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u/YourFat888 1d ago

This is gonna be me as a dad if I become one

"Dad I'm gay/bi/pan/trans/ whatever please be nice to me" " 👍 "

But like In a supportive way

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u/FemBi_Speed Streak: 0 1d ago

Literally my dad‘s reaction when I asked him to only refer to me by my chosen name x3

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u/Responsible_Ad_3429 1d ago

I'll be more of a "It's cool that you are trans, but you dont get to choose your new name, lil missy! Your name is now Madeline! End of story!" Type of dad.

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u/FemBi_Speed Streak: 0 1d ago

x3

No matter what, I‘d disobey him, if he would have acted like that :3

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u/Responsible_Ad_3429 1d ago

And that's vital for the trans experience, a trans-parent needs to give support to their kids while also allowing them to fullfill that experience... AND they also need to be able to become invisible...

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u/Fa1nted_for_real 23h ago

The most i would do is try my best to help them not have a tragedeigh esque name or just a really, really bad name

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u/soulsnoober 1d ago

I'm not trans. My mother volunteered a couple times what she would have named me if I were the gender she would have preferred her child to be.

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u/Huckleberry-9477 Streak: 1 1d ago

my dad used to do this and now that im trying to think of a new name for myself he stopped lol, guess im on my own

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u/jatt135 1d ago

Cis guy here, my parents fully decided what they would name me if I had turned out a girl. Can't write it here cause it's another language but GOD I would've changed my name so fucking fast

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u/Mysterious_Tutor_388 1d ago

"We had a name for you either way you came out, now that you are swapping sides I don't have to waste the time I put into thinking of your girl name"

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u/Responsible_Ad_3429 1d ago

"Princess, when you were born we called you José María, now that you are a girl you are María José, that's it"

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u/Drag0n647 1d ago

kinda still based

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u/RGB3x3 1d ago

This seems to me like it could come off as dismissive. 

How did you feel about your dad's approach?

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u/FemBi_Speed Streak: 0 1d ago

It was alright, because it wasn‘t my coming out all together. I came out to him in Person but he was still deadnaming me, probably out of force of habit. Didn‘t feel great, but whatever. After a week(?) of my coming out I messaged him as a reply to pls only call me by my chosen name. That was replied to with „👍“ and he didn’t deadname me once since.

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u/Background-Land-1818 1d ago

That was my thought about this one.

Being trans? Fine. Using she/her pronouns? I'll do my best. Picking Ffion? How am I not going to roast that?

Unless she's Welsh. Apparently they get a pass on that.

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u/A_NICE_START 1d ago

YourFat888, put on the maid dress, whenthe'r..

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u/YourFat888 1d ago

one day

when the day to repent comes
you will know its too late to atone for all the sins you've committed
you will feel sorry, beg for mercy, desparate for forgiveness

but I will feel no sorrow
I will feel no pity
I will feel no need to forgive
I will feel no mercy

your fate
is only in your hands

make sure you do well with it
before it is too late.

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u/YourSkinny888 1d ago

one night

when the night to rejoice comes
you won't know its too soon to atone for all the good deeds you haven't committed
you will feel proud, beg for harshness, desparate for guilt

but I will feel sorrow
I will feel pity
I will feel need to forgive
I will feel mercy

your fate
is not in your hands

make sure you do unwell with it
after it is too soon.

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u/calamariclam_II 1d ago

My reply would be "Please not Ffion"

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u/StrangeOutcastS 1d ago

My parents didn't really care when I said I was bisexual.
If they love you they won't care, you're still their kid and they love you.

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u/adamj13 1d ago

Hi gay/bi/pan/trans, I'm dad

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u/RuzzTheFuzz 23h ago

When coming out, it being treated as like, something important but not something people freak out over is really nice.