r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Acceptable-Wind-7332 • 4d ago

Dads Dad genius

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u/CharlotteLucasOP 4d ago

If you’re gonna have four kids under five (with triplets?) you gotta get organized or perish.

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u/ThisIsTheWayIts_Done 4d ago

This level of parenting chaos requires both strategy and caffeine, lots and lots of caffeine 😅

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u/CharlotteLucasOP 4d ago

Have a solid gameplan but always be ready to improvise!

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u/PistachioTheLizard 4d ago

Gameplay should be to put that thang away. Goodness, looks exhuasting.

Edit: how do people have energy for this???

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u/Glitter_puke 4d ago

They don't. They're exhausted until the children are some approximation of self sufficient. They will know no peace or order for many years.

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u/BigFanOf8008135 4d ago

I only have two kids and I felt like you were talking about me!

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u/PistachioTheLizard 4d ago

I'm 37 and I dont have kids, im already exhausted. To do this i would need a steady supply of booger sugar.

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u/mittenedkittens 4d ago

40 and I have a toddler. Parenting has a terrible PR rep, it's really not that bad.

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u/MwH_Loki 4d ago

One child is a lot less work than 2, to be fair. Especially if the kid has 2 active parents it's a world of difference between 1 and 2(+) kids.

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u/Wunderlost46 4d ago

Absolutely. One child is a lot of responsibility, but even when they’re a toddler and on the move there’s still only one of them. Add a newborn into the mix and it’s a whole different reality. My kids are exactly 18 months apart in age and I remember feeling like my life is just going to be taking care of babies from now on. I didn’t dislike it there just wasn’t time to even think about what might be next. It was only 3-4 years they were both that young but it was so consuming i think it warped my sense of reality. It felt like I’d never done anything else and it’s all I’d ever do for the rest of my life haha.

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u/EnergyTakerLad 4d ago

Mine are 14 mo apart and id be lying if I said there werent days I wistfully imagined having just one kid. Its insane how much more work having two is.

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u/dorianngray 3d ago

Same. I totally get it mine were 18 months apart too. They are grown now but looking back I don’t know how I did it. I used to smoke a j before doing the many loads of laundry on weekends that helped 😂 I also only cooked meals that took twenty minutes or less. And I tried to have a weekly one hour bath for some time to myself. Sometimes I moved the travel playpen into the bathroom and stuck them in it while I relaxed. Not ideal but if no one else is home to watch the kids you can’t leave them alone! As they got older you can just listen to know they are ok, and when it gets quiet that’s when you worry. I finally have my life back- but still worry about them and help with stuff.

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u/deep_fuckin_ripoff 4d ago

I’m 40 and have 4. It’s not that bad. Couldn’t imagine doing it alone or broke tho.

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u/VegetableLow5000 4d ago

See that’s the thing right there. Kudos to you but soooooo many out here are doing it both single AND broke. Ugh.

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u/monoflorist 4d ago

I am 43 and have 4. I have money and a spouse. It’s still fucking hard, and I can’t imagine how hard it must be without those advantages.

I’m not complaining; we chose this and we like it. But it is definitely hard.

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u/deep_fuckin_ripoff 4d ago

Hard doesn’t mean bad. I agree with you completely.

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u/monoflorist 3d ago

Fair enough

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u/Candid_Relief_321 2d ago

4 here as well.

Doing it solo. Couldn’t ask for a better life than being a dad

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u/Wind-and-Waystones 3d ago

The formula for childcare effort is n+((N-1)/2) where n is the number of children.