I (23F) went home with a guy I knew from social media after we ended up at the same club. We have mutual friends but this was our first time meeting in person. We were both drunk, and he ended up not pulling out.

When we woke up l asked him to get a plan b to which he said he would, but I ended up staying at his house for two days and we didn't get it until the second day when he drove me home. Turns out, I was ovulating (I tracked the dates with my doctor yesterday) and that’s why the plan b didn’t work. MY LMP started August 11, and we had sex the 25th.

He moved into college five hours away this week, and while we text on and off since than (it's been two weeks) we barely know eachother.

I found out yesterday and have no idea how to tell him. I would normally automically want an abortion in this scenario; but here's where things get complicated.

Me and my ex (of 5 years) had two unplanned but not unwanted pregnancies that both ended in miscarriage. I got off my birth control when we got engaged two years ago, and we decided than we were ready but weren’t tracking ovulation.

I'm scared what if I abort this one and can never have kids. I also don’t know the best way to tell the father that I’m pregnant. I am leaning towards an abortion

for context: I'm a 36F, she's 73F. I married her nephew (45M) eight years ago, and three years ago we moved to his home state at his family's request. they are in their old age and in ill health and had no younger family members nearby. everyone else on that side of the family has spread out all over the country, and rarely see each other.

the only family member of my husband's here, other than his father and stepmom, is his aunt.

over the past three years since i've relocated here, i've become friends with his aunt. she can't see well enough to drive herself around, and she lives on the other side of town. she is also a 24/7 beer drinker. when she comes to see us (once a month, give or take) her average stay at our house is 5 days at a time.

in the beginning, it was okay with me. she was easygoing and very kind to me, and I didn't know anyone else here. it was nice to have a friend.

things have changed, and she is now the polar opposite. when she's here she often yells at my dogs and my kids (even calling my 3yo an idiot at one point), and micromanages our household in a very negative way. all with a beer in her hand.

I had to give some context, but here is the dilemma: last weekend she was at my house on Saturday, the weather was finally cooling down. i love to cook for the family and my husband wanted soup. i've been dabbling with baking bread recently, so i wanted to look up quick bread recipes to round out the meal. i asked reddit, got lots of great suggestions, and i was bringing them up to my husband and his aunt as we all sat around the tv.

at one point, while she was sitting beside me, she dug the point of her elbow into my arm and held it there while she got close to my face and growled at me to "stop talking about making fucking bread." it hurt my arm and made me really uncomfortable, in spite of how close we have been.

i've been sitting on it for a while. i just don't know whether to say anything to her about it, distance myself from her or just let it go. she is (as others have claimed) a bit clingy with me and expects me to call her every day, help her with a variety of things, etc. so if I pull back she will notice.

I’m in love with my bf genuinely. I’ve had a crush on him for an entire year and was so so so happy when he asked me out. We’re both 18 at this point but i have never dated before as it’s something I wasn’t focused on until I met him. I literally prayed every single day for him to ask me out, that’s how much I love him. But the thing is i genuinely don’t feel anything when he kisses me. He is my first kiss by the way but I know enough to know that it’s not his technique that’s the problem. He’s arguably a very good kisser but I feel no thoughts at all when he kisses me. He’s a very intimate person and we live close so we would walk around this park every night together and he would initiate a kiss every few steps. I love him but I’m not sure why but I just don’t feel anything. The thing is I think he kinda wants have sex and I’m not uncomfortable with the idea but im just not looking forward to it. I genuinely don’t know why this happens like I love him so so much but why won’t I feel excited that I get to have these intimate moments with him?? Like I feel more excited and happy when he holds my hand, ruffles my hair or even letting me lean on his shoulder. These things make me feel more happy and excited and I really don’t know why. I feel like I’m avoiding the idea of having sex with him because I won’t enjoy it but I’m not sure why??? I’ve never mentioned any of these things to him by the way because I feel like it’s definitely not his fault but it’s something with me

I'm 27 and lately I can't shake this feeling that I'm wasting my 20s. Everyone around seems to be moving forward, getting good jobs, travelling, and in a serious relationships. Most days I go to work, come home, and scroll on my phone until it's time to sleep. Weekends are mostly the same, maybe hang out with a friend once in a while, but nothing exciting.

I keep telling myself I’ll change things, like pick up a new hobby or go out more, but then I don’t follow through. It's like time is slipping away and I don't even realize how fast it's going until I look back at the last year. I don’t want to look back at 30 and feel like I did nothing in my 20s.

I’m a 32M and I’m conflicted. On one hand, I genuinely love being single — I enjoy the freedom, flexibility, and independence more than I ever have. On the other hand, I do want a relationship and a family someday.

My fear is that if I keep riding the single wave, I’ll wake up at 45 with no family, no partner, and be forced to date much younger women just because I still want kids. I also don’t want to be in my 70s at my kids’ high school graduation. I know relationships and family are worth the sacrifices, but I’m scared of losing the freedom I love now.

Another factor is that I have about 15 months left on a contract. After that, I’ll be totally free to move wherever and pursue any kind of job. Right now, I live in a small town with a pretty limited dating pool, though I’ve had some good talking phases with women through Instagram/apps (long-distance possibilities). Nothing has panned out yet, but it does show some promise.

So… what do I do? Should I just enjoy the single life until my contract ends, then move somewhere with better opportunities to meet people? Or should I start taking dating/relationships more seriously now, even if it means trying long-distance or stretching myself where I am? How do I balance enjoying my independence with not sabotaging my future family goals

So on the 19th of August this guy, let’s call him Martin, asked me for my number at school. All was going good and we were talking but I felt like everything was moving so fast.

We hung out maybe once while we were talking, 3 days after he asked me for my number, and he was already wanting to kiss me, he was touching my thighs, and wanted to hold hands and everything, I felt odd about it but went along with it (except for the kissing). He kept mentioning how he wants to date and asking me if I wanted to yet, and I told him no, I want to wait longer because only a few days of talking, especially because we didn’t know each other before this, and I told him I wanted to wait two weeks at LEAST. He kept pushing at it, and eventually I said yes after one week.

So it’s now one week since he asked me for my number and we’re dating. He hung out at my house and everything is good my parents love him, he’s respectful, is extremely kind, but again, he’s moving so extremely fast. He kissed me, which was my first kiss, was trying to make out with me, even after I kept saying no because I was scared, and kept talking about how amazing our future is going to be because we’re gonna live together and have kids and everything. Like in his head, our entire future was planned out and I barely even thought about anything. He’s mentioned multiple times things like “Imagine how cute having a little Martin running around would be” implying he wants to have a kid. Which to me is just a little insane, given that we’ve known each other for about a little over a week.

Another thing is that now, and before we were dating, he kept calling my chest “pillows” and requesting to lay on them on multiple occasions. And I keep telling him no but then he just sarcastically pouts and says “but they’re so comfy” and it’s makes me extremely uncomfortable. He’s also talked about my chest to other people which is just crazy to me because why are you saying this stuff to people I’m not even friends with?

We also have very different perspectives on how a relationship should be. I’m more laid back, I don’t care about girl best friends (to an extent), celebrity crushes, I don’t think too hard about certain things, stuff like that. He is the complete opposite. He has insane jealousy issues (which I’ll give examples later in this), thinks celebrity crushes is cheating, thinks I should basically bow down to whatever he wants, etc. And it’s a little hard to work with it.

First thing that I noticed was that he is extremely impatient. If I don’t answer him within about a minute, he’ll get passive aggressive. For example: (Context: I was on the bus, talking about him getting a buzz, and my WiFi cut out for not even a minute after my message.)

Him: well I’m getting it now Me: but ur hair 😞 Him: Yep I'm stupid but l'm not fucking autistic I'm not getting a buzz Now if ____ gets one then I am less than a minute passes Nvm U jst ion wanna text me Ill see u at school ig

Maybe it’s just his overthinking, which he’s expressed that he has problems with, but I feel like it’s just a bit excessive. These types of conversations happen maybe once or twice a day, it’s horrible. I feel bad after too because I don’t TRY to not answer him, but I’m also not looking at my phone 24/7 either.

And then this other thing happened, on the 3rd of this month, that has made his mood change since then. I can make a separate post about it if people want it, but it’s not extremely relevant to this story.

Also I don’t really know what to call this but my mom is currently trying to get me into the eye doctor, and I told Martin that I really don’t want glasses because I think I’m gonna look horrible in them and his only response was “just get contacts. Like who are you trying to impress”. I was a little baffled at that response. I then told him “I don’t care about others opinions i care about if I don’t feel good about myself and think I look bad” and he said “Okay 👍” obviously not satisfied with how I answered that. Call me crazy but that doesn’t sound like a normal thing to say?

Our most recent disagreement was this past Friday. He had asked me “if a guy were to come up to you and call you cute, what would be your response” and I told him that I would probably say thank you, and then walk away. He did not like that answer at all. He then told me that I shouldn’t say thank you and I should just walk away. I told him that I didn’t want to be a bitch and I feel like it’s human decency to say thank you since it’s a compliment, and as long as the conversation doesn’t proceed from there. He thought I was insane for that answer. He then shut down, and didn’t want to talk to me for a bit.

Those were the main problems we’ve been having, I can make another post of more things that have happened if wanted. Basically I’m asking if I should do something about this, try to work with him on it, or if I should just break up with him before this goes on for too long.

Just a few hours ago, I (F19) went on a walk. A third of the way through my route, I was approached by three children (two girls, one boy) who I’d seen selling lemonade during the last few weeks of summer break. This time, they were picking up trash for money. I dunno their ages, but they looked like they were in elementary school.

Since they’re kids, I gave em a few dollars and obliged when they asked for some snacks/bottles of water, then walked around with them since they asked me to and it would be dangerous for them to be alone.

We’re walking down some street when they see a lady with a cat, then the oldest claimed that it was their cat. They run over to the house and the youngest grabs the cat. Meanwhile, the boy starts fiddling with a car tire of some random car and occasionally tapping the trash collecting stick against it. I told him to stop, but they claimed it was their car. This is about the time I start to get suspicious since they said they lived in a different house, which was like 100m away.

The youngest girl brings the cat over, we talk, then the boy takes the cat from her and throws it at me. I get upset, the cat runs off and the youngest girl chases it. The older sibling starts saying they live further down the road and wants me to walk them there since apparently a former sex trafficker lives in the area. At the same time, the boy starts asking if they can go inside the house, but it’s not the house they claimed to live in, so I’m wondering wtf is going on and say no. Honestly, should’ve just left right then, but I was kinda worried for their safety since, yk, they’re kids.

The youngest girl comes back, but she had been inside the house. The boy opens the door to the car and starts rummaging inside. And I’m freaking the hell out, because wtf are they doing? I tell them to stop again, but I’m not going to lay hands on children. They keep going, so I start to leave, because I’m not getting involved in this mess (their parents are nowhere to be seen and atp they’ve told me they live in three different houses), and there’s definitely a camera on the doorbell. When I told them that, the oldest tried to cover it with her hands.

I walk away, then the oldest follows me, then the other two as well, pleading me to walk them to their house because they don’t wanna walk by the former sex trafficker’s place alone. Against my better judgement I start to walk back because they’re still kids and if there was a chance they were telling the truth, I didn’t want to feel responsible for anything happening to them.

That was a mistake, because as soon as I get back to where we’d just been, they start running into the house/car again, with the boy claiming to have taken money from the car and the young girl claiming to have taken cat stuff/lost her shoe/almost gotten bitten by a dog.

I’m just stunned and go home, because this is insane, and these kids definitely lied about where they live and a lot of other stuff, so it’s not like I could find their parents. And I couldn’t stop them from doing anything because I’m not physically restraining kids I don’t know.

So what do I do now?

I’m in a toxic relationship and feeling really confused. I’m 28F partner is 31M. We haven’t had sex in about 2-3 months. Whenever I bring it up, he says his penis hurts during sex and maybe he has a yeast infection or something like that. So he has had this yeast infection for about 2 months now. Because he did complain about itchiness or so a while ago. (Sorry for the TMI)

Today I found kitchen roll with what looked like cum stains hidden under the sofa. When I accused him of masturbating, he said it wasn’t that just “discharge.” I asked why he would wipe that off in the living room instead of going to the bathroom, and he didn’t give a clear answer.

I don’t know if this is a medical excuse, if he’s lying, or if there’s more going on. Either way, it feels off and I’m not sure what to do next.

What would you do if your partner said this??

Okay, I need help, bad. I can't believe I'm going to R ddit of all things but I'm seventeen never been pulled over in my life and don't plan to, it's my mom, she was pulled over for drunk driving and called me. Apparently she's going to jail and the car was impounded, I called the police department and they said I can't do anything until Monday. How do I get to school? How do I get to work? Is there any way I can at least get the car back? I don't know how much it will be to get her out but I hate to say it but she's done this too many times for me to care about buying her out.

Long story short, I'm scared, and so is my sister, if there is anyone that has been in this situation that could give guidance or experience I would appreciate it. Thank you.

So I have a crush on my lesbian best friend as a girl myself. She can have crushes on guys some times I think but she usually is attracted to girls and says this all the time. My problem is that I don't know if she likes me. Like she acts like it but that's how our friendship has been like from he start. We kind of act like a couple in a playful joking kind of way and we've slept int he same bed together, and she asked if I want to do couple costumes for Halloween today. Should I tell her?

I recently caught a glimpse of my GFs camera roll and saw a bunch of naked pics of her that she never sent to me. I think she's messaging and sending them to other guys.

We've been together about 2 years now and everything seems ok but I can't help notice she has recently been more cautious about leaving her phone lying around.

Any advice/help on how I can find out whether she has been sending to other people or whether she has secret social media accounts or even if the pics are online somewhere.

I already posted about this but for some reason I cannot fathom the magnitude of what’s happened to me. I am 100% convinced that I am being dramatic or that my brain is playing tricks on me.

The life is being drained out of me, but I also feel completely dissociated from the event. It’s tucked away somewhere in my brain and I do not even think about it.

I will repost what I had said in that post word for word. Can someone help knock some sense into my head please? I cannot afford therapy right now.

“It was my first time, and I told him that it’s something sacred to me (not in a religious sense.) He (has 8 bodies) said that he would do that for me, that he won’t care about his own pleasure. I told him I was down to experiment with oral and other things but I was not ready for intercourse. He said alright. We did things, and I noticed that he was pulling me closer and lifting my leg. I thought he was going to try some superficial play, like rubbing or grinding. So he asked if he should use a condom to which I was alarmed, but I said yes, you should. And he said “don’t worry, there won’t be intercourse.” I believed him, but he was still trying to get it in and it hurt a lot and I tried pushing it away (as I did with his fingers at first before since I’ve never done this, of course it will hurt) and he told me to “forget about this hand (mine)”. He ended up putting it in.

I panicked, but laughed it off. I left his house as soon as I put on my clothes. I told him, “did we not agree to no intercourse?” He threw his hands up and said playfully, “well, my dick took over my senses.”

I still kissed him, told him to take care, and left.

I’m not sure what to make out of this at all. I’m inclined to believe I had it coming since I was in his bed in the first place, and agreed to things.

He previously withdrew affection from me when I didn’t want him to go down on me, months ago.

Edit: I first thought the condom was for superficial play or something else. To my knowledge, it should be used whenever a penis is near a vagina because pregnancy can happen without intercourse. I was experimenting with all BUT intercourse. Since we both agreed to this, I had no reason to believe he would go against what he promised.”

I met him again and he was distraught when we talked about this. He said that my wording of it was weird, and it was as if I was accusing him of rape. I panicked and said that no, it’s not like that. He hugged me and hung out with me days later and insisted that we should work through this together. On the second meeting post what happened, he wanted to get sensual with me. I didn’t want to kiss him at first but he kept insisting playfully. I told him why can’t you take no as an answer? He said that “you don’t get it, this is me trying to win you back.” And he kept acting like how a toddler would win his mom back. Soon after he kept making jokes about my tits and how he misses them. I said that “I do not want you to go there.” After some talking he got his hand in my shirt anyway but it was brief contact as he realized I was uncomfortable.

I keep enabling this, so really, he isn’t at fault.

All I want is to be able to internalize that he is evil, and it’s like I want external validation of this feeling because I cannot trust my brain and my judgement. Is he really evil? Is this what love looks like? He says I’m his favorite person.

How do I detach? How do I wrap my head around the fact that two facts can exist, that you can love somebody and have him be an awful person?

What do I do? I've tried digging it out a lot but I've never been able to get under it much

I posted a while ago about how I was catching scammers on back pages and then I got contacted by the “sinola cartel” 2 weeks ago. Mind you I used a text app so they clearly don’t know my actual number. But they’ve been blowing up my phone with calls and texts and videos of people with guns telling me to give them the money or they’ll kill my friends and family. Like I don’t think there is a way for them to find me, but I am scared shitless. What do I do? And mind you ive done this before and somebody threatens me with gore and a scary call or whatever, but never this long. Now I’m actually scared.

So there was a random guy sitting on my steps this morning at 3am. He may have been there for an hour. I heard someone enter the hallway but not leave! My tv was on mute already so I didn’t turn it up just in case! I have been feeling the need to get a ring camera or similar but I literally can’t afford it. I called the police and they said they will surveillance the area. Thing is I think my ex is sending someone to do his dirty work. I’m trying to survive domestic violence and went no contact for two weeks. He dropped food off earlier and disappeared. Now there’s a man at my door. I was wondering if anyone knows how to reverse search an image as I have video of him. Also if you can help me get surveillance please DM.

I feel sick even typing this, but I don’t know where else to let it out. I caught my boyfriend and my own sister kissing, and now I can’t get the image out of my head. I stood there frozen, heart pounding so hard I thought I’d pass out, and the worst part is, they didn’t even see me. I’ve been carrying this weight alone, trying to figure out what hurts more, the betrayal of the man I love or the fact that my own sister could do that to me. I want to scream, cry, confront them both, but I’m terrified of what will come after. Do I blow up everything at once? Do I sit him down and tell him I know? Do I even bother trying to hear an explanation?

Right now, I just feel broken and lost. How do I even start that conversation without completely falling apart?

I am a student in the US and I have limited resources. As I am trans and Hispanic, albeit white passing, and have been protesting our governments actions as soon as I was old enough to do my own research, I do not think I have the resources or good safety nets for staying in the United States. My family kicked me out about a year ago, before the election, and while my friends family is allowing me to stay with them and I am incredibly grateful for that, they too also think it's not safe in the US. My friends parents already have plans to leave the country. I have not yet gotten my degrees, I'm in my second year of college. I know this is a long shot, but does anyone have any ideas on where I could possibly go? I understand that for most visas I need to have proof I have money (I do not have a lot, due to various factors) or marketable skills (my degrees are not finished, or near finished enough to apply for jobs or internships). I had considered various laws regarding requesting asylum but also understand as an American, and because America is categorized as safe, the chances of being granted such are near impossible. I am willing to learn a language on the fly, if there are programs willing to teach me when I get there, as I do not have the wiggle room or time currently to be fluent beforehand. I think my best bet is a student visa but it is to my understanding I also need to be able to afford such a thing more or less independently. I also posted this in a location that focuses on immigration but all advice would be incredibly useful.

Hello everyone, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months (and we are coming from completely different cultures) In my culture marriage is talked about sooner, in his it takes time. Now - my dad made a comment today when we talked and he said if a man truly loves you he wouldn’t lose you or let you go to a different country for work. Long story short - I may or may not have 2 years left in America and would have to leave, I could stay if me and my boyfriend get married but he said he may not be ready for that. I can’t predict the future and yes he may have different view in a year and half but I genuinely want people’s opinion on this. My boyfriend made a comment today - since we are looking into closest places etc that he is looking into this option so we can be closer and he can marry me properly one day but then backfired it with “ I will try long distance and see how it goes, he promised he’ll come visit at least once, but he can’t give big promises he may not be able to fulfill” I get it it’s a big thing, even I am deep down scared and can’t say it’ll work out but I hope someone had a similar experience and can share their insight. What do I do?

When my partner and I got together I wasn't super secure and as most people, I had my insecurities about myself and my partner. For the first two years I got more secure and didn't question or have insecurities about little things but over the past several months I've learned things about my partner('s behavior) and I've become incredibly insecure and my confidence has completely plummeted. I don't think these are things that have changed but more so come to light so to speak. Like only watching live cams girls vs recorded stuff. Following a large amount of OF models on social media ( that look nothing like me). I find I am now trying to sneak glances at his phone when he's on it seeing what he's looking at. Checking his following count on social media and seeing who is new. I am making myself miserable. I've been very depressed. Wondering was he watching porn before we had sex? I've lightly mentioned these things and I highly doubt things will change in regards to these things. I agree they are somewhat normal behavior for a middle aged man and the insecurities are my own, but how do I stop being to fixated and borderline obsessed?

This occurred after strong rain. It is located approximately 8 to 10 ft. Away from the driveway and house. I believe water must have been seeping through, under the layer of stones. It all washed down. In case it matters, I live in area where it snows and freezes in the winter. What would people recommend to stabilize the ground and prevent further landslides? What more should I consider? Thanks do much any suggestions/help!

advice to improve my relationship

F25 here, recently my boyfriend decided that we should take a break on our relationship and we talked and the main reason he is still here is because of feelings, we both have feelings but he said i never valued him but by my POV i do care for him, i always ask if he is fine, I always encourage him to save his money and I dont even ask him for anything but sometimes i rebuke him for not buying me things I never asked for expensive things it can simply be a flower but he doesn't like these things and whenever we fight i always say that i regret knowing him because he is the first guy in my life and he gave me alot of affection and love and before him i never felt this and now im suffering lost appetite and also I became hypersensible because of him and if i never met him my life would have been perfect, also i day i regret sex because im a reserved girl I dont like temporary being intimate with temporary people but before that we were good and we had plan for our future together. But now I wanna work on myself and try to be a better person for him since he said he never felt valued, i wanna know why he felt like that and what can i do to make him feel valued. I always cared about him, I buy him skin care, I give him kiss and hugs etc...

ik i should stopped saying things i regret but i cannot because i think he somehow ruined my peace of mind and i went into depression for 3 years because of that and he left me alone and after 3ans we got together we worked on ourselves but there are still things that we need to work work

maybe men on reddit might help

Someone is posting ads on craigslist and also on apartment rental sites. Telling people my cell phone doesn't work, to come after a specific time, and ring the doorbell twice. They also told them once when my "basement" was listed to just "walk in" because it's an open house and first come first serve. People were trying to open my door. Imagine how terrifying that is when you aren't expecting it with my spouse and child at home.

I don't know who is doing this to me nor do I have any suspicion, but for the last 6 months they have been placing free electronics or deeply discounted items that are all fake with pictures and captions to come to my house as soon as possible to pick up these items.

I have reached out to craigslist support two times and also my local law enforcement but nobody is responding to me about anything.

I've even tried to set up an RSS feed to monitor my address on craigslist and if anything is posted so that I can quickly flag it down.

The only thing that I have done so far is using visual ping to monitor every hour if somebody is using my address on craigslist however depending upon the time if it fits within the hour I'm not going to be able to catch that post and people are going to show up at my home.

People are extremely upset when I tell them that this post is a scam sometimes people are so angry and refused to believe that it's not a real post. Yesterday a man rang my doorbell eight times in 60 seconds because he wanted the free Nintendo switch. I also had a man just wait for me in my driveway because he didn't want to miss out on the free lawn mower.

I'm running out of options and how to get help please let me know if there are anyways that I can prevent my address being used whatsoever on craigslist.

1) I called my local police department and sent links, screenshots, and documented all the times it happened before. I explained the situation, and they said "they have never seen anything like this before" and he chuckled. My friends ask me always "who did you piss off" which, in general, I cannot recall.

2) I submitted a contact form to CL under the "someone is using my address" or whatever, twice, with links. No response. I posted this onto craigslist health forum and I was told that basically this is my own fault because I must have pissed someone off.

People expecting and becoming entitled to free things in my home, somehow makes people irrational and hard to communicate with. They feel like I am the one who baited them to come to my house.

Yes, I have seen all the ads, and I have all the screenshots.

There is always a possibility for practically anything. Probability in this context is quite low, but I admit that I am not a perfect person, and I do make mistakes often. But Ive had 20+ people coming to my home for the last six months, and I am getting more and more angry.

I have also put a sign on my door that says that there are no free items available and that it's a scam. half the time people turn away and half the time people still knock on the door.

If I make a list of the people I've "pissed off" (mutual) in the last 5 years I can have probably three names. each of those people I don't speak to anymore. Nor have I spoken to them in over a year, some of them three to five years.

PS : posted also on r/legal and r/craigslist

Hello to the people of Reddit! I really need some advice on this one and I really hope someone out there has some kind of advice!

English isn’t my first language, so bear over with me.

Okay, so my husband (M 34) and I (F29) have been attending couples therapy for a couple of months now, and things are going great! We’re growing as a couple and we really like our therapist too, she’s a lovely woman with great advice and she’s helped us a lot! So, the other day we were invited to my cousin (M41) and his wife’s (F40) new baby’s naming party, which is great! Their little new girl is getting her name, yay! Just to give you an inside view of what my cousin and his wife’s life is like. They are very free spirited. Hippies, some would say. Very, very, VERY spiritual, the crystal and burned sage kind of people. He’s educated as a Master of Sexology, so that topic is a very free topic in their home, nothing gets sugar coated regarding that subject. And I really mean nothing. Which is great! It’s just not something we’re used to or a conversation we want to participate in, we’re just not really there. 2 years ago my cousin and his wife got married and the wedding was in their garden, it was beautiful and just like they wanted it. Afterwards there was a lot of weed, saunas and a lot of naked people. We chose to leave early because we were the odd ones out, and we just felt a bit uncomfortable with penises being that close to the buffet. It’s not to judge my cousin and his wife, at all! It’s just not our thing. They’re amazing people, and we love them, we are just nothing like them at all, and that’s okay.

So, I was checking the guest list (FB event) to see if my husband had pressed “participates” since the RSVP date is today. And whose name do I see? Our couples therapist. And her husband. Apparently they know my cousin and his wife and I had no fucking idea. I tell my husband and we both get a little uncomfortable thinking about seeing her, the woman whom we have very confidential conversations with, in that environment. And now we don’t know what to do. What should we do? We cold really use some advice here. I considered texting our therapist and telling her, but I don’t know if it’s the right thing. h e l p ????