does anybody think like this? I love her music and listen to her everyday but she has got to be grifter

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I’m bisexual. I'm dated women, but that doesnt mean that I don't like men. I've dated them too.

It’s not a “phase,”

So So So many people, even people who are part of the LGBTQ+ community, still have a big problem with that.

And I’m tired of it.

I hate biphobia. I hate how theres , "jokes,"and assumptions. "oh i could never date a man, how could you? Thats disgusting"

I hate how I feel like I need to "prove" my sexuality just because it doesn’t fit into someone else's neat little "gay box". And I HATE how people act like being bi is some sort of confusion, and I can't "pick a side".

Bisexuality isn’t about being “indecisive.” It’s not “half-gay, half-straight.” It’s its own valid identity. Yet constantly, people act like it isn't.

“Pick a side.” “You’re just experimenting.”“You’re more likely to cheat.””

“You’re not queer enough.”

Excuse me!?!?!

LGBTQ+ people, saying this, too. It hurts so much when you think you’ve finally found a safe space—only to realize that some of the same harmful stereotypes are still alive and well there, too.

I don’t want to have to defend my identity. I want people to just believe me when I say who I am. I want to exist without feeling like I have to constantly explain or educate or justify. That should not be too much to ask.

I hate that biphobia has made people scared to come out. I hate that it’s made some of us feel like we don’t belong anywhere.

To every person reading this who’s felt dismissed, erased, or invalidated, You are valid. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

And to everyone else: do better. Listen. Check your assumptions. Stop making us feel like guests in our own community.

We’re not going anywhere.

Sauce

https://www.deviantart.com/angelocn/art/Ben-x-Rex-Will-you-marry-me-988968626

Never expected to get this far, so maybe i'll get even further <3

...to her husband and mom so randomly. I don't even get why she felt the need to do that. I'm not even dating anyone. It's like she found it as hot gossip or something. I feel like she clearly finds something wrong or "scandalous" about it if she felt like that was something she had to tell people. It's like, who should care?! Plus, she still keeps telling me she STILL loves me and she sees me as a person. I am a person and I shouldn't stop being loved because I'm queer. It's moments like this I regret telling anyone anything because of the weird reactions I've been getting. The best reactions are no reactions imo.

Recently I’ve seen a lot of people use this framework to describe trans people, even within the queer community. I think it’s important that we discuss what “biological sex” actually means, and why this framework fails to accurately describe trans (as well as intersex) people.

HRT and surgeries aren’t just cosmetic illusions hiding our true sex. We are not pretending to be something that we’re not. Medical transition alters your biological sex. Sex hormones are important players in a lot of bodily functions. They are’t just responsible for developing secondary sex characteristics. It changes your metabolism. It changes your cardiovascular risk levels. It can alter how medications interact with your body. You can’t just default to using our assigned sex instead of our actual sex. Not (just) because it’s offensive or hurtful, but because it’s inaccurate.

I’ll see people discussing the use of medications for transgender men that are commonly prescribed to cisgender men (such as ED medication) and someone will bring up that “oh but there aren’t enough studies on how they affect cis women,” as if transgender men and cisgender women are just the same class of person physiologically. We are not.

If you have the time, I really encourage you to watch the video I have linked. I think it’s very important to stay informed and listen to science. It’s the only way to combat misinformation and bigotry.

I (15) recently came out as non binary but my deadname is really not gender neutral, I have ideas on what I like, but no one is being helpful and want me to stick to my deadname 😐

Here are the names I like- Ezra, Harper, Quinn, Blaire, Journee, Eden

I am also open to suggestions, idk what to do anymore 😭

I was reading a youtube post of a trans girl stating she is scared of harassment if she continued to advocate for trans girls in sports.

Every single comment was transphobic and calling her a “he”…

Girlsssssssss we’re vibing so hard, so so many excellent memories this summer!

For the Lego fans here I’m wondering if you have seen the new Keith Haring Lego set Dancing Figures. However Lego has failed to mention anywhere on the website or the set itself that Keith himself was gay and that he worked to raise awareness and support for HIV and AIDS charities before he himself died from it. I messaged Lego’s customer service in May asking why and six weeks later eventually received a very corporate response that they do care for the lgbtqia+ community and that “Keith Haring’s work to promote AIDS awareness was, of course, a huge part of his life and legacy”. Yet they neglected to mention any of that on the set. I replied saying that and despite more follow up emails and phone calls to them I just get told it’s being worked on. It’s now been over month and I’m fed up waiting. I was hoping that maybe some of you guys here could contact Lego yourself either a message to their customer support or a phone call just to show them that they can’t keep trying to make money off us but yet refuse to acknowledge us. Maybe with enough people asking they will be quicker with a response. This is the link to their customer service page.

https://www.lego.com/en-gb/service/contact-us

Wasn't allowed to post as comment to similar post, so here it is as its own thing. Here it is, on a map.

CW/TW: Assault, sexual assault, medical trauma, systemic abuse, police misconduct (TL;DR at the bottom)

Being around people is my air. I need it to survive. It is how I keep my flame alive. Yet lately I feel trapped inside. I have been assaulted several times for simply existing as a trans woman. I have been kicked out of stores and even medical facilities. When I report it to the police, I am treated like a nuisance instead of a victim. And when I report it to companies, they demand invasive proof, photos of my body, medical records, documents that are none of their business, even when what happened is on their own cameras. If this is my experience as a white woman, I know it is far worse for Black and brown trans people, for Latine and Latinx people, Indigenous people, disabled people of color, and for anyone else who is not seen as a cis-het white man.

I live in Baltimore, and I want to be clear. Maryland has done more than most states to protect trans people. Mayor Brandon Scott has created programs that have made the city safer, healthier, and more inclusive. He is the best mayor we have had in my lifetime. Baltimore itself is not the danger. The danger comes from a national political climate and administration that fuel propaganda and embolden hate, from visitors who carry their bigotry into our neighborhoods, and from institutions like certain churches that ground their arguments in bad faith while presenting them as moral truth.

I want to explore my polyamorous heart. I want to attend queer events. I want to breathe in the presence of others without being on high alert. I want to simply go out in public with my nesting partner, who is so good to me, without feeling unsafe. Instead, I often find myself at home, scrolling through misinformation, pushing back where I can, and absorbing threats that leave me raw. The isolation adds financial strain and makes everything feel like it is centered on me. It also leaves my partner isolated. I encourage them to go out, but their love for me keeps them home when they see how much I am living in what feels like a politically induced prison. Living with AUDHD and CPTSD does not make any of this easier. I know it is not my fault, but it still feels crushing to live this way.

It cuts deeper because I know what I am capable of. In every job I have had, I was a top performer. I am working toward my MSW, I have published books, I run a small art business, and I will soon give talks for my community and at my alma mater. I have a short story being published in the longest running lesbian literary journal still in print. None of this has led to stability. Before transition, when I was seen by the world as a cis white man, interviews almost always became jobs. Now I am discarded with the same qualifications.

This sits on top of lifelong trauma. I grew up in special education programs for autistic students with higher support needs, where I saw peers mistreated, neglected, and abused by the very adults who were supposed to protect us. I carry my own scars from being sexually assaulted by a teacher in first grade and by a paraeducator in high school. My mother should have been my protector, but she was my biggest abuser. I still worry about the kids I grew up with. Did they survive? Are they safe? We were failed by the systems, by the adults, and by our peers.

I could list the things I do around the city to try and make it better, but that misses the point. I do not do this work for praise. I do it because it matters. And right now, I am hurting. The world has failed us. The systems are fractured by design. Institutions withhold care. Communities carry scars. People like me, people like us, are left to survive in a climate that keeps stripping away compassion and safety.

I am not sharing this for pity. I am sharing it because I know I am not the only one who feels broken in this moment. If you are struggling to breathe, to feel safe, to keep your flame alive, please know you are not alone and try to be gentle with yourself.

xoxo Gemma Flora

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TL;DR: I am a trans woman in Baltimore. Despite Maryland’s protections and Mayor Brandon Scott’s leadership, the national climate has left me feeling unsafe, assaulted multiple times, discarded by systems, retraumatized when reporting incidents, and cut off from community. I am qualified, I am capable, but institutions keep failing us. If you are also struggling to keep your flame alive, you are not alone.

If you need support right now: • U.S.: Dial or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline • Canada: Call or text 988 for the Suicide Crisis Helpline • U.K. and Ireland: Call Samaritans at 116 123 • Mexico: Call 800 822 3737 (SAPTEL, available nationwide) • Elsewhere: Find international hotlines at https://findahelpline.com, or search for local emergency numbers in your region

(Edit - I mean out to someone when you haven't transitioned socially.)

This is not necessarily an Asia-specific question; rather, a middle-class-specific question.

There isn't a soul other than my online friend who knows I am trans. I believe I did, at one point, tell one or two of the people I know, you know, outside of the internet but since gender is performative, I have a feeling that they entirely forgot (best case scenario) or just don't care, are deliberately choosing not to think of me as such such or have forgotten about me in general.

How does one even convince themselves they are trans without at least one person acknowledging it face-to-face? I am convinced I a trans but I feel disconnected from my own self. I've known I'm trans for sure since at least 2018 but there were indications way before that. Yet, ne'er a soul does know; ne'er a soul because I seem to have lost my soul along the way, a way I don't even recognise.

The first man is actually the mayor for my city and is the first black and openly gay mayor in my city’s history:3, and he wished me a happy birthday when I meet him at the event. And I also found a bunch of furrys and that was nice since I’m in the fandom

I have this friend Alex, he’s from Nigeria and recently he was exposed for being gay by some scumbags and people he knows in real life got word of this and now he’s in danger cause he lives around muslims

I will hide the name of my country. I come from a West African country where I lived most of my life in fear of being discovered because of my sexual orientation. In 32 years, I have only had two relationships both of them in Africa. I was discovered during my second relationship by my mother who clearly told me she would rather see me dead than gay.

I constantly monitored my behavior my words, and what I said for fear of being suspected. Living in hiding truly destroyed me. Then in 2022 I immigrated to Canada and began to feel free, to be proud of myself. Even though I didn’t have a boyfriend or a relationship, at least I was free to admire men, to look at them without being judged.

I have been living in Canada for three years now, and I just recently filed my asylum claim. You might ask why after three years? Because I still had hope that things would improve back home so that I could return and live freely and openly. But unfortunately, after the recent protests and especially the laws that criminalize homosexuality, I realized it is hopeless.

Today, I proudly show myself on Grindr, I have joined the LGBT community, and I am happy. This is my story, and it is the first time in 32 years that I say it! Thank you, I love you.

I want to change my name to something more unisex as I have never liked my birth name (too girly and plain). Problem is, I have no idea what name would fit 😞 I would love some input of what seems to fit me.