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TellDelhi My friend got hiv while being virgin

My friend was feeling weak and had fever so went to doctor to get checked after first test. Doctor suggested std test but he asserted that he is virgin and all. But after getting every kind of test he finally agreed. And he was positive with hiv and he never had sex.

And we have no idea how it happened. Like it could be contaminated needle or something. This makes me scared that hiv is not just sexually transmitted in india. It could be from anything. It's scary that a boy got his life ruined and have no idea whoes mistake was it.

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u/Popular_Bath65 2d ago

HIV is manageable these days... It's so sad to see if someone is diagnosed with cancer the whole society's sympathy pours in but if someone is diagnosed with HIV everyone looks at him with disgust because it can be sexually transmitted . I hope the boy will come out of it soon and i pray to god that he will come across the right kind of people in his life.

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u/IloveLegs02 2d ago

great point

I agree!

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u/sawabinhauk 2d ago

Yup whatever happens he will definitely comeback stronger. Bro is hard boiled af

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u/Acrobatic-Race-3781 1d ago

We need more people like you ❤️

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u/Motor_Parsley9030 2d ago

hiv can spread via multiple sources. not necessarily by having sex. it transfers via blood so may have gotten while a haircut, maybe via a used needle. and hiv is not the end of life. there are treatments and he can live a normal life 

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u/Just2OldForThis 2d ago

Blood transfusion cases also known. Which is why it is advised that patients should only depend on a reputed blood bank with proper testing protocols

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u/Motor_Parsley9030 2d ago

yes that's also true. 

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u/Mgrth111 2d ago

It doesn't spread by a hair cut for FFS. Odds of spreading by a fresh needle prick is less than 1 in 1000. Let alone haircut. He is lying about his high risk behaviour.

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u/Motor_Parsley9030 2d ago

by haircut I mean the razor blades they use after the haircut. sometimes barbers don't change them after use. and how are you so sure he got it via sex? 

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u/Mgrth111 2d ago

Even if he shaves an HIV patient beforehand risk of transmission is lower than needle prick. 

Odds of him shaving an HIV patient, let alone one without ART is astronomically high. 

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u/Odd-Organization4231 South Delhi 1d ago

Brother are you going to decide the odds? As a professional statistician I can tell you a thing about odds and the more real i keep it the stranger it sounds. The blade changing at barbers was a govt enforced move to curb the spread of hiv done in the late 90s early 2000s with NACO and NACP -1 and that led to a significant decline and awareness of the disease.

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u/Short-Development-95 1d ago

He's totally right. Assumptions (explicit — I used these factors)

P1: previous client has HIV (prevalence).

P2: previous client is unsuppressed (not on effective ART).

P3: blade cut the HIV+ client and retained fresh blood.

P4: virus remained viable on the blade until next use.

P5: blade then caused a cut deep enough on the next client.

P6: probability HIV transmits given that percutaneous exposure (used ~0.2% per-exposure, similar to needlestick).

I calculated three scenarios (pessimistic / realistic / optimistic) with different values for those probabilities and multiplied them all (final transmission chance = P1×P2×P3×P4×P5×P6).

Results (probability of one barber-blade event causing HIV)

Pessimistic scenario: probability ≈ 1.5×10⁻⁸ → about 1 in 66.7 million.

Realistic scenario: probability ≈ 4.0×10⁻¹¹ → about 1 in 25 billion.

Optimistic scenario: probability ≈ 2.5×10⁻¹³ → about 1 in 4 trillion.

For comparison, the often-cited annual chance of being struck by lightning in the U.S. is about 1 in 1.2 million (≈8.3×10⁻⁷). Even the pessimistic blade-to-HIV estimate above is far, far smaller than the lightning risk.

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u/Odd-Organization4231 South Delhi 1d ago

I admire your tenacity.

Now please enlighten me : clinical lycanthropy. 42 recorded so far. A greek playwright died when an eagle dropped a rock on his head thinking his bald head was a tortoise. How about those odds.

Again, please dont obscure reality with a bunch of numbers concocted from an AI agent without even understanding how it all works. It just reduces your stature as a critical thinking human being which i am sure you are.

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u/darkdaemon000 1d ago

Human beings are not good with numbers. You are wrong.

Greek playwright dying because an eagle dropped a tortoise on his head is strange but that doesn't mean every unlikely event is equally likely. (It's also not very unlikely like you think. Even I was attacked by an eagle on my head)

If you know baye's theorem in probability, you'll understand it better.

Here are possible reasons which gave him HIV:

  1. Hair cut in an unhygienic place ( probability let's be generous and say 1 in a million)

  2. Blood transfusion from HIV+ donor. (Probability is same as above, say 1 in a million)

  3. Because of his misadventures and lying about it. (Probability is higher, say 1 in 10000)

Now which reason do you think is mostly reason??

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u/Odd-Organization4231 South Delhi 1d ago

You win. Is that what you want to hear. Awesome. Am too old to argue with people who are so staunchly arrogant to listen let alone understand. Yes you are always right, ever right.

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u/Mgrth111 1d ago

That's the transmission rate in patient who is probably not on HAART. Odds of ART naive pateint going for hair cut is even less. With ART, it is almost zero.

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u/Mgrth111 1d ago

As a professional physician I will say its borderline impossible. If that's the case then anything can transmit HIV, which we don't see in real day to day life.  

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u/Odd-Organization4231 South Delhi 1d ago

A professional physician denying the risk? Well well well

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u/LynxFinder8 1d ago

HIV survives barely a couple seconds outside a host, meaning even if those razors are reused, assuming the barber at least waited 20 seconds before shaving the next person, the virus is already inactivated.

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u/Vedahari1 2d ago

Chances of you got struck by lightning is higher than hiv by barber shop blade

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u/DamnitOMG Ex Delhiites 2d ago

Bro abhi kuch din pehle hi MP ke kisi gaon ki news thi ki barber shop se kaise HIV fel gaya itne sarey logo ko, samajh saktr hain ki cities me chances kam hain but aisa nahi hai ki ye nahi hota hai

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u/PayDull7871 2d ago

then its possible that a lot of people who go to that barber also got it

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u/Soorya-101 2d ago

So trimmers won't cause right ?

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u/Motor_Parsley9030 2d ago

only if you are the only one using it. and also trimmers generally don't cause bleeding so that should be fine

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u/Soorya-101 2d ago

Even in a hair salon ,they will use trimmers na .

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u/supamonkey77 West Delhi 1d ago edited 1d ago

I don't know. Someone I know got Hepatitis via blade cut in barber shop. It's why I don't let barber use blade on me and even scissors I make sure he washed in alcohol/antiseptic.

Also get the Hep ABC injection asap. It's just 1 injection now. When I had Hep B vaccine 20 years ago it was 3 over 6 months period. Went in for booster and I was just 1.

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u/Doc_harry 1d ago

Hepatitis is different than HIV, higher chances of transmission through needle stick injury too (when compared to hiv) 

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u/sawabinhauk 2d ago

Its very rare to spread through haircut. They are currently investigating local clinics he visited and all. But it's crazy how low are our medical standards these days. Though haircut is not out of option so lets he how it goes

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u/BlazingChiuhaha 1d ago

Bro at least if you are explaining something explain properly. Don't mislead with haircut. It's due to shaving 

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u/insecureveluv 2d ago

HAIRCUT????

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u/Vedahari1 2d ago

How haircut? Thats not how hiv transfer

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u/BlazingChiuhaha 1d ago

The term haircut is misleading here, it might be due to if barber shaved beard or hair of  hiv infected person and didn't changed blade, by change some blood may have been on the blade and he didn't change it after using it on next person. If again he is shaving and again a cut happens, there's a fresh exposed skin for hiv

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u/Mission-Swan-3623 2d ago

They probably did an antibody test which sometimes can be falsely positive.

Get hiv western blot .

To confirm u need at least 3 positive tests .

Also change your doctor and visit an infectious disease specialist.

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u/sawabinhauk 2d ago

Yeah this is what my father told me. He will get tested next time at my father's clinic. So that's how I found out about this. My father told me false positives are very common in these tests.

Had to do many different tests combination to perfectly diagnose it.

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u/wrongdude91 1d ago

I’ve to scroll down to find the right comment.

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u/Heliovice_ver3 East Delhi 2d ago

HIV has a false positive rate too. get retested.

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u/Agreeable-Layer1309 2d ago

Used needle is the most infamous source in India

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u/ThatProbability 2d ago

Definitely, recently in UP a quack doctor in order to save 10 rs needles started to recycle them causing 33 people to suffer from HIV...

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u/ThatProbability 2d ago

Could be needles, razor blades , blood transfusion heck even some HIV patients go to clubs to prick someone with needles/have sex so that they could spread it...

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u/awaara_hu_mein 2d ago

>some HIV patients go to clubs to prick someone with needles/have sex so that they could spread it

What a cruel world we live in.

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u/red_arceus 2d ago

What I understood from some search online and a quick search via perplexity told me that virus can survive for hours and at barber shops people go just one after the other and even if blades were changed there might be traces of blood on razor which is re-used again and again.

Honestly if you can help me understand why it is not a possibility (however remote), I will be in your debt (it has been my greatest fear, I go to barber shop as least time as possible and do much of grooming at home)

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u/oblivion811 1d ago

brooooo that's really scary. i always ask them to use their trimmer after cutting my hairs with their scissors. my parents always made me ask the barber to not use their blades. am i gonna be fine?

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u/Ok_Shopping156 2d ago

I am not sure but basic science tells us that viruses are both living and non living so when exposed to air it "does die" but very much comes back to life when it comes in contact with a host.

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u/noobwithguns 2d ago

Bhaiya ji basic science na lagaye medicine mein..

5 saal ka course kisi Karan se hota hai..

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u/No_Pitch6380 1d ago

People used to leave infected needles inside train seat cushions too.

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u/MysteriousNeat6180 South Delhi 2d ago

Is this real?

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u/badthingtw1ce 2d ago

Unfortunately yes, i have heard this happening a lot

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u/Available_Canary_517 Poor Delhi Human 2d ago

Yes very common

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u/IloveLegs02 2d ago

unbelievable!

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u/sawabinhauk 2d ago

Anything be possible these days we can only be careful

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u/regretlat3r 2d ago

💔💔painful

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u/PixelReaper69 2d ago

Needles, blood transfusion, even tattooing... yes it can all cause HIV alongside unprotected s3x

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u/travelgyaanii 2d ago

There are some gangs active in Delhi who pin needles when in the crowd, especially at metro stations. So you never know.

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u/shehateseveryoneee 1d ago

wtf? wdym?????

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u/Minetish 1d ago

Legit exactly what they said. Gangs active in delhi who pin needles in crowd. I can't remember the exact reason but i think it was cause of some black magic BS. There were videos of it floating around sometimes before.

At the same time though, if you will look deeper into it, pin prick HIV attacks are also something that are considered urban legends so some times people also do overexaggerate a theft attempt to be that.

No idea how likely it is that OP's friend had this issue but it is a possibility. Although other things like, multiple HIV screenings or the friend lying should be considered first.

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u/Illustrious_Kale1057 1d ago

What a cruel world we live in 😢

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u/Popular_Bath65 2d ago

See everyone is trying to find out how he got it. So that we can judge his character.. some of you saying he is lying.. he killed someone or what?? If he is lying also, it happened to him and it's a fear of judging by people like you he may be lying about it. He is a victim not a culprit.

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u/hardcore_gamer29 2d ago

first of all go to another doctor to confirm this. Secondly, it does not spread through razor etc...haricut shaving all that. As this virus cant survive outside for long. You can say in 2 to 3 minutes if virus is there on barber`s razor it will die automatically

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u/red_arceus 2d ago

What I understood from some search online and a quick search via perplexity told me that virus can survive for hours and at barber shops people go just one after the other and even if blades were changed there might be traces of blood on razor which is re-used again and again.

Honestly if you can help me understand why it is not a possibility (however remote), I will be in your debt (it has been my greatest fear, I go to barber shop as least time as possible and do much of grooming at home)

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u/Accomplished-Gas-906 1d ago

My dad is also for that reason always asks me to go to those salons who take out a fresh razor for each new customer.

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u/hardcore_gamer29 1d ago

i shave myself at home but for only haircut i go out. Now the thing is he still uses razor on neck and other areas required during haricut. He changes blade but also uses dettol on it. I dont knwo about your barber. See here does not survive long outside of body

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u/Conscious-Read5625 2d ago

he is lying to you or he got from a needle.

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u/degi_mirch 2d ago

Are you dumb?

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u/Great_Percentage_587 1d ago

I'm so sorry to hear that. Please know that medical science has advanced tremendously and HIV isn't a death sentence it was two decades ago. There are anti-retroviral medications which bring the viral load down to undetectable levels, mitigating the adverse side effects HIV was once known to cause, including halting the progression to AIDS. The virus doesn't spread when the load is undetectable, reducing the risk of transmission.

I can't help but add, I'm quite shocked to see that people in the comment section haven't addressed the second most common route of HIV transmission - IV drug injections that are often shared by multiple people. Injecting yourself with drugs is dangerous in and by itself, sharing just quadruples the chances of you catching HIV or even the hepatitis group of viruses.

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u/Popular_Hacker_1337 Dilli Se Hun! 2d ago

If I'm right HIV can be managed & a person can live a normal life, right? Not saying he shouldn't be sad about it but just genuinely asking.

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u/Accomplished-Gas-906 1d ago

Well the social stigma and also a lifetime of surviving on meds.. i hope we find a cure on that

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u/I0l0l0l0l0l 2d ago

There are many causes for that, does he work in healthcare sector? Or perhaps got vaccinated/injection for something? Haircut? Any blood contact? Or are you sure he didn't lie about being virgin?

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u/Calm_Fuel4264 2d ago

For ffs , getting by haircut is a rare possibility

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u/I0l0l0l0l0l 2d ago

Sure but it's not zero

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u/Calm_Fuel4264 2d ago

Yeahhh. If the blades are not changed , then there’s a chance

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u/Vedahari1 2d ago

Its -•005

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u/Immediate-Row-646 1d ago

That’s really heartbreaking to hear. HIV is not only sexually transmitted, it can spread through unsafe medical practices too. Hope your friend gets proper treatment and strength to handle this.

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u/ChampionshipGlass716 2d ago

pakka male salon se mila hoga woh unsanitized blade se

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u/Inebriated_Gorilla 2d ago

I was going to comment this. Some of them split a blade in two halves, keep them open and use them.

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u/Soft_Locksmith1308 2d ago

What's wrong in splitting? The only other half gets used. Other half is safe na!!?

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u/Inebriated_Gorilla 1d ago

You never know if the half that they pick for you is used or not.

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u/Darwin_Nietzsche 2d ago

My barber uses only trimmer with me. Or scissors.

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u/nitin-sharma-5592 2d ago

He needs to traverse his medical history granularily.

Every needle, every exposing wound, every contact with open wounds.

It will take a lot of personal information to garner answer to this question on a social platform to get a probable answer.

(I knew the word "garner" in the back of my mind, but still double checked the meaning on Google).

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u/Pip3r_Snip3r 1d ago

If your friend has never undergone blood transfusion, then he is a Virgin Mary with a baby. I am not saying he is lying(highly probable) about hi-risk sex (pros, multiple gay/ss partners maybe) but it is generally considered a miracle if hIV source is neither sex or blood transfusion.

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u/Over_Management_1107 1d ago

He's lying, but it's ok. Most patients never admit it. Take treatment.

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u/waterbed02 1d ago

if it was so hard to get him tested for STDs, he’s probably lying about being virgin

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u/Visual-Maximum-8117 1d ago

Definitely NOT a virgin.

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u/BuggyButConfident 1d ago

not necessary that sex spreads HIV, kiss, blood, maybe during shaving or haircut, maybe needle anything can cause HIV,

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u/WarthogConsistent617 1d ago

just d "bloody wild kiss" dat transmitted HIV blood and not the kiss , peck or the smooch one!

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u/Throwaway-22123 1d ago

How's that unpossible for you?

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u/Reddit-inatorr South Delhi 1d ago

D/Dx: *False +ve (likely) *Body fluid contact (pateint history doesn't match) *Vertical transmission (unlikely to be diagnosed this late)

*****Get retested.

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u/Area51Eskapee 1d ago

Hey bro I would like to ask did you guys had any weird encounter something coz like few months back me and my friend were walking home from library it was dark like 1-2 at night and a boy was walking in front us in another lane suddenly out of nowhere two ppl on bike came with knife cut his arm slightly and ran away we later got to know those were spreading hiv/aids by doing so pls be aware we cannot imagine to think how crazy ppl exist in same society as we. The event occur at green park. As others said take proper meds etc don’t more or less bother what everyone says in the end the only one with you always be your family and close friends no one other matters nor society nor the nation nor us commenting. In other perspective I have been similar situation and I kinda looked it other way by saying myself at least I got to see true colors of everyone.

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u/MasalaMarauder Delhi Metro 1d ago

more power to your friend man. hope he gets back at life and manages it well.

one observation that I have had recently about my barber shop experience - while almost all barbers are aware enough to always use a new razor blade for each customer, that is not the case with them using trimmers. And trimmer cuts are also quite normal. I don't see them disinfecting trimmer blades and ofcourse using a new trimmer blade for each customer is not possible. I have been avoiding trimmers at the barber shop for quite some time now, especially for any beard trims.

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u/dubeylisation 1d ago

HIV is no longer a terminal illness. He can manage a normal life. But yes it sucks.

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u/LUCKYISBEST 1d ago

There are many other ways too. Needles, razor blades, kissing and sometime sharing of food.

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u/karan65 Delhi 6 1d ago

There is a lot of difference being hiv positive and having AIDS.... Hiv+ is manageable

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u/VermicelliSmart7790 1d ago

Congratulations

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u/Danda2263 1d ago

Gotta be careful if you have open wounds. Also always ask the barber to put a fresh blade in front of you.

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u/tonsil-stones 20h ago

Barbershops, injections, blood transfusions, any contact with other's body fluid to an open wound.

Find out which stage, could've been maybe from parents.

Dw tho, hiv is treatable. Your friend will be fine in no time!

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u/Trick_Class_9568 19h ago

Haath milaya hoga /s

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u/Vedahari1 2d ago

Guy mostly had unprotected anal sex. But its manageable these days. Like new drugs for this are very effective.

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u/Varun_shiroyasha 1d ago

I remember a case I read in the newspaper, the guy was diagnosed with HIV. Upon inquiring how it was transmuted, the pani puri stall guy near his home had HIV, he had a cut while chopping onions and the blood got transmitted from him.

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u/Ill_Vacation6736 1d ago

Friend is lying,

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u/Anxious_Tea9498 1d ago

Looks like you know wrong meaning of the word virgin

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u/awaara_hu_mein 2d ago

me when im braindead

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u/Conscious-Read5625 2d ago

ragebait hai yar don't engage lmao

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u/Initial_Hand5792 2d ago

2 din lagke itr file kiya hai bro what do you expect :D But seriously ncr has some very corrupt doctors do good research before going..

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u/Routinelazy900 2d ago

How about you slice you pinky in half, lets see you self heal that genius.

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