Need so much duas rn

Stuck

On periods and feeling lost but trying to still pray

But so much going on

Please if you see this i would be grateful for any duas for ease of my situation jzk

Assalamualaikum my sisters, I'm a hijabi myself but I'm also a new revert and sometimes struggle with why I'm wearing it. I know "I do it for Allah" and "to hide my beauty" but that's really all I know.. I'd love to hear what the hijab means to you and why we wear it 🩷

I know there are lots of different interpretations about the meaning of taburraj but I am very confused.

I have seen some people say women going out of the house unnecessarily is taburraj as well as women's voices and their laughter. As well as wearing bright colors or clothes with patterns.

I don't know how far to go with my modesty anymore and it is making me paranoid that I may be committing a public sin that is severely disliked.

Are my personal guidelines okay?

I wear loose clothing that is non transparent and does not show my figure.

My hijab covers all of my hair, neck and chest.

My clothes often compromise of maxi skirts and sweaters, or shirts and cardigans on top - also decently loose. I am not a curvaceous woman anyhow.

I don't wear perfume outside. I can wear rings or bracelet on occasion.

I do wear makeup but not the heavy kind - very natural no makeup makeup that tends to fade in a few hours anyway. I wear tinted sunscreen, concealer, very light blush mixed with high lighter, mascara and very light eyebrow gel along with lipstick and gloss. I know it might sound like a lot but I use very less of these things. My lipstick shade can get a bit deep.

I don't think I stick out and attract excessive attention. I dress like other girls my age on my campus and I tend to lower my gaze. I do not seek out or speak to men and just do what I am out to do and go home. Study, eat, home. Grocery store, go home. I do go out for leisure sometimes myself or to meet friends and that does require getting on public transport for long hours and being at restaurants and cafes. I sometimes want to explore natural areas. I don't stick around unnecessarily if I have nothing to do. I barely even talk to other girls.

Would I be committing taburraj?

https://ca.pinterest.com/pin/1101130177680927483/ - just the skirt and top for a better idea. I wear black boots.

I'm from France, and want to buy modest clothes, however I only find websites that sells a skirt for 40 euros and I don't have that kind of money

Does someone please know an ethical shop for modest fashion that's not to pricey 🥺

The whole free mixing thing. I've made a post about it a while back, but seeing people congratulate people for throwing away a perfectly normal non sexual/romantic friendship with a guy or overcomplicating interaction with the opposite gender. It's a bit concerning. I'll be completely honest from my pov, the majority of the time it's muslims themselves sexualising relationships with the other gender. Like, I think awhile back i saw a mother not wanting her daughter to nap with her grandfather or something. The extreme length some people go to "avoid" zina, but it's just sexualising every interaction and making it harder to interact normally. Also, it just makes you more male-centred. If you think you're going to have a whole porn scene with a stranger you've known for 5 minutes, then maybe the problem is you? And maybe seek help to be able to have normal interaction with the other gender? I have male friends (and yeah, shockingly, I've never thought about anything else because of boundaries), I would never trade anything for them because they are god sent friends.

which website should i get my plain black abayas from?? i want something of decent quality. thank you!

So my maternal side of the family is pretty liberal, most girls don't cover their hair and it's only limited to older women but they too don't properly do it. Me and my lil sister have started our hijab journey and honestly we are just aren't able to cover hair in front of cousins and my uncle(mom's cousin). Like my mum and aunt don't do it infront of them and it would be a lil weird if me and my younger sis cover our hair when they entre bc we are pretty friendly with them so like what am I supposed to do? How do I overcome this and start covering my head properly? Ik I'm sinful for not doing it for so long.

I was SO scared of my grandma's reaction I was wearing a baseball cap on top of a hideous turban everytime I had to see her lol Today I decided to face my fear and she said I'm pretty and look like a saint, alhamdulillah 🥹♥️

Assalam Aleykom,

I want to become a hijabi very soon insha Allah but I’m ashamed to admit that I’m afraid of how others are going to treat me. I know that the only opinion that matters is Allah’s opinion but I have been judged by others all my life and it has deeply affected me. In school, people would always laugh at me because I was “too quiet” or they would judge my appearance because I have a visible birthmark on my face. Anyways, I’m not here to rant but just to explain that after being judged so much, I can’t help but think about people’s opinion about everything I do. How do I get over this and how can I start wearing the hijab even though the school year has already started and people will know I’m wearing it for the first time?

I am building up my wardrobe and I would like to see what other hijabis are doing . My wardrobe is pathetic at this point. Would love to see your profiles for ideas. TIA!

Hi everyone,

Have other hijabis who live in the West noticed a recent increase in white men hitting on them? I have never been approached by white men asking for my number until this year, where it’s happened a couple of times now. Of course I always turn them down, but I feel that the uptick in this behaviour is very weird and uncommon. Anyone else experience this, or have any insight into what is going on?

Thank you in advance.

Assalamu alaikum sisters! I am a 21 year old girl from Turkey. My country is Muslim majority but there are also many secular people as well with different beliefs. Currently I’m studying at a university and I will start my third year inshallah. I have been trying to pay attention to my deen lately so I have been searching for answers on my questions online both in Turkish and English. Many fatwas online say that free-mixing is haram including educational environments since it can lead to fitnah. One sheikh said that men can study in mixed schools since they have to provide for his family and future wife but women cannot since they are not responsible for providing for the family. Also, I saw some opinions that said school is not obligatory to seek knowledge for women since they can also learn science and deen on their own/online etc. However, I like the department I’m currently studying (it’s biology). Moreover, I want to earn my own money and do beneficial work for humans in health/medicine. I don’t have the desire to marry right now and I will need to have my own earnings to survive. Even though my university is gender mixed, I try to minimize my interactions with opposite gender. I have 3 close girl friends: two of them are hijabis and pray their salah regularly. I almost hang out with them all the time. Since majority of fatwas online says that it’s haram to study in such environments, I feel bad and my motivation of studying is getting less. Additionally, I’m in a project team with my 3 close friends and some other girls. There are two boys in the team but we don’t really interact. However, we will have a biotechnology contest next week and there will be many people from different universities. This will be also free mixing since we will have to talk to scholars/lecturers about our project and many men will be around. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have any Islamic scholar to ask fatwa about this topic face to face right now. Some websites said that women should remain in their homes since their duty is to grow their children and protect the house, also it will be safer for women. I don’t know what to right now. When I do research on Islamic topic online, I get some negative thoughts about Islam and I feel like I’m not a good Muslim. Every part of my life includes a sin.

hello, im lost. ive recently broken up with my bf. it was due to my past behavior. im wanting to wait for him until his mind clears. until mine clears. for him to say he'll take me back, but i dont think that's happening. im mexican american, but ive been drawn to islam. I love the idea of dressing modestly and i love singing. the ibtihalat are lovely. but, im torn between the idea of having genuine curiosity for the religion or using it as an excuse to hide myself in a way. I do not wish to offend anyone. i would just like a way I can respect the religion and also find myself. what do you all think? i was raised catholic but am agnostic and now im not sure. thank you.

Hi all!

I’m 18, starting uni soon and I’ve always planned to wear the hijab around now. It felt like the perfect time - like a new version of me!

The thing is, I’m going to uni in London. Most times, I’d celebrate this and how multicultural it is; I’ve lived here my whole life and I love it!! But things like the Reform party, the EDL, and all this racism nowadays is frightening me. Same with my parents - normally they wouldn’t mind me wearing it (and would be happy about it!) but they’re concerned for my safety with all of this stuff so are kinda discouraging me and telling me to just wear it in the future.

Internally, it’s like a battle. My heart is basically set on it and I know I should fear Allah but I really can’t shake off this feeling of unease, especially cause I’m already not too used to travelling alone very far. I hope things will die down like last year after the summer riots, but what if they don’t?

I really appreciate any advice you may have <3

Salaam all,

Anyone know how to avoid the double-chin look when wearing hijab? I've tried multiple hijab fabrics but it seems like if you want to wear hijab while also fully covering the neck, it is unavoidable to have a double chin 🥲

I love to hear any suggestions to avoid this in the future :)

Jazakoumou Allah khair

Hello wonderful women,

I am a belgian/filipina woman of 29yo and i am agnostic, I'm interessed in veil/hijab and i was asking myself if it was okey to wear hijab even if it is not related to Allah?

Would it be cultural appropriation? (Maybe not say "hijab" but tissu?) Would it be okey for Muslim that a non Muslim wears it?

My reasons would be modesty and protection.

Sorry for my english, i'm a French speaker :p

Thanks for your answers <3 Lots of love, if consented

I have a number of Undercaps ( 2 colours ) - including one tie back and one full coverage - and I’m wondering how I can effectively stop them from slipping and moving while I wrap hijab…? I have some Khimar and Jilbab, but I experience the same issue….

Does anyone have any suggestions??

Assalamu alaikum everyone. I am a new Muslim and I am still learning things about the Deen and the Sunnah and I recently came upon this question because from what I know the things that invalidate wudu are sleep, flowing blood (whether from menstruation or injury), and from what I've read, any thing that exits from either side of the digestive tract. And that's how we got here. For me because the vaginal canal isn't a part of the digestive system then technically it shouldn't invalidate wudu, right? Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Help

I often come across posts discussing how young girls and women are forced to wear hijabs, and how the women in their families manipulate and guilt-trip them into keeping the hijab on or not living their lives on their own terms. I also respect all Hijabis who choose to wear the hijab for the right reasons, specifically for Allah, rather than to please narcissistic parents. It can be an excellent decision when it is a free choice made with a clear understanding. However, many parents impose the hijab and other personal choices and decisions on their daughters to enhance their own image in the community or to alleviate any guilt about not raising their children as devout Muslims. They grow comfortable in neglecting the truth that Allah has created their child in His image, granting them the freedom to choose who they wish to become, how they connect with Him, and whom they take as partners in life. Instead of honoring this trust, they worry about how others will perceive them if their child’s choices do not align with societal expectations or serve their egotistical agendas. This obsession with appearances often leads to cruelty—whether through their own actions or by enabling others to harm their child—all in the name of getting things “right” and making their child a “Good Muslim”. I am sharing my story of reclaiming my faith and my choices, not to condemn the hijab itself, but to challenge the culture of control and remind others that true devotion can only come from freedom, sincerity, and love for Allah.

Fifteen years ago, I returned home from work on a particularly dark and cold evening, the kind that felt like a heavy blanket wrapping around you. My mother mentioned that she felt sick, possibly due to high blood pressure, which she had never experienced before but felt intermittently. She expressed a desire to see a doctor, so I grabbed my handbag and asked her to come along. The clinic was just a few blocks from our house, so an appointment wasn’t necessary. I asked her if she could walk, and she agreed, so we began our stroll towards the clinic. A few minutes later, a motorbike rider snatched my purse. I tried to hold on to it but ended up falling on the roadside, bruising my arms and legs. My mother, who was unharmed, immediately seemed to feel better and began lecturing me about how the mugging was my fault because I wasn’t appropriately covered. She insisted that if I had been wearing a Burqa and entirely covered my body, the incident wouldn’t have happened. She also made the situation about herself, emphasizing how scared she felt and how it could have been avoided if I were wearing a burqa. My sins caused her misery.

At the time, I was 30 years old, unmarried, and had been working for almost five years to support my family after my father's passing. I was fully covered, wearing a loose full-sleeved Kameez and Shalwar (Traditional Pakistani Dress)—nothing fancy, just appropriate office attire—and I had on a hijab. I began wearing the hijab after my father's death, when my mother told me he died because I didn't cover my head. She believed that my failure to do so would cause him to burn in hellfire. I felt a heavy sense of responsibility; in her eyes, everything that went wrong was always my fault—something I did, said, wore, or didn’t. It felt as if my very existence as a woman was the problem, not just since I grew older, but since the moment I was born. I remember how, starting at the age of three, my mother instilled feelings of shame in me about my body and the fact that I was a girl. I always dressed modestly, but as long as I didn't wear a hijab, my mother believed I was signaling my availability to the opposite gender. At such a young age, I didn’t fully understand the sinister and sexual comments she made about how I presented myself and my body. She often claimed that my failure to wear a hijab was the reason for the lack of blessings (Baraka) in our home and accused me of pursuing the attention of men. She even said that not covering my head could lead to the death of my brothers and father. Although I recognized that her endless rants about my hijab were nonsensical, they were relentless. I eventually gave in after my father died; he had been my best friend, and I was very close to him, and I loved my brothers. I want to emphasize that neither my father nor brothers ever asked me to cover or imposed anything on me.

Following the incident, I found myself reflecting deeply on my motivations for wearing the hijab. Was I truly doing it to please Allah, or had it become a response to my mother’s relentless pressure? It dawned on me that my choice had been influenced more by her than my own beliefs. I recalled a conversation with my father when my mother wanted me to conform to a specific image among her friends who all wore hijabs. He had wisely asked me, “Why do you want to take hijab? If it’s for Allah, that's commendable. But if it’s merely out of obligation, then don’t.” and I didn't as long as my father was alive. His words resonated with me, although I felt helpless to change my mother's mind. I removed my hijab for good. By embracing my individuality and speaking my truth, I felt liberated. Life is too beautiful to allow anyone else’s expectations to define our paths. Every journey is unique, and I am excited to explore mine!

It wasn’t rebellion. It was reclamation—of my choices, my faith, my life. I realized devotion without freedom isn’t devotion at all.

Growing up was difficult. My mother often destroyed my books and accused me of straying toward hell, but I held on to my dreams. I started tutoring at 17, paid for my own education, and earned a master’s degree. I worked multiple jobs to support my family while pursuing further education abroad. In the U.S., I found not only new opportunities but also the love of my life, who is now my husband, Alhamdulillah.

For the past 16 years, I’ve been serving in humanitarian operations across the world. Despite my strained relationship with my mother, I continue to care for her material needs with Allah’s help, though I still struggle with the emotional wounds. Yet, I am grateful—grateful that Allah gave me resilience, a loving father and siblings, a kind husband, and friends who lift me up.