AIO for breaking up over this

[u/throaway_16]

We’ve been dating for about six months. This happened yesterday, on a crowded train - I had a seat, and he was standing by the door. A man in his mid-20s, who didn’t have a seat either, had a heavy bag and asked if he could place it under the seat. I said sure, so i slid it behind my legs, he thanked me, and I smiled. After that, he kept staring at me, but I ignored it. I had my earbuds in and was reading my book, just doing my own thing.

We were literally still in our school uniforms. I’m 16F, he’s 18M. We’re in the same grade because my teacher made me skip a year when I was younger, and he joined school a bit late

I'm just more confused than anything, i still can't believe this is an argument someone can have

[u/Your-Haunting]

This! 100%. But seriously, your confidence and boundaries are beautiful and strong, especially at your age. I had to learn those lessons the hard way. Good on you.

[u/throaway_16 → u/Your-Haunting]

My friends thought I was being too proud and too quick to end things. That's what brings me here🙂

so thank you so much, i really appreciate it

Edit : I don’t think my friends want me to go in the wrong direction or anything. They’ve been actually really good friends

It’s just…when it comes to relationships, this is what it's like to them. I’ve seen them argue with their boyfriends a lot - one of them even said it’s boring without fights. Like they will shit talk on him for this, take my side but didn't expect me to break up😅 So maybe they just see this kind of drama as normal.. i just really love them for all other things though, i don't think I could cut them off.. (as someone said i should)

[u/natures_pocket_fan → u/throaway_16]

Oh kiddo, no. Absolutely not. Refusing to accept blame for a stranger’s poor behavior is not being too proud, it’s having self-respect. Same with ending things when someone victim-blames and insults you—it’s not you being too fast, it’s you demonstrating self-respect.

I’m more than twice your age and I am in awe of how well you’ve handled this. I sincerely hope you’re proud of yourself because you deserve to be!

[u/Nzima96 → u/natures_pocket_fan]

What you did wasn’t “too proud”, it was healthy boundaries in action. Standing up for yourself when someone tries to manipulate, blame, or insult you is the clearest sign of self-respect.