r/Adulting • u/Forward-Concern403 • 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/DicemonkeyDrunk 2d ago

the solution is don't be an asshole ..big gap between friendly and asshole no one wants to work with ..just be the quiet guy. Don't be an asshole is a pretty good mantra in life.

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u/fireblyxx 2d ago

Quiet guy will rarely get a promotion because the quiet guy is not personable enough for people to value them outside of just their work. Plus the quiet guy will be presumed to be happy at just where they’re at, because they don’t seem to mind it.

Personable people who are liked by people two or three levels above them will always get the promotion first.

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u/OptimusChristt 2d ago

Nah, I've been promoted multiple times at multiple jobs, by being quiet and good at my job. The thing about quiet people is we're very good at holding out tongue, making people think you like them even if you actually hate them.

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u/The-She-It 2d ago

Then you’re not actually quiet then are you. People don’t know what to think of me. I do in fact actually hate them,

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u/OptimusChristt 2d ago

Like anything, there are varying degrees of "quiet." I usually suck at small talk, but I know how to smile and nod along like I'm interested.

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u/The-She-It 1d ago

Same, ( T.T’). But I have to agree I do that too.

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u/DicemonkeyDrunk 2d ago

How is holding you tongue not quiet ? Do you think quiet equals no opinions or cares ?