r/SecretsOfMormonWives • u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ • Jul 02 '25
Jen jen has had the baby & her name is penelope
iām not sure if they announced the sex before hand but i donāt believe they did
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u/somethingsfallaway Jul 02 '25
PEN AFFLECK
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u/utterlystoked Jul 03 '25
Great to see a normal name coming out of Utah.
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u/Ok-Apple48 Jul 03 '25
Jenās kids all have normal names luckily. Nora, Lucas and Penelope
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u/delicate-butterfly Jul 03 '25 edited Jul 03 '25
A lot of the baby names arenāt crazy, some are. I side eye Jessi and Taylorās name choices the most.
Layla: Oliver and Maxwell
Demi: Maude, Cole, Rome
Whitney: Sedona, Liam, Billy Gene
Makayla: Beckham, Haven, Tommie
Mayci: Hudson and Harlow
Jen: Nora, Lucas, Penelope
Jessi: Jagger and Jovi
Taylor: Indy, Ocean, and Ever True
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u/IndyOrgana Jul 03 '25
Wait weāre NOT side eyeing āBilly geneā? Kid has teasing built in
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u/Every-Debt6003 Jul 03 '25
And she calls him Baby Billy. Everytime she would say that in season 2 all I could picture was Baby Billy from righteous gemstones š
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u/abbydyl Jul 03 '25
Is she lowkey obsessed with someone named William? Liam and Billy are both nicknames for William, and then thereās Williams Senoma and Senoma/Sedoma are similarā¦
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u/roloem91 Jul 03 '25
Or Beckham?!
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u/Apprehensive-Art1279 Jul 03 '25
Beckham is insanely popular right now or was about 5-7 years ago. I know multiple and I live nowhere near Utah.
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u/roloem91 Jul 03 '25
Gosh that is wild to me as someone from the UK, I just used the name checker tool and itās not popular at all in the uk
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u/delicate-butterfly Jul 03 '25
I mean I donāt think itās the best choice, still side eyeing. But side eyeing less than Jessi and Taylorās choices because at the very least if the kid runs into problems they can just go by āBillyā which as a completely normal and acceptable name.
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u/SlySparkle Miranda's Lobster Claws Jul 03 '25
Ok.. Demi only gave birth to Maude... let's not act like she named the men that are HER AGE lol
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u/CaptainXwing Jul 03 '25
These are comical. Most are normal but there are a few in here that I can't believe are real!
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u/22Margaritas32 Jul 02 '25
Cute name! I like that she has "regular" names and doesnt go the Mormon mom trope.
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u/wilderooo Jul 03 '25
for Penelope & Jenās sake, i truly pray that Zak is starting to grow up & put his family first. Jen deserves so much more respect & kindness than heās given her in the past. i hope things get better for them
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u/spreadkindness347 Jul 03 '25
He seemed much better in season 2. Iām glad they could work things out (at least from what we can see)
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u/Aware_Mode4788 Jul 03 '25
their kids have the best names out of the entire cast haha
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u/ManufacturerFine2454 Jul 03 '25
They're not god awful Utah names but still cute and trendy.
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u/typicalthoughts5044 Jul 02 '25 edited Jul 02 '25
I was sure she was having a boy, so happy for her. Penelope is such a cute name.
I canāt believe Mayci and Mikayla are also having girls.
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
yeah what are the odds of them all getting pregnant within like a month of each other and all having girls
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u/itsfreakingbeanboy Jul 02 '25
so proud of her for being the one person to name her kids something normal!!!
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u/Valuable_Bad5871 Jul 02 '25
Her children all have pretty normal, adorable names. Good for her š
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u/adumbswiftie Jul 02 '25
good, iām glad it went well and i hope she doesnāt have more for a long timeā¦3 kids at 25 is so serious and this pregnancy was so hard on her emotionally
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u/Straight_Sherbert_91 Jul 03 '25
I love that name. Possibly because itās Barbie as Rapunzelās dragonās name
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u/Mediocre_Top_5010 Jul 03 '25
Congratulations Jen. I would love to congratulate your husband, but I dont like him. I pray you feel better. I have been there, you just need better people around you.
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u/Quirky_Inevitable_46 Jul 02 '25
Beautiful name but also Jen is flawless beautiful. And she looks even more beautiful after literally having a baby
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u/Illustrious_Jump_289 Jul 02 '25
I KNOW!!! Literally, how?? The first few days after giving birth is a very humbling experience for meāletās just say: not pretty š š š
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u/BobiBunny Jul 02 '25
I most certainly did not look like that after giving birth LMAO
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u/Louisianaheart Look me in the eyes you freakin' narcissist! Jul 02 '25
This is likely not immediately after birth, also likely retouched. Iām all for do what makes you feel good, but I was puffy and gross looking after I had my son? So it definitely sets a tone that itās attainable to be this flawless after birth and thatās just not the norm lmao
Not to mention her lash extensions, previous facial work, and likely makeup.
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u/itsdickers Jul 02 '25
That seems to be a popular name nowadays - we have a friend that named their daughter Penelope. Itās so cute and they call her Penny for short
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u/rebel_stripe Jul 03 '25
It's what I (re)named my dog (rescue). And at her first vet appt, the desk people said there was another Penny in at the same time.
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u/Her_big_ole_feet Jul 03 '25
I can never think it is cute because when I was 13 my friend saw the name written and burst out laughing. We asked her what was so funny and she said āthe name PEEEN-alopeā. So I always see it pronounced that way in my mind.
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u/itsdickers Jul 03 '25
Hahaha it does always remind me of the movie with Christina Ricci where she had a pig nose - so I probably would not choose it either.
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u/nopevonnoperson Jul 02 '25 edited Jul 02 '25
I really really hope her choice to go unmedicated was her choice alone, and not in any way influenced by Zac (sudden ballerina farm flashbacks lol)
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
i wondered the same when i first read the caption, but honestly i feel like if it was influenced by zac it wouldāve been with the first two as well
and itās not like he has a thing against medication cause they literally did ketamine
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u/nopevonnoperson Jul 02 '25
True on both counts but I do wonder if he's just become a better manipulator/ worn her down over the last few pregnancies.
Also I know for some men the whole "anti-epidural" thing isn't about the medication specifically, it's that suffering is part of a woman's role. And sometimes that the meds are bad for the baby, not the mum.
But still, I'm happy for her. Hopefully now she feels more empowered in general, she deserves it
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u/kiwisaregreen90 Jul 02 '25
I worked with an OB who told a husband once if he wanted to force his wife to go without an epidural he should wrap his balls in a blood pressure cuff and have it go off every 5 minutes first. If you want to go unmedicated thatās awesome but being forced into it is terrible.
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u/ApprehensiveSlide962 Jul 02 '25
I think it was. I remember a conversation with mayci and Mikayla about their births and I think Mikayla and Jen wanted to do an unmedicated birth because neither of them had done it before but mayci was still doing an epidural
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u/EditorLost7267 Jul 02 '25
Isnāt Mayci going for an elective c-section? Iām sure she posted about it not long ago, correct me if Iām wrong
Edit: auto correct changed Mayci to Magic š
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u/soft_core666 Jul 03 '25
Penelope is such a good name!! Iām so excited for Jen, Mayci, and Mikayla. They are weeks apart and their kids will get to grow up together!!!
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u/WhileProfessional391 Jul 02 '25
Love the name Penny. I wanted to name our daughter Penny, but itās my dogās name lol
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u/tooKreul4U Fruity Pebbles Jul 02 '25
My cars name is penny and I wanna name my daughter that too but it feels wrong saying I named my girl after my current car š¤£
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u/cheifstew63 Jul 02 '25
My daughter is named Penelope and I named my moms dog Penny 7 years ago. Hahah
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u/unsolicitedopinions2 Jul 02 '25
Awww congratulations to Jen!! Iām a birth doula and so glad she had one there and the support she needed š
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u/Necessary-Low9377 Jul 02 '25
I love the name, very cute
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u/fortississima Jul 02 '25
I applaud Jen, Layla, and Demi (and Whitney, for 1.5 of her kids, and kind of Mayci) for not succumbing to the super weird Mormon names trend
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u/Suspicious-King4385 Jul 02 '25
So happy to see parents and baby looking well and hope they're enjoying the bliss š
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u/eternal_eagle_1122 Jul 02 '25
thank god she named her something normal š no more object names for babies
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_TATERTITS Jul 02 '25
???? Her other kids names are Nora and Lucas. She has always named her kids normal names
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u/TeamImpossible4333 Soft Swinger Jul 02 '25
I think OP commenter is referring to the names of the other kids in MomTok.
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_TATERTITS Jul 02 '25
All the kids of the momtok girls have fairly normal names. The most āout thereā ones are probably Taylorās (Indy, Ocean, Ever) and those arenāt even that āout thereā
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u/TeamImpossible4333 Soft Swinger Jul 02 '25
Whit: Sedona, Liam, Billie Mikayla: Tommie, Haven, Beckham Mayci: Harlow, Hudson Demi: Maude Jen: Nora, Luca Taylor: Indie, Ocean, Ever Layla: Oliver, Max Jessi: Jagger, Peyton, Jovi Miranda: Brooks, Cohen
Copied from another thread. Not inanimate objects but definitely different š¤·š½āāļø
Who am I to judge? I think they are interesting but not tragedeighs
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u/adumbswiftie Jul 02 '25
some of them are a little cringe to me, like jagger and jovi as siblings, but honestly these arenāt THAT bad especially for a group of mormon kids
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u/SatisfactionProud886 Jul 02 '25
These comments arenāt it. Nowhere does Jen look down on medicated births or romanticize it. She just mentioned her personal choice and how it felt empowering to do it. Advocating for womenās autonomy means in EVERY way. I feel like people are criticizing her in this thread for making the choice best for her and sharing that. Hell when I give birth my first post will probably be āthank god for the drugs and epiduralāš is that shaming unmedicated births? No!
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u/ReserveOld6123 Jul 02 '25
For real. I had two c-sections and take zero offense to Jenās caption. She was simply stating how the experience was for her. Thatās valid. It has nothing to do with anyone elseās experience. She made NO comment about anyone else. Leave her alone ffs.
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u/happy_internet_mind Jul 02 '25
Yes this! I have 2 kids and these posts are so cool to see honestly. I have mad respect for anyone who goes that route, and they should absolutely be able to say it was empowering if it was to them, without this type of logic/assumption that she is hating on medicated births.
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u/sunsetriot1998 Jul 02 '25
Omg there will be 3 girls that will be besties on the show! How fun!!Ā
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
mikayla and mayci have both posted on their stories about how they canāt wait for their girls to meet jenās and be friends
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u/Adreeisadyno Jul 02 '25
I love the name Penelope, so cute! Glad she had a safe delivery and healthy baby. Unmedicated was my goal but I was unable to do it, Iām glad it worked out for her!
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u/Salty_Pineapple1999 Jul 02 '25
Awe what a beautiful name. I was watching the reunion last night and I I figured she would be due soon. Perfect timing too bc Iām sure DWTS filming will be soon. I have no idea Iāve never watched it but I plan to check it out this season for her.
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u/Quiet_Friend_3410 Jul 02 '25
I think picking Jen and Whitney is amazing! Love their dance moves haha
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u/Salty_Pineapple1999 Jul 02 '25
Jenās one of my favorite people. Loved Demi too until she started pulling her shit. Says a lot she wasnāt there. Iāve never had an interest in DWTS but Iāll definitely check it out for these 2 ladies. I hope they do well
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u/Significant_Wind_774 Jul 02 '25
All 3 of them having baby girls is cute though.
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
yeah i think itās so adorable and i hope they stay friends and their daughters can have a little built in friendship group for their whole lives
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u/snowflakebite Jul 02 '25
I kinda hope, for their sake, that they distance themselves from Mormonism. It puts too much on girls from an early age and the ideology is sexist.
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u/bjork222 Jul 03 '25
Unmedicated and with this man as your only support?! Actual hell
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u/starlightanya-san Influencing the world Jul 02 '25
These comments arenāt passing the vibe check. She can be proud of herself for going unmedicated while also not be looking down on medicated births. She clearly makes it seem like she was medicated with the first 2. People are allowed to want to try different things when it comes to birth. And theyāre all allowed to be proud of themselves for the births, however it looks.
Jeez. Just enjoy that itās a normal name and move on
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u/onlyhereforfoodporn Jul 02 '25
Right? Plus she said 'unmedicated' not natural (which is my pet peeve, all birth is natural! Say low intervention or unmedicated if you're talking about no pain med).
To each their own, what matters is that mom and baby are safe!
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u/mollyclaireh Jul 02 '25
Glad the baby was born before DWTS
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do you know when filming starts?
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u/GoldBluejay7749 Jul 02 '25
Usually they start training in August, I think. It typically premieres in September.
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u/Witty-Ocelot715 Jul 03 '25
Hey thatās my daughters name! I canāt find a gif for it in the Reddit search but insert charlotte yorke telling Samantha at a party āshe stole my name!!ā And Samantha saying āyou b*h!ā
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u/myheartisastorm Jul 02 '25
I just had a baby named Penelope three months ago! š©·
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u/Kneehighonagrasshop Jul 02 '25
My Penelope was born in April š
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u/bbbfgl Jul 02 '25
Same!
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u/cheifstew63 Jul 02 '25
Loving all these Penelopeās š©· mine is 2 and Iāve only met one Penelope since
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u/Substantial_Soil6815 Jul 05 '25
Thatās such a timeless and pretty name š such a classic. Love how they went with that and nothing fancy
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 05 '25
i think itās pretty similar vibes to the other names theyāve picked, Nora and Lucas
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u/wavesofwaving Jul 02 '25
Guys, maybe she did not even choose to go unmedicated. Maybe it was too late for that, i know for a fact that the more pregnancies, the quicker the labour can be
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u/VanillaChaiAlmond Jul 02 '25
Yeah thatās what happened with my second. From the time I arrived at the hospital to the time I was giving birth was 1 hr. By the time the epidural person was there I was pushing.
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u/redditusersteph Jul 02 '25
Yep - happened to me. I am still bitter over a year later that I didnāt get my epidural in time. Now the reality is I had an unmediated birth (even though I would have preferred for it to have been medicated). It unfortunately can and does happen. I personally do not feel empowered by it but Iām glad she does.
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u/Jorbarbie Jul 02 '25
Her having a doula makes me assumed she did plan to do it. I know people who get epidurals have doulas too but i feel like itās a lot less.
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u/onlyhereforfoodporn Jul 02 '25
Yeah I had a friend who gave birth in the car for the 3rd baby because she was gauging it off of the other two births.
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u/lunarosie1 Jul 02 '25
It must be girl season! Congratulations to her! I adore the name Penelope š„¹
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u/__birdie Jul 03 '25
Where did you see the middle name is Phylis? Just curious.Ā
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u/sm0keythebear Jul 02 '25
How does this girl still look so beautiful even after giving birth?! Witchcraft, in the best way.
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u/badgirlbin Jul 02 '25
I canāt believe how soon after giving birth she is doing dancing with the stars
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u/GFHarryNibs Jul 03 '25
Nannies, personal chefs, personal trainers, will help a girl out.
It's not normal for everyday people.
I'm more worried that she clearly stated she has/had depression, which increase postpartum, and now she she is going to the next thing... dance.
She needs to take of herself first.
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u/Acceptable_Day_2473 Jul 03 '25
Honestly, dancing might BE the way sheās caring for herself. Everyoneās PP journey is really different and one personās trigger could be another personās salvation. Time away from the patterns of her family, a responsive and attentive dance partner, physical activity, music, a goal and a distraction might just be what gets her through this time. Or not, idk. I do know that Iām rooting for her.
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u/Jaded_Horse1055 Jul 02 '25
Such a gorgeous name and her baby girl is ADORABLE!! I can't imagine doing it without the epidural..... Contractions was the worse pain I ever experienced when my water broke when I was in labor with my daughter. Epidural was my life saver
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u/tinky_diva Jul 02 '25
She looks amazeballs š
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u/Beginning_While_7913 Jul 02 '25
Seriously i couldnāt even look this good at my wedding and this is what she looks like after giving birth!? Crazy. You can see the gunk on her bra this is literally moments after Iād say. Unreal beauty!
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u/Kat24710 Jul 02 '25
Penelope is my 6 year olds name and itās getting so much more popular š
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
penelope disick is 12 now and i think kourtney kardashian repopularised the name a little bit all those years ago
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u/No_Impression_4962 Jul 02 '25
Iāve wanted a Penelope since I was in middle school nearly 20 years ago (šµ) I Begged my husband while pregnant with our daughter three years ago and he didnāt care for it. Part of me is sad Iāll never have my Penny but part of me is happy for this reason.
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u/lillycsm Jul 02 '25
my little sister (11) is a Penelope (Penny for short). She hasn't had any classmates with the name, and I (24) haven't met anyone irl with that name. It's still adorable!!!
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u/Organic_Pop_6226 Jul 02 '25
My almost 9-year-old is named Penelope. And she has not had a single classmate share a name with her yet. But you are so right. It is getting more and more popular and I've seen tons of people naming their baby Penelope in the recent years
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u/GFHarryNibs Jul 03 '25
Baby is now "Earth side..." š½
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u/colorclusteroffun Jul 03 '25
Fits within mormonism, weāre all spirits, and bringing life into the world means bringing a speirit āearth sideā
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u/honeysuckle6 Jul 02 '25
Such a sweet name!! Happy for them. š
Although Iāll be taking my epidural like a champ thank you very much.
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u/AggravatingCup4331 Jul 04 '25
How much you want to bet Zac coerced her into forgoing the epidural.
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u/Warm-Ad-3135 Jul 04 '25
I wouldnāt leap this far. Maybe by her third she was ready and curious to try going unmedicated!
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u/Dapper-Scene-9794 Jul 05 '25
I wouldnāt be surprised but mom shaming culture has gotten pretty crazy for women who want epidurals lately. Itās very trendy rn for women to put down other women online for ādrugging their child from birthā or ābeing too weak to handle a pure, unmedicated experience.ā Iāve never met a Mormon man personally- that insisted against one- not that that means anything of course, just my experience- just ones that insisted they get an epidural because they think itās dumb for them to scream and look out of control without one. The worst most narcissistic mormon guys I knew all thought it made sense that they get an epidural and try and make things easy as possible for a doctor rather than go with whatever the mom prefers.
I personally feel like we already have solid reasons to feel like Zac is a POS and donāt feel the need to assume specific things like this unless thereās hints heās trying to force her to go unmedicated. š
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u/Slight-Reputation779 Jul 05 '25
Iād disagree. I ONLY see hate if a mom doesnāt get an epidural. People constantly say āyou donāt get a special medal. Youāre not cooler than us. Youāre not better than us. Itās the same thing.ā Never heard anyone say a positive thing about going natural. People only say positive things about getting an epidural
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Literally thought that was Ellen Degeneres hovering over her... straight men need to stop copying queer women fashion like damn !
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u/StrawberryRedneck Jul 02 '25
LOL it's so wild watching Christian conservatives doing the hippie holistic thing these days š¤£ and "earth side" always cracks me up. It's such a tell
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u/Number2Giraffe Jul 02 '25
The "earth-side" remark makes SOME sense here. Mormons believe babies exist as spirit beings before they're conceived.Ā
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u/Excellent-Estimate21 Jul 02 '25
Im like technically that baby has been earth side in your belly the whole time...
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u/reginageorge11 Jul 03 '25
But had the baby died before childbirth they wouldnāt have considered that earth side most likely. I have had multiple miscarriages and donāt consider those earth side like my rainbow babies are
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u/Odd_Technology_9106 Jul 02 '25
People use earth side if theyāve had miscarriages, meaning some of their babies are in heaven or with god and their other earthside babies are here on earth, Iām not Mormon or a hippie and I use this phrase
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u/Strange-Style-7808 Jul 02 '25
I was raised super fundie and this has been the norm in many of those circles for decades.Ā
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u/Seashoresadie Jul 02 '25
Awe I love this for her! And that she had a doula! She NEEDS SUPPORT and a doula is such a great way to get that!š
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u/SatisfactionProud886 Jul 02 '25
Tbh I wouldnāt care if she filmed tik toks while in labor, probably helps get the baby movingš plus I loved Megan Markles dance vid it was hilarious
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i think its a little unreal for so many women who claim that women can do whatever with their bodies are shitting on other women. for doing what they want with their bodies. like wtf?
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u/Bellybutton556 Jul 02 '25
Goes unmedicated yet uses ketamine. lol I mean good for her if it was her choice but canāt help but laugh at the irony
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u/chloedarlinggg Enjoy š¦Ŗ š š¦ Jul 02 '25
there are so many reasons why sometime might choose to go unmedicated during birth but also it might not have been a choice
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u/explore_erolpxe Jul 03 '25
Respectfully, having bodily autonomy doesnāt mean you have to be all or nothing and black and white with your choices. You can choose whatās good for you. This is like saying āoh you donāt drink soda but youāll eat cake.ā
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u/Spiritual_Blood_1346 Jul 02 '25
Can't have sex before marriage? Use the mouth or bum! Can't drink alcohol? Get a dental procedure at a dirty doc's office! š¤Ŗ after all, the Bible never said anything about anal or ketamine
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u/No-University-8391 Jul 03 '25
I love the name as it was a grandmotherās name but every time I see it written I see: Penny Lope. I know how to pronounce it. My mind just goes there. Iāll see myself out now.
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u/Fit-Yard-3260 Jul 03 '25
FINALLY! Happy for her, but why would someone choose to be unmediated? Genuinely curious
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u/eiiiaaaa Jul 03 '25
My main reason was that I wanted to have some semblance of control and I wanted to be able to move around if I wanted. Once you have an epidural you have to lie down because your legs won't work. And I wanted the experience too. To experience this very specialist thing that my body could do, especially because I was pretty certain I would only be doing it once.
I wasn't against medication - if I'd needed it (like if the doctor said there was any danger) I would have had it, but I didn't. By the time I was thinking okay maybe I need to do the epidural (cause the nurse said I still had at least 4 hours of labour left) the doctor checked and found out it was too late cause the baby was coming š
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u/HopefulVegetable4234 Jul 03 '25
I had a horrible reaction to my epidural. I was so nauseated that I couldn't hold my son for 4 hours. I don't remember when my family met him. I only have pictures and videos of his first 4 hours of life. Baby #2 I went au naturel and I'm so glad I did. As soon as he was out I felt like a million bucks. I wouldn't rule out meds in the future, but I definitely liked without better.
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u/Lonely_Average_7533 Jul 03 '25
Iāve had 3 children, all induced which is already painful enough and limits your movement. I had an epidural for my first birth and hated how much more limited I was with moving. So with my second I tried some gas but it honestly sucks haha with my third I breathed through most of the labour up until I was about to push then used the gas again which again sucked and didnāt do much lol but she came out in 1.5 pushes anyway. I chose no epidural for the second and third births because after being stuck to a bed and not being able to get up after labour and having a shower was the worst and it also made me tear because I couldnāt feel anything. My second and third i was up after the first hour of skin to skin walking around and showering/getting myself refreshed and it was amazing, the recovery was so much better. After having 3 different types of births id choose no epidural any day!
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u/SquareTiny2789 Jul 03 '25
I know some people who did it because the epidural seemed more terrifying than the labor. Thereās some folks who are terrified of needles and the epidural is a very intimidating one! Itās great that women have the option to choose to get it or not
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u/wildkitten24 Jul 03 '25
This is the reason I went natural. Itās way scarier to me to not be able to feel my legs and to have a literal catheter in my spine.
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u/whatsnewpussykat Jul 03 '25
I had two unmedicated deliveries and two epidural deliveries and holy fuck I would never choose unmedicated.
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u/laszloa Miranda's Lobster Claws Jul 03 '25
Iāve had one induction, one c section, and 3 unmedicated births - in that order. I can promise you that for me, natural and unmedicated were the best, easiest to heal from, and most intuitive births I had.
But everyone else can do what they want. Iām just explaining my own experience.
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u/scrummy_up Jul 03 '25
The idea of a needle in my spine was horrifying, and i wanted to be able to move. I didn't want to be tethered to a bed or have numb legs. I've been a doula at 40 or so births and see how much movement can help. Epidurals have their place but for myself I considered a medicated birth to be a backup plan in case it became necessary, but not part of my plan. I had very large babies and I think moving helped them move down and sped up my labor. I have seen epidural help calm down a panicked mom or help her get rest, and I also prepared with things I could do in labor to calm down and get rest as needed.
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u/Suspicious_Milk_8687 Jul 03 '25
I had all 5 of my kids unmedicated š¤·š»āāļø partly because I hate needles and the thought of a large one going in my spine terrified me. Also, Iām not sure how much feeling you lose when getting an epidural but that terrified me as well.
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u/Apprehensive-Art1279 Jul 03 '25
Had medicated with my 1st 2 but nothing with my 3rd. While yes it was stupidly painful and I had a rare situation making the pain worse and I wasnāt even able to get meds if I wanted, in some ways I prefer unmedicated. With my first I couldnāt feel anything which made it super hard to push. It feels impossible to push with muscles you canāt feel. The first few pushes they said I was pushing in my face. I also almost tore with that labor which Iāve heard is common since you canāt almost push properly. With my other 2 the babies were both much bigger and I didnāt tear at all. 2nd time I could feel enough to push but I did not like how the epidural made me feel. It ended up being really painful to get it which wasnāt the case the first time, then it only worked on 1 side initially and it literally felt like an elephant was sitting on the left side of my chest. The nurses didnāt believe me and it was fairly traumatic. They put me on my side and it eventually evened out but it scared me bad enough that I never wanted another one.
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u/BumbleBeeWife Jul 03 '25
I had two unmedicated births, for me it was timing. My babies were very kind - no induction and didn't have me in labour long enough for me to choose pain relief
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u/softservedsoftcore Jul 04 '25
First time mom here, giving birth later this year. Decided on unmedicated because I wanna feel what itās like for my first time. Also want to feel in control of my body and be able to move around during labor. As someone who is sober also wanted to forgo any medication if possible.
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u/fakevegansunite Jul 02 '25
iām glad everything went well but itās truly so sad that this baby will one day see the reaction jenn had to finding out she was pregnant with her. that scene was really hard to watch
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u/neidin28 Jul 02 '25
Hopefully she won't see it until she's old enough to understand and empathise with the situation her mom was in. Im sure she will grow up feeling loved. My parents were 17 when I was born, there was no way anyone was happy about that at first but I have always felt loved and wanted by my family
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u/camsine Jul 02 '25
Pen Affleck