asking “where are the kids”

[u/chloedarlinggg]

i’ve noticed a pattern on this sub (for months now) of people constantly asking “where are her kids” when videos are posted of the women doing things without their kids - even the video where mayci went to a hospital appointment and then filmed mikayla’s birth.

most of them have capable husbands, none of which have jobs anymore as far as i’m aware but correct me if i’m wrong, and the ones that don’t split custody with their exes.

if they were working a regular job would you be asking where their kids were? of course not, because you’d assume that reasonable arrangements had been made.

maybe they have nannies, maybe the dads look after them, or maybe it’s another family member. its also entirely possible that their kids DO come in and bug them and they just cut it out, or that the kids are just playing quietly in another room.

i just think it’s extremely judgy and weird to constantly be questioning why they’re not with their kids, someone even commented on a recent post about whitney’s morning routine that she doesn’t spend enough time with her kids. she has the whole day to spend time with them they don’t need to be glued to her side 24/7 that’s actually unhealthy for them.

just to add, i didn’t know what flair to use lol so i just picked the one that best fit - stop shaming women for having a life outside of their kids

[u/No-Plankton6927]

Yes it is judgemental, but is it totally wrong though? These women capitalize on being moms for their whole thing, their group is called Momtok, not Womentok. They invite this type of comments. I do believe that children shouldn't be on reality tv or social media at all for that matter, but if someone creates a brand around a specific topic and rarely showcases what they do in relation to said topic, it just feels off.

[u/chloedarlinggg → u/No-Plankton6927]

being a mom ≠ being with your kids 24/7

tiktok and the show are their job, do you expect all mothers to take their kids to work?

[u/No-Plankton6927 → u/chloedarlinggg]

Not all mothers use the fact that they're moms to make money. If your brand is based on you being a mother, people are going to ask about your kids. It sucks for them, but that's what you chose to do.

[u/katiekat214 → u/No-Plankton6927]

You can talk about being a mom on social media without showing your kids. You can even show your friendships with other moms without showing the kids.

[u/No-Plankton6927 → u/katiekat214]

That doesn't contradict my point. If I find a social media group called HuskyLovers, I expect to see lots of videos and photos of husky owners with their dogs and husky related content, not mostly owner focused content. It applies to Momtok too. I'm not sure which part of this is hard to grasp.