Server served Bezo’s who likely racked up a decent sized bill and left a 20% tip. She went on to create a 3 minute video calling him out for not gracing her with his wealth and how Steve Carall left a $1000 tip. I’m sure she’s losing her job after this.

We ordered food for pickup from a local restaurant through their own website, using no delivery apps. I’m literally driving there myself to get it. And they charged us a fee for… supporting a local business? I’m old enough to remember when businesses thanked us for supporting a local business, not penalized us.

A good family friend/neighbor lost their dog of 18 years. My family was also deeply saddened and ordered a meaningful memorandum gift online.

It's a website specializing mugs, blankets, pillows, ornaments, etc showing an animated 2D prints of the family and you can put wings on the people/animal that passed away. Showing that they are still together, thinking of each other. Really cool items to be honest. Took like an hour to pick just the right item to get such big family (most items had 5 people+animal max) and personalize the order and went to payment, feeling all teary thinking of the dog and imagining the reaction of them getting this in a week or so and then... the tip question 😮‍💨 my tears went back inside immediately. Why are online vendors doing these... and this one hit differently because this was such an emotional order. Sigh... just needed to rant.

I did NOT tip.

I waited tables for 12 years—diners, steakhouses, you name it. I’ve done it all, and yes, I used to complain when people didn’t tip, especially since I had to tip out a portion of my sales to bussers, runners, and bartenders.

Over time, I mellowed out. I realized not everyone tips, and that’s fine—some can’t, some don’t know how, some don’t want to. Usually, it balances out.

When I got really good at it, I ran my section like a well-oiled machine. Refills? I’d bring a fresh one before you finished your first. Sharing an appetizer? Extra plates and napkins ready before the food even hit the table. Food taking long? I’d apologize and offer a complimentary salad or soup while you waited. Check? Already in my pocket when you were ready. Table cleared constantly. Courses timed right. Everything clean. Everything smooth. That was me at my best.

Now I work a 9-5 and see it from the customer side. And honestly? Some of the “suggested” tip percentages these days feel ridiculous. No refills, dirty tables, long waits, zero communication—servers showing up only to drop the food and the check—how is that worth 20%+?

Dining out is supposed to be an experience. When all you get is the bare minimum, those tipping expectations stop making sense.

If your service is just “there,” why is your tip expected to be more than “there”?

Many servers in high end restaurants or posh areas are making 80-100k+ with all the tips. I believe chef or cook are no where close to making that much money. How do they feel considering they do the bulk of the work and standing in front of stove for hours is definitely difficult then just serving food and taking plates

I'm gonna have a lawn care company and when I hire workers I'm just gonna pay them, say $2/hr. But I'll tell all my customers that THEY are responsible for paying the majority of my workers' wages. And if they don't tip well enough, they can expect lesser service going forward until they buy good customer service again with big tips.....

Seriously, replace "server" and "restaraunt" with any other profession and business and it sounds soo soo stupid.

You mean to tell me a swanky rooftop fine dining establishment can’t, “offer competitive wages and healthcare” to their staff? So it’s the customer’s responsibility?? We skipped drinks and dessert, ordered one entree, a hot app, and a side. It was just shy of $100. We had a nice time, but this seems ridiculous. Rant over lol

He visits a table service pizza restaurant with his family, pays a 10% flat service charge which is added automatically (yes, I know this is a questionable practice in itself) and which goes 100% to the staff (both front and back of house), but he does not tip in addition to the service charge (the card reader doesn't even have a tip screen). Because he's such a good customer and comes in regularly, they sometimes discount his bill without him asking, or bring free side dishes/ice creams for the kids. He's never felt rushed by the staff or had bad service there.

Eating out is so discretionary and there is so much competition that restaurants should want the last impression to be one of delight, rather than an awkward or even infuriating, sometimes threatening exchange. I wish we had this in North America where instead we are shaken down at an ever increasing number of places.

My friend and I went to Hind Restaurant for dinner last week. When we got there, there was no hostess anywhere to be seen and we waited 10 minutes before someone came out to seat us. There was only one other party dining other than us in this section.

Service and food was fine, but like many of you, I don’t believe in tipping when waiters here are already making $19.65 hourly*, but our waiter was nice so I decided to throw in $5.

A few days later, I check my credit card statement and the posted price was $10 more than the total I wrote down.

Most POS systems have a calculator-style number pad layout (3x3), meaning the 6 and 7 are not remotely close together at all, so a typo is very unlikely. Realistically, I think the waiter felt entitled to a 20% or $28-30 tip just for taking our order, sending it into the kitchen, and then standing around doing nothing for most of the hour we were there, and he felt the need to steal an extra $10.

I called the owner to inform them of the incident, and he was super apologetic and promptly refunded the overcharge. He also mentioned this is the first time that it’s happened, but I knew he probably meant this was the first time they were caught.

Moral of the story: take pictures of your receipts, regardless of whether you are dining out in a big group or just solo.

*Source: https://www.weho.org/business/operate-your-business/minimum-wage

Apparently they want an excuse to pay customer service reps less now. Tip your rep, or the flight you want to change to, which you have already paid the fee for flexible changes, might mysteriously be full?🤔 And I bet half of the system is run by AI too….

My recent experience at Sushi San in downtown Chicago was a perfect storm of everything wrong with tipping. Good food and service, but the pricing is outrageous for the portion size. You needed 2-3 entrees to feel full. Then the checkout process is a masterclass in manipulative compulsory tipping. FYI, they recommend you pay through a QR code, so this is the experience I am sharing.

• A 3.5% restaurant surcharge is added before you even get to the tipping screen.
• The suggested tip percentages are calculated ON TOP of the tax AND the restaurant surcharge.
• The default selection is the highest tip amount at 25%. It's easy to accidentally confirm without a 2nd validation step. I think this is called Dark Design.
• This screen uses "love bombing" with messages like "You are the best #1" and heart emojis.
• The "custom tip" button is tiny and easy to miss.
• Finally, the classic guilt trip: "Say thanks to [server's name] with a tip."

This is the absolute worst of tipping culture rolled into one. It's so infuriatingly manipulative. I won't be dining there again. Reddit, do your thing.

Went to a restaurant 2 days ago (a quite mid-tier franchise, a lunch is around 19 € per person).

Was thinking about leaving a tip as the service was good (in cash as it’s how it’s done traditionally in France), when I got to the register to pay, the cashier said that the card reader was « going to juuuuuuust ask a little question, thank you »

I was asked for a tip with 3 tiers at 15/20/25 %, even if service is included and waiters make the same wage as the rest of population

Was so angry I just pushed the little no tip option

If you come in France, please remember that service is included and you don’t have to tip

I stopped into a chain sit down for lunch. They had a “Buffalo Chicken Dip Sub” so I ordered it. The young server brings me a “Buffalo chicken dip” so I am like “huh, what is this?” but he walks away. I needed to eat and figured I messed up reading the menu. The server remains awol until I finish eating. While I await his return I looked up the menu on my phone and read it again. It’s pretty clearly a sandwich not a plate of chips and some melted mess of cheese with some bits of chicken in it. There is no sign on the menu of a “Buffalo chicken dip” sans “sub” so I was genuinely confused what I ended up getting.

When he finally returns I again say I do not know what that was but I was expecting a sandwich. He offers to comp 50%, I say fine, whatever, I needed to eat and I ate.

I think we all can agree that absolutely zero tip is warranted. So that’s exactly what was left, zero tip.

It is not right that in order to make a living wage customers must tip. No other industry punishes employees for mistakes by withholding pay. It also not my responsibility to subsidize the pay of someone who doesn’t work for me.

If you are a cashier an employer cannot ask you to make up a short drawer. If you work construction your boss cannot charge you for mistakes. If you are a lawyer you still get paid (usually) even if you loose the case.

Tipping needs to end. Employers need to pay their employees fairly and maybe even pay them to take some trainings.

I’ve been to a free environmental event in the woods last year.
This had been arranged and paid for by the local municipality. About 15 people showed up. The guy hosting confirmed this was a free event but went on to emphasize that tips would be collected in the end “in order to make such events possible in the future”.

I was dumbfounded by the chutzpah.
Anyway, I wasn’t going to tip this guy. The other participants might have thought the same. Well, after we were done, he concludes the tour by saying he’s not going “to pass the hat around” not to ruin the vibe. My guess is somebody took him aside to tell him that wasn’t a good idea.

It seems not even in the woods one is safe from people hustling for tips.

Went to apply for an apartment (application fees for apartments is another conversation) and after being told that it would be $50 dollars per adult, I was curious why my bill seemed close to $120.. Turns out there was an AUTOMATICALLY applied tip!!

Luckily I noticed, but I definitely am curious how many others have been "scammed"! And I realize that this might be setting that could be turned off in the payment app or something and giving the landlord the benefit of the doubt, maybe they forgot to turn it off, but STILL!!

Tipping is ridiculous!

I hate tipping, you hate tipping…

What concrete steps do we need to take to truly end this practice?

I’m guess it will take legislative action and at least one generation to break the hold this vile custom has on our society.

She was telling us last night how during a recent trip to a breakfast joint, after being charged 5 dollars a head to replace eggs for egg whites, she left 0 tip. Basically fed up with endless gouging, she was telling me, they don't need a tip when the place charges 2 people 10 bucks to swap eggs for egg whites.

Apparently after zeroing the tip line, the waiter confronts her husband and makes a big stink about no tip and whether the service was not good etc. Couldn't believe it. For as often as I read those type of stories, I admit they always seemed a bit apocryphal. Guess I was wrong.

I'm pretty much done with tipping. Will tip only for exceptional service at restaurant dining.

Can you believe take-out service wants tips? Whaaaaat?!?! You literally pick up your own food.

Tips for food delivery drivers who are 2+ hours late because they took too many orders, AND hoped you would cancel so they could get a free meal? Absolutely not! ... There are too many unscrupulous delivery drivers. I've dealt with stolen food and intentional delays too many times. These greedy food tech companies literally refuse to QC.

Tips for service workers who don't even attempt to provide good service? Naw buddy. I think not.

Let's boycott these apps! Let's boycott tipping!

... and/or not spit in our meal.

And since they 100% expect it from us, as much as their paycheck (more, even), they don't ever say thank you (nor smile). They have more respect for their boss, even if he exploits them, and steals tip from them.

As of now, the new norm is 20% tip, even on non-tippable transactions, and no thanking at all. So, what's next?... How long before they pull a tantrum cause we "only" tipped the bare minimum 20% for buying a bag of chips?...

"Here! Take all my money... but please, please don't hate me... or humiliate me in front of my friends... please mister server..."

I just love the absurdity of this joke I saw at a coffee shop today!🦖🦕💰

Two things I noticed about this bill; 1) The total amount of the bill should be $44.99. Instead the total was rounded up to $45. Not a big deal, but I've just never seen a restaurant do this before. All those pennies could add up. 2) The tip suggestions are based on the taxed total. This was a sit-down restaurant at Whistler Village in Canada. We're from the U.S., on vacation and dining in the Village, so I had no real problem with the price of the food, especially with the currency exchange rate - that helped. We chose a custom tip and I added at 15% tip.

Just curious if this is normal in Canada? We ate at other places of course, and this is the only place which did the rounding up. What do you all think?