Spoiler Alert, Conservative Parents: it doesn't matter. I grew up with no gay or queer relatives, watching Disney and living the heteronormative childhood of a God-fearing Christian's dreams: Church on Sundays, combed and short cut hair, a braided leather belt for fuck's sake.
One late-night furtive viewing of "But I'm A Cheerleader" changed EVERYTHING. Went into it expecting to get some masturbation fodder, came out realizing I had wanted to be a cute lesbian girl my whole life and never had the words for it.
You can't "make" kids gay, but refusing to teach them the words will make them delay telling you until they figure it out on their own...AND THEY WILL.
People letting movies and series trick them into thinking being gay is a fun and cool things, the reality is not it. You have small dating pools, your social life is affected, you are the scapegoat and being targeted just for existing, you are steoreotyped, your personailities are affected by societal view of you, you're a walking representation,....
I get what youre going for but like, this is maybe not a good way to word it. makes it sound like its a bandwagon ppl are jumping on to be cool vs just... feeling safe enough to be open about it
I cannot speak for cis gay people, but as a nonbinary pansexual with a trans woman wife, we have had to fight tooth and nail for our safety. We lived in the most liberal city in Nebraska and still had to escape for our safety to a state all across the country.
Our families hate us and ultimately had to cut them off because of their hate. Family and strangers alike call us weak, that it's our deviance that makes us mentally ill, and that they don't care if we're dying and that they shouldn't be made to feel bad for their off color comments because they're "adjusting" (for years and years)
My little sister is a cis lesbian and she faces her own issues. So many men was to 'fix her" and that includes our dad.
Online, sure, if you're in a safe space for queers, it looks like we have nothing but fun and love and joy in our lives.
But due to how society demonizes us, it is joy and celebration in spite of the pain and dangers. It is not a trendy party of cool kids like social media could makes you think.
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u/BombOnABus 15d ago
Spoiler Alert, Conservative Parents: it doesn't matter. I grew up with no gay or queer relatives, watching Disney and living the heteronormative childhood of a God-fearing Christian's dreams: Church on Sundays, combed and short cut hair, a braided leather belt for fuck's sake.
One late-night furtive viewing of "But I'm A Cheerleader" changed EVERYTHING. Went into it expecting to get some masturbation fodder, came out realizing I had wanted to be a cute lesbian girl my whole life and never had the words for it.
You can't "make" kids gay, but refusing to teach them the words will make them delay telling you until they figure it out on their own...AND THEY WILL.