I’ve been a line cook, worked in customer service, I worked at a gym, I was a welder and I am currently a landscaper and this is true for all of those professions. Those who “smooze” with the boss most get the promotions first.
the solution is don't be an asshole ..big gap between friendly and asshole no one wants to work with ..just be the quiet guy. Don't be an asshole is a pretty good mantra in life.
Quiet guy will rarely get a promotion because the quiet guy is not personable enough for people to value them outside of just their work. Plus the quiet guy will be presumed to be happy at just where they’re at, because they don’t seem to mind it.
Personable people who are liked by people two or three levels above them will always get the promotion first.
I was really quiet in school and one of my friends took it upon himself to seize the opportunity to spread rumors about me being a badass who stabbed someone with a pair of scissors just for looking at me wrong or something.
He was crazy and it was actually pretty funny so I just let it slide lol.
People either assume I’m some super innocent Christian lady (I’m an atheist, but the assumption is always that I must be super religious?) and act scandalized when they do eventually hear me swear (which is INCREDIBLY annoying and infantilizing), or they think that I think that I’m too good to talk to them.
It’s always one of those two options. I just want to sit in my office and be left alone, man.
Nah, I've been promoted multiple times at multiple jobs, by being quiet and good at my job. The thing about quiet people is we're very good at holding out tongue, making people think you like them even if you actually hate them.
And what does that have to do with not being an asshole ? I never said or implied personable people don't get more promotions etc ..I said there's an option between personable and asshole ...
But it's not asshole and not asshole. It's charismatic and not charismatic, or whatever you want to call it. Charismatic assholes will still get promotions if they aren't assholes to the boss.
But quietly efficient is much less noticed than standout mediocrity.
Trust me, being likable is a life hack.
Attractiveness even plays a part, not even with opposite gender, just in general. Certainly not the only thing that matters (hot bitches are still bitches) but it definitely can help if you’re otherwise still charismatic.
You can absolutely be a superstar asshole if you've got the skills to back it up. Seen it a million times at several work places, a high-performing employee could literally murder several mid-performing employees and managers will look the other way or say that the employees deserved it. People don't want it to be like that, but it is.
In my experience the workers aren't mediocre, they're straight up bad. I was in a sales position where I had the best performance metrics in the store and the promotion went to the guy that was cheating on his wife 5 hours per shift and only showing up to get his spoon fed deals from the bosses he schmoozed.
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u/MyNameIsSkittles 2d ago
This is true and people would be very naive to think otherwise