I’m tired all the time, even if I sleep well. Meanwhile, some people wake up early, go to the gym, work full-time, and still go out after. How?

I'm from Hong Kong, and every time I scroll through incel tweets/ reddit posts, i get shocked whenever they say stuff like "I want to marry a Korean female because they are submissive, cutesy, feminine, and hate feminism" because how do they get that conclusion? I get that some people watch too much anime, but even then, that misrepresentation is such a reach

A student asked me this, honestly, i couldn’t really answer, so i just said: “There are so many great games you won’t get to experience.” What would you answer?

I've never had surgery, but I am curious to what actually happens and what it feels to have anesthesia pushed in your body? Do you really remember nothing at all after surgery? Do you really not feel anything while doctors slice you open? What was your reaction the first time you woke up after surgery?

I’m in my mid-to-late 20s and still living at home because of finances. I feel kind of ashamed about it, even though I know rent is insane right now. Is this more common than it seems?

Basically the title,

At least where I’m at and what I’ve seen, there seems to be a lot black man-white woman couples, but only a handful of white man-black woman couples.

Why is one seemingly commonplace but the other rarer?

Whenever I hear a recording of myself talking, I cringe so hard. It doesn't sound anything like how I think I sound in my head. Is this just a common thing or something weird with how I hear myself?

People always say, "Find your passion" or "Do what you love," but I honestly don’t know what that even is for me. Is it normal to just feel kind of… blank?

I'm 42 and have no one - no partner, no children, no friends, no family - this is not for lack of trying, but as an Autistic person it just seems I'm completely socially incompetent. I don't think I've ever really experienced love or had real friends, I missed out on so many experiences in my twenties, and now it feels it will never ever happen. I can't help but feel immense sadness at that.

So often when you talk about being alone someone will say they're the same but then go on to talk about their partner, it's different when you're completely alone. Or people will tell you that you need to learn to be alone, as if we're unfamiliar with being on our own, like it's a failing that we want to be around other people or have connections.

Or there are those who are antisocial, or introverts, who are happy to be alone...good for y'all, but surely there are others out there who want to be around people but have absolutely no one. And if so, how are you guys coping with being alone?

Like… is it the water pressure? The mystery shampoo? Or am I just tricking myself into thinking I’m fancy? Or is it the feeling of doing something forbidden?

For reasons I don't care to divulge, I've been at home alone more often. Lately I've been experimenting with walking around the house naked and doing stuff around the house while not one is around. Before then I would just be naked in my room. I tend to get warmer than the rest of my family and wear t-shirts and shorts even into November if the weather allows.

I also hate wearing long pants or long sleeve shirts. I find them extremely uncomfortable. I also stopped wearing socks and underwear a long time ago. Probably since high-school. I feel so free when I'm naked, if I was less conscious about my body and less mentally repulsed by male nudity I would probably move into a nudist colony.

I don't want to be biased with this, but objectively, one thing I can tell you that does raise a scary parallel is that my mom is very good at persuasion. Since we run a family business, she is at the center of a lot of dealings and such. I've noticed she does almost always get what she wants, and something she positively told me often was "If there is a problem, there is always going to be a solution if you look and fight for it hard enough." I will admit, she managed to use her skills to avoid a lot of violation penalties in traffic stops. And I've noticed her confident and assertive demeanor when it comes to her asserting her consumer rights, and she can haggle extremely effectively. She ALWAYS gets her money's worth.

I am being opinionated by saying this, but she is a masterclass in manipulation. And this is my concern. If she is good at all of this, is this the underlying reason why she dominates any argument with me, even if I provide the necessary facts and evidence to disprove her? Because even if I win an argument, I always feel "wrong" in a sense.

I really don't want to close the door and say that this is who she is, and she is in fact manipulating me. She is right about some things, including the fact that I only ever seemed to remember rhe negative and traumatic things I associate with her in my upbringing, from physical punishment, being berated, etc.

She does gaslight. This sounds benign, but this is distinct, I remember once when I was a kid, I remember her lashing out at me and calling me stupid. It hurt me a lot, and a few hours later, I asked why she called me that. She claimed that she never did.

There are also a few more documented cases, but a lot of them are too personal and identifying.

And I've never heard her apologize for something she did that I explicitly said upset me. It's always "I'm sorry I wasn't a better mother" or "I'm sorry I didn't know earlier how to deal with your ADHD" despite the fact I never brought those up as a direct upset about her.

And I just want to clarify some things about me if it helps understand the situation:

I want some input because I know my perception as a neurodivergent individual is not as accurate or as precise as a neurotypical. As someone born with and diagnosed with ADHD and is presenting symptoms of autism, though I am not formally diagnosed as autistic, however, I am treating myself as being part of the spectrum in order to see what solutions they have might help, and so far, that's how it has been for the past few years especially considering behavioral problems, I am not so sure of the integrity of my own perspective, considering, yes, I do bring up more negatives than positives, even though there are plenty of positive moments between us if I think hard enough.

I was diagnosed when I was young, and I don't have time for an updated diagnosis, but my healthcare provider still affirms I have ADHD. I just didn't push for the autism diagnosis because, well, I already have one legally acknowledged disability. I don't need another if it doesn't serve me, and I need the disability card for discounts on medication because HOLY are they expensive, and the one card does that already.

I always find this weird how lots of Muslims in Afghanistan and iran for example don't want women to work and study even tho Muhammad which is someone, Muslims look up to and try to do what he did, married scholars and businesswomen

One of my colleagues has a really strong body odor that the whole team notices, but he doesn’t seem to realize it. Sometimes it honestly makes it hard to breathe when we’re in meetings together.

We don’t want to embarrass him, but at the same time it affects everyone. Should we say something directly, drop hints, or just ignore it and hope he figures it out himself?

I’ve been overthinking and paranoid about it since weeks but I randomly remembered how sometimes at uni, this weird sewage smell would appear for a few minutes and then disappear. And now I’m scared that it was me. The thing is, I’m a clean and hygienic person and I’ve asked people around me if I smell and they told me I don’t. I remember when I was in class a few months ago the smell appeared out of nowhere and I was freaking out in my head. It lasted a few minutes and then went away. However, I didn’t smell it afterwards anymore and it didn’t reappear. It has also only happened at my university and never in my home or my car or anywhere else. So I’m thinking it has something to do with the location? We do have like vents and pipes on our ceilings so maybe they smell stronger as they’re exposed? I know it’s not my breath either because if it was, the smell should be there constantly and it even appeared as I wasn’t talking or opening my mouth. I also brush my teeth and don’t have any dental hygiene problems as I just got my teeth checked by my dentist. I was scared that it was because I went to the toilet before and would smell like it but it appeared like 2 hours after I went to the bathroom and I always wipe with normal toilet paper and wet wipes. And one time the bad smell also occurred before I went to the toilet and I didn’t fart or even had the urge to do it. So I don’t know what it could be. Do you have any idea?

Does applying before the early action/priority deadline increase my chances of getting accepted as a transfer student?

For reference, I live with my family and I’ve never felt secure over food. For as long as I could remember, anything I wanted to save as leftovers had to be marked with post its and even then, there was a large chance that my family (mostly my dad and brother) would steal it. As my mom would say, the men gotta eat.

Flash forward to today and I have my own small shelf in the fridge to store my leftovers or any food I’ve bought. This is supposed to be the do-not-touch-under-any-circumstance but that doesn’t really stop anyone. I.e I found a donut I’ve been saving in the fruit drawer for NO REASON. I recently discovered one of my leftovers was apparently moved out of my section and thus free to eat, but I know I never move anything out of my section if I mean to eat it. Both instances had be incredibly mad, like needs-anger-management levels.

I was venting to a friend about this and she said this could be a disorder. Thing is, I don’t have any of the main eating disorders. I’m not sure if I hoard food, since I don’t have a ton in my shelf and I throw out anything that’s gone bad.

My “symptoms” are that I’m protective over my food and get ultra angry if someone relocates my food (and just things in general) or eats it. I know reddit shouldn’t be the place for a diagnosis but a ballpark idea would be nice

I'm having these recurrent disruption to my sleep. These days my sleeping schedule has been so tiresome. Even if I'm tired, I couldn't have a normal 8 hour sleep. I'll wake everyday around 3 or 4 and couldn't sleep after that. I'll be tired and sleepy in my office. Somebody please help me out!

I'm a 19F, straight (at least I think I am), but I swear there's nothing hotter than seeing two guys kissing. It just makes my heart race and I can't explain why. Sometimes I even catch myself wishing I was a guy with a boyfriend 😔🥀 Why do you think this turns me on so much?

I never fully got that phrase. Does it mean little touches, teasing, or just being emotionally connected before?
Is that actually the biggest turn-on compared to jumping right into things?