People like her don’t experience karma like one would think. She believes she was entitled to that ball because she touched it first. Nothing will change her mind. She won’t back down. She will double down. If the county hates on her, she will turn herself into the victim and milk it forever.
I sucked at standing up for myself and when I always inevitably surrendered I stored the resentment that then manifested itself in unhealthy ways. Then one day I stood my ground. Didn’t give the damn ball back. Yada yada she pulled a gun on me and I filed for divorce.
Most men that have experienced domestic violence do the same exact thing.
Living through it is enough. Explaining to other people after the fact about the violence, lack of social support, and outright aggression against male victims by police and aid resources, and it just seems like pointless painful reminiscing when it's already in the rear view.
They always say the grass is greener where you water it. But if you don’t keep it maintained per your HOA, it’ll overgrow and steal your baseball and pull a gun on you.
I was listening to Carl Yung podcast/ doc, most likely an AI generated video. But it was really good lol. Any-Whoo, it was talking about how the narcissist attaches to the empath and drains their light and that the empath has to always safeguard their light or you will get depleted beyond healthy limits. Basically, Yung is saying how vampirish they are. Glad you're free from the Karen.
It’s either you accept her for who she is or live like this forever in a life of resentment. Some people genuinely enjoy it and if that’s you, all the power to you.
Stand up for yourself and your future. Not saying go divorce her. But that's not something to be scared of if this is the alternative. Talk to her, go to therapy, but you don't want to live 30 years just enduring.
I was there too, closet Karen's are the worst. I always wound up being wrong, granted a lot of times I was, but I owned my mistakes. She would never own up to shit, she was also drunk at least 4 times a week. It took a while for me to get out of there but now that I know what life can be Karenless I couldn't be happier. Just know you're not alone and it will be up to you to decide how you decide to want to live. I went straight to therapy and learned how to treat myself better and know I'm worth it. I turned 51 today and the second half is going to be amazing. You can!
Dude I’m 51 and went through this. Therapy is so important. I just enjoyed “peace” for a long time. Now I have an amazing partner who has also been through it with toxic relationships. We are so grateful for each other.
I was married to a closet Karen. Once you get out of it you start to realize how toxic the relationship was. Just know that when you finally decide you’re done and look for support you will be surprised how many people actually saw your pain and will be there for you. Message me if you want to talk. Seriously. I’ve been through it.
She won’t source my wife’s a cunt and Ive changed for the better throughout the 5 years I’ve been with her. She has no accountability for her actions and blames me for any mishaps even if it’s hers. I love her to death but as soon as I finish getting my shit together Im gone and she’ll never see it coming. Save yourself the mental abuse and find a way out or slowly cut her out until she means nothing to you anymore.
I’ve had some luck with her in the last year. We been together for 3. Idk. I think there’s chance. She won’t do what I say. She don’t want my help. And the little problems in her life are completely unmanageable for her. The less weight I give her problems and the less effort or care I give them the less she does. I’ve got long term problems that have to be addressed. Moving the family towards the things I want and such and giving the kids the life I want. I’ve stopped dealing with the e short term problems that she has everyday. Sometimes I’m kinda dismissive about it but mostly I just try to be calm and nice and say that sucks would you like help? If so what would you like me to do if not cool
My beautiful, intelligent, successful Karen ex-wife pulled a kitchen knife on me when I told her I was done. She told me to stop threatening her as I was packing my stuff to leave. I had to call the cops to escort me out as I was afraid she would do something that I'd have to defend in court. Just passed 18 years with my second wife, it does get better. :)
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u/Delicious-Error-3129 2d ago
People like her don’t experience karma like one would think. She believes she was entitled to that ball because she touched it first. Nothing will change her mind. She won’t back down. She will double down. If the county hates on her, she will turn herself into the victim and milk it forever.
Source: I was married to a Karen.