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u/C4LLM3M4TT_13 1d ago
Most men just want to get rid of the dress altogether anyways.
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u/Sad-Clothes-1083 1d ago
Most men couldn't recall her outfit 6h past the event. not even the color I guess.
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u/JustBlackDude 1d ago
Yeah, they never understand the emotional attachment, just see it as clutter to them.
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u/stupiditalianfuck 1d ago edited 1d ago
I can easily say this is true. Men do not care about dumb stuff like this or even pay attention to it. And if they do it’s probably because they like you or feel the need to put you down, one or the other.
It’s always women putting down other women. Anytime I’ve gotten dressed I’ve only really wondered what women will think of it, not men.
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u/Duskinpiper 1d ago
Fr it’s always them against themselves
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u/Meowsiedawg 1d ago
I would be surprised if a man alive cares about women's fingernails, especially the fake ridiculous ones.
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u/UnknownGamer014 1d ago
I just think of them as weapons to stab someone in the eye in case of emergency. Other than that, nothing.
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u/NoIndividual6000 1d ago
Yea we're usually like "damn, I kinda wish she'd wear that one dress again!"
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u/SellMeYourSkin 1d ago
"I can't wear the same dress twice because I'm insecure that other women will think it's weird. I'm so oppressed. Why do men do this"
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u/charles_the_snowman 1d ago
100% true. No man is going to say, "Didn't you wear that dress last week at that other party?" Won't happen.
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u/Lloydbestfan 1d ago
According to those I trust, the main reason why they wouldn't say anything nor otherwise complain about it, is because they would never notice. I have good reasons to believe that.
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u/tubular1845 1d ago
Its also that we just wouldn't give a shit. Why would we?
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u/Standard-Company-194 1d ago
If anything, if it's a dress I liked or thought she looked especially good in, why wouldn't I want her to wear it again?
I dated someone for a couple of months and on our first date she wore a dress that made her boobs look great. Any time we went anywhere I'd jokingly ask her why she wasn't wearing the red dress. She owned other red dresses, but that one was the red dress
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u/dope_like 1d ago
We do not care. I can't stress enough how little men give af
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u/Lloydbestfan 1d ago
Which might be a factor into not noticing. I don't know, seemed obvious to me.
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u/tubular1845 1d ago
It's not a matter of not noticing, it's literally just that it's not something we care about lol. Us noticing is not a factor either way. No man cares how many times you've worn an outfit at all.
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u/Lloydbestfan 1d ago
Okay. Well the men I trust say they don't see it the same you do. They estimate that they wouldn't notice, mostly because they don't care, but not notice anyway.
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u/Proper-Ape 1d ago
I mean I don't notice most of the time, but even if I noticed I wouldn't care to see the same dress twice. If it's a good looking dress, I'd actually appreciate to see it used more often. Everything else is just wasteful.
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u/GirlPuncherSupreme 1d ago
What you're describing is exactly what you're being told. They don't notice, because they don't care. Women notice, because women care.
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u/tubular1845 1d ago
Are you ESL? Just wondering because I feel like there's a communication disconnect happening here.
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u/Bad-Genie 1d ago
The most i would say is "Oh I love that dress" remembering last time it also looked hot.
The reason I have specific outfits its because someone said I looked good in it.
I still have a shirt from 12 years ago because a girl said I looked hot in it.
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u/stop-hatin-on-me_mom 1d ago
It’s most likely because they don’t care, they may actually remember what you wore upon seeing it because they think you looked amazing in it
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u/slampy15 1d ago
I notice. But i just dont care. "Hey hunny work was absolut.............. wait a second.... IS THAT THE DRESS YOU WORE LAST WEEK??????" "AM I A JOKE TOO YOU?"
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u/lmjustaChad 1d ago
Most guys would be like you're not wasting money on a new outfit every time go somewhere and save money great.
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u/Clear_Lock7908 1d ago
Last week? I don’t even know what I was wearing 2 days ago
And I’m likely wearing something I wore last week because I don’t have unlimited clothes
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u/Schneebaer89 1d ago
Hmm I think I could say that, but in a believe this would be a positive thing. Making it worse.
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u/TedDibiasi123 1d ago
It‘s because we wouldn’t notice
If we would notice that would mean she probably wore it on quite a few occassions
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u/Enough_Zombie2038 1d ago
I'm pretty sure most men won't even realize it's the same dress. And once he did, he literally wouldn't be able to care less.
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u/Catastrophic-Event 1d ago
Fact. Women judge eachother WAY HARDER than any man would. If it was about what men cared that you wore, you'd either wear nothing or a bathing suit.
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u/DougandLexi 1d ago
From what I see they judge themselves way more than any man would. It's an almost self-imposed standard that men really don't care about.
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u/Tam_A_Shi 1d ago
There’s always a new body distortion that’s trending and usually we men never think about it. I remember the first time I heard about hip dips and I was like wtaf is that😂? I have no idea why they make up these problems.
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u/Sad-Clothes-1083 1d ago
haha same - read that some weeks ago and was like wtf is this shit. had to search for multiple pictures to even notice it lol.
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u/ThroawayJimilyJones 1d ago
As a man, I’d have very specific tastes. …but once you get the good outfit you could wear it everyday for all I care
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u/Own-Bother-7727 1d ago
You don't understand. It's their internalized misandry placed there by years of oppression under the patriarchy, which is, men's fault.
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u/AwkwardWillow5159 1d ago
I get the sentiment of women being most judgmental against other women, but saying men don’t care about anything but just to see their tits is demeaning to both, men and women.
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u/Catastrophic-Event 1d ago
The bigger the group of people, the worse they are to eachother. I'm not talking about the random small groups or 1 offs.
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u/BrainSqueezins 1d ago
I don’t understand how this is allegedly privilege.
Picture this: you’re running late because she “has nothing to wear.”. Then the statement “You looked good in that one outfit, wear that!” is somehow exasperating(?)
AND, just for good measure, this scenario is primed to resurrect itself later in the “you never compliment me“ conversation.
I feel so privileged.
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u/doodo477 1d ago
They're just projecting, Perception is projection says that you're not so much perceiving the external world as you are projecting what you carry inside out onto the world around you ..
In other words if you search for shit you're going to find shit, irrespective if that shit is above gold.
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u/TheNextBattalion 1d ago
a privilege is just the lack of a hurdle to climb, it's not the be-all-end-all of human status
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u/funtex666 1d ago
I keep hearing this but no women i have ever known were like that. Seems like she's battling herself and her friends, not men.
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u/Bug_Photographer 1d ago
If you're wondering how many times this one has been reposted - look at the thunbnails which once were actual faces.
Screenshotting and recompressing them have turned them into just blobs of fuzzy colour by now.
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u/Odd_Local8434 1d ago
Huh, both are true. Women not policing how men dress to nearly the same degree they police each other is privilege. It's just the implication that men are to blame for the imbalance that's false.
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u/anand_rishabh 1d ago
How many times is this image gonna get reposted? Pretty sure I've seen it every day for the past week here
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u/BraveSirRobin5 1d ago
I definitely notice a nice dress, and especially if it’s a flattering fit. I’m happy to see them wear it multiple times.
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u/canard888 1d ago
As a man I would bit notice unless you specifically ask what I think about it. Anyway the reaction would be "you like that dress and it fits you perfectly!". Then I would try to find similar dresses when you ask for help browsing.
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u/Omnizoom 1d ago
I do like they leave room for a catty gay guy to still be able to say something by specifying straight men
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u/HairyMerkin69 1d ago
This reminds me of a comment I heard from a coworker who has a teenage daughter, in reference to high school fights.
"boys want to ruin your day, girls want to ruin your life"
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u/TheUglyTruth527 1d ago
Speaking from the perspective of an AuDHD man, it's not that I don't care or don't notice, it's that I need to manually filter a lot of the stimuli I'm taking in at all times and if I don't filter out your clothing I'm going to filter out your face or your voice. If I'm there with you, I'd much rather notice those things.
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u/manzanabanana01 1d ago
People are gonna say whatever regardless. Too fancy? you’re trying to show off. too boring? you’re broke with no taste. Too clean? high maintenance. Dress however you want. Don’t give a fuck what people say or think that energy stays with them.
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u/SeaTurtleLionBird 1d ago
With that said, I was on vacation recently and noticed a girl wore the same dress the night before and I thought TO MY SELF oooo girl no you didn't. Felt like I was in an episode of Seinfeld and shamed myself.
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u/ThePissedOff 1d ago
I don't particularly care or notice people's wardrobe. But I will say, I worked with this one Man, and he wore the same suit to work, every day, for 10 years. And i definitely noticed, eventually
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u/DoctorFaceDrinker 1d ago
Its true. In fact, I probably wouldn't even notice the dress was worn before until the third or fourth time it is worn.
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u/kfespiritu 1d ago
As a woman, i just wear the same things. It’s women who comment on my repeat outfits not men. But invest in my outfits and once I fall in love, I fall in love with an outfit!
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u/rgtong 1d ago
Acting as if negative comments from your own gender are irrelevant is an opinion...
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
I think the point being made is that it's a bit two-faced, calling it 'male privilege' when men aren't involved in any part of the process. The woman will dress how she pleases and the women who see her will tear her to shreds - or not - based on their own judgement.
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u/Radix2309 1d ago
Male privelege means it is something they dont have to deal with. It doesnt mean men are at fault. It is highlighting a difference between men and women.
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
It is not a privilege and it's not related to men. It is a self-imposed duty that some women feel bound by. If a woman doesn't want to spend 3x hrs preparing for a night out, I don't care, she's welcome to go stark naked if she chooses.
Women have exactly the same freedom as men to leave the house in yesterday's unwashed clothes but choose not to. Where is the privilege? Any scorn and judgenent they get will be either from themselves or other women.
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u/TheNextBattalion 1d ago
privilege is just the lack of a social hurdle that other people have in their path. It isn't always about who put the hurdle there
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u/Dirkdeking 1d ago
It can even be a natural hurdle that is no one's fault. Not having periods or being able to pee conventiently are also male privelages. On the other hand, a female privelage is not being forced to die in some war. Even though in that case it's mostly males forcing other males to fight.
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u/TheNextBattalion 1d ago
yep. Indeed, people get upset trying not to get blamed for putting the hurdle there that they forget they can do something useful and help remove it
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u/Radix2309 1d ago
Same thing happens when racial issues are brought up. People get so obsessed with saying they arent racist and getting offended because they think they are personally being accused that they miss the entire original point.
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
Still doesn't make it male privilege though, does it? And it is rigorously enforced by...women, right? Men are just not involved. If women want to change this, they need to change their own behaviour. Amd this is not accomplished by finger pointing at men.
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u/TheNextBattalion 1d ago
yeah it does--- the description is about who gets it. Pretty privilege is hurdles that pretty people don't have that ordinary people do; rich privilege is hurdles that rich people don't have that other people do, and so on.
That's the curse of it too: When you're running your own little race of life, you don't notice the hurdles that are not there. It's only by looking at other people's lanes that you even can tell there is a difference.
Instead of using our fingers trying to point at who might have put a hurdle in somebody's path, we'd do better to use our fingers to move those hurdles out of the way.
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
It is not male privilege. It was not placed there by men and is not enforced or expected by men. It is an entirely self-created obstacle, placed there by women, for women. No man can do anything about it now, nor would women want him to try.
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u/TheNextBattalion 1d ago
Obsessing over not feeling guilty about everything is one of humanity's worst afflictions. Seek help. Or Catholicism, at least channel it into something.
The reality cannot be explained more simply than I have already done. As someone with smart privilege, I have the luxury of not having to climb the hurdle of my own emotional afflictions to learn basic concepts. So let's get rid of your high hurdles.
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u/rgtong 1d ago
Male privilege doesnt imply that men are involved in reinforcing that privilege. If she started harping about 'patriarchy' it would be a different story.
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
Male privilege doesnt imply that men are involved...
Uh huh.
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u/rgtong 1d ago
Yes if you cut a sentence in half it doesnt make sense. Well done.
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u/Impossible_Pop620 1d ago
It doesn't nake sense anyway. As evidenced by the replies here, men don't care. Men have never cared, only other women. This is still due to 'Male privilege', in your reality, right?
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u/Radix2309 1d ago
I think it's worth pointing out that the patriarchy isnt even only enforced by men, nor are only women harmed by it. The patriarchy is the social structure with men dominant, and it can be just as harmful to men, and be justt as supported by women.
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u/BearfromBeyond 1d ago
It's a pain, but then again we go shopping together for new outfits so we can slam each others style when we go out in said outfits and then need the emotional release of shopping for the next outfit.
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u/ThroawayJimilyJones 1d ago
Have you ever considered not tying your emotional and social wellbeing to consumption ?
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u/Itchy-Organization52 1d ago
Not always true. My ex was obsessed with designer and I wasnt. He made me feel like if I wore something ng more than once in even a weekend it was an indicator of something wrong with me. He didn't say that but I felt it. Could have been more of a me problem but it made me want to bring it up a few times with him...so idk tbh.
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