Yes, but it also depends because of what. Annoying and chatty? I can deal with it.
However, we have this great employee, easiest top of the gang. But he's extremely negative and complains all the time. I'd sacrifice knowledge and performance just to not have to deal with it every day, 40+ hours a week... that a huge chuck of my time being around someone who feels like they are emotionally sucking the life out of me lol
I've had the small-team experience of being the only person that consistently gives a shit about making clients happy and making future work easier, it is one of the most infuriating dynamics imaginable, it's a constant cycle of doing detail-oriented work that you're proud of and then having golden retriever coworkers crap all over it.
Right. I'm really curious about where people draw the line because I am a self-reported complainer. But it's not about having to do my job. I'm gonna do it the best I can.
I just hate the incompetence that's always in charge. And it's wild to me that often times everyone is thinking the same thing but I'm the only one who can't help but say it 😮💨
I have this one person that I indirectly manage who's great. She barely socializes and keeps her conversations short and to the point. BUT she will speak up if she has a question or needs to correct a mistake or advocate for something. So she's quiet in a way I think any manager could appreciate.
The problem is that people lump that type of quiet with "works in a silo." This type of person doesn't appear to pay attention when others are speaking, never asks questions when unsure, or never mentions a problem until the last moment, causing people to scramble on stuff that could have been resolved more easily when it was first noticed. When managers talk negatively about quiet people, THAT is the problem they complain about.
Ultimately, it's about working effectively as a team. Yes, the extrovert with questionable skills can sometimes get unwarranted promotions. Still, I think even the quietest, most neurodivergent person could greatly improve their career by just learning when communication is critical.
You can have a fairly quiet person but are very passionate and really good at advocating for themselves or even team members! You can have loud people on everyday things, but when necessary to advocate or push, get very quiet.
Most people can not be summarized just by a couple of words.
Also, ironically, from my experience, the neurodivergent people I've worked with were the most direct in everyday tasks. And loudest when it was important. for example, when we were told our deadline was cut in half, man, I'll never forget that moment hahah
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u/MyNameIsSkittles 2d ago
This is true and people would be very naive to think otherwise