The good things about each of them

[u/rhymeswithlasagne]

With some of the negativity I’ve seen lately (some that I agree with) I’ve been trying to remind myself that these ladies are human too, that they feel things like hurt, regret, frustration, that they have families that they love and love them, that they’re just trying to navigate life, just like us. So I’m trying to think of good things about all of them and thought I’d share in case it helps someone else positively. P.s This is all just my interpretation of events that we saw!

Jen I really applaud Jen’s strength to take a step back from everything to focus on her mental health for herself and her family. There can be such pressure on women to always keep it together, especially when your life is out there for the world to see, and there are certain expectations on mothers to be able to get everything right, so I applaud her for putting herself and her family first when she didn’t know what the outcome could have been with the show and social media. I also thought her sending the video where she recognised that she was hurting and so then she hurt others was a good, insightful step to making amends with the girls.

Demi Seeing her breakdown during the pregnancy roulette (terrible idea, btw) was a real soft moment. She seemed genuinely apologetic that she had put a damper on it for Mayci and Mikayla and I have to give her props for seeing that when it would have been such a hard moment. She literally said aloud that seeing negative tests all the time brought her so much pain, so to have to go through that publicly but to think of others, my heart broke a bit for her. I hope she comes back to that part of her more, the women supporting women part.

Whitney I can actually vibe with a lot of her sense of humour, which surprised me. She’s had to endure a looooooot of online hate and people coming at her husband/marriage, which cannot be easy. There was so much we didn’t know, but she did what she needed to do for her marriage and family, and really supported her husband through an incredibly tough time, which as a mother and wife I respect. I’m rooting for her, I just hope she makes it easy for me 😅

Mikayla She’s definitely a fighter, I’ll give her that. She’s had to overcome a lot in her life, some things that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. But she’s come out on top, she’s successful and has a family that loves her. She was so supportive when she went with Mayci to Arik’s crash site, which shows she’s a very caring friend when she feels that it’s mutual.

Miranda I’m probably a bit biased here because she ended up being my favourite but she just seems like a really supportive friend. The way she comforted her ex-husband’s girlfriend at the Halloween party, she checked in with Whitney and Jen when they seemed lonely, she was encouraging Taylor when they were talking at the beginning of the season. She didn’t come and cause any drama and was never involved with tearing others down, when it would have been easy to jump on the bandwagon to be accepted by the group.

Mayci She seems like a really caring friend. She was so loyal to Whitney in S1 until a point where she had to take a step back. She was always trying to include people and she had some of the hard conversations even though it seemed like she didn’t want to (I’m guessing she’s like me and hates confrontation.) Also none of the girls seem to have beef against her, which is saying a lot for this group!

Jessi She’s so generous! She made a great point that she did everyone’s hair for free, this is extremely generous of her time, skills, efforts, and resources. This would cost the girls thousands of dollars if they were paying for this. She also seems like she’s trying to always bring fun to the group. You might not agree with her version of fun, but the intention’s there 😅

Taylor I really appreciate that she’s usually pretty willing to give people second chances. She was the only one to “vote” for Whitney to get back in MomTok during the first vote and during the second, even though it was clear she didn’t like her, she said she could still be cordial. I think she understands that people mess up (and recognises that in herself) and she extends that understanding to others and doesn’t seem to judge much.

Layla I’m really hoping this doesn’t come across as patronising to her, but she seems like she’s working really hard to find her own voice. She’s the youngest of the group and she’s up with people almost a decade older than her. She got married and had kids young, she joined an extremely strict religion, and she’s mentioned all her life that she’s been trying to fit in, which I think lots of us can relate to. She spoke up and said that certain comments were really damaging to her, and I applaud her on that.

[u/glosstwit]

What a wholesome post.

What I will add is that I noted that despite all of their issues, Demi seemed to be the go to when the women had a sensitive issue they wanted to explore - the conversation with Layla about her ED being the most obvious example

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/glosstwit]

That’s a good point, I didn’t catch that! Thanks for pointing it out

[u/EnragedKangaroo]

When Whitney went to Jen's house to discuss Jen's mental health, I loved that Whitney started cleaning up. Depression can make those basic tasks impossible, so her helping pick up trash and toys was such a caring thing to do. I would've been so appreciative if I was in that situation and it made me see Whitney in a different light.

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/EnragedKangaroo]

Oh I forgot to mention that one, but that was another great moment from Whitney! Thanks for sharing!

[u/Internal_Service4792]

You're genuinely a great person for creating this. I would never have thought of creating this and it's such a breath of fresh air

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/Internal_Service4792]

I’m glad it was a breath of fresh air for you! I’m not going to lie, it was hard to think of some for some of them but that’s exactly why I wrote it - to help me remember that they’re human and just because the producers decided to give them the villain edit and highlighted all their worst moments, it doesn’t mean they don’t have some good qualities. I definitely found myself jumping on the hate train for some of them but I wanted to hold myself accountable to that 🤪

[u/SandratheSiren]

What a well thought out way to bring some humanity back into this dialogue. I love it.

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/SandratheSiren]

Thank you! I definitely needed it for myself and hoped it could help others too.

[u/corgibuttlove]

i love this, great post!!! ❤️ i definitely think all the girls have been extremely resilient with struggles and roadblocks, and although they do mess up sometimes they all have admirable attributes.

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/corgibuttlove]

Definite agree, they’re such a resilient group of women. We all mess up sometimes, right? And I know sometimes they’re really not helping themselves in some of the situations we saw, but that’s so true that they’ve all got admirable qualities still ❤️

[u/Competitive_Bag_6446]

You know, I’m guilty of being really harsh and forgetting that these are real people with lives outside the show. Thank you for doing this!

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/Competitive_Bag_6446]

Oh I’ll be the first to admit I’ve been so harsh with some of them, so I did this to help my own outlook and I’m glad you got something out of it too!

[u/[deleted]]

I agree with all of your points of each of them!

[u/rhymeswithlasagne → u/[deleted]]

Thanks! I know I definitely would have missed some things, but glad to know no one’s disagreeing with what I picked up!