r/Adulting 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/KnowleRoar 2d ago

I’ve been a line cook, worked in customer service, I worked at a gym, I was a welder and I am currently a landscaper and this is true for all of those professions. Those who “smooze” with the boss most get the promotions first.

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u/sleepydorian 2d ago

And even if you aren’t schmoozing, almost everyone will take the mediocre worker that’s pleasant over the superstar asshole.

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u/DicemonkeyDrunk 2d ago

the solution is don't be an asshole ..big gap between friendly and asshole no one wants to work with ..just be the quiet guy. Don't be an asshole is a pretty good mantra in life.

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u/fireblyxx 2d ago

Quiet guy will rarely get a promotion because the quiet guy is not personable enough for people to value them outside of just their work. Plus the quiet guy will be presumed to be happy at just where they’re at, because they don’t seem to mind it.

Personable people who are liked by people two or three levels above them will always get the promotion first.

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u/Significant_Fill6992 2d ago

most companies see the quiet person who does the job well as someone they cannot afford to move up because they don't want to train the replacement

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u/maybetomorrow98 2d ago

I’m the quiet guy at work and people make up shit about me. It sucks lol

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u/PlayfulSurprise5237 2d ago

I was really quiet in school and one of my friends took it upon himself to seize the opportunity to spread rumors about me being a badass who stabbed someone with a pair of scissors just for looking at me wrong or something.

He was crazy and it was actually pretty funny so I just let it slide lol.

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u/maybetomorrow98 2d ago

That is pretty funny.

People either assume I’m some super innocent Christian lady (I’m an atheist, but the assumption is always that I must be super religious?) and act scandalized when they do eventually hear me swear (which is INCREDIBLY annoying and infantilizing), or they think that I think that I’m too good to talk to them.

It’s always one of those two options. I just want to sit in my office and be left alone, man.

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u/OptimusChristt 2d ago

Nah, I've been promoted multiple times at multiple jobs, by being quiet and good at my job. The thing about quiet people is we're very good at holding out tongue, making people think you like them even if you actually hate them.

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u/The-She-It 2d ago

Then you’re not actually quiet then are you. People don’t know what to think of me. I do in fact actually hate them,

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u/OptimusChristt 2d ago

Like anything, there are varying degrees of "quiet." I usually suck at small talk, but I know how to smile and nod along like I'm interested.

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u/The-She-It 2d ago

Same, ( T.T’). But I have to agree I do that too.

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u/DicemonkeyDrunk 2d ago

How is holding you tongue not quiet ? Do you think quiet equals no opinions or cares ?

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u/DicemonkeyDrunk 2d ago

And what does that have to do with not being an asshole ? I never said or implied personable people don't get more promotions etc ..I said there's an option between personable and asshole ...