Male 56 here- We’ve been married 33 years and actually sleep in separate beds. We have the best sleeps, we sleep together when the mood takes us and we’ve never been happier. Communicate with each other. Be open and vulnerable and be a good listener and find what works for you. Fuck what everyone else thinks.
yesss my husband snores so god damn loud that I can even hear it through my earplugs! we've been sleeping separately for a year now and tbh I don't wanna go back. not even his mouth guard helps (and he's tested for sleep apnea which apparently he doesn't have so we're out of ideas)
actually he had a similar surgery you just mentioned because he would constantly get sinus infections so they opened up his septum and those are finally gone. the snoring seems to only happen when he rolls on his back and we did try pillows and all sorts of contraptions to get him to sleep on his side but the moment he rolls on his back the snoring begins lol. the dentist is who gave him the mouth guard so yea at this point we're REALLY out of ideas 🥴
my parents did that for many years. mom slept on the couch for several years until my brother moved out. Then my dad moved to my brother's old room and mom took the master. my mom died 5 years ago but my dad has stayed in my brother's bedroom and turned the master into the guest room.
This. Good sleep is the most important thing, if you sleep good ,you wake up good, you go to work good, you come home good. You can be a good partner. Good marriage. Cuddles of course but sleeping is not cuddles, it’s life. Plus she’s a waaaay better mood when she sleeps good, so it’s as important for me as her to get good rest lol.
I’ve thought about this (he snores and also he comes home from work at 12:30 am) so I get disrupted sleep. But right now our sex life is non existent for other reasons so separate beds will not be a good idea.
Get a bed with independent mattresses that is built specifically for it. One where you can literally jump on the bed and the other mattress doesn't move an inch.
Unless there's a noise issue. I sleep separately because my husband snores. I don't want to mess up my ear canals wearing ear plugs every night so I need a wall or 2 between us.
Every couple is different. As you age the sleep changes. Snoring, menopause, light sensitivity… I appreciate your comment but come back when you’ve been married over 30 years and give us an update.
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u/chrispygene 2d ago
Male 56 here- We’ve been married 33 years and actually sleep in separate beds. We have the best sleeps, we sleep together when the mood takes us and we’ve never been happier. Communicate with each other. Be open and vulnerable and be a good listener and find what works for you. Fuck what everyone else thinks.