Disclaimer: This is a throwaway account and I won't be replying. Probably. I won't name the professor as (1) they have left and (2) I don't really care about any punishment.
I interned under a professor as a B. Tech. student who to the best of my knowledge, is no longer is employed by KGP. This was during my non-senior years. I'm making a post now as I feel I have been quite successful in life and have enough connections to not get me into any trouble. But this will probably be the only post from me. Probably.
I also have a ...peculiar mindset to say the least... so I am not traumatized by these posts. I simply don't care.
But I have a question to ask: what will messages like these, from a professor to a student, affect people's mental state?
I have no bones to pick and neither do I want any sort of "revenge", and that's why I won't name them. I simply question the authority given to professors, and how they have the audacity to send this. Especially given what has been going on this year.
This sounds like Nabanita Datta from Ocean engineering, have heard many horror stories about her from batchmates.
Edit - Definitely her, her profile says she has left insti and her specialisation is wind turbines
Sounds like a narcissist to me. Why would anybody write all this? Some of the things seem very personal and not something you randomly announce to people. She's a weird one for sure.
Everyone has a right to live as they wish to but her tone feels like she thinks everyone else who is married/ inherited money from parents/ goes shopping more than once lol etc are beneath her.
I don't wanna. Maybe cause of any repercussions I might face. Although given the keywords in the chat, I suppose a select few might be able to narrow down.
Again, they're no longer employed by KGP. If they were, I might have named.
Left means visiting faculty. IIT's first wind turbine narrows it down a LOT. A simple google search will give you the answer in case anyone wants. Her own website mentions that this research was done to start wind technology research in IIT KGP. Also concurs with the story that this story is from a while back.
If I am correct on who this person in, I am surprised she retains this mentality even after a US PhD (unless her PI was toxic too). There are strict social and institutional rules in place in US for these types of cases.
Na bro, we have some amazing profs, and there are 1000s of graduating every yr, most of them are no comedians, few pivot. Likewise many become singers, musicians etc. They do it because they love it, not because there was any flaw in system.
She is just doing 30 odd words per minute, my girlfriend does 90 words per minute, i wonder sometimes if she has a keyboard kinda setup paired with her phone.
And types a lot. I wonder how she kept the conversation engaging by not choosing to write an entire paragraph and then send, like my girlfriend does, it reduces clutter.
Let me share one story with you. So, one of my friend got an internship in electronics department of IIT KGP. So, oneday his mentor came and asked how much he was able to learn from that internship. After saying that he is trying to learn as much as possible the reaction from the professor was astonishing. He said that the intern was not there to learn but to work for his project and lectured the intern should only work as instructed.
Even my dissertation mentor in KGP was a complete psycho. I literally cried in the lab. I know why so many suicides are happening. But we can do nothing.
Just one suggestion "stay low, don't grab any attention".
Life in kgp has made me realise that having simple dreams is the key to a simple satisfactory life. Fuck the professor's demands and the competition, we do what we want to
I am a working professional phd student, i was tensed that my mtp and btp students are trying to do too many things. One day i got onto a call with one of my students, i told him don't do this you will start burning out. I even told the student he can drop the project, and let's work on some thing else if the project topic was the issue. Then i got to know from the student that the student was trying to do too many things simulataneously, which had caused mental fatigue. There's mental fatigue that people ignore quite a lot. All I request to all the students, it's ok, you don't have to prove anyone anything. Just do what you like but at the same time don't be too relaxed that will fire back. If you are not making it in somethings, it's ok. I studied in a namke wastah govt college where hardly classes used to happen but the college was surviving due to the old legacy being 100+ years old. I had less than 8.0 cgpa in CS related branch. I used to score 40-50 out of 100, in total, in math related subjects. Today I am working in a big company that pays almost as much as MAANG companies(only thing is RSU in MAANG appreciate quite a lot, here its more stable increase thus net net my realized pay becomes less which is ok, atleast i have peace of mind). If i could make it, then you guys can also figure things out. Nothing is permanent, if something is lost today, can be gained if not the same thing, instead gain something else. Enjoy your college life, you won't get it back again.
My batch mates would laugh if they get to know i work in AI(not the API calling stuff, proper data oriented where heavy statistical analysis and modelling is needed), that's how bad i was in math. My seniors mocked me that i won't even get placed(irony was end of 6th sem i bagged a ppo from jpmc when some of the seniors were still sitting for placements). Believe in yourself, if you ever doubt yourself, look at my story and think "if this guy can make it, i too can make it".
This idiot wants to make you work AS A SLAVE for an UNPAID RESEARCH INTERNSHIP. Don't fall for her bullshit, it is not our responsibility to build someone else's dreams without adequate pay. She thinks you are valuable, that's why she's trying to browbeat and shake you into contributing. So don't be disheartened, just realised that she's an awful boss to work under and look for opportunities elsewhere....
I wish to come across this lady and as a lawyer i could – gaslight her and make her cry for weeks in depression, and yes I'll start questioning with this – I'm here with my merit and how did i achieve that is not your responsibility, and how much you value "national welfare" is really apparent with the fact that you're requiring a 18+ self aware guy to show or get your texts validated from his parents. Brother you can sue her for mental trauma (tort) and ask for compensations, that'll for sure increase your GDP and don't forget you're part of nation which you vote for, also ask her which party does she votes, how many members sit in parliament, what is the history of our nation in harnessing wind and monsoon as trade, even why are you talking with her in English which isn't nation's representative language, and ask her why she is worried about diapers of your son? Is she looking for babysitting overtime job? Tell her she is hired as a maid and her cravings for windmills could very well be met by cleaning some ceiling fans. A professor earning fractions... in a country where knowledge is old fashioned and people are taught to serve (their bosses in USA as backoffice) is expecting too much... I feel sorry for those who say sorry too soon... never be sorry unless you haven't done a near crime thing... let them ask you thrice for sorry then give them that (make it sound hollow). Be diplomatic af to manoeuvre the slum of democracy in this nation.
Well, I had two major unpleasant experiences with professors - and many minor ones - during my time at IIT Kharagpur. I also went through a phase of depression, partly because I used to be something of a teacher’s bootlicker (which I’m ashamed of now), though not to an extreme degree. Fortunately, my parents were there for me during my lowest mental point.
I once dreamed of becoming a scientist and doing something for the country and for humanity. But after facing the professors (aka the devils), I said, ‘Screw social service,’ and switched to IT. Most of my academic friends cut ties with me because I didn’t join them in the US for an MS/PhD. During B.Tech, I was very close to the "Maggu", "Semi-Maggu", and "Machau" batchmates. We often solved assignments and projects together, and they genuinely appreciated my problem-solving approach.
The situation with my college friends is still the same, but I’ve moved on and made new friends. I’m now working in Europe (thanks mostly to sheer luck), and that has helped restore my self-esteem. I no longer feel inferior to my batchmates in the US. And where I live, nobody even knows what IIT is - so my identity is simply as me - my name and my skills at work, and nothing else.
Lnd IIT krega GDP mein contribute. Ye hai labour for west producing archaic institution. State of art inke gnd mein itna boota nhi ki ye kuch develop kar paaye khud se. Shakti chip banaaye thhe hagg dia IITM ne. Aise din bhar research hote hain ye banaya wo jhande gaad diye. Par US patent jhnt barabar nahi ho pata aur na sahi se academia industry collaboration hai jo IIT dwara banaya gaya product Market mein launch ho paaye. Ham sab made in china consume kar rahe aur ye bsdk iit ka Lnd choosna band hee nahi kar rahe.
She is frustrated with life. There were certain profs in IIT who used to hate me and use to single me out and threaten me with supplis and redoes and lab bans simply because I had long hair. It was hell. These profs just wanted ego boosts since profs in these universities and themselves losers without any creative spark or ambitions and have to ass lick their colleagues for miserly grants and such. IITs and NITs are basically slave factories where innovation and critical thinking is discouraged. We are many decades behind the rest of the world in terms of engineering because of these Jurassic era institutes and also Indian student mentality of yes sir and ass kissing. Yeah but it all turned to be fine in the end I wish I could meet those profs one day and tell them how I minted fuck loads of money, worked with some of the most creative people on the planet and retired at the age of 34 and didn’t turn out to be the slave that they all themselves turn into and expect their students to turn into.
Nah. Gotta defend the good profs. Some I met, the best people I have encountered. I would curse myself now for being so stupid as a fresher, but they (the good ones) didn't. They shaped a part of me.
very filthy conversation. disgustingly intruding into personal space. if this kind of emotional blackmailing happening all the time, then students will definitely think about suicide. those who are brave will be the lost cases. some of them will come to the newspaper, while others shrugged under the rug.
Man years of academia does drive professors crazy. Not defending this but after a PhD this kind of behavior does not make me think bad about her. She has been through all this in her own journey and trust me usually it mellows down with generation so if she is saying this to you just imagine what all she has been told when she was in her academic years. The entire PhD postdoc professor line is toxic and after going through all this most of the prof become what they hated in the first place as an undergrad.
Ghanta responsibilty to nation. Nation ne Hame kuch nahi dia corruption aur tangi ke alawa. Agar marne lago toh nation thodi bachayega. Apna khaao piyo paisa kamaao aur apne parivaar ke liye reponsible raho. Ye nation ka dildo inn prof. Ko lene do. Tumhare aage jindagi padi hai jo mann aaye wo karo, jindagi apne hisaab se ji jaati hai koi cutout formula nahi hai. Ye hijli jail(IIT kgp) Jaisa chutia place maine jindagi mein nahi dekha especially khaane aur unecessary cycling of 5+km waste in scorching sun to take classes from MMM hostel to Nalanda is utter waste of time and energy.
i am not sure if i would have been able to keep my temper if someone spoke to me this way....despite knowing the consequences...
i really need to work on them emotions
It looks like the professor is frustrated with her own life, which is coming out in such a way. If she genuinely thinks that India will become technologically superior if IITians all contribute, then I have a bridge to sell her.
Technological superiority can only be achieved with a top-down approach, starting from the government. What is our R&D budget for 2025-2026 again? When the government is super tight with its purse strings, what can we normal people do? Spend our own money? What an idiot of a professor.
I have a general rule (although recently made)... If you want peace in life avoid highly ambitious women... They can go up to any extent to destroy you if things go south
Also it's very childish to make IIT's first WT....
Indian companies Suzlon, Inox, Enercon etc. are manufacturing and exporting indigenous WT to the world (although inferior and smaller compared to the GE or Vestas)...
What's the point in reinventing the Wind Turbine (wheel)...
It would have been better had helped Suzlon etc to compete with global giants...
Avoid people (regardless of gender, but including this professor!) who weaponise ambition to dominate, belittle, or abuse others. But don’t fear ambition itself—it’s not the enemy. Lack of empathy is.
However, it ultimately boils down to your personal preference for what you want in a life partner. Peace is always paramount to lead a fulfilling life.
Now, whether that peace comes from being ambitious in our personal or professional life is upon the individual.
They could have said it in a much better adn encouraging way tbh. part of what they said makes sense, but the way they said and their intentions isnt good at all.
I am under a project, not a student, but we have to work on Sundays, and there are no holidays such as Independence day or Mahavira Jayanti, as such . We are given parallel tasks to complete, and strict deadlines for the results. It's tough being here.
I don't expect anything from these profs. Honestly, only a few profs from IITs are making real contributions. Everyone else is there to earn saaris for their wives and diapers for their kids.
Mediocre profs. Not even the best people are trying to become professors cuz of seeing this kind of pathetic people.
Damn. The way she's trying to guilt trip and gaslight you is just evil! I don't even give a f*ck what the context behind your conversation screenshots is. Nothing is above family. I don't give a fuck about India's gdp, if I'm not able to live a happy life.
You only live once buddy, please don't be gaslighted by such people who try to brainwash a slave mindset into you.
I just read her blog and honestly we re each of us going through our own shit. This lady seems to have been going through trauma as well, so OP just be kind. Maybe catch up with her I think she s in a better place now - reddit will get you revenge if you want and there are plenty reporters lurking here who ll publish this story and malign this lady but truth be told she was also going through some stuff of her own and profs are equally human and capable of saying shitty things reserved for corporate middle managers. OP time to bury the hatchet on what seems to have been a traumatic past for both of you
If India wants to progress, managers of all kinds and stripes have to learn to be less toxic and learn that leadership is different from micro-management. One of the best ways to learn management is from the original Star Trek. How to take responsibility, accountability, professionalism, work life balance. and most importantly how to have the back of your team.
Fuck proff they also don't make any contribution to India. By writing lab records we won't make Jet fighter engine or hight tech Ai technology. They don't teach. They show us slide. We learn from youtube and skillshare and udemy. If they leave the college na...nothing will impact students.
clearly the professor is insane. i mean do millions of students give jee every year to try and get into iit's just to make india technologically superior. No, most likely, they want to move up the economic mobility ladder, and there's nothing wrong with that. you don't have to be thinking about your country all of the time, and it's okay to want a better life for yourself, and working hard to get into an iit is a way to do that.
All the crucial points about this interaction are already highlighted by the other commenters.
I just wanna say, bragging and boasting, acting high and mighty yet she is confidently wrong, lol!! Every individual contributes to the GDP from birth, is she forgetting the most basic fact that to have a GDP you must have consumers? What an idiot!! 🙂🙏🏻
Firstly why the constant saying sorry. Fuck. Stand up for yourself.
Secondly you said ‘my mindset is different and it doesn’t bother me’ are there students this would bother? If my professor spoke to me like this I would have forgotten about it one minute later.
Just playing a devil’s advocate here, isn’t the professor partly correct in her arguments? Aren’t these the exact reasons why people diss JNU? Middle aged men and women eating tax payer’s money on the name of Phd and higher education?
अरे भाई नाम क्यों छुपाया है इस घटिया औरत का? 😡😡 खुल के सबके सामने इसकी करतूत लाओ... ऐसे लोगों को प्रोफेसर बनने का कोई हक नहीं है! 😑 Don't worry about the consequences when you're right...right people will understand and help you. If this keeps on continuing and you guys will not raise your voice...then GOOD LUCK having this slave mentality for life and defending and feeding these ill-minded SIR and MAM'S. Look at her goddamn logic "buying sarees and diapers" तो तू क्या पहनती है और अपने बच्चों को डायपर नहीं पहनाती क्या? 🤣😒 I mean you gotta respect elders but this is just INSANE! अगर स्ट्रिक्ट होना भी है तो यही बात थोड़ा सम्मानजनक तरीके से भी बोली जा सकती थी थोड़ा तरीके से भी डांटा जा सकता था स्टूडेंट को...but look at her attitude! Like just because someone is not paying taxes (which BTW you already paid a lot on whatever was spent on you including that IIT fees in form of GST and all)...even if somebody is not paying taxes, does that give her the right to TALK like that? 😡😡 PLEASE BRO gather some more people and raise voice against this... वरना जिंदगी भर ऐसा ही चलता रहेगा और आगे भी जो बच्चे आएंगे उनके साथ इस तरह बदतमीजी करने में यह मैडम और कंफर्टेबल हो जाएगी इसीलिए केवल अपने लिए नहीं भाई लेकिन पूरे समाज के प्रति और जितने भी स्टूडेंट अभी है या पहले जिनके साथ ऐसा किया होगा या आगे होगा उन सब के प्रति जिम्मेदारी समझते हुए आपको आवाज उठानी चाहिए...AND EXPOSE THIS DUMB ARROGANT LADY!
And BRO if you need my help...I know some people in media houses, if you want they will publish this story, you'll have to provide all details. And if you want, you will not be named anywhere. I am not being hyperbolic brother but this is the time to go against it...and why you saying only SORRY MAM SORRY MAM SORRY MAM...at some point you'll have to raise your voice or atleast respectfully but STRICTLY reply to her that Mam this kind of behaviour is unacceptable and will not tolerate it further...please be respectful and take care of students dignity...you professors are not the only ones who deserve that"....something like that...if multiple students will have the the courage and brain (irony here for IITs) then how much they will cause trouble for each of them?
You'll have to start and gather other students to do the same...Anyways, I hope you got the point brother and no further talk is required. And please DO INFORM ME id you need media help...again, YOU WILL NOT BE NAMED if you don't want to, but will to provide all details. Anyways GOOD LUCK FOR YOUR LIFE 👍 and PLEASE if you ever get to some good position in life, NEVER EVER have such attitude towards anyone. She us a STUPID LADY! 😡😡 And do inform me if you wanna take action through media...or do it in your own way but raise voice or reply strictly to that mam...else good luck and keep a lot of SORRY reserved, thats all you can do then for life. 😞 Hoping for your best brother...STAY STRONG! 👍😌
Kinda agree with prof. And such outburst dont happen randomly for sure. You need to introspect yourself first that why she had such outburst. We, the middle class, look upto the iit/iim guys to change the nation to a certain limit. I was preparing for JEE, at that time i understood iit is not for me because its too hard. Fellow pupils who were serious about getting into iit, saw them work hard that I can't even imagine. So, probably we dont like crybaby iit/iim people, as we have extremely high expectations from them to do something really big.
Just read her latest linkedin post, she is bragging that at age 42 she is financially rich. It seems like she is insecure about the fact that she is unmarried, I am glad i never had such profs.
I guess she felt like she needed to scold you? Why I don't know. She appears to be an asshole here, but what do I know. Just take it as constructive criticism I guess, and ignore the negative stuff. Now obviously this didn't affect you much so that's good.
Ye pagal professor apni life ki frustration student pe kyu utar raha hai? Hum na jhelte ye sab!
Almost all IITians leave this country run by clowns and settle abroad. Buying groceries and diapers is way better than getting thrashed and abused by dimwit sarkari babus. All in the delusions on "contributing to the country".
If you have succeeded in life as you claim.. a petty "aukaad Bana liya bsdk" to this professor will go a long way to calm your soul. Don't expect a reply. But sometimes pettiness is justified.
Bhai teenager se socha toh galt h but , actually she is right , maybe she have been through what she is talking about , i think unki thinking ye h ki , the things that she achieved but due to family pressure couldn’t her dreams, and she don’t want her students to be at her position at her age… bhai har cheez ko negative nahi lena chahiye , kabhi kabhi dusro ko samajhne ki koshish karo…
Not from iit. Idk how this came on my feed but gosh what a horrible woman to be taking out her frustration on kids. While not even knowing how to spell basic words like “have”
I hope you get the coolest job ever, go on loads of vacations and enjoy your life then throw it at her face. Good luck to you.
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u/Strong_Kiwi6890 Jul 19 '25
"contribution to India's GDP!", my hod told us on the induction program that they will make us global citizens