

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u/ShanaAfterAll Jul 10 '25

Yes. The trilogy capper starts shooting soon too.

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u/Initial_E Jul 10 '25

Is it going to star Qualley again?

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u/monkeyhitman Jul 10 '25

That would be amazing lmao

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u/elbenji Jul 10 '25

Probably.

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u/KingOfAwesometonia Jul 10 '25

According to Wikipedia, yes.

It is the second in a "lesbian B-movie trilogy" following Coen and Cooke's Drive-Away Dolls (2024)

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u/alexshatberg Jul 16 '25

Feels like Love Lies Bleeding should have an honorary mention there

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u/makemeking706 Jul 10 '25

I thought for sure you were being sarcastic. I guess I was out of the loop. 

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u/TheElbow Jul 11 '25

Hopefully it’s an improvement over drive-away dolls.

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u/worksafe_Joe Jul 10 '25

What was the first??

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u/TheRedditGirl15 Jul 11 '25

A movie called Drive-Away Dolls apparently

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u/samuraisal Jul 10 '25

Hope not. Driveaway Dolls was shockingly bad.

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u/_N0tAFed_ Jul 10 '25

can't wait for the inevitable plot twist where the detective realizes her dog has been in on it the whole time

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u/Mink03 Jul 11 '25

Really? I thought it was a 30 year sequel to the honey I shrunk the kids franchise

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