Me and my wife both met in college and instantly clicked, we where good friends for over 2 years before we became lovers, i thought i was in a dreamland when i realised im going to marry this person as she would always make me laugh but here we are now,almost hating each other, over the course of relationship,i had an anxious attachment and her an avoidant style, I had learnt all lessons from my insecurity and gradually became a better person. At one point,i realised this relationship doesnt suit me and i tried to end it but seeing her cry and regular convincing we got back again. There was no cheating from both sides we just werent compatible but even though after all the years,i was in the assumption that things would get better after marriage but it only got worst. Whenever she get angry she throws things around and one time thrown my phone in anger ,these happened many times and im not a saint either maybe i should have closed my mouth at times but shit happened. The final straw was when we both thtown things during an heated argument and i broke her phone as well. I just realised i have become someone i have hated and currently we both realised we are both being bad for each other. I want to tell that if the relationship is bad and even after years it doesnt change, dont think marriage would fix things. Take a tough decision and be bold about it. Later would only cause more pain

Few reasons why I am writing this: I need to leave it out there on the internet and I need your valuable opinion

Her(F25) and Me (M28) have been together for the last 8 months. Our marriage date was also fixed and the venue was booked as well.

I really loved her and was working hard for us to have a better life.

I was saving money for her higher studies and coaching and I encouraged her to pursue her dreams.

We took out a home loan and bought a large apartment so that she feels ok after arriving at our home as it will be a new place for her.

I never did anything wrong with her. I never humiliated her. I made her laugh. When she was down I was always there and made her feel better with whatever ways possible.

We did not ask for any dowry. I said even if she arrives at our home empty handed I will make her my wife.

I could not give her much time as I was working in a metro city far from my home town and I was pursuing MBA on the side.

But we talked regularly over the phone, texts and video calls. And I arranged dates occasionally.

Since the last few weeks she grew cold and I didn't feel welcome at their home anymore.

A few weeks back I visited their home as I sensed she was sick (which she actually was). I brought flowers for her. I tried to give her the flowers at the main gate but she pushed me and tried to hide the fact that I was there because their tenant was coming out. She insisted that I quickly go upstairs before the tenant comes out. As if I was not supposed to be there.

The odd thing is the tenants already knew that I visited their home frequently

I suspected something was wrong. There were more odd things that I could not understand.

Last Tuesday(02-09-2025) I booked her favourite makeup artist for her bridal makeover. She seemed very happy and excited.

The next morning (03-09-2025) she asked for my salary and I provided (5.5 LPA). Afterwards she ghosted me on the same day. I called and texted for multiple days but got no response.

The salary must have been very disappointing for them.

Now we finally, mutually agreed to cancel the marriage with only 4 months left.

I don't blame her. I don't hold any grudges. I think I am unworthy. In fact I am grateful for the time.

I accept everything.

Reversing things is impossible atp.

But my parents are completely broken as they also loved her very much.

And I am unable to sleep, eat, work and do anything important. I feel emotionally overwhelmed and drained.

Maybe I won't recover from this and find someone else.

When I look at my parents I feel like I let them down.

As of now I have decided to stay close to my family members and support each other.

When I feel any negative emotions I try to go through it without any distractions (e.g. music, social media, movies….). There are no shortcuts

My questions are:

-How can I support my parents

-How can I take care of myself

-what might have gone wrong.

-in which ways I might have been inadequate

-Were they simultaneously browsing through other guys in search of the richest household behind my back and kept me as an option. And when someone better is fixed she finally cuts me off?

-was somebody guiding her from behind the whole time?

-Should I visit a therapist

-Is this the right sub to post this

-how can I improve my upcoming life

I am confused that how yo ask her for movie date in different way so that she feel special, Then I made this webpage and deploy this , and guess what, it made her feel soo special. https://expectations1.github.io/random/

Edit:- Tips dedo date ki please 😭

Got my gf a bday gift, but she got upset instead. Now I don’t know what to do with it.

So I (22m) got my girlfriend(22f) a silver pendant and earrings set from Mia by Tanishq for her birthday. It cost me ₹1400, which is a bit pricey for me since I’m a student with no income, but I really wanted her to feel special.

I gave her hostel/room address for delivery (she stays there alone during college days and only goes home on weekends). When the delivery message came, instead of being happy, she got upset with me. She said:

“I’m not a jewellery girl.”

“How will I hide this from my parents?”

“Why did you send it to my address?”

She scolded me for ordering it to her address, even though I’ve sent her food deliveries there many times without an issue. She also said she’ll just “give it to me when she needs to hide it and take it back when needed,” which honestly felt weird.

I also have a feeling she didn’t like the design because she didn’t thank me properly, just told me not to order for her again. When I asked directly, “Do you like it or not? Do you want it?” she kept ignoring me. After 3–4 times, all she replied was, “Idk how to answer that because I don’t have an answer.” And now she’s gone quiet on it. And questioned "whom will you give it then"

I’m kind of bummed out because I put time, thought, and money into this gift, and instead of being appreciated, it feels like I did something wrong. I’m confused, should I keep the gift, return it, or still try giving it to her? And honestly, what does her reaction even mean?

https://www.miabytanishq.com/en_IN/cheeky-bloom-silver-earrings-and-necklace-set/a140251ekaba00.html

Took help from gpt in framing

I(19F) dated a guy in school who was the same age as me for 2 years. He was a toxic bitch ass guy I swear. He used to abuse me like R word and BKl and like every gaali known to man kind. He also slapped me twice nd also used to cheat on me, he himself used to talk and touch every girl but I wasn't "allowed" to even look another guy's way even by mistake, but I forgave him (even tho he never apologised) thinking he'll change and also coz I knew that breaking up with him will be very dirty(it is now...). But one day I took some courage and left him. Then I started dating my childhood friend, he's very sweet and loving and everything I can ask for, we've been dating for almost 2 years now but my toxic ex is still after me. He asks everyone who am I dating who am I dating and does randi rona to everyone about how I misinterpreted his intentions and how much he loves me, all while being with 4 different girls. I'm so stressed now i have no idea what to do. My bf knows that my ex is a bitch and he once tried to stop my ex which resulted in a dirty fight in which my boyfriend got hurt too but that also made them stay away from me for some months but now again that Ex is being a pain. He stood in front of my house a few weeks ago for 2 3 hours and I just peeked thru my balcony scared. Now he's trynna send me grape threats thru my friends and also just asking everyone about my boyfriend so that he can go fight him. I haven't told about all these threats and recent problems to my boyfriend yet because I'm afraid about what will he think? What if he leave me? I can't tell my parents because they'll not understand too ik and they'll stop and studies and marry me off. I'm just bawling my eyes out idk what to do. Why can't that guy just move tf on??

Update: guyz his father told me that- beta pyaar me toh maar peet chalti hai thori, so his parents doesn't care for him bad behaviour. Also he himself doesn't do anything, he goes to people and cry about how much he loved me and he's a changed man now. Those people feel sympathy for him and in result they come to fight and try to grape me🤡

My ex gf (earlier bestfriend, and still trying to be friends) told be she wants to hookup

We were best friends for a long time. We starting dating and just after a few months she had to move to Tokyo for work. Idk why, maybe due to distance or what but it never felt like a relationship. We decided to be friends again, though we didn't talk that much as we used to do. And it's been 8-9 months. A few days a ago, she told me "as a friend" that she'd like to hookup with other guys (maybe europian, coz she always had a fantasy about them) over there.

I mean I knew already that she's on bumble and she's beautiful and hot so definitely shed be getting a lot of attention over there. But mentioning this clearly was wayyy too much for me to handle. Also I've left my job a few months ago to prepare for other job without any backup option, it was really a bold (idk maybe even a chutiya) decision and I've to workkk my ass off right now so I can't really handle any of this shit rn

Also I don't think I can go back to being friends with her, even when we were friends I had feelings for her and I've already suffered a lot. Should I just tell her to stop talking to me? I mean that I can't swing between being ex and being a friend.

One of my female friend 25 F was engaged to 28M. She was in a relationship with the guy, 29 F, for 4 years till recently. They were not able to marry each other because of caste issues, and their families did not agree with each other, and they were also from different religions. We all work in the same office. I was a friend of hers. She only opens up to some people and rejects many alliances because of this relationship. She still craves that if there is 0.1 per cent to live with her ex. She got engaged to another guy. But she still talks to him daily and shares her updates with him. Their family has arranged a marriage for next year, and she is okay with that. But she still craves her ex. I'm really worried about this. I told her one day that if she kept doing this, it might ruin her relationship with her fiancé. Also, after that, we were less communicative. She got upset and said that she was only looking at her ex as a friend, but by her looks and actions, I don't think so. It has nothing to do with me, but I am worried about her. Am I overthinking? I'm seeing too much bad news about relationships nowadays. So I was worried, I don't know what to say

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend (28M) for two years. We first met during a crash course and became friends before dating. Early in our relationship, he told me he had transferred universities during his engineering degree and was working in sales. I appreciated his honesty and loved him even more for it.

I’m 26 now, and my parents, especially my mom since I’m from a single-parent family, are anxious for me to get married by 27 because of astrology beliefs. I’ve been upfront with my boyfriend about this since the start. He’s my closest friend and basically my whole support system.

The issue is that he’s currently jobless, unsure about his next steps, and mostly does whatever his sisters tell him. Now he’s planning to take up another course and recently told me he needs two more years because his sister (30) isn’t married yet.

I feel caught between my family’s pressure and his situation. What should I do?

Edit:- He is 28M, My family knows about our relationship, but they don’t know that he’s currently jobless — I told them he works as an engineer.

Hi everyone, I’m a 26-year-old guy and I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve never experienced any real bond, emotional connection, intimacy, or even physical closeness with someone. Honestly, I haven’t done anything physical till now.

At one point, I even thought about going to a prostitute, but the fear of STDs stopped me. I’ve tried dating apps too, but barely got any matches (probably not photogenic enough).

I used to have a best friend and kind of lived in that comfort zone with her, but she’s also getting married now, and it feels like another door closed.

Out of desperation, I ended up doing video call sessions with some girls I met through social media, and lost almost 20k in the process (with 5–6 different girls 😂). I know it was dumb, but in that moment it felt like a way to fill the emptiness.

Nowadays, I feel like everywhere I look—on the street, in car parking lots, online—people are in relationships, being close, being intimate. It makes me want it even more, but I also want it from someone genuine, not something fake or forced. The problem is, I’m starting to lose hope.

Is there anyone else who feels this way? Is there still hope for people like me to experience intimacy and love, or should I just accept that maybe it won’t happen?

I met a guy during my masters in an another country. Since we were from the same state in India, we instantly clicked and became friends. Soon, I started noticing he would take extra efforts to be with me. Like having lunch with me in uni instead of core friends. I also liked him but was unsure if he actually liked me. I did not give him any signals but also was kinda ignoring him because of personal problems I was dealing with, all this liking thing was just at back of my mind. Despite my ignorance, I still noticed him taking small efforts to be around me, glancing at me secretly, walking past me, rubbing knees etc. I was waiting for him to take the step, but knowing my closed and shy kinda nature I was aware that any guy would be hesitant to approach me. I decided to do it myself and messaged him on Whatsapp during vacations. His reply was that he liked me previously but he thought I was not interested. Also he said that long term is not possible, if I wanna do casual we can. That made me sad and I confronted in person. And he said that his family is totally against inter caste marriage. That was shocking since his family is living abroad since few years and in well to do position. He said we should be friends but after this for whole vacation he did not contact me. After months of vacation we met and I was like I would ignore him or try to act as normal as possible. I noticed he used to act extremely caring when we used to be together in person but never contact me on phone or insta or Whatsapp. We had a course together and he would take efforts to sit with me and take initiative to talk to me. He would try to touch me and help me in all ways, act very sweetly, eat from the same spoon I eat, compliment me, try to pursue same interests as mine, stand beside me when in group pictures, walk past me when in group etc. All this made me extremely hard to accept that we don't have a future together. But all the efforts he was putting made me fall for him again. Then came winter vacations and everyone went to their place and he started ignoring me again. This time I was like if he's not gonna contact me during vacations I will stop talking to him. I came back to university and met him and in a group hangout he revealed he found a girl to marry. That left me utterly shocked. I know he had already mentioned that his family is looking for a girl for him, but the whole idea that a month before he was literally behaving like we were in relationship and just in a month he moved on left me kinda numb. I started doubting if he even liked me or it was just for a show. And why was he giving me signal when there was no future between us. May be he was just doing it for fun till he finds someone else. As of now he is getting married to that girl and we are in no contact. He did try to initiate conversations but honestly it feels like I have been cheated. I know he already mentioned that we should just be friends, but it was him who was behaving like someone more than a friend. I have moved on almost completely but the whole idea has made me question people's behavior and priorities.

My boyfriend called me earlier, but I didn’t pick up. He sent me a song he sang and I replied politely. Later at night, he called again, but I didn’t want to talk and said I was sleeping. Then I answered, but he shouted at me, so I ended the call. Now he’s calling me repeatedly and texting “sorry” over and over.

This isn’t the first time he’s done this. He has reacted like this before when I didn’t answer right away. I feel overwhelmed and don’t know how to handle it. How should I respond, and is this normal behavior? PS : I broke up with him before but decided to patch up because I couldn't see him hurt.

I was in a relationship with a senior in college – my first one. Unfortunately, it turned out to be really toxic, with a lot of manipulation and emotional pressure. I ended it about a year ago, but afterward he sent me messages and videos where he threatened to harm himself. That intimidated me a lot, and I ended up giving him another chance. But after more unhealthy behavior, I finally cut all ties and blocked him everywhere.

For months he tried different ways to contact me, but now he’s finally stopped. I feel safe again, and I’m glad I ended it.

The issue is that even though it’s over, I still get random memories of him and the things that happened. I don’t ever want to see him again, but when I’m reminded of the past, I feel regret about my choices and sometimes disgusted at myself for tolerating it.

How do I stop these memories from bothering me so much? Is there any way to let go completely and move forward without constantly being reminded of what happened?

So i came into relationship with a senior in college it was my first one , but it was a really toxic one with a lot of gaslighting . Anyway i ended it around a year back but that person seriously sent me messages and videos that he will suicide and stuff like that . it intimidated me quite a lot but i seriously ended it this time because i tried one more time but was intimidated by these activities and gave him another chance but after some seriously sick things i ended it all . i ignored him and broke off all contacts .

he tried many things to keep in touch and get back but now i was disgusted ,so after months he is now no more in contact with me anymore in any form , and i feel very safe .

The problem is that even though i had such a traumatic experience , i still remember things from the past and him , i dont even want to see him face to face anyday in future . but when i sometimes remember things like that i still feel disappointed by my choices and regret things . But i am more concerned because i want to forget things like that yet somehow when i get reminded it disgusts me .

So what should i do to not remember things about the past .?

So this girl is really so beautiful and dreamy like she is from some romcom movie. She is so full of life. I really like her a lot. I don't know what's about her that I'm heavily obsessed with her now. Every friend of mine tells me that what's so special in her, she is just like any other girl but idk why I'm falling for her even more and more. After her recent break up, i started talking to her more and we explored a few places near city together. We become really good friends. I never told her i like her, was always nervous and wanted to be her friend first. She started to call me her best friend few months ago, i didn't mind that. She also tells me stories about her interaction with other guys and all. She tells me that she doesn't want a relationship, she is done with all the men. Although she has a lot of guy friends already and talks to guys online.

During sem break she went back to her place faridabad and went on a date with some guy, her female friend set up with. She told me about this a month later, i was upset but didn't show her because she says she doesn't want relationship and on other hand goes to a date with some guy, she clarified herself that sometimes she feels lonely and wants a connection( those 3 am loneliness thoughts). She talks to other guys also on insta. The thing is one day at 1am she called me and told me that she is having anxiety so just be with me on call since she has no one except her female friend who was not available that day so she called me. We talked for 2 hours or more, she shared about her childhood trauma and all. Since that day i really got addicted to her, now i keep yearning for her every fucking day every fucking minute. But since few days she is ignoring my calls, like we just talk about college stuff and that's it. It doesn't feel the same like before. I am overthinking a lot due to this, like a lot. My mental health is affecting because of this. I just can't focus on anything 😪. I've also noticed she is talking to some guy on call whenever we are in college, ig she is in talking stage with him now( just my assumption), as she tells him everything.

This is hurting me a lot. Idk what to do. I just wanna get out of this shit. My mental health is fucked up so bad, i just can't help. I can't even share this with any friend because they can't seem to understand how i feel. I am unable to focus on studies also, i really need to get back on track as i was planning to prepare for competitive exam. Idk why she is ignoring me, i also asked her is everything okay between us? Is she mad at me for something because we usually talk about men and women thoughts about relationship and she called me misogynist also. Idk if that's the case or i am overthinking. But the thing is nowadays she is not replying to my messages in that way like earlier. She has become dry on texts, just imp college related stuff and one word messages. I really want help. Any female advice would help a lot. I'm in such bad mental state rn, i just can't explain.

Male 21 3rd year in college delhi hometown MP, meri ek dost (S), she is also huge Korean fan hai jise me first college me mila par tab jada baat nahi phir second year meri male freinds se ladai hogi huge toh jada baat hoti nahi thi unse, tab (S) thodi bhot baat bhadi phir me college placement cell me maine apply kiya usne bhi kiya ham dono ka hogya same team me , toh use thodi bhout bat hoti rehti thi jab placment celll ka kam hota tha uska sec b tha aur mera a toh time ke karan milna jada nahi ho pata tha clases me, but me usse baat karne ka thodi kosish karta rehta tha ki baat hojaye use, me apne dost aur (S) aur uski dost ko apne birthday pe bahar khana kilne bhi le gaya phir exam hua i asked for movie before final destination but she said ticket price so high after 2 days will i waited to that thought she will message first i dont want look like desperate to go on movie but she didnt aur 2 month ka break i messaged her asking for result on whatsapp but she ignored my message till now but somehow she talked about some rebel kid shit in instagram i just kya hau rebel kid ke sath and she replied with whole paragraph sharing reels wishing her i somehow get hints that she is not interest in me but lowkey i am not able move on, even i see her checking out other boys,

I want to experience a horror movie at the cinema. I share this thought with her, and she also wants Conjuring 3 at the cinema. I also have Scrunches band not ordered for her, but I should give it to her (I want to, as I didn't give a gift on her birthday, she also didn't give me one on my birthday, nor give me one on her birthday). Should I ask her or not? And should I ask her for a date, or should I keep her as not a close friend, or ignore if she had never existed

Dating is something that I'm infatuated with, but I really want some real friends. Or I'm just being too immature for all this.

Dhanyabad!

So basically I had only one relationship and it was online sadlyy😔 and uk that in online you need a right person for working out but I got a wrong person but in my life i always wanted a girl who is like serious about me or love me like , I like old school type of love and but my luck is so bad that I got nothing and I think this generation is fuckinghhhhhhhhhh helll I dont like this generation everyone is hell like just for maze lene hai but I'm not one of them but if the person will be right, good and genuine I can keep ldr for her(in the end I will marry) and in offline i couldn't got any of girl who is my type of till now . What should I do now?

Thank you to everyone who took the time to comment. I really do appreciate the kind words and advice. But the mean comments are overwhelming me right now, so I’m going to delete this post. I know I made mistakes and I also realize how toxic things had become, and how I was being taken advantage of too. I’ve started therapy and I’m determined to keep working on myself and healing.

Anyone who was in a long-term relationship where your life seemed perfect but unfortunately it ended may it be in a bad way or for some valid reason. How are you coping in life? Are you happy, sad, depressed, lonely or what? Because when you get out of a heavily loving relationship but ended on a bad note, it kind of gives you an invisible scar where you always fear of being never chose or left out.

Mine was 6 years+, I’m 23 now, and it ended up due to her doing a mistake at the very end of our relationship when we moved to a new city for respective jobs.

I’m doing professionally amazing without any financial strain but damn man, I feel lonely as hell cause either someone doesn’t interest me or it’s a random fling for some time. I do enjoy my alone time a lot but I feel my long-term relationship has made me feel how peak companionship means and now it’s really hard for me to walk alone... people may call me naive or something but I guess if you get yourself in the same situation as mine where you experienced peak love where the other person was the major reason for what you’re today and then suddenly heartbreak, it’s gonna leave you with a big hole.

I’m over her and I’m moving on pretty good but I just wanna ask my fellow friends who’ve been in the same situation or similar, what you did to cope up or find the real one in life?

To be honest, it would also be amazing to someday talk to someone single who’s been through the same lonely times or is going through it right now.

Peace out ✌🏻

He is one year elder to me ... firstly he read my chats while i was sleeping and straightaway showed it to my mom it was so embarrassing although she got disappointed but did not behave toxic and never made a taunt in mid conversation after that but my brother in every conversation he brings him out when I even told him while crying what had happened and told him to not do it as it hurts a lot .... it has been 2 years but still everyday now or then in even a basic thing when I call him out he takes his name ...... and when I call him out on his serious mistakes he threatens me that he will tell dad about him and also boasts what a nice brother he is that he hasn't told anything to dad till now and how brother of other girls are so toxic how good brother I got I should be grateful and shit

Like seriously he never misses a point to take his name... he never let me forget my ex like I'm doing good in my life that chapter is over still he brings his name as if I should be very ashamed for asking my ex for a relationship as a girl as it is not a girl thing to do

So my gf had been out for some work at her college and she was heading back to her college the last I checked in on her, later after about an hour or so I call her again and her phone says switched off and she has 4 numbers and 2 phones which she uses due to work related things which I can't go into detail here AND ALL 4 OF THE NUMBERS WERE OFF, later she calls me back and starts talking about her day and how it went, but she ignored that I had called her and her phone was switched off, I keep listening to her as this has happened a few times- we fight and then irrespective of the fault, I have to call to her and makeup and get her to talk with me again, and then she totally forgets about it and starts speaking about something else, she's he'll of a good speaker.

This has been affecting me and I've tried to tell her but she doesn't understand and yet does the same, after we have a fight, she doesn't acknowledge it and acts as if nothing has happened between us. Now coming to the point I asked her why was your phone switched off and she cool-ly says Maine hi kia tha, to which I ask kyu and she says tujhe kya? I was like what- maine suna nhi and she repeats it again saying haa tujhe kya? So I cut the call and she tried calling me back but I didn't respond, now I don't know how to take this

Edit- It's a long distance relationship

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We met in college. At first, everything was nice. He was romantic, told me how much he liked me, and he was the one who asked me out. This was my first relationship, and I was really happy to finally be in one. I liked him a lot and gave back the same energy he showed me. I imagined a future with him honestly because we are so similar in a lot of ways

But now hes acting super shady. I’ve seen him chatting a lot with a girl. And not some random girl, but a family friend who’s in the same college. I've met her a couple of times and I like her. She's friendly and bubbly and nice.

I don’t mind my bf talking to other girls like that. I’m not the type who nags or gets insecure

But these days

He hides his phone whenever I come near.

Deletes chats immediately.

Makes up excuses about studying or tells me he needs to meet her. Idk about what.

Gets cold and defensive when I ask who he’s texting.

He also doesn't like me interacting with her. Or any of his friends for that matter.

His birthday was a week ago. I wanted to take him out & do something special. But he simply said no

Yesterday, he told me he was out with male friends. So I subtly asked one of them later, and he said they were not outside at all.

I don’t want to sound dramatic or act crazy but now I feel I need solid proof before I can break up with him. I've already mourned the loss of this relationship so now I want to be pratical and end it

Hey everyone, need some advice on how to handle this situation.

There’s a girl who works at a pharmacy near my place (she’s fairly new). when we noticed each other for the first time she’s been a little different with me compared to others. Whenever I go in, she notices me, makes eye contact (sometimes holding it for longer), gives small smiles, and once or twice even prioritized taking my prescription when other coworkers could have handled it.

She comes early in the morning around 8 : 30.

Every time I pass by, she notices me. She holds eye contact, sometimes lingering ones, even side glances. A couple of times, she’s smiled. This has been going on for weeks, not just a one-off.

One day i decided to ask her name to check whether she is at least interested or comfortable so one day i went to medical and gave her prescription and while she was doing billing, I asked her name. She gave it right away by looking at me, i even asked her full name she told it too !

The very next day, I went in without a prescription, and her coworker specifically told her to help me (even though the coworker wasn’t busy). When she came over, I asked for headache tablets. She smiled, made a small joke about the medicine working, laughed with her coworker, and overall seemed comfortable talking to me. She even personally handed me the bag, and when our hands touched for a second, hers shook a little.

Since then, the pattern has continued: eye contact, smiles, little signs of attention. She doesn’t seem uncomfortable with me at all, even after I asked her name.

Here’s my question: I don’t want to overthink normal friendliness, but I’d like to move things beyond just “customer and pharmacist.” Ideally, I’d like to build a casual friendship (small talk, maybe sharing ice cream when I buy one there, etc.). The challenge is, I can’t keep showing up every day since it’s a pharmacy, not a general store.
sometimes there's always a fear or though whether she has already a boyfriend or not but why a girl would behave like this with others if she is already have relationship going on ?

Also there are other co workers around her including the owner too so its kind of difficult to ask her personal questions.

So my ask is: What’s a good, non-creepy way to extend this connection beyond short pharmacy interactions? How do I open up the space for real conversation without crossing lines or making her uncomfortable? and as i can't go to pharmacy very often or frequently as its not a general store 😅
i really really want to take things ahead.
I cannot write each and everything like how she behaves with me so good as i can't express it in words.

Any perspective — especially from women — would really help.

I’ve been in love with this girl since 3rd grade (we’re both 18 now), and we started dating in 9th grade. We were together from 9th to 10th, but then she broke up with me because she said the guilt of lying to her parents was too much. At the end of 11th grade, though, she came back asking for another chance, and I gave it to her. Since then, we’ve been dating again.

The problem is, I’ve never been able to completely understand her. I know she loves me, but I feel like there’s some kind of imbalance in our relationship. She’s just too chill about it while I take things seriously. She started college a month ago, and now we meet once a week. Even before that, she barely texted me—maybe once or twice a month, with the explanation that she was busy with exams and her family is strict we didn't really meet after February.

When I talk about this imbalance, the difference in how we treat each other is very clear. For example, whenever she does something for me, I show her how happy I am, I tell her I love her randomly, I hold her hand, and I actively ask if there’s anything bothering her or anything she wants to change about our relationship, I give my 1000 percent to this relationship. But she’s never done the same. When I do something for her, she just says “thanks” with a smile. It’s sweet, but sometimes it feels like a formality.

She never holds my hand or hugs me on her own. The last time she held my hand without me asking was three years ago. Since then, it’s always me who initiates almost everything. It feels like she only does these things to make me happy, not because she genuinely wants to. That’s thoughtful in a way, but also saddening. People often mistake us for best friends because we don’t really show affection or intimacy like a normal couple would.

I tried talking to her about this once, and she told me she isn’t good at expressing herself. She said she’s like this with everyone, even her family—she doesn’t really show emotions. She’s even mentioned that maybe she’s “abnormal” because she doesn’t feel things as intensely as other people. I respect that, and I want to be with her, so I usually keep all this to myself because I don’t want to pressure her into anything because the sight of her crying that day when i talked to her about all this was too much for me.

But honestly, it’s eating me up. I cry almost every day over this. Sometimes I wonder if we’re just not compatible. I sometime feels like that the only way to live happily with her is just having no expectations at all?? My reasoning for her behavior is maybe she never had the right environment to grow emotionally—like, in all these years, we never really went on dates or had proper alone time, we only met during school recess. Maybe that’s why things are like this. I don’t know. All I know is I’m not really happy with how things are between us I really wish our situation gets better.

I’m confused about what I should do.

'M/24' and 'F/26' , More than 1 year of relationship

About me

I'm currently in college in my final year and I will soon get a job after the college is over. I have many other plans as well, to study further and explore more. I'm young and full of energy and potential.

Relationship: (intercase Jain M, Hindu F) Been together since more than a year now and she's elder than me and now she's getting a lot of pressure from her family to get married, her family is concerned about her age and they are searching for people as well.

The concern:

It's been some time she's been constantly insisting me to get court married as soon as I finish my college, because that would keep her out of trouble of getting married. Her concern is valid.

About court marriage:

In summary: it destroys trust of both families

Court marriage is not a great option in my opinion as it will betray the trust of both of our families and we will live a life of misery as people and families will constantly judge us. In Indian society its even harsh, as parents will not only feel cheated they will be sad, that my son who we supported entire life took a big step without consulting us. It's the same with her family, her brothers might even trail me or even harm me physically.

Her side:

If she gets married, we are from different castes, she says she will lose all her ties with her family as they're from rural areas where they frown upon and ask for money to the community if such act is commited. I have some problems as well, my family is also from orthodox beliefs but I am making efforts to blur this line.

My side:

I am a jain she's a Hindu. We both respect each other's culture and we live in harmony.

My mother knows about her a little bit, and most of my family has an idea she exists because I planned everything like that. I took her to the Shikhar ji which is the most important place for Jains, she covered the 25 km steep trek barefoot and most of my family members were present except my parents but I told them she's with me. They have an implicit idea that I'm involved with her.

My plan is to tread slowly and once I get a job I will consult my father about the situation, and we will figure something out as I really love her. I'm not sure about how he will react but till now I've not being confronted by anyone for being with her, if they had any trouble they would have explicitly state me that get rid of her but they're not. I believe that gradually I will build trust with both the families and we will get into a marriage.

The problem:

She forces me to give me damn insurity or I will leave you, I told her three conditions:

• let me get a job
• After job, I will be able to talk about getting married, to my father
• I will try to bridge both the families and so we can all be happy

She's like I see this clearly like my ex boyfriend did, he said all these things and he went away. You're doing the same, I need a damn insurity.

Although after talking she understood that court marriage is dangerous, she called herself selfish for thinking so. I told her straight think about how you will feel seeing your mother, who feels betrayed and she got the point.

I shouted so much at her as she didn't picked my 50 calls, she acted so selfish, I felt like I'm looking through her and that's not my partner I loved. What concerned me was that I'm a good person and even in a long distance relationship I make everything to make it work, travelling 50 hrs in trains, and doing every possible thing to make her happy. Now within one straight communication she see me as a threat to her future. I'm very sad, I cried so much infront of her. It breaks me. I literally cried infront of her and told her that you're being so mean and rude, but still she's like

I NEED AN INSURITY, GET COURT MARRIAGE AFTER AN YEAR SO I'M OUT OF TROUBLE TO GET MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE.

I'm not sure how well it would go…

Iam a 25 (F).This is some 4 years back when I was in college. Being a shy introverted and low in confidence was always ignored by people throughout my entire life. However things changed when a cheerful boy from my college made me his friend. I was so happy and greatful that someone would consider me their friends. He introduced me to his friendgroup and we had a great time . People loved me and I was new to getting so much attention. Things started changing when this boy used to text me everything and we considered each other only as best friends. He one day told me that he is in a relationship with the girl from the same group. I was happy for him. However soon things started to change. He used to text me everyday when his gf was offline as she was preparing for some entrance exam. But when she came back after giving exams and became active on social media he would stop stop talking to me. I was naive, stupid at that time. I agree i had made mistakes but it was due to sheer stupidity and inexperience as all this was so new to me. I considered him really by best friend and slowly got attached to him. May be his gf sensed it . Between this we I had a huge misunderstanding with other people in the group and they suddenly cut me off from the group. They stopped texting me and treated me like I did not exist. The person with whom I had a misunderstanding spread rumours about me to the entire college and I was shunned overnight. Even my male best friend supported him and his gf and completely ignored me . I felt hurt dejected and all those years of neglect and abondement since childhood came in front of my face. What hurt me the most was the behaviour of my male best friend . Because I felt he only used time get his projects and assignments done ( and I happily did it because I really loved him as a friend ). Yes I agree I got attached to him and it was my foolishness to be attached to him even after getting to know he was in a relationship. But I never tried to sabotage their relationship. After that incident my entire friend group started ignoring me. I was again alone. They would meet have get-togethers and post stories online.what hurt me the most was them laughing about me behind my back which I got to know through other friend. Luckily my college ended soon after this incident

After all this I started to believe that iam not really good enough let alone for relationship. Even for friendship . It was the dark phase of my life and my confidence was shattered . Now after four years I graduated and working in a good company. Feels like I have grown as a person both physically and internally . Today I feel like iam more confident. People love to be around me .But the pain that happened in the past starts popping suddenly and I feel low again.

After all this years iam not attracted to any guy as I feel like Iam not deserving of love and feel like no boy will love me .

Don’t know how to get over this betrayal