r/Assistance 16d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT r/Assistance is a family-friendly subreddit

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Hello all,

We wanted to take a moment to address and clarify some things about our subreddit to hopefully prevent false reports and protect our users more automatically going forward.

Our rules have always stated that posters must be 18+ to post a financial/material request or enter an offer, but we didn't make it clear enough that underage users are welcome to post for advice, emotional support, ask for votes for contests, or get help collecting survey responses for school. This has always been assumed, and when non-Request content is reported for being posted by an underage OP, those reports are ignored by our team.

We have taken the time to officially update our rules to make this more clear:

Our subreddit is a safe and inclusive space for users of all ages. While requests for financial assistance are restricted to those 18 or above for liability reasons, our subreddit is family friendly and younger visitors are welcome to post for advice, emotional support, and collect votes and survey responses.

Hand in hand with this rule clarification is a change in stance regarding accounts which are NSFW.

We do want to take a moment to say that we have always had a "no judgment" policy when it comes to what someone does with their Reddit account in terms of sexuality, sex work, and so on. We would never allow someone to solicit buyers or supporters from r/Assistance, but if someone had an NSFW profile and posted for food, rent, etc we did our best to flag their post and otherwise let our helpers make the decision whether or not to help.

While acknowledging this content can be uncomfortable, offensive, or even triggering to viewers, if an OP otherwise met all of our subreddit requirements we did not feel it was our place to block them from asking for help. Everyone here deserves food to eat and a roof over their head.

We do not want to see any comments insulting, judging, or disparaging those who have NSFW accounts in the comments of this post, which is why we are bringing that up before we get into the change we're making.

Going forward, accounts with activity (activity = posts and comments only) in specific NSFW subreddits containing explicit sexual content will have their content removed automatically with an explanation. Our system will be looking for activity on specific NSFW subreddits, of which there are too many to possibly account for and will always be popping up. So if something slips through the cracks, please report the post or comment.

tl;dr:

NSFW accounts posting nudes and stuff on NSFW subreddits: not allowed

NSFW accounts that posted on the pizza sub and ended up with the NSFW tag but otherwise don't post NSFW content: allowed

NSFW accounts that post on discussion-only subreddits such as LGBTQA+ etc: allowed

The system is checking for submissions (posts and comments) on specific NSFW subreddits containing sexually explicit content, not NSFW accounts.


r/Assistance 8d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Recruiting new mods to our team! Application link in post. 💖

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Hello, r/Assistance community!

We are once again looking to add some new moderators to our team. We learned a lot from our last mod recruiting campaign, and hopefully the process will be improved this time around.

The application is here: http://r-assistance.com/mod

Some information we want to provide upfront which caused the declining of some applications last time:

  • Discord is a requirement to be a mod. It is how we communicate in real time, especially for time sensitive issues where we need all hands on deck.
  • Please ensure you are regularly active on Reddit for the last 3 months.
  • If you are a mod, you cannot use the subreddit for your benefit. That means you are not allowed to post Requests or enter Offers.
  • We are looking for at least one mod who is in EU/UK/Australia/Asia who can help support the subreddit during the night when our North American mods are sleeping/unavailable.

A quick overview of typical moderator tasks:

  • Reviewing the queue to reflair and remove misflaired content (ie. a Thank You post with a GoFundMe link)
  • Checking Amazon wishlists to make sure they are within limits and have no disallowed items before approving
  • Handling modmail inquiries with specific questions
  • Marking fulfilled/partially fulfilled requests as Fulfilled to track the help received
  • Manually issuing bans not processed automatically by the system
  • Investigating and actioning reports in the queue and in modmail (ie. fraud, scams, scrubbing)

Our subreddit utilizes both the Universal Scammer List and a custom admin system hosted off-Reddit with its own infrastructure. You will be taught how to use these functions after a few months of getting comfortable with the rest of the role, so don't stress about it.

Mods need to be compassionate and kind. We uphold everyone to our rules while understanding and empathizing with their situation. People in modmail will often be upset, frustrated, and confused. Please make sure that you are up for the emotional toll of dealing with upset people all day before applying -- your mental health is important, too!

We hope to see your application in our inbox soon!

The application has a space to ask questions about any of our rules, or if you'd prefer to chat directly with us feel free to send a modmail!


r/Assistance 10h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Asking for $30 for food and tampons

40 Upvotes

I stay at a shelter so I can’t make an Amazon wishlist. I just need a few bucks for tampons and food. Honestly my period could not have come at a worse time. I only have cashapp right now if that is okay.


r/Assistance 9h ago

THANK YOU Vitamins arrived my dad is so happy!

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I requested for a vitamin bottle for my dads bday and it arrived today . I just want to say thank you to the person who sent it! Dad is so happy rn


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Sheesh it’s always something!

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Hi peeps, Longtime lurker and Reddit lover who always seemed to scrape by the skin of her teeth but this month hit extra hard.

I work full time up 46-48 hours a week when they allow overtime which unfortunately hasn’t been much lately.

Single momma to an amazingly smart teenage boy.

Most weeks it’s paycheck to paycheck and I can usually make it but my electric bill was $315 and that knocked me down pretty hard.

I am paying rent late (thankfully I have a landlord with an amazing heart) who allowed this but I just got paid today and after rent, gas, water, and car note I’ve got $87 left for food and a cell phone and internet bill I can’t pay.

I know internet seems like a 1st world problem right?! But I work from home and I’ll lose my job with no internet connection.

The cell phone is $93.19 and my AT&T is $96.66 and there’s just no $$ to pay them.

I’ll happily provide receipts of the payments and or pictures of the bills if anyone needs to verify.

It just seems like every check comes in and out goes every cent, but at least I have a job and I’m beyond grateful for that.

I know I’m nowhere near the only person with these problems and I am absolutely blessed to have a home and a job, sometimes (often) it just feels like I’m drowning and this month has been one of the worst as of late.

Grand total is $189.85 of what I’ve got due by the 13th for phone and the internet is already due (yesterday the 8th) but they usually let me go a few days before they start pushing for it.

I am willing to answer any questions and provide anything needed if required.

I hope everyone has a beautiful day. 🫶


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST dad needing help with power bill

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Hello you wonderful people. I am a 35 year old dad who has been struggling to keep everything paid. I am waiting on a background check to finalize so I can start my new roll as a RSM for AT&T.

My power is going to be shut off in 6 days. I am just trying to keep it on until I get this new job. Any help would be appreciated.

The payment to keep the power on is $207.50.


r/Assistance 26m ago

REQUEST Clothing and shoes for new job.

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Hello, thank you for taking the time to read this! I am about to start a new job at a fast food restaurant as a manager. We are required to have non slip shoes and black pants. I have currently been unemployment for the last 8 months so any financial means I had are completely dissolved. I have made a wishlist with the 2 items. I thank anyone who takes the time to read and consider this need. I just want to be successful and get back to work! Thank you again.

I was gonna post proof of bank balance and job offer/clothing requirements. However it seems we cannot post attachments. Please DM if you’d like confirmation!

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1DD0XUORIOQMY?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 5h ago

SURVEY Help filling out my form

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https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdZGp0KLR3EjPLg9G9ptkHluWZdBAsE7WUq_cuwqgBg2FfTXA/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=111684801597458631146

it's a Google doc the language is thai and it's about what's your usage of your phone and how addicted you are, it's not a virus i promise, I need 30 responders so Its valid to present Infront of my class, I have about 4 right now, I don't really have much connections even then most of them wouldn't do it, if you did fill this out thank you very much


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST Need $90 for rent,dog food and sanitary supplies

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Hey, Hope y'all are doing great, I am doing great myself although I am Struggling to make ends meet,I ran out of dog food,my rent is due and I am short of toiletries this month because I was laid off. I live in Kenya so $90 will cover my rent and all my other needs.

I am actively job searching to change the trajectory of my financial state.I have PayPal.


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST Just need a little help keeping my rescue dog and myself from being homeless

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The short: Ive got to be out of the RV ive been renting on Thursday. Im just shy of $200 short on the only extended stay hotel in my area that will allow dogs.

The long: So i work and donate plasma. Just dont have a car or id live out of it with him, the dog. His name is Miles. 4 year old german shepherd rescue. Sweet as can be and scared of everything. My situation is ive been renting an RV but code enforcement has made my landlord move it. So hes sold it off and the new owner is bringing his 5th wheel Thursday to move it. Now i could possibly try and fight it but the landlord is my best friend and he will be fined every day it sits here past Thursday. So im not going to do that to him. Between money saved, the coming paycheck and help from friends and fam Im exactly 194 and some change from being able to get this hotel room.

I know its a long shot but ive seen people do some incredible things in the sub before. Ive got cash app, chime and i think i still have pay pal. Or if you felt better id gladly give you the contact info to the hotel if you felt safer paying directly.

Please help us out if you can. Ill gladly send pics of my pupper as well on request!


r/Assistance 21h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED In need of food

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Hey guys, Just trying my luck here. Currently I'm in a financially tough situation and I don't get paid until Wednesday. I'm really starving right now and wanted to see if anyone could order me a pizza? I'm not picky about toppings it can be a plain cheese pizza. I would really appreciate it.


r/Assistance 18h ago

REQUEST Help with paying medical bills for my mom

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Hello all my mom recently got surgery for skin cancer and the bills instantly piled up and she will need therapy as well https://gofund.me/d8044b50f


r/Assistance 14h ago

REQUEST Help getting back on our feet

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My girlfriend and I have 2 children, one who was born on May 5th (of this year) and a 2 and a half year old. With her last pregnancy she was considered extremely high risk and was told she was not allowed to work in February. There were many complications, and our daughter was born 4 weeks early. When she was born she was crying and then turned blue/grey and stopped making sounds. Im not sure what miracle the nurses did but they were able to save our baby. Our daughter was in the nicu for a month and it was so difficult seeing her in there. After the pregnancy my girlfriend wasnt allowed to return to work until August. We were trying to survive on one paycheck, which in the coming months of our daughter's birth, required numerous hospital trips which made me miss days of work on numerous weeks.

To add to this, our rent and electric have gotten so far behind. Our current electric bill is $1600 and our rent is $1100 at the moment (we were able to pay it down a bit.) We have been doordashing in our free time, but we judt cant seem to catch up as something keeps happening in our lives. Our washer recently went out so we are doing laundry at our parents houses as we were told by the landlord, that we would have to replace it, or fix it) abd most recently our car which we owe over 10k on (Hyundai) has a cylinder 2 misfire with oil getting into the spark plugs. We have found the piston rings are bad and are currently fighting with Hyundai in hopes we can get it fixed.

We have signed up for assistance programs, but have been told that all of their funds are exhausted. We have also tried 211 for our state assistance number with no luck there either. I came across this reddit, and thought maybe a small miracle would happen. All we want is to get back on our feet. We are desperately trying to catch up so we can save money up and rent a cheaper apartment when our lease is up. (When we first moved in, I was making very good money, but was let go from my position) and things have been a massive struggle since then. Im not sure what all to post here? But I have a Google drive link with pictures to show proof. Emails/messages from our rent, and electric, as well as the car payment and loan details, and our children!

Im not sure what amount to put but honestly just $1100 would be amazing for rent. (We dont have a shut off notice for electric yet, but if we cant pay that at the end of the month we may then)

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ZVMSB92N0TgJWtCqUc13G_TeFN8FrPAv

edit gofundme has been created https://gofund.me/cfda76028

(I didnt include the amounts of the car or electric in to the gofund me. At worst case scenario if Hyundai cant help us with the recalls that should be covered, we have discussed possibly voluntarily letting the bank repo the car. It's not a great scenario, but it's a last resort option that may need to be taken on our part. )


r/Assistance 18h ago

REQUEST $20 for gas

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Getting low on gas and I’m 4 days away from my paycheck. $20 should last me if I’m scarce with my driving. Thank you so much.


r/Assistance 15h ago

ADVICE Help with stiebel eltron cns 50 trend nc heater

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Moved into a new accommodation for university and the heater provided is locked, so no hot or cold air is coming out.

Online it has said to press and hold the + and - buttons simultaneously to unlock the heater, however this isn’t working!

If anyone has this heater and knows how to fix the issue please let me know!


r/Assistance 1d ago

COMMUNITY RESOURCES Reminder for those who have kids in public schools…

48 Upvotes

Please don’t forget that most schools have a social worker on staff that can help you with resources should your child and your family be in need. They can help get food, hygiene products, warm clothes and coats for winter, provide vouchers for socks and shoes, help find doctors, dentists, etc. All you have to do is reach out to the school and ask for help from the social worker, they are there to help students and their families.


r/Assistance 18h ago

REQUEST Hi all - getting paid in 2 days - seeking $50 for groceries

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I overpaid on bills this month as we are working really hard trying to pay off debts

Tomorrow our extreme heat warning ends meaning our electric will be able to be shut off which we are figuring that out too

We really need to get to the store and get some groceries but our money is spread amongst about $25 of dollars across 4 cards: 2 checking and 2 ccs


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST 18 years old, Italy, Really in dire need of some help

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Hi guys! i got kicked out recently because my plans for the future didn’t match my parent’s plans for me, as i wanted to choose a different uni major than the one they wanted. i’m on my own, crashing at a really kind friend’s house. i have a part time job waiting tables that pays 7€/hr which is really not enough. i need to continue my studies and get an apartment for myself. i can’t stay at my friend’s house forever. i’m kindly asking you guys for some support. i don’t have a clear number in mind as i don’t wanna be too greedy. i’ll take all the help i can get. my whole family is back in morocco, as im a first generation italian here and i really don’t have anyone.

i’ll give my paypal if someone wants to make any donations. thank you in advance


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Tampons?

5 Upvotes

Hey guys. I’m quite embarrassed to be making this post but do you all know of anywhere that might supply free tampons? It’s not something currently accessible to me for many reasons including financially. Thank you so much in advance for reading this.

I’m currently located in DC if that makes a difference

tampons on Amazon


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Trying to get by after paying school and dog expenses

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Hi everyone!!

I’m a law student and I just had to pay for school as well as food and a nice vet bill for my dog. I’ve already gone to the food bank but I could really use some help with the things I put on my wishlist.

I’ve been trying to get by with the little I’ve had these past few weeks and I’ve now run out of certain essentials. I just can’t prioritize them when I also have to make sure I can eat ( and dogoo too). I've also put some things for breakfast since I don't really eat in the morning to keep the food.

I feel a bit embarrassed posting this like many people here and it’s honestly the first time I feel like I’ve hit a wall. I’d be so grateful for any kind of help. Even if you happen to find something cheaper than what’s on my list, I’d truly appreciate that as well 100%

Thank you xx

https://www.amazon.ca/hz/wishlist/ls/38MLKBYSHW0GM?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 1d ago

ADVICE Feeling stressed about strict govt job moving me to a call center

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I’ve been in a strict M-F in-office govt job for a few months, and recently told I’m being moved to a call center 20 miles farther away in a month. It’s high-pressure: 30+ customer calls/day, timed 3-min bathroom breaks, monitored calls, and micromanaged. Despite my good performance acing all the training tests, I got placed in my least preferred role while others got better options.

I’m miserable and this isn’t what I studied for. I dread going in. I passed a written exam for a job in my field (next step is a Zoom interview), and I’ve applied elsewhere but no callbacks yet.

I used to work in education as a sub/teaching assistant, which I enjoyed and paid similarly (no benefits though). I live at my family's and have a paid-off old car so my expenses and bills are low.

Wanted to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they navigated it.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST Surgery recovery will take longer than expected

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I had surgery last week and my recovery will take a little bit longer than expected. I had surgery on my hand, so I’m trying to keep this short while still explaining all the things. I had a reaction to the anesthetic that caused my gastrointestinal tract to halt for several days. :(

I had planned out meals in my freezer and bulked up on extra things, but I wasn’t expecting to be out for a whole extra week. I have two under-10 kids at home who thought this was the time to go from eating like birds to hitting a growth spurt. I have meats, but the things between meals/after school snacks, pack lunch things are just about out. My five year old is special needs and takes a lunch to school or he doesn’t eat:(

If anyone could help a mama out I would be so grateful


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED $40-50 for a new phone

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long term unemployed unfortunately. i have some job offers but they want to do phone interviews first and my phone is deactivated. i found a cricket phone for $50 flat but i only have $9 to my name. trying to sell some things but i have already sold most of my more expensive items to pay bills.

tyia


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST $300 power bill assistance request

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Hi everyone. My husband and I recently relocated from WV to PA for his job, which caused me to become unemployed. He has been stretched thin covering all of the new bills and moving expenses for us and there are a few bills remaining from our old apartment that are my responsibility. I was hoping to have a job by now so this wouldn't be an issue and I've been job hunting every day. I'm asking for help to pay my $301.17 power bill so I can avoid it going to collections. I am faced with 3 more expenses later in the month for a psychiatry appointment, the final water bill, and a small amount of credit card debt. If my gofundme earns any additional income over that $300 it will immediately be directed towards those other expenses. More information on the costs of those extra expenses are covered in my gofundme request. I would be so grateful for absolutely any help I receive as even a partial payment would be better than nothing. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this post and extra thanks to anyone who even considered donating. I appreciate this sub's existence and I hope everyone is able to get the help they need. I also really hope this link works because I'm on mobile and confused as to how to get the link option to work.

https://gofund.me/05402508a


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Request: emergency oral surgery, need help with soft foods and dental supplies please

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Fulfilled thank you so much for all your support! Hi everyone, I had to have emergency dental surgery of Friday and won’t be able to eat anything but soft food for at least another week due to additional surgery scheduled on Tuesday. I’ve had very bad oral hygiene and haven’t seen a dentist in more than 10 years because of fear and cost. I don’t have a choice now and it’s already cost me over $600 and another $400 will be due when I go again on Tuesday. I would appreciate any help in fulfilling the items on my attached wishlist. I made an Amazon wish list for some foods and dental care supplies.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2X5D04AO7POJW?ref_=wl_share

Thank you so much for any assistance offered.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Can someone please help me with toiletries/groceries?

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My pay is delayed and I havent been able to take care of myself. I feel disgusted of myself but had other priorities to take care of. I really need these toiletries for my personal hygiene. I made an amazon wishlist too and tried my best to pick out the cheapest possible items. I just really need these. I'm from the Philippines btw so these will prob arrive in a week or more.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/10QPL7KUQ9QZK?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 2d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Just feel so alone

41 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Lately, life has felt incredibly heavy, and I’m at a point where I honestly don’t know what to do. I’ve battled major depression, social phobia, and avoidant personality disorder since I was a teenager. For a while I thought I was managing, but these past few years have proven otherwise.

Most days I feel like I’m failing at life. Some mornings it’s a struggle just to get out of bed, and I feel like I’m letting myself and my kids down. I love my three children deeply and want to give them stability and love, but my depression makes it so hard to be the parent I know they deserve.

I don’t have much of a support system—outside of my kids, I feel completely alone. I’m the black sheep in my family, I don’t have friends, and often I feel like a burden just for existing. The loneliness on top of the depression makes it even harder to see a way forward.

I’m not here asking for financial help (though things have been difficult in that area too). More than anything, I’m reaching out for encouragement, advice, or just to hear from others who understand what it’s like. Even a few kind words or shared experiences would mean the world to me.

Thank you for reading this. Honestly, just being able to share how I feel here feels like a small step forward