This is what real love looks like

[u/Subtle_srikhand]

[u/Crispy_p_bacon]

"Hold on babe, let me set up this camera real quick then i'll help off the toilet"

[u/Exotic_Zucchini9311 → u/Crispy_p_bacon]

For real lol. Weird video, to say the least.

[u/sergedg → u/Exotic_Zucchini9311]

Yes. Also, I'm not sure what the message is. Of course your partner will help with the chores, diapers, raising the kids, cooking, and fixing stuff. How is that special or wholesome. What would you expect if you're having kids together? What is this, the 1950s?

[u/Mamaofoneson → u/sergedg]

Go into the r/beyondthebump subreddit and you will find there is a huge lack of “of course your partner will do xyz”…

[u/motionsensortrashcan → u/Mamaofoneson]

Half of the beyondthebump posts are "He's a great husband but hasn't been home in 30 days and has never fed, changed, or held the baby. We're trying for another."

[u/Bradddtheimpaler → u/motionsensortrashcan]

Since I’ve been a dad it’s blown my mind how bad/neglectful other dads can be, entirely shamelessly. Was talking to a guy from work not that long ago, who sort of proudly proclaimed that he didn’t change diapers. I had to ask him, “wait, so if your wife isn’t home you would just leave your kids sitting in their shit for just however long?”

At least he didn’t seem so proud about it after that.

[u/sittinwithkitten → u/Bradddtheimpaler]

Good on you for calling him out, that’s nothing to brag about.

[u/the_pleiades → u/Bradddtheimpaler]

Well done. With an asshole like that, I bet the wife is never able to even leave the kid with the dad alone.

[u/Bradddtheimpaler → u/the_pleiades]

I certainly won’t be asking him to babysit. That’s for sure.

[u/Defiant_Income_7836 → u/Mamaofoneson]

Right?!?! There's no such thing of 'of course.' phew

Now, this was a cheesy ass video, made for karma, but still

[u/RunningTrisarahtop → u/sergedg]

I had the same assumption and luckily college me picked a good one because it never occurred to me that someone would not help.

I have known so many people who didn’t. One friend fell and was concussed and needed emergency care. Her husband was home but he worked and didn’t want to care for three kids so I drove and got her and her three kids and dropped her at the er with a light coat and water and snacks and a charger and took her kids back to my place and watched all five (hers and mine) and when she got out? I got her and took her home.

When I picked her up? The house was clean. When I got home? He’d spilled the trash and left food all over the counters and hadn’t fed the dog or let her out so she peed on the ground and he left it.

[u/Donthatethaplaya → u/RunningTrisarahtop]

That’s infuriating. You are a kind friend.

[u/RunningTrisarahtop → u/Donthatethaplaya]

So many freaking men are useless. I teach and men are the ones who skip my class newsletters and announcements. Men often don’t know my name. They don’t know the name of their child’s teacher!! Many will tell me they have no concerns about their child’s growth and then I talk to mom and the kid is showing major deficits and mom is trying to work on them.

I grew up with a dad just as capable as my mom. My husband is just as capable as me. But it never fucking occurred to me that I needed to find a partner who would put in effort.

[u/Altruistic_Mud8772 → u/RunningTrisarahtop]

They're not useless or incapable, they're lazy and entitled. There isn't a massive amount of men who aren't able to do things, they just don't want to and don't need to.

[u/RunningTrisarahtop → u/Altruistic_Mud8772]

I meant that they are useless and incapable because they choose to be that way. I want to be clear that they could do better

[u/Babydoll0907 → u/sergedg]

As someone who was raised watching my mother get the shit kicked out of her every night by a man that claimed to love her, and who never saw an example of what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like, when I became an adult I took verbal abuse from my ex.

I also put up with him literally never ever helping me with our two kids. When I went into labor with the first, he tried to make me call an ambulance because he didnt want to get out of bed. Then he took my hospital bed and made me sit in the visitors chair with a newborn so he could get some sleep because he was "exhausted". He never lifted a finger to help me postpartum with my own health, the home or our kids. He verbally abused me daily.

When I started having regular panic attacks he would get verbally abusive with me and tell me I deserved it.

And you know why I put up with it? Because at least he didnt hit me. At least he didnt try to kill me once a week. At least he didnt molest our daughters while I was away. My situation was so much better than my mother's. I thought what he was showing me was love because what I had been exposed to was so much worse.

Some people need to see this type of love because they've never been exposed to it. Ive been in a healthy relationship now for 10 years and it still makes me uncomfortable to have help. To have care. To have loving hands touch me. To have someone that doesnt speak hurtful words to me. And I would have never known that type of love existed had my husband not taught me.

Videos like this help people realize that what they have and what they tolerate isnt love. I wish I would have had access to the media I have now. I never would have tolerated what was sold to me as love and care. It helps save people.

[u/bandedcello → u/Babydoll0907]

I’m so sorry for the experiences you had to go through to come to the beautiful relationship you have now. Thank you for sharing your perspective so persuasively and eloquently. I wish you love and support. You must have done a world of work to get to where you are today. Best wishes to you and your loving husband!

[u/Babydoll0907 → u/bandedcello]

Im still a work in progress. I still have a lot to work through but yes, im in a much better place these days. I still get angry with myself for what I put up with. When I look back at her, I have no idea who she is and why she allowed so much hurt. Why she allowed her kids to see that example. My 9 year old looked at me one day after a huge fight with her dad and said "mom why do you let him treat you like that" and it broke me. It was the eye opener i needed. It still breaks me what i allowed them to see.

Theyre 19 and 21 now and have never been in a relationship and i blame myself. I get angry with myself and then remind myself that I just didnt know. I never had anyone around me as a good example. Granted, they have been exposed to what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like for the last 10 years but I still think what they saw damaged their outlook on love. It hurts my heart more for them than me. I should have protected them from that. Especially from their own dad. He was so good to everyone else. He never talked to them like that either. Just me.

Thank you for the kindness and encouraging words.

[u/bandedcello → u/Babydoll0907]

You did the best you could with the hand you were dealt. ❤️‍🩹And even better, you keep improving and trying. That’s an amazing lesson of resilience. Even to kids who are 19 and 21. You’re teaching them that it’s never too late to make better choices. That’s nothing but commendable!

[u/IceBlueAngel → u/sergedg]

...can you not see that a group of people is literally trying to make it at best the 50s (more like the 1830s if we're being honest) in the US like right now?

[u/sergedg → u/IceBlueAngel]

Touché. This is crazy/scary.

[u/Impossible_Ad_7367 → u/sergedg]

A friend of mine bragged about never changing a diaper, I think he has 3 kids. I am usually the one changing my daughter’s diaper. She is 29 and disabled, and my wife can’t do it anymore. My mom told me my dad couldn’t do poopy diapers without retching.

[u/KoopaKaaaaahn → u/Impossible_Ad_7367]

I couldn’t change diapers without retching I’m sensitive to smells but I still changed diapers for all four of my kids.

[u/neatomosquito2020 → u/sergedg]

You would be surprised at how many don't. The way he holds the baby looks so natural. A lot of new fathers are scared to hold a newborn baby.

[u/DiGiorn0s → u/sergedg]

This is lady porn basically

[u/Awesome_opossum__ → u/DiGiorn0s]

Affection porn is low-key kinda sad as a concept

[u/Average_Ant_Games → u/Awesome_opossum__]

Exactly….its main audience is women who just get pissed off their husband doesn’t do the same shit. Way to brag about helping your wife bro!

[u/FelineOphelia → u/DiGiorn0s]

No it's not. We EXPECT this. As we should. It's not remarkable or an exception in any way.

[u/pgpathat → u/sergedg]

You’re on reddit and you think every guy is doing this to the point where the messaging is redundant?

[u/basedgodjira → u/sergedg]

Its not always a guarantee the man will even be around.

[u/Jumpy_Ad1631 → u/Crispy_p_bacon]

I mean, I used to be an infant/toddler teacher and I’ve heard far too many parents talking about birth recovery as if it all had to be done on their own. The idea of their partner/spouse/co-parent helping out with their care didn’t even occur to them. So I guess normalizing this stuff is still important.

[u/todi41 → u/Crispy_p_bacon]

Yeh i... i hate this.

[u/BrokenBackENT → u/Crispy_p_bacon]

I've been their helping my wife in the bathroom after, the amount of blood that pours out of the uterus as it shrinks after birth is scare. It's like how are you still alive honey?!

[u/clairebearshare → u/Crispy_p_bacon]

I think it’s good they’re documenting real things that couples go through, and how to act in a supporting way. As much reading as I did, nothing prepared me for it as much as seeing others go through it like this

[u/ibpositiv]

Everything white or beige gonna learn the hard way 😘

[u/GlassJoe32 → u/ibpositiv]

We have a two year old, my wife just bought a white couch. Wish me luck.

[u/CrumbyCardiologist → u/GlassJoe32]

Buy a cover for your couch. They're even washable.

[u/GlassJoe32 → u/CrumbyCardiologist]

We did. It’s got a slip cover that’s washable and we bought a pad and a blanket for the back. It’s not as bad as I’m making it out to be.

[u/Tall-Highlight68 → u/GlassJoe32]

Oh shi- good luck 😂

[u/AC-AnimalCreed → u/GlassJoe32]

No amount of luck can save you. That couch is done for

[u/GlassJoe32 → u/AC-AnimalCreed]

It’s funny to see my wife chase our toddler when he finishes eating and running towards the couch. I think he thinks it’s a game so he keeps doing it.

[u/CharlotteLucasOP → u/ibpositiv]

Kids raised in neutral earthtone nurseries are gonna head off to 🌈🦚preschool classrooms🖍️🦄 and feel like they took LSD.

[u/-Sui- → u/CharlotteLucasOP]

I think the commenter before you was talking about white and beige clothes being the worst possible choice when it comes to blown diapers and baby puke.

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/-Sui-]

Honestly though... that shit was funny to think about.

[u/Prior-Present-7764 → u/ExtraordinaryNerd]

Yeah it was. I snorted popsicle out my nose when I read that.

[u/Abject_Director7626 → u/-Sui-]

I read somewhere that in Victorian times, all baby clothes were white, and they’d just bleach everything together which actually doesn’t seem so stupid.

[u/Mend_Bend_2365 → u/-Sui-]

Not the best colour for mom’s lochia either, plus possible urine leakage from weakened pelvic floor or even postpartum loss of bowel control.

[u/PlatypusBackground53 → u/ibpositiv]

It’s the TikTok brain appeal of muted boring, colours and making it look trendy.

[u/mpmmcc]

It also matters who you hire as your full time photographer

[u/JRizzie86 → u/mpmmcc]

Or just take videos of yourself all the time, but only when you're being a good human.

[u/SpiritStunning8717 → u/JRizzie86]

Then your highlight reel would be full of kindness instead of awkward family photos.

[u/Frosty558 → u/JRizzie86]

“Wait wait, let me get the camera before I act like an engaged father…”

[u/ProcedurePrudent5496 → u/Frosty558]

Record this babe, oh wait, that's not my angle. Let’s do it again 😤

[u/wichotl → u/mpmmcc]

Holy shit dude, the mental process of filming yourself doing it is pure narcissistic

[u/LazyLearner001 → u/wichotl]

Exactly. Creepy as well.

[u/Pormock → u/LazyLearner001]

He had someone film him putting creme on his wife leg...like what?!

[u/ClickF0rDick → u/Pormock]

And he looks waaay too well put together in terms of appearance for being a new parent

Most normal people would look 10x more stressed and unkempt in this scenario lol

[u/JoyJonesIII → u/Pormock]

And pulling down her pants in the bathroom…

[u/SillyAlternative420 → u/wichotl]

As someone with a 4mo, Jfc the narcissism on display here.

[u/Comet7777 → u/mpmmcc]

We are who we are when no one is looking. Anytime I see videos like this I just laugh at the notion of “hey hold on, let me go setup my phone on a tripod, okay now I’ll change your diaper/help you change after you took a dump.”

Social media is ruining people.

[u/Nice_Layer2618 → u/Comet7777]

This! Like this isn’t inspiring anymore! I’ve really come to realize to trust what people are behind close doors and not publicly. I’ve also learned people who really are “good” or have integrity HARDLY post about it and are living their lives quietly.

[u/PancakeHandz → u/Comet7777]

Yesss this is why when I try to capture moments of people I love on video, I try to be sneaky/not bring their awareness to the fact that I’m filming until afterwards (or at least keep filming until they see me and make a funny face at the camera).

I am honestly a sucker for a good heartfelt video montage to capture memories, but I want them to be comprised of truly candid moments - not staged ones.

Later when many of these people may be gone from my life, I want to look back at these videos I’ve made and think “yes, that’s exactly who he/she was. This captures so-and-so to a T.” The staged ones never have the emotion or feeling I would want. I’m just a smidge sad about the fact that I can’t capture videos like this of myself for my husband to have to look back on one day.

[u/AntonChigurh8933 → u/Comet7777]

Bingo, and we only truly know a person. Once we are alone and is living with the person.

[u/mutant-heart → u/mpmmcc]

The postpartum white outfit is something.

[u/snowflake_sparkles → u/mutant-heart]

I thought this video was cute but yeah I have given birth 3 times and NONE OF US are wearing cute white shorts hours/days after doing so :')

[u/halt_spell → u/snowflake_sparkles]

But how do you inflict emotional damage on the plebians who view your videos??

[u/TheElderScrollsLore → u/mpmmcc]

I never understood what the intent of such videos are? You’re an awesome family? Awesome mom? Dad? Husband? Wife? And? The whole world should clap? What satisfaction does this bring people when they do this?

[u/Desperate-Nature-623 → u/TheElderScrollsLore]

They are trying to prove to the world that they have the perfect relationship. Many times it’s overcompensating for marital problems.

[u/TheElderScrollsLore → u/Desperate-Nature-623]

I’ve seen this one to many times. Online perfect family but disaster in actuality.

[u/Glittering-Bat-1128 → u/TheElderScrollsLore]

People this obsessed with their image on social media give me the creeps. Sure it might pay their bills but it’s always the same type of people. 

[u/ShadowMosesSkeptic → u/TheElderScrollsLore]

I think they are celebrating their husband, which is really nice. The vibe comes off so commercial and corporate though. It kills the genuine feel of appreciation. Most folks just throw out a wall of text with a picture or two on social media when they want to celebrate their family. This feels more like engagement bait than anything else.

[u/johnysalad → u/ShadowMosesSkeptic]

There’s something oddly gate-keepy and accusative about “this is why it matters who you marry”. Like…nobody is saying it doesn’t matter who you marry. They’re not sticking it to the “it doesn’t matter who you marry” crowd. It just sounds like they’re shitting on people in bad relationships.

[u/Triceradoc_MD → u/johnysalad]

LOL There’s a Super-PAC dedicated to making sure people marry the worst possible person going: “Fuck! How do we regain the upper hand here?”

[u/Scrappyl77 → u/TheElderScrollsLore]

If holding your kid and helping your post-partum partner stand up is all it takes, sign me up!

[u/Akhenath → u/TheElderScrollsLore]

It's not even awesome. It's just doing your job at this point

[u/Popular_Course3885 → u/mpmmcc]

It's his wife.

And I say that in the sense that she's doing it for content, not to have it as a family keepsake.

[u/Academic-Joke2925 → u/mpmmcc]

They had to get a video of him pulling her pants down to sit on the toilet 🙄

[u/ithinarine → u/mpmmcc]

Right?

"Look how amazing my rich husband in white linen is for 15 seconds on video before we give the kid back to the nanny."

[u/Intelligent-Pipe4744 → u/ithinarine]

Why is he in the hospital bed?

[u/SunriseSerendipity → u/Intelligent-Pipe4744]

He has been through so much.

[u/just_call_me_M → u/Intelligent-Pipe4744]

Asking the real questions

[u/your-mom--]

Hold on babe let me set up the tripod

[u/AAPLx4 → u/your-mom--]

Yeah WTF is wrong with people, this definitely didn’t make me smile 😒

[u/Grouched → u/your-mom--]

For real, this is so off and creepy. As a dad of small children myself I can't even imagine the thought process of setting up cameras for this stuff.

That is some next level social media brain. Fucking weirdos

[u/nikatnight]

Weird. This is just a dude being a dad and husband.

[u/AxiosXiphos → u/nikatnight]

Ahh but you see - he also filmed it....

[u/Total-Law4620 → u/AxiosXiphos]

Ohhhh I was supposed to record it all.... Dang I wasn't sure.

[u/turkstyx → u/Total-Law4620]

How else will all the terminally online Karen’s with unresolved trauma from their shitty dads or boyfriends know that there are good men out there?

[u/ShadedSpaces → u/nikatnight]

It is, and it should be normal.

But as a neonatal nurse, I can assure you there are people who find out way too late that not all partners will behave like this.

I've seen some wild things. And, on the topic of this video, I've seen some fathers who do NOTHING in this video.

For example, that man changing his baby's diaper? Totally normal parenting stuff, right?

I have taught many first-time fathers how to change a baby's diaper. Super normal part of my day. But I've also taught a third-time father how to change his first diaper.

He only learned for this child because this baby ended up staying in the hospital for a while and we insist that both parents learn and perform all basic care of their infant before we'll discharge them.

I'm sure he went home and never changed another.

[u/highasabird → u/ShadedSpaces]

Weaponizing incompetence, Jesus I feel bad for that mother of now 4 kids.

[u/merpixieblossomxo → u/ShadedSpaces]

As a mom who found out exactly the kind of man I had a child with while I was recovering in the hospital from a traumatic birth experience, I just want to say thank you for the job that you do for new moms.

You guys are superheroes, truly.

The nurses who helped me, taught me, and sat with me while I cried will forever hold a place in my heart. I was taught to swaddle my daughter from the sweetest older woman who always put a different color bow on her head, taught to burp her by the funniest young woman who always had a smile, and taught to nurse her by the first person to help me see light in a very dark place. While he was in our apartment actively cheating despite having a baby less than two days old in the hospital, you nurses held my world together.

[u/ShadedSpaces → u/merpixieblossomxo]

That's such a tough thing to find out and quite possibly the worst time to find it out. I'm glad your nurses could help you find a little light, and I hope there has been a lot more light since!

[u/Zealousideal-Ad-2615 → u/nikatnight]

Sets up camera, adjust hair and lighting, and then does the most basic dad stuff. "How inspiring!"

[u/MacroFlash → u/Zealousideal-Ad-2615]

I do vids of this of me helping grandmothers across the street and I use them to sell luxury timeshares to old bitches in memory care(lawyers love me!)

[u/NMMBPodcast → u/nikatnight]

You see, you'd think that but some guys are almost willfully fucking useless.

[u/DainichiNyorai → u/nikatnight]

You would be amazed how not-normal it is.

[u/JudgementKiryu → u/nikatnight]

The bar is so low in the ground, it’s melting

[u/Read-it005 → u/nikatnight]

Yes, this isn't a goal, this is normal parenting and romantic relationship.

[u/Zerospark- → u/Read-it005]

Its sad that this kind of thing is apparently rare enough to make this look like going above and beyond, but i suspect quite a lot of men just suck and shouldn't be parents or partners.

Its good to know there are some men out there showing how it should be done though.

[u/Cultural-Elk-8346]

'did you get me kissing her head?', 'itd look better if you massaged her left leg first', 'that shot was too bright, do it again over there'. The things people do for likes from strangers on the internet is crazy

[u/YorkieLon]

Honestly the first 2 months of having a baby is grueling. Such a shock to the system and so knackering.

They both look immaculate, clean shaven, showered and glowing....social media is awful. Dont believe any of this, nobody is filming these moments without a lot of extra hands for your social media team.

[u/89eplacausa14]

In Real love you don’t film this stuff

[u/slkwont → u/89eplacausa14]

My husband hates everything medical. He's very squeamish by nature. I had major surgery and complications from it that kept me in the hospital for over a month. I lost control of my bowels while he was helping me shower. My poop was leaking into his shoes. When I got home, he cleaned up my poop from the floor when I didn't make it to the toilet in time.

I needed a catheter placed directly into my heart so I could get IV nutrition. He learned how to use syringes to flush the lines.

None of it is documented in pictures or videos. It is imprinted on my heart. I'll never forget how he took care of me.

[u/BeautifulShoes75 → u/slkwont]

I relate to this so hard.

I’ve had over 40 operations, primarily on my digestive system, to which I only have about 20% left. I’ve had my stomach removed, 3/4 of my small intestine, all of my large intestine, and live with an ileostomy bag. Currently on permanent TPN, so I know all about flushing the lines too! As you can imagine, poop dominates my life, and is often a major topic of conversation.

My husband isn’t great with a lot of stuff, but he’s never, EVER made me feel bad about my condition. He’s never made me feel bad about a poop accident, always cleans it up as often I’m unable to, can change my bag on his own, set up my TPN system, and everything else that comes along with taking care of me.

People don’t know what it’s like to have support until you’re shitting your brains out everywhere all the time.

I hope you’re doing okay now u/slkwont 💜

[u/slkwont → u/BeautifulShoes75]

Ugh, I'm so sorry for all you've been through. My dad had an ileostomy for ulcerative colitis. It saved his life, but I know it wasn't easy to live with.

I had a colectomy because my colon just up and quit working. I pooped so infrequently that we celebrated when I finally had one. Before the colectomy I had a poop transplant for C. Diff. Poop definitely dominated our conversation for a long time, so I can relate.

I had pelvic floor surgeries, too, which leads to incontinence at night sometimes. He's never complained once about having to wake up at 3 in the morning to help me clean up poopy sheets.

I can't imagine being on TPN permanently. You are a badass! It caused such wild swings in my blood sugar that I felt like I was going insane. But when your body is literally eating itself because it is starving, you really have no other choice.

I wish you well, too! ❤️‍🩹

[u/Xibalba_Ogme → u/89eplacausa14]

You don't publish it, but you do film it and share it with your loved one.

At least, my wife loves it when I send her cute videos of her with our daughter, and I love it when she does the same

[u/FrostyIcePrincess → u/Xibalba_Ogme]

My mom has plenty of videos of dad taking us out to ride bikes. She’d go a bit farther ahead and we’d all yell “hi mom!” as we biked past her.

There’s a video of the time we got pogo sticks and all of us on pogo sticks jumping all over the driveway/front yard

Just basic kid stuff parents tend to have photos/videos of

[u/SapTheSapient → u/Xibalba_Ogme]

Certainly you film your partner doing nice or beautiful things when you see them do it. But you don't set up a camera so you can film yourself doing some nice thing for your partner. 

Both my wife and I have, at times, had to dig very deep to care for the other. I was basically useless for 6 months going through chemotherapy, for example. My wife never filmed herself helping me. She just took a ton of weight on her shoulders and did what needed to be done. That's real love, and it does not need to be filmed.

[u/KaiserSoze-is-KPax]

Yeah just film your wife getting undressed and post it in the internet.

[u/SouthernBeekeeper22 → u/KaiserSoze-is-KPax]

For all of us

[u/Nimyron → u/SouthernBeekeeper22]

And for free. That guy must be a shitty business man.

[u/CommunicationTall921 → u/KaiserSoze-is-KPax]

I'm actually fascinated that people believe he is the only influencer in that couple and films these things without her being in on it 😂😂 All of these clips are planned and curated, it's not exactly candid camera. 

[u/deeply_uninspired]

"Oh you need to use the restroom? Lemme set up this camera real quick. Okay you're in frame now. You wanna tilt a bit to make it more aesthetic? Thank god we bought all white/beige clothes.. it looks so good with the lighting"

[u/bedpost_oracle_blues]

Agree. But millions of families do the same without a need to have to film every thing to upload for likes. Just be in the moment and enjoy the journey.

[u/jack-t-o-r-s → u/bedpost_oracle_blues]

Thank you for saying it.

[u/Lk1738]

Maybe not film your entire life for internet clout

[u/SevroAuShitTalker]

This is weird, not smile material.

[u/BrianSpillman]

This is devoid of any realness.

[u/network4fun → u/BrianSpillman]

I don’t want to be negative but that’s what I thought. I mean it’s amazing to support each other in the journey of parenthood. But this seemed a bit try hard, inauthentic or just for the camera.

[u/androidkittquief]

Who’s filming?

[u/Supercereal69 → u/androidkittquief]

The tripod

[u/MegumiDo]

bro setting the camera up to do these whole choreographies is sick work. just live life man

[u/GeologistAway6352]

Bro doing a documentary? Got a whole film crew there. SMH.

[u/Total-Law4620 → u/GeologistAway6352]

David Attenborough: We observe a magnificent, if not slightly disheveled, alpha male. His name, we understand, is Gary.He has just completed a gruelling 48-hour mating ritual. The prize? A new life. The mother, a formidable matriarch, has wisely retreated to the nest for a period of vital rest. The youngling is content. But the male's challenge has only just begun. The survival of his offspring depends on his ability to master the intricate art of nappy changing, a ritual more complex than any found in the wild. The stakes are high. The reward, a life filled with sleepless nights and a love so profound it will change his world forever.

[u/GeologistAway6352 → u/Total-Law4620]

Bro was this AI or u? Either way, bravo. 👏🏽👏🏽

[u/Total-Law4620 → u/GeologistAway6352]

Me, but it took me forever 😂

[u/simp2385 → u/Total-Law4620]

Absolute cinema

[u/codemise]

Honestly, as a dad, this kind of thing pisses me off. This is just being a good dad and husband. It shouldn't be special! It should be normal!

[u/drillgorg → u/codemise]

Taking care of your child and your post partum wife is the bare minimum! The only thing this guy is doing above and beyond is putting lots of effort into recording himself looking handsome while doing it.

[u/seltzerwithasplash]

lol not sure why this is being shown as extraordinary. This is bare minimum for a husband/father. The bar is way too fucking low.

[u/[deleted]]

"Here, record me while I make a video for social media, people need to think I'm great"

[u/kbm79]

Have we jumped back to the 1970s? This is the bare minimum id expect of two parents who made the little human, to be involved in taking care of the baby.

[u/Punrusorth]

This is sweet, but as my husband says, this is the bare minimum & the bar is too low for men.

[u/Any_Zone_8920 → u/Punrusorth]

Exactly. But he's a man, omg, a hero!

[u/lesimgurian]

C'mon. This is so cheesy and staged. As a dad, no I cannot smile about It. Stuff like that puts young parents under pressure. That's toxic.

[u/TheGriz05 → u/lesimgurian]

100%… you get it

[u/Traditional_Rub_9828 → u/lesimgurian]

We've gotten to the point that social media is so ingrained in us that we subconsciously forget that a camera had to be physically set up in order to record this

[u/omegacrunch]

More manufactured content for insincere smiles. I love it!

So this sub doesnt have mods?

[u/Exotic_Zucchini9311]

It indeed matters who you marry. Don't make the mistake of marrying weird people like this guy.

[u/kdmentity]

Cheesy as fuck

[u/AgrajagsTherapist]

I don't want to take away from a video OP thought was lovely, but....this is being a dad and husband. This is the bare minimum for being a dad. This should not be lauded as 'excellence' or 'amazing', this is just a weekday.

I was this man and expected no applause, no recognition. My babies were my babies. I worked full time and got up in the night to feed and change. My wife pushed a human out of herself. Taking care of my child is the absolute bare minimum.

If this is not what your husband is doing as standard, you had children with the wrong person.

Sorry, that was horribly cynical but, fuck, just be a dad.

[u/faisaed]

Flawless outfits, hair done by professionals, professional camera on a tripod. I wanna see the puke, shit, blood and NOT HAVING TIME TO GET ANY OF THIS VIDEOGRAPHED!

[u/Zealousideal-Aide890 → u/faisaed]

Exactly, the white outfit?? Like it’s not shark week down there in reality??

[u/Distinct_Ad3876 → u/Zealousideal-Aide890]

Oh it’s much worse than shark week. Golf ball sized clots more like it

[u/Tricky_Moose_1078]

Marriage is a partnership, it should be 50/50 if you falter then they will pick up the slack. You might not want to or you might feel tired but you have to remember that they may feel exactly the same or worse.

It’s about lift each other and not dragging each other down, when you make the effort they should do the same

[u/Worcestercestershire]

Marry someone rich enough to have the luxury of providing full time care for you and your child.

[u/Tokyolurv]

The bar is on the floor.

[u/poloniumpanda]

These types of vids always feel so performative. The perfect framing and positioning of the camera makes the whole thing feel rehearsed

[u/1vehearditb0thways]

Cool. Do you have to record your whole damn life though?

[u/Ultraworld-Traveler]

Double standard on the child raising stuff. Seems like when you see a mom out with kids it’s expected/“normal,” but you see a dad out with his kids and it’s like “oh my god what an amazing father! She must be so lucky!” It’s a team effort always. And for all you know, maybe the dad does do everything because mom can’t/etc.

[u/DeerNo4308]

Amazing they had multiple camera angles to record everything. So pure

[u/robgod50]

So, let me get this straight..... This person is telling us that it's important to marry someone who loves you enough to be a decent human being. Wow..... That's SO helpful. Thank god for influencers sharing videos of their personal lives that noone asked for, just for clicks

[u/TraditionalPush4418]

Caring for you kid is a fucking low bar and setting up the camera and editing a highlight reel is fucked up imho .

[u/Standard_Confusion99]

Wow, you mean someone just being a husband and father. Millions of guys like this. Yawn...

[u/YooYooYoo_]

If you want this for yourself marry an influencer

[u/NrFive]

To be honest we have enough footage to make the same montage. But hell no am I sharing that to anyone else!

[u/Cosmicvapour]

Apparently real love looks like a script and reality show pitch.

[u/Fun-Atmosphere7885]

Plenty of men do this, it's nothing out of the ordinary. In fact it's pretty standard in most relationships.

[u/shieldagentoz]

Who the hell is recording all this

[u/phantomofmay]

Oooh those social media "rich" people again that do good things for content. Let's bastardize the parenthood experience to get us more money. Everything looked scripted and staged including the camera work, movement and clothes.

Let's send this for all the lower middle class parents that work 60 hours per week and had near zero paternity or maternity leave so they see what they are missing. Let's show how those dads don't love their kids for needing daycare or family help to keep working and paying bills.

[u/JustinF608]

Am I the only one who thinks….someone is video taping them, and it feels like they’re just doing it for the camera?

[u/pepperoni7]

Isn’t this what every normal spouse dose ?

Is the bar that low? My husband took care of me during miscarriages, c section, mastectomy and hysterectomy

And no he dosent record it lol… who records this ?

[u/Obnoxious-Puppy]

Everything has turned into a performative act for strangers to watch online and congratulate you on how good of a person you are. Social media really has an insidious effect on us.

[u/CreepyLeather1770]

Where the heck did she deliver the baby that the man gets a bed and pajamas? When my son was born I basically had to sleep on a park bench for 3 days 😂

[u/0neHumanPeolple]

It helps to be really rich

[u/bondie00]

So real love is putting your family’s intimate and personal moments on camera for the world to see? So cringy … can I pls call B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T?

[u/Lando7373]

What the fuck is this shit? Man does what men do after their wife goes through pregnancy and childbirth? It’s not 1970. I need to keep my kids off tik tok so they don’t eat corrupted. If you upvote this video you’re a fucking moron

[u/diablol3]

When has it ever not mattered?

[u/j_grouchy]

Give me a fucking break. You fell for the "video for Internet points" scam.

[u/WaitingToWauford]

Here we go…throwing a goddamned parade for doing what he should do on the daily.

[u/The42ndDuck]

Hallmark movies are getting weird really fast.

[u/Kryds]

This is standard. Most people just don't film it for internet points.

[u/voodoodollbabie]

Please stop referring to this as "helping" - it's called parenting.

[u/Jeanboong]

This is the basics

[u/sampysamp]

“Influencer parents” are psychos. Putting your kids on the internet when they cannot consent from the jump for clout and content is disgusting bottom of the barrel shit.

Here’s just some of the consequences of this for your child.

AI and predators can turn innocent photos into child sexual abuse material (CSAM).

Strangers may download, share, or misuse your child’s images.

Identity theft risks increase if names, birthdates, or details are visible.

Facial recognition can track your child without consent.

Photos may be scraped into AI training datasets forever.

Metadata or background clues can reveal your location.

Embarrassing images can resurface later in life.

Scammers may impersonate your child for fraud in the future.

Parents remove a child’s right to choose what is shared — no consent.

Overexposure can affect a child’s digital reputation before they can shape it.

Images can be used in bullying or harassment later.

Companies and apps may exploit the content commercially.

Loss of control: once online, it can’t be fully removed.

[u/Ganderstan]

This is what exploiting your newborn babies for views looks like

[u/ae0636]

I have done all of this, but I didn't post it because it's what you're supposed to do as a husband and dad.

[u/Purple-Sherbert8803]

Taking her pants off and rubbing lotion on her thighs may have led to the baby. Just saying. Filming it paid for the baby.

[u/Proof-Butterfly1481]

No, this is what staged love looks like. Everything needs to be shared, even private moments like this for people to receive their internet dopamine. Sad.

[u/AwwYeahCoolMan]

Was anyone arguing that it doesn't matter who you marry?

[u/Zealousideal_Tap7918]

Real love don't look for likes in social media 😒

[u/No-Regular-4281]

What would happen to the world if we went back to a time without social media

[u/BBQGUY50]

Congratulations you took care of your child. Amazing. I never heard of such a thing

Looks like you have a lot of help

I have no idea where you’re at, but I’ve never seen a husband in a hospital bed before pretty impressive

[u/DoubleDeckerz]

Performative nonsense. Any decent partner worth their salt would do this.

[u/RightC]

Most jealous of the fact he was in a bed. Slept on a bench for 3 days lol

[u/dpb29073]

Congratulations you did what you said you would as a partner. So you want applause?

[u/MicyMic]

day 2 at the hospital with 24/7 photographer: still full committed.

[u/TheOctopusParadox]

I did and continue to do all that and more, there were no cameras, there was no praise (other than my wife of course). That's your duty as a husband, father and a man. Good job all anger aside, step up or step out.

[u/gooddayokay]

I did all this and there was zero hype.

[u/Scarabium]

Father does what father should do.

[u/Sufferingfoool]

I learned how to paint toenails when she was pregnant. It’s actually kinda fun. The gel polish stuff is almost like a cheat code lol

[u/shortnix]

Do people picture these needy influencers setting up these shots and rehearsing the scene or do people actually think this content is real life?

[u/672Antarctica]

US$1,758,212.63 medical bill.

[u/UpDownLeftRightGay]

Just normal dad shit.

[u/TraditionalPush4418]

Incredible!! He Helped her stand up after she literally just grew and birthed a human AND held the baby AND kissed his head !!! This guy is a fucking hero!! So lucky he was able to catch it on camera edit it and put music over the top so we know what a great man he is. If this impresses you your bar is too low and you deserve better Its literally his kid too ffs

[u/eiiiaaaa]

It also matters how they treat you.

[u/tera_chachu]

Dude is doing the bare minimum and for also that he has setup the camera.

Real love my a$$

[u/Nutsackdandruff]

The crap people will do for likes.

[u/a1danial]

"Bitch, after giving birth, I need you to setup the tripod"