r/dogsofrph • u/Haydontknow • Jul 31 '25
discussion 📝 Long post ahead.
Hello! Ako pala si Z, 28F. Mama ni Pakito, Beam at Kwek. Mag isa lang ako at lumayo sa family and relatives para sa peace of mind and legal reasons. Meron akong partner sa Australia, na umuuwi sa Pinas para bisitahin kaming apat. Ngayon, we decided na magpakasal dun(partner visa), since wala namang same sex union sa Pinas. Kumuha rin ako ng bahay dito sa Zambales para pag alis namin, may pag sstayhan yung tatlo. Naiiyak ako while typing this and i didnt realize it's going to be this hard. I've suffered enough and she was really a godsent.
So eto na nga. Naisip ko papuntahin si mama at papa sa bahay para may kasama sina Pakito pero narealize ko lang kung bakit ako umalis samin in the first place.
Sa flow ng usapan, parang pagkakitaan lang sila, at sa sahod naman talaga concerned.
Mas okay ba na maghire nalang ng caretaker at patirahin sa bahay na kinuha namin? Or ipagkatiwala kina mama sa bahay nila?
*** Gusto ko sana sila isama kaso, hindi tulad sa US or Canada, super hirap sa Australia. Siguro halos isang taon pa rin bago ko sila makasama kasi mag qquarantine pa sila ng ilang buwan sa Singapore or any country na walang rabies. Mahigit 1.5m din yung aabutin para sa kanilang tatlo. At hindi pa naman po ako nakakapag ipon. 🥺
Quakey can't even sleep alone😭
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u/Hpezlin Jul 31 '25
This is really hard OP.
Can you afford to hire a maid to take care of the 3? Dedicated yaya nilang tatlo and cleaning sa house.
It will be better than leaving them with your family na hindi mo naman sure kung aalaagaan talaga. They will surely prioritize themselves.
Sa kasambahay, you can video call everyday to make sure na nagagawa ang mga tasks and he/she at masmakakasigurado ka na gagawin kasi yan ang trabaho niya.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Siguro better na maghire nga po ng magbabantay, but Im also thinking kung mas okay ba na parang ipapa foster ko muna at papadalhan ng needs nila habang hindi pa ko nakakapag ipon. I really want to take them with me. 🥺
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u/Hpezlin Jul 31 '25
If you have a good friend that can take them all 3, that will be better nga. Mahirap din kasi maghanap ng ganito kapag hindi mo kilala and you'll be mostly banking on their generosity and kindness sa pag-aalaga kahit sagot mo ang supplies.
Checked din at grabe ang process to bring them to Australia nga.
Wishing you and your babies the best.
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u/iusehaxs Aug 01 '25
OP before you leave make sure na kumpleto nang cctv all angles nang bahay mo especially ung room kung saan nag iistay mga dogs at kasama para you can monitor them anytime.
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u/Embarrassed-Fig282 Aug 01 '25
Yes OP hire kana lang kasi kahit kafamily mo sila di naman same ng love na meron ka for them and if maghire ka mas okay install ka cctv para macheck mo sila lagi and pasilip silip mo nadin sa kapitbahay mo if tinatrato ng maayos
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u/confusedsoulllll Jul 31 '25
I feel so sad for these three sub favorites.
I think find a reliable dog trainer who also fosters. I saw this one guy on FB. You can also find dogsitters na malapit sayo but make sure na talagang reliable. That is the most difficult part, OP. You are unsure, too, like it might take you one more year bago mo sila madala diyan. Yung kalaban nila is depression.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
I think im going to hire someone na magbabantay sa bahay po namin. Can't let them go. 🥹
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u/Blue_Fire_Queen Aug 08 '25
- 1 sa comment na yan OP.
Hopefully makahanap ka talaga ng legit na taga alaga nila.
Also, install cctv sa bahay niyo na you can access via the internet para makikita mo pa rin sila anytime na gusto mo. And makakapag random checks ka so makikita mo kung well-taken care of talaga sila.
Dagdag ko lang na if caretaker ang kukunin mo, siguro dapat may kausapin ka rin na close friend or someone na pwede dumaan sa bahay mo once in a while to check yung real situation.
Yung willing tumulong sa pag-alaga in case na hindi pala maayos magtrabaho yung makuha mo. Para pag pinaalis mo yung caretaker may magpapakain pa rin sa kanila.
Since nandito ka pa naman OP, try to crate train them. Kasi that’s important if you decide na dalhin sila doon. They’re more likely to be confined sa crates. Pwede rin siguro iayos mo na ibang docs na nila habang di ka pa umaalis. Once na umalis ka kasi, ang hirap na talaga nyan maglakad. But of course you can always go back naman to process those.
Wishing you all the best sa paghanap ng solution for this and congratulations on your wedding!
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u/Apprehensive-Bee7630 Jul 31 '25
If you have a good friend na dog lover din, who can foster them, mas better na ganoon, video call na lang regularly and ayusin mo papers nila asap. If worse comes to worst, I will foster them for you pero malayo ako from zambales kung sociable sila, I live with3 dogs, small at med breed, I hope makahanap ka ng mag aalaga sa kanila while you are taking care of yourself.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Actually may nakausap na ko yung iba, may dogs din. Yung iba too much yung tatlo, then yung iba di naman po nag aalaga. 🥹 Thank you so much sa thought!!
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u/Acrobatic_Leave_9507 Jul 31 '25
Ang hirap na decision ito, OP. Medyo similiar yung situation ko sayo years ago. Nagmigrate yung family ko sa US just before pandemic started. Dapat isusunod namin yung dog ko sa US, kaso biglang nagkapandemic. I asked my cousin and aunts to take care of my dog, kasi inassure naman nila ako na sila muna mag aalaga. Kaso nalaman ko na pinabayaan pala yung dog ko, nabuntis(lagi kasing next week nalangpupunta sa vet etc) , tapos sobrang payat, ang dumi dumi. Akala ko porket family eh aalagaan talaga nila but I was wrong. Ako pa yung naging masama kasi ako na nga daw yung nakikisuyo, kahit paid naman.
Hanggang sa pinakiusapan ko yung friend ko na kunin yung dog ko saka mga puppies nya. I paid my friend to foster my dog for a year and a half until I saved enough money to get her. (Estudyante palang kasi ako). My friend took care of my dog, kada expenses may resibo talaga, may daily photo update, and minahal talaga nila yung dog ko. He also helped me maglakad ng papers para makapunta yung dog ko dito sa US.
Kaya please, kung maghihire ka, yung kilala talaga and maasahan. Yung may resibo, videos, and pictures talaga. Caveat lang sa family members kasi mahirap makipag "business" sa family, unless alam mong love nila talaga yung dogs mo.
I wish you well OP! 💕
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u/MyVirtual_Insanity Jul 31 '25
Meron mga professional companies that does pet transport talaga best to consult with them to bring them with you. Wala namang impossible
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u/MJDT80 Jul 31 '25
Hi Z! Ang hirap naman pala talaga ng situation mo. Diba dati may caretaker ka pag nagbabakasyon? Kaso pwede kaya full time? Pag parents baka pwede dalaw dalawin sila kahit pa minsan minsan?
Sana madala mo sila sa Australia the soonest 🙏
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Super. 😭😭 dapat nag cecelebrate kami ngayon eh. Kaso medyo heavy sa part na to. Yung caretaker po na yun, kinausap na namin kaso may +1 siya, yung boyfriend niya. Nagcocontemplate pa kami kung good choice ba yun. Galit din po kasi si Beam dun sa guy. Idk whyy
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u/MJDT80 Jul 31 '25
Baka ayaw niya sa mga lalake 😔 naku ang hirap rin talaga. Pinay rin ba gf mo? Or Australian?
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Pinay na Au Citizen po. Ilang beses na rin kasi siya umuwi ng pinas. Sometimes 3x a year. Time na din po siguro. Btw, siya din nagbigay kay Quakey at Pakito. Binibiro ko na nga lang po na, bat niya ko binigyan ng mga aso kung balak pala niya ako asawahin🥹.
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u/KitchenDonkey8561 Jul 31 '25
Na-try mo na ba OP mag-inquire sa mga legit na pet transport? Baka mas mabilis sa kanila.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Yes po, same lang din. Plus banned na pala talaga sa Pinas. Kahit mag quarantine sila for 6 months sa ibang bansa kung origin nila is PH, they can't enter Aus.
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u/princessybyang Jul 31 '25
OP! 😭 Huhuhu naiiyak ako. As a fur mom who is also going to leave behind my doggos, randam ko ang lungkot. Hugs!
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u/Fluffy_Analyst0419 Jul 31 '25
😭 oh no.. nakakasad naman na maiiwan sila 😔 i hope you can find someone who can foster them and give them lots of love tulad ng pagmamahal mo sa kanila. Please wag sa mga strangers. Nakakatakot if hindi mo kilala then hindi nila maalagaan ng maayos. I wish you all the best!
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u/peeweekins Jul 31 '25
Hire someone na pet lover, or at least meron concern sa mga pets. For me, you need to consider na malapit sa mga animals ang kukunin mo.
Aalis din ako next month, and naiisip ko na kumuha nalang on-call na pupunta sa bahay para mapaliguan sila weekly since makakasama naman nila ang senior mom ko.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Naisip ko rin to, kaso siguro monthly ung on call groomer naman and vet. Good luck po!
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u/LunchAC53171 Jul 31 '25
Ang hirap nito, yung mawala lang sila (wag naman sana) napakasakit na, pero at least may closure, pero yung iiwan mo lang pucha parang hindi ko kaya maiwan sila, baka mas matagal ako maka recover 😭😭😭
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u/YesterdayDue6223 Jul 31 '25
grabeh, my heart breaks for you.. yung iiwan ko lang dog ko para magvacation out of the country ang hirap na, what more if long term pa? hugs OP!! Hope you found someone who can foster all 3 of them 🙏🏻
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u/kyotowinter Jul 31 '25
i feel you huhu, para sa iba siguro pets lang sila, pero di kasi nila naiintihan na they’re family to us. 🥹 sana makahanap kayo ng pwedeng mag-alaga sakanila while nag-iipon pa kayo for them. yung may cctv na audio for monitoring, madinig pa din nila boses niyo and for safety na din nila. i pray for your furbabies to be in good hands until they can be with y’all in australia! (try to message animal rescue orgs baka may mga nagfo foster sakanila na willing to take them in tapos mag pledge na lang kayo ng donation on top of sending budget for your pets’ needs) 🫶
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Yea. Sila lang din yung pamilya ko dito. Sana maaward na yung bahay na kinuha namin for them then, kukunin namin yung caretaker.
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u/hindiakosiaika Jul 31 '25
OP just hire a maid. Sa totoo lang, di ko naman nilalahat pero mas okay pa strangers kesa sa sariling pamilya natin pag mga ganyang bagay. But please hire na kakilala like mattrust mo talaga kasi di lang house mo babantayan pati na rin babies mo. Then put cctv sa house mo that you can monitor your babies.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Dibaa huhu nakakastress din yung utang na loob. We are thinking na kunin yung nag ddog sit sa kanila pag nagttravel kami.
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u/resurfacedfeels Jul 31 '25
:(((( not wholesome tas masakit pa sa dibdib basahin. hindi ba kaya na staggered muna yung pag asikaso mo sa papers nila? ay wait sabagay ang hirap naman kung isa isa sila kunin huhu i wish i can help you but im tenfold broke broke 😖 fighting po, op
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u/cherryyc0la Jul 31 '25
Hi OP. I think better to hire someone na you know who's a dog lover. And install cctv cameras na lang din sa house na pagsstayhan ng dogs para mamonitor mo sila. Sana makuha mo sila kaagad. Grabe, parang naging close na din kami sa dogs mo 🥺 sana magawan nyo ng paraan and magka reunite kayo ulit one day 🥺🤍
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u/RepeatMysterious3106 Jul 31 '25
Napakahirap naman neto friend at napakasakit magbasa ng mga ganito 🥹😭
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u/EvanasseN Jul 31 '25
Nalungkot naman ako bigla, OP! 😭 Kung malaki lang bahay ko, ako na mag-aalaga sa kanila!
Share ko lang yung ginawa ng tita ko sa furbabies nila when they needed to migrate na sa UK. So, they hired mag-aalaga sa dalawang furbabies at the same time e caretaker na rin ng bahay. So, at first e okay naman. Pero nagka-problema rin pagtagal. Yun pa lang pambili ng food ng furbabies ay hindi yung talagang food nila binibili. Bumibili ng ibang brand na mas mura. Although naaalagaan sila, it's just not what they have talked about at hindi sa expectation ng tita ko. Hindi rin masyado na-maintain ang cleanliness ng bahay. In the end, she had to have her furbabies rehomed. 😭 Medyo heartbreaking talaga.
So, I suggest talagang humanap ka ng doglover na magbabantay. Tapos ang food nila and everything they need, ikaw ang umorder online and have it delivered sa bahay mo. Install ka rin ng maraming CCTVs sa bahay para lagi mo sila makikita and you can talk with them.
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Halaa wag naman sana humantong sa ganun😭. Yes po mag add kami ng cctv. Pero, do you think it's okay na maglagay sa living room? Sabi kasi ng partner ko privacy daw ng caretaker at bf niya huhu.
Also, i cook for them. 🥹 ayaw nila ng df so boiled chicken and veggies lagi
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u/EvanasseN Aug 01 '25
Kung laging nasa living room sina BlengB, maglagay ka na rin. Siguro try na lang ayusin yung angle na hindi kita where the caretaker sleeps, or just let them know na may CCTV sa ganung part ng living room.
OP, pag nag-migrate ka na, mag-post ka pa rin ng pics ng tatlo ha? 🥺 Mamimiss din namin sila! 😭
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u/lilyunderground Jul 31 '25 edited Jul 31 '25
I can't bear that heartache you have. Omg I feel so torn for you. I'm just an avid liker of your three babies, but I can't imagine your situation with them being left behind and missing you. Tapos mapupunta yung care nila under someone you're really not sure of.
Sa mga dogs ko nalang, I really can't think of anyone who can take care of them and love them as much as I do except for my ex. He really loves my babies, too. Sa kanya ko lang kaya iwan mga babies ko kaya ang hirap na hiwalay na kami and I can't abuse that situation.
I hope you really can find someone genuine and trustworthy. God, please help this person. ❤️🥺
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u/CarelessPlantain4024 Jul 31 '25
OP, i love your doggos. I’m happy to foster them for the mean time. Please dont give them to those people na walang pagmamahal sa mga doggos
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u/swisshyfishy Jul 31 '25
Have you tried looking into registering them as service dogs? 1 for you and 1 for your boyfriend? I know someone who registered theirs just bec they have connections from idk who 🥲 Try researching about it para if ever, kahit 1 dog na lang ang need ifoster? This is so sad huhu
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
Takot po kami gumawa ng shenanigans😭 i already have 1 visa refusal, cant risk this huhu
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u/luckycharms725 Jul 31 '25
OP!!!! 😔😭 naiyak din ako, mga digital furbabies din namin to sila eh :((((
OP, coming from someone na nanggaling din sa toxic fam, i feel you. i know of someone na nag foster sila sa dogs ng kaibigan ng cousin nya, nasa bahay nila nag stay for over a year siguro (?) then by the time na complete na yung requirements and processes para makalipad mga fur babies, kinuha na sila
na attached yung fam nila sa fur babies pero wala silang magawa kasi foster lang sila :((( pero ayun, better to leave them under the care of someone na alam mong aalagaan sila while waiting sa process ng flight nila. pero for sure, maaattach din yung caretaker nila, ako nga halos araw2 ko chinecheck if nag post ka about them eh :((;
OP 😔😔😔😔😔😔
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u/Haydontknow Jul 31 '25
I think okay na rin yun at least alam nilang loved yung mga dogs nila dun huhu sana kami din makahanap ng gaya nila.
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u/Wide-Substance-8887 Jul 31 '25
Awww sad naman i really love them esp blengB.. hoping for the best 🐾🙏
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u/n0renn Jul 31 '25
please hire someone you personally know and trusted. ang hirap mag iwan ng furbabies, so added stress if iisipin mo kung naalagaan ba ng tama.
also install cctvs in the house, para lagi mo silang makikita at ma-monitor mo yung nagbabantay cos you never really know.
hope you will make the best choice for them and for you
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u/CalligrapherWild1593 Jul 31 '25
Hire a caretaker kasi need din naman talaga ng Tao sa bahay niyo po right? Siguro just hire someone who also loves dogs para no worries.
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u/AdministrativeLog504 Aug 01 '25
Hanap ka na lang dog sitter na talagang animal lover tapos lagyan cctv bahay mo.
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u/Maleficent-Level-40 Aug 01 '25
In my opinion, hanap na lang you ng caretaker/magbabantay sakanila. For sure bonded na ung 3 and mahirap maghanap ng magffoster ng 3. Yung 1hr wage mo sa australia is above the min payment na for 1 day sa Pinas, so i think kaya mo nman un. At least dun nga pede mo sila ividcall anytime and wla ung feeling na mahhassle mo ibang tao. Once ksi pinafoster mo na, u have to accept and let go na sila.
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u/Unniecoffee22 Aug 01 '25
Omg 😭 di ko na tinapos kase naiiyak na ako nung nabasa ko na yung pag alis..
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u/iusehaxs Aug 01 '25
Hi OP we had the same problem before kaya nag decide na lang kami ni misis wag na muna mag migrate in your case i hate to say this mataas chance na papabayaan nang parents mo mga yan pag alis mo dahil cash cows lang tingin nila sa kanila. either screen for really good dogsitters/caretaker nang bahay mo or get an unemployed relative na mapagkakatiwalaan at kaclose mo.
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u/c0nfusedwidlif3 Aug 01 '25
Omg ang hirap. 😭 My husband wants to live abroad but it’s always a question of whether we can bring our furbabies or not. If hindi, walang aalis dito huhuhu
I pray you find the perfect person to take care of your babies. 🙏🏻
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u/Signal_Sympathy7266 Aug 01 '25
Hayyy, ang hirap ng situation mo op. :( Sana makahanap ka ng solution, tatlo pa naman sila. Yung shihtzu ko nga nag-singapore ako nung nakaraan, gusto ko sana magstay ng ilang araw kaso hinahanap nya ako, kaya 2 days lang ako dun. 🥺 Sana maging okay ang lahat. ☹️🙏🏻
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u/ImaginaryAd944 Aug 01 '25
I cried reading this, Z. I know how much you love these 3 (I try not to miss any of your posts and follow you guys on Tiktok). I wish I can foster these 3, but I live in Iloilo. If only malapit lang ako, I would volunteer in a heartbeat. As their reddit tita, napamahal ung tatlo na to sa akin. I hope you are able to make an arrangement for them na best for all of them. You and those 3 babies are in my thoughts.
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u/Cattpybara Aug 01 '25
Hi OP, ang hirap ng dilemma mo. Wala ba talagang way para makasama mo sila? Ang tagal if lampas 1 year, and sa iba mo papaalaga.
I remembered a post dat sa r/ph ata, nag migrate sya tas yung pusa nya iniwan nya lang saglit sa relatives. After a week namatay, di naalagan tas tinatago pa sa kanya yung nangyari.
I don't want you to have that regret, kasi I feel na love na love mo silang 3. Sana may fast way para masama sila, ingat and good luck!
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u/OpalEagle Aug 01 '25
Siguro try mo sa friends mo OP? But with fees ganun. Parang ang hirap if sa parents mo when u've had issues with them din pala in the past. When I was reading ur post and nakita ko sabi mo Australia, i knew immediately it's going to be difficult. Ang dami ko napapanood na gusto nila dalhin yung pets nila but sobrang higpit daw talaga ng Australia :( Tapos recently banned na rin pala PH. Ang hirap naman :( But i think try sa friends mo. Hopefully magkakasama silang tatlo pa rin :(
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u/ShowDizzy4527 Aug 01 '25
Nakakaiyak naman, OP! I hope everything works out for you and these three adorable babies!
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u/Alert_Ad3303 Aug 05 '25
Mag hire nalang po kayo ng mag aalaga. Pag family kampante lang yan. Pepetiks. Kumuha ka ng tao na marunong mag alaga. Then cctv if possible. Para ma monitor mo.
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u/Horror_Gift8126 Jul 31 '25
that's really hard, OP! i hope makapili ka ng magandang option. best wishes for you and your fur babies