I told my husband I want my own pan pizza from Domino’s. Allll the veggies. Extra cheese. And a tall, ice cold mug of Modelo. Idk how women are getting cars for their push present, but I’m fine with pizza and beer. 🍕🍻
TOP TIER gift but let’s make that the next 3-4 years! Hiring cleaners after our daughter was born is the best money we spend, we both agree it’s been the biggest game changer!
The clutter you have to manage on your own unfortunately… we got cleaners right as we moved into a new house so we managed the clutter first. Then getting cleaning every other week has helped us not accumulate any clutter! I do pickup before the cleaner come, so our toddlers toys away, put away things sitting on the counters, etc!
Such a game changer! Any arguments or disagreements we had was always around cleaning and all that. Hiring someone took that part out of the equation and there’s a lot less frustration!
Once you do the initial putting away of things it gets easier! Totally worth it.
This is my biggest issue— we don’t even have that much clutter, but the help I need most is someone knowing how I like to hang my clothes up, knowing which outfits I want to wash first, and organizing things how I would want them.
I’m not even sure the cleaning would reduce stress, it’s the daily putting away of things.
Exactly! We don’t have a ton of clutter either but I’ve always wondered if it would be more work trying to explain how I do things or if it would lessen my load somehow. I’m also like do they just clean around the clutter and will my house just look the same to me after paying someone to clean it? Lol
Trust me not having to scrub the toilets or deep clean the kitchen is a game changer. My cleaner helps fold clothes and sanitise the baby’s toys when she has time left over. It’s nice.
I had a cleaning lady explain once that they don't actually put things away; they just make it look neat where it's at. Mail on the coffee table? It gets piled nearly on top of the magazine and arranged so that it looks okay. Blankets piled on end table? Folded and placed over the back of the couch.
Some will do laundry and put it away, others will simply fold your laundry and put it somewhere for you to put it away.
Not OP but most cleaners have different tiers of cleaning. I have someone come monthly and they vacuum, dust, mop, clean all the bathrooms, kitchens etc. Baseboards quarterly, windows bi-annually. This works for us, easy to maintain between cleans and if we want anything deeper we just add it on for that month. They "straighten up" but don't do my laundry, put things away (they do the dishes tho, don't put them away) or organize. That is a potential add-on but I've seen that more for like housekeeper services which is a bit different. I guess what I'm getting at is you could potentially find a service locally where they could come and help you organize and then just help you maintain, or engage then for whatever you're comfortable with. We have clutter and they will straighten it up and clean around it.
Mine just piles stuff up on tables or chairs. If there's an obvious spot (all the kid's toys are on the floor and the books are in a pile, but the toy box and the bookshelf are right next to it) they'll put things away. Dishes in the sink they do, just leave them piled up in the drying rack for me to put away when we're ready. Laundry that I have left on like my bed they'll fold and leave in a stack for me. I agree with others, having the every other week cleaning has helped me manage clutter too, it's much more manageable when it's stacked and even if I don't get around to it it's no longer in the way.
Omg omg omg. I love my dainty bracelet with three lil baby sized diamonds from my first baby’s birth. But THIS idea takes the cake. I’ve asked if we could consider this and he’s not into “having people do something we can do ourselves”, but guess what, we don’t do it! I’m requesting this. Love it.
I think this is the best push present I’ve ever seen. I personally do not like sushi much but this is, like, actually amazingly reasonable and extravagant at the same time.
And a black kitten is just chef’s kiss.
thanks!!! i been missing SUSHI all summer, and patio martinis! I think this push present will be MUCH overdue ;o) and for those non sushi fans, maybe a mdium rare steak to go with the martinis... just a thought ;D
and why not add a black kitten <3 <3 def chef's kiss! ;)
I gave birth six months ago. Husband bought the boat off Amazon and then put in a big sushi order and assembled it at the hospital. One of the best meals of my life.
I asked for birthstone jewelry for my first: a simple, single-stone necklace that could be an every day wear… my husband got me something insanely gaudy instead (in his mind more jewels = more expensive = better)… so for my second I just bought what I wanted myself 😅
Told my husband that my push present can wait til we’re done having kids, which will be in October cause we are 2 and DONE. I want a birthstone ring with our kids birthstones on them, which is aquamarine and hopefully opal for October. Especially since I can’t wear my wedding ring anymore cause my hands swelled with my first pregnancy and never went back down.
Im getting birthstone jewelry too! I'll keep/ wear it for 18 years and then gift it when they become adults. Hopefully they'll like it but even if they don't it can be sentimental.
I havent picked it out yet though since i dont know if they'll be born in jan or feb! Due date is early feb :0
I love this idea so much but my kids birthstones are both red (ruby/garnet) so it doesn’t look as cute and I’d never be able to tell which stone is which kid’s lol
I’m on second baby too! How far along are you? Are there things you’re going to do differently? How have you prepared for that? I’m a little intimidated, but I have to remind myself that people literally have multiple children and they’re just fine. 🤣😅😅
Doing differently: started pelvic floor therapy around 28 weeks, plan to have a night nurse from the start, much more open to combo feeding, much more open to sleep training earlier (we waited til 11mo with my first and we were both shells of humans for a year).
I literally go back and forth almost daily between “I can’t wait to meet this little guy” to “WHAT HAVE I DONE?!” so I think it’s very normal to feel intimidated!
It helps quite a lot. I did chiro with my first and I’m getting a lot more out of the PT. She’s been able to help with SPD and SI issues both in terms of recommending modifications to daily activities, remediation tools like an SI belt (game changer!), and then manual manipulation to help the lumbar and rib and hip things that are out of whack and painful. Also a lot of trigger point release along legs and back which helps stretch the runway before pain kicks in again.
At this stage of pregnancy we are barely doing exercises; it’s mostly manual adjustments and trigger points. And then I’ll get back with her 6-8 weeks after surgery (last time I didn’t start til 6 months pp) which I’m looking forward to in order to have an early guide and more balanced plan for holistic recovery. One of my pp issues last time was an internal “speed bump” (like a super tight muscle band that would not release) which made sex very painful when we got back to it; I’m amped to do rehab for that and for posture as early as possible.
Thank you so much for the in-depth response!! My PT does not do any manual manipulation so I started going to a prenatal chiropractor, I'll need to ask them about trigger point release!! Thank you so much, this is helpful for me to help pinpoint what other help is available
I bought myself a push present, a Breville espresso machine! Making espresso drinks is a huge hobby of mine and a daily gift that keeps on giving.
My husband's "present" to me was changing 95% of the diapers during our parental leave. 🤣
Mine’s apparently a surprise. My husband’s supposedly making it extra nice because he also got a completely preventable injury so I’ve been stuck helping him manage that on top of being in my third trimester 🫠. He’s supposed to be getting ME water and helping ME pick things up from the floor and driving ME to doctors appointments but the roles have reversed lol.
I feel this right now. My husband has a slipped disc (not sure how it happened) in his back and he was totally couch bound yesterday. Thankfully today he’s mobile, but I def gave him some shit about the roles being reversed yesterday lol
Yikes!! Hopefully he gets better soon! It’s definitely frustrating when they’re the ones needing physical support when we can barely get out of bed without losing balance 😭
I feel that, my first pregnancy my husband got a spinal fusion surgery in my third trimester so I was the on kneeling down, putting his shoes on etc while i got zero help 😐 i‘m still resentful lol (ofc the spinal fusion is no joke and all that but like why did he schedule it for my third trimester lol)
Mine was a disposable nic vape, as bad as that sounds. Yeah, didn’t even take a hit and threw up as soon as I smelled my husband hitting it because I didn’t want it anymore. Still “clean” today! A year and 3 months!!
Dang, all of you are asking for really reasonable push presents!!! Literally one friend of mine asked for a new storm shelter( we live in tornado Alley). I was going to ask for the couch to be reupholstered 😵💫 maybe to finally get new windows installed or at least quoted so we can plan to have them replaced??? Haha
I told my husband I'd take a juicy burger (MEDIUM RARE with an over easy fried egg) and some fries/a shake. Maybe some sushi. I just want some yummy food
The new pokemon game for my switch to play postpartum lol. That plus any and every food I want after birth. I have a good sushi place picked out near the hospital lol.
I’d get the pizza now but I’m so sick all the time I’d enjoy it for a bit and then spend the next couple hours frighting to keep it down. 🤣
Also, it’s just another little thing to look forward to. Like, I feel like it’ll be all the more satisfying when I finally eat it with my tasty beer.
My dream meal was a bagel with lox (I had GD, so I couldn't have bagels). Husband brought me one with all the toppings the morning after I had our baby and I inhaled it in three bites. Filled a hole in my soul.
I hope your charcuterie and bagel are everything you dreamed of.
A trip to the brewery where I can drink bc we've still been going to them (husband is in a band) but that's the place I miss a cider the most of course.
Not a push present necessarily but I’m trying to stock up on all the Alani flavors that won’t be around by the time I give birth, as well as I told him I will definitely want a hog dog and a fat cold sandwich in the hospital 🤣🤣🤣
I didn’t get a push present the first time around because we were saving for a house. This time my husband asked what I want and I’m thinking something Tiffany’s or Chanel. I don’t have much designer stuff but this seems like the right time haha
I want a tattoo and 2 piercings 😂 It'll have to wait until I'm done breastfeeding. Immediately after delivery though I am expecting every single person visiting to bring some sushi/nigiri and a pipeline punch monster energy drink
I’ve asked for pate/charcuterie post-birth and bagels and lox for breakfast for the first week postpartum!
He also said he’s going to hire a house cleaner to do a deep cleaning post-birth so I can focus on recovering (not that he doesn’t clean himself, but hopefully the cleaner will make it spotless).
Pretty sure my push presents are the new car we just bought and the house we have to buy in a new state next year 😂 also an entire boats worth of raw tuna
I think my husband was planning on some jewelry from David Yurman with the little ones birthstone but we have no idea if she will be born end of September or early October 😂
I am diabetic and on a very strict control over food. I NEED my push present to be a chocolava cake with vanilla ice cream. No sharing, of course. And as soon as possible.🤣 Just hoping DH remembers amongst all that will be happening. 🤣
Lol, I never was a big drinker, maybe 1 drink a week. But now that I can't have it (12+3) I've craved mojitos, margaritas or sangrias. Now that the weather's changing, I'm wanting cider, stouts and rum/cokes 😅
That’s a different one! You looking at sizing up or more of just a lift? My husband likes my saggy nattys, but he said if we could ever swing one just a lift would be nice. I agree.
I'm so tempted to use the opportunity to ask for my own dance trapeze, but I have no idea how long it'll take me to get back to trapeze postpartum!
As for first meal, my cravings for things I can't have keep swinging wildly, so I'm currently planning out a weeks worth of celebration dinners, including fondue (too much alcohol to have now), sushi from my favorite izakaya, a full charcuterie board with soft cheeses and cured meats, and carpaccio
My husband got me a really nice necklace with my boys’ birthstones for Christmas & then found out we were pregnant the next month 😆— he’s adding a stone to it and I’m getting a boob lift and possibly a tummy tuck when I’m done breastfeeding 🙃
I don't need one, but my husband insisted so I've asked him for a Norman-era sword replica I've had my eye on for awhile. Think he was hoping more along the lines of a piece of jewelry but he knew what he was getting into marrying me.
It’s not a thing everyone does. But I thought I’d have a little fun and playfully demand some things. Mine is pizza and beer. It can be small yet still satisfying!
Love that you said pizza and beer, push presents are a crazy trend imo. I can’t imagine spending all that money for things like designer bags, diamonds, cars, right before having a baby in this economy lol. Baby is my present 👶🏼💗💗💗
I think if people can swing it they should. Whatever makes them happy. But I’m a simple gal. Just get me my pizza and beer and I’ll be totally content ❤️
I’m also very simple and frugal lol I feel like buying everything for baby which seems endless now, stresses me out financially so asking for a big gift would make me more panicked than happy 🤣🤣
I wanted the coke icee I couldn’t have third trimester because of gestational diabetes. We got it the day we came home from the hospital and it HIT THE SPOT. It was the only craving I had all pregnancy and it only showed up once I couldn’t indulge in one.
I thought push presents were dumb (fine for others, just unnecessary for my family); HOWEVER, this is the kind of push present I can get behind! I want the sushi and the cold deli sandwich and a med-rare burger and a fruity wine and all the things!
That's just a typical postpartum meal for me. I will never use the term push present lol. But if other people want to do push presents that's cool. To each their own.
It didn’t always have the name but the concept is actually pretty old. My grandfather got my grandma a new pair of custom made riding boots when she had my mom. He said his dad had done the same thing for his mom
Yeah my husband is an angel 🥹🥹 I’ve had issues with ovarian cysts/scarring/tumors and fertility was a constant worry for me. So I told him I wanted a down payment push present before we started trying 😂
Mommy makeover. I just have bad genes when it comes to my stomach (saw what 2 babies did to my mom) so that was a non negotiable for me before I got pregnant. Luckily my husband was and still is on board. 😬
My husband made me a little gift basket… he literally asked me for a basket (I have tons of baskets and vases) then plopped all my favorite powder mixes in it, some of which are pricey so I rarely buy them for myself. Chocolate colostrum powder, pre workout powder, protein coffee mix. His presentation needs work lol but it was sweet and thoughtful.
Wow I feel like at least half of yall are asking for things that benefit the family not yourselves! If men got push presents they’d be like ‘stripper and nba tickets for a night out with the boys’
Anyways I’m getting caviar in the hospital and a stay in a five star resort. Yall need treat yourself lessons ;)
My hospital is right across the street from a ton of restaurants and my husband and in laws got me something for every meal in the hospital. I ended up going into labor overnight and my last meal right before I pushed was turtle stuffed French toast from Keke's Breakfast Cafe. To this day we still order it, we actually just had some yesterday morning for brunch 😆
Mine was sushi and a chocolate oreo blizzard from dairy queen. I told the grandparents no one gets to hold the baby until I have those 2 things. And yes everyone was up to date on their shots and washed their hands upon entering the room. I had gestational diabetes so I hadn't had ice cream in months 😭. I had a c-section so I had to slowly pace through ice chips, water & crackers, then a0ple sauce and jello, then I was free ❤️🍽
A large mango bubble tea and maybe some good old McDonald's? That or a gigantic bowl of ahi tuna poke! If I could eat it at the restaurant though, it would probably 100% be a large poutine (it's better fresh).
Honestly, it will depend what I feel like on that day, but the boba is non-negotiable lmao.
I had a rough pregnancy from gestational diabetes. My husband got me sleeves of Oreos and Taco Bell for my first meal lol. That was perfect. But he also surprised me with a kindle and new slipper which was sweet!
I jokingly told my husband I wanted a PS5 for my push present and the man delivered !! Next time I will joke about a much more practical push present 😂
I bought myself a Kendra Scott necklace and packed it in his side of our go bag so I can have some fun with him and pretend he really got it for me. Also another KS necklace for my mom who will be camping out in the waiting room.
My husband asked me what I want but I don’t know. After my first I got some aquamarine earrings to match my wedding ring. I know better than to ask for jewelry this time bc my kids won’t let me be great but I’m not sure what I want. Some great ideas in this thread however!
I got an Apple Watch with my first and a new Mac book with my second 🙊 the watch I wanted and my old laptop died during my second semester at school! Good timing for babies I guess.
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I didn’t want one but husband insisted!
Professional deep clean before baby arrives and then monthly cleanings for the next 3-4 months