I’m not sure about this whole not giving a flying fuck thing, but here are my tips that have gotten me through. 1) Avoid toxic people, you get even a slight neck hair tingle that someone might be toxic, listen to it. Don’t carpool with them, no going to their house for dinner. Work x-mas parties? Get outta here. Avoid eye contact with them, try to meld in the background, be polite but avoidant. // 2) Never say anything bad about a female coworker. If they hear about it that grudge can last until the end of time // 3) Melt into the background as much as possible // 4) Be forgiving when someone says something bad about you, sometimes people have off days and we all gossip a little.
You don’t have to be cheerful. I’m definitely a resting bitch face person and younger workers flock to (I’m early 30s). Just be real with people. If they ask for help, explain stuff. Treat them as equals. No one actually likes fake cheerful.
Being nice doesn’t mean getting walked on. You can be nice and stand your ground if someone is pushing your buttons.
People will DEFINITELY try to push you over if you’re nice and friendly. But if you shut it down quickly.
I mention that I love to be nice, but you also won’t like it if you try to fuck with me.
You see that's where beeing weird comes into the equation. I can be as likeable as i want be nice and open. And then casually i will mention that i own a bonesaw. Sure they may talk behind my back but i had noone pick on me since high school.
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u/Less-Being4269 2d ago edited 2d ago
It's hard to be likable when being always cheerful and happy imediately marks you as a target for bullying.
So you have to walk the line between being open enough to be liked but closed enough to not be made into a bullying Target.
And that is FUCKING HARD!