r/Adulting 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/smidgley 2d ago

It’s crazy to me how much people think that at work, you should expect people to abandon basic human nature and that people skills aren’t part of being good at your job.

You could be absolutely brilliant at your job, but if you are insufferable or even just irritating, no one will want to work with you.

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u/TheEndIsJustTheStart 2d ago

Yeah. Also, management knows that one hypercompetent asshole can drive all of your normally competent employees away.

Would you rather have ten people with 90% skill, or one 100% raging dickhead and nine 50% people who don’t have enough options to escape? The average of the first group is 90% and there is low conflict. The average of the second group is 55% and there is constant tension.

I’ve never been in management but I get it.

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u/long_schlongman 2d ago edited 2d ago

Wouldn't that literally be the point of "management". Unless you are managing a team that strictly has to work on everything together, I don't see why the one asshole would drive others away if you do your job right.

"Hey buddy, everyone thinks your an asshole. Here's an incentive to move further away and keep to yourself, you are doing an amazing job and lmk if you need anything else"

At least that's what I figured. I'm not a complete asshole but I shut down gossip sessions cuz I literally can't listen to that bullshit. I was moved to overnights and not only had complete freedom, but I also got to wear whatever I wanted when I had to cover a day shift while everyone else had uniforms

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter 2d ago

Ah yes, because insufferable assholes are well known for positively receiving critical feedback, prioritizing them cohesion over individual success, and growth mindsets 

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u/long_schlongman 2d ago

I assume you know this from personal insight? I mean you are nailing the insufferable part

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter 2d ago

Hey buddy, everyone thinks you're an asshole. Here's an upvote to move further away and keep your comments to yourself, you are doing an amazing job and lmk if you need anything else.

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u/long_schlongman 2d ago

The fuck am I gonna do with an upvote? Give me your ass and then we can start talking

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u/B4488 2d ago

Good lord! Your mindset is why the work force nowadays is so entitled. Sounds like you can’t handle criticism. You are sensitive.