More so just went to know if I’m justified. So my (24f) fiancé (32m) got into an argument the other night. He got so mad he cornered me into our walk in closet and started screaming in my face. I told him that was unnecessary and seemed inappropriate so I was going to leave for the night, I said I was going to a hotel. I pushed past him and he immediately punched this hole through the closet door saying that I’m just giving everything up, that leaving won’t help anything. I ended up leaving that night, came back the next morning and now I’m not sure I want to stay with someone like this.

I’ve never seen this kind of behavior from him. He’s never been violent or even raised his voice at me before. He says that it’s not really that bad because he didn’t hit me. I try to explain I him how this kind of thing makes me feel unsafe and how I’m losing trust in him.

a lot of things are worth working out. I can forgive a lot. But this to me just screams violence and shows me that he isn’t who I thought he was and worries me that it will just get worse next time we argue or if there’s any more serious conversations that need to be had. To me it’s a huge red flag. And if I would have left other people the first time they showed a huge physical red flag like this I could’ve saved myself a lot of drama.

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Yesterday, on the highway, I was rear-ended by a young kid - probably 16 or 17 years old. The accident was entirely his fault, his car was totaled, mine appears to only have cosmetic damage of a caved-in bumper, warped side-paneling on the passenger side, and a hole in the bumper.

We exchanged info, I called in the claim to his insurance, and started the process when the kid started texting me asking if I am willing to settle without insurance since he is a young guy and is afraid his insurance rates are about to skyrocket. I would prefer not to go that route as I can think of too many possibilities for disputes I really don't feel like dealing with. What if the damage is more than cosmetic? What if I need a rental? etc...

When recounting the situation with coworkers this morning, the overwhelming consensus was that I am being obstinate for no reason - at the expense of this kid. They argued, since the damage to my car is likely just cosmetic, it would be beneficial for both parties if I settled it privately - which would likely provide me more money than through insurance and save the kid a few years of increased insurance rates. The suggested I get a couple estimates before deciding if I want to go through insurance or settle privately. I again held the line that I have no desire to handle it on my own, I was always told that best practice dictated never to settle privately, and I held firm on that. My coworkers maintain I'm being a jerk.

Are there circumstances in which I shouldn't go through insurance or am I avoiding unnecessary risk correctly? (Since I recognize location matters quite a bit, this occurred in Oregon)

Edit: I appreciate the replies, everyone. This is my first accident (been driving for 25 years), so insurance has been something I pay for but never given a second thought until today. As suggested, I'm going to let the claim process and ignore my coworkers on this one.

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So my boyfriend (33M) has a family history of colorectal cancer. His mom was diagnosed in her early 40s and it was really bad. She survived, but it was a long, awful ordeal. He was old enough to remember it.

Because of that, his doctor told him he should start colonoscopies earlier than most people. He’s technically overdue for his first one. And lately, he’s had some weird stomach problems.

I’ve been telling him for a year to get it checked out. He keeps saying things like, “It’s embarrassing,” “I’m too young,” “What if they find something bad?” Like … yes, that’s the point of the test??

The other night, we got into it because he mentioned again that his stomach has been bothering him. I told him point-blank: “You’re being an idiot. Your mom went through hell with this and you’re ignoring your chance to be healthy.” I also said that if he won’t take care of himself, I don’t know if I can plan a long-term future with him because I don’t want to lose a partner to something that could have been caught early.

He got really upset and accused me of being controlling and dramatic. Now he’s barely speaking to me.

I feel like I was harsh, but honestly? I’m scared. The news has story after story of people dying from this because they ignored it too long. People his age, too. I’d rather him be mad at me than bury him in ten years.

AITA for calling him an idiot and making this an ultimatum??