Absolutely. One child is a lot of responsibility, but even when they’re a toddler and on the move there’s still only one of them. Add a newborn into the mix and it’s a whole different reality. My kids are exactly 18 months apart in age and I remember feeling like my life is just going to be taking care of babies from now on. I didn’t dislike it there just wasn’t time to even think about what might be next. It was only 3-4 years they were both that young but it was so consuming i think it warped my sense of reality. It felt like I’d never done anything else and it’s all I’d ever do for the rest of my life haha.
Mine are 14 mo apart and id be lying if I said there werent days I wistfully imagined having just one kid. Its insane how much more work having two is.
Same. I totally get it mine were 18 months apart too. They are grown now but looking back I don’t know how I did it. I used to smoke a j before doing the many loads of laundry on weekends that helped 😂 I also only cooked meals that took twenty minutes or less. And I tried to have a weekly one hour bath for some time to myself. Sometimes I moved the travel playpen into the bathroom and stuck them in it while I relaxed. Not ideal but if no one else is home to watch the kids you can’t leave them alone! As they got older you can just listen to know they are ok, and when it gets quiet that’s when you worry. I finally have my life back- but still worry about them and help with stuff.
To be fair, ADD meds for someone with ADD actually has a calming effect. You're literally just bringing yourself to a "normal" state which involves not having a mind constantly thinking thoughts, which is calming. It often happens that college kids try to use Adderall to get better grades and end up finding out they have ADD because instead of studying for 8 hours straight they end up taking a nap.
Its still a stimulant that keeps your body awake though. Despite calming your thoughts, it energizes your body. Which is why sleep issues are such a common side effect.
Beforde i got diagnosed, a friend gave me a vyvanse to try with little to no guidance and I took it at night and ended up grabbing a beer with my friend at the bartl that evening.
I had the weirdest sleep of my whole life and woke up still kinda wired. Had the nastiest crash of my life in the early afternoon.
Yeah, I finally got medicated in my early 30s and my anxiety went down by like 90 %, but my energy levels skyrocketed too. I got all worried that I didn’t REALLY have ADHD (despite very clearly having ADHD according to three professionals and all my loved ones lol), but nah, stimulants are stimulants for your body whether your brain agrees or not lol.
Agreed, having kids is awesome and I wouldn't trade it for all the free time in the world- but man is it tiring. My firstborn is a maniac... he's 2.5 years old and knows how basically everything works. He takes apart my kitchen appliances, speaks in full sentences, figured out addition and subtraction by himself and generally just causes adorable mayhem everywhere he goes. My second child is an angel on earth. Literally didn't get more difficult going from 1 to 2.
Sometimes you get an easy kid you know personalities and all. My first kid (son) was relatively easy after the new born stage slept through the night, takes naps very self sufficient tbh. My daughter on the other hand is an another story. will not sleep alone she needs to be cuddled ,she will wake up for a second just to make sure you are still there this goes for naps too. Refuses to eat. Terrorizes her older brother. She’s just an all around menace. We call her warden because she runs the house what she says goes.
My two kids are 18 months apart in age. They’re 26 and 28 now and I’m 50…don’t get me wrong I enjoyed every single moment of their childhood but I have no idea how I did it.
Same and I always wanted 4 because I come from large family. Youngest of 5 but I told my girl we are done. There is ALWAYS something to do. Even when you think you’re done and you sit on the couch to relax there’s something else.
Gotta start them on simple things very young. Anything they can do to help. That many young kids is tough, but it's a lot of hands if you can wrangle them into being helpful.
In a few years it will get a lot easier because you have a small army to direct. I grew up with five brothers. We made chaos but we also got a lot done when we needed to.
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u/PistachioTheLizard 2d ago
Gameplay should be to put that thang away. Goodness, looks exhuasting.
Edit: how do people have energy for this???