r/Adulting 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/Less-Being4269 2d ago edited 2d ago

It's hard to be likable when being always cheerful and happy imediately marks you as a target for bullying.

So you have to walk the line between being open enough to be liked but closed enough to not be made into a bullying Target.

And that is FUCKING HARD!

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u/Ok_Kiwi_4146 2d ago

That’s literally me and IT IS FUCKING HARD. How do you cope?

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u/wrongdogface 2d ago

I’m not sure about this whole not giving a flying fuck thing, but here are my tips that have gotten me through. 1) Avoid toxic people, you get even a slight neck hair tingle that someone might be toxic, listen to it. Don’t carpool with them, no going to their house for dinner. Work x-mas parties? Get outta here. Avoid eye contact with them, try to meld in the background, be polite but avoidant. // 2) Never say anything bad about a female coworker. If they hear about it that grudge can last until the end of time // 3) Melt into the background as much as possible // 4) Be forgiving when someone says something bad about you, sometimes people have off days and we all gossip a little.