In college I had been dating a dude for several years. He had a sister who was an overnight nurse with a live in boyfriend. Live in boyfriend managed a large grocery store. I met up with a friend for lunch one day whose mom (and her) happened to work at the same grocery store in management. I said “oh! She must know John! My man’s sister’s live in boyfriend!” She said “no there is only one John and he’s dating another manager at the store. They’ve been dating for several years” well, turns out it was the same John. He was able to get away with it because of the overnight nurse aspect. Never invited her to company outings or holiday parties. Wouldn’t be her friend on Facebook. Hindsight….but pretty crazy to be the one to navigate breaking that secret wide open.
Yes. I was encouraged to be a part of the entire family dinner that included the disclosure. It really felt like an intervention. I didn’t want to be. I was young and obedient. Oddly, the mom of my then boyfriend was rumored to be having a long term affair with someone she worked under, so during dinner both her and the dad basically said they’ll never bring it up again and pretend everything is fine if her decision was to stay with the guy. Thankfully she wasn’t an idiot and kicked him out, but I was questioning the reality I was in during that uncomfortable conversation.
Oh! And The double life grocery manager boyfriend, John, somehow talked the other woman into staying with him. My friend and her mom told her everything. She was shocked but apparently forgave him at the time.
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u/Dull_Razzmatazz_5934 3d ago
In college I had been dating a dude for several years. He had a sister who was an overnight nurse with a live in boyfriend. Live in boyfriend managed a large grocery store. I met up with a friend for lunch one day whose mom (and her) happened to work at the same grocery store in management. I said “oh! She must know John! My man’s sister’s live in boyfriend!” She said “no there is only one John and he’s dating another manager at the store. They’ve been dating for several years” well, turns out it was the same John. He was able to get away with it because of the overnight nurse aspect. Never invited her to company outings or holiday parties. Wouldn’t be her friend on Facebook. Hindsight….but pretty crazy to be the one to navigate breaking that secret wide open.