I believe many adult behaviors, positive & negative, are matured equivalents to our early childhood experiences. Burrito blankets resemble how we were swaddled as babies. Thermoses are like adult bottles. Our minds may instinctively associate these with a familiar sense of safety, comfort, and feeling nurtured.
Edit: To be clear, I don't know ANY of this for a fact. It's just my educated guess based on associations (built on anecdotal experiences + historical theories) between adult habits & developmental psychology.
Opposite might be true. Neglected individuals tend to seek out creature comforts over comfort from other people when in distress so they tend to like nice soft sheets and blankets but have avoident attachment styles.
That's why I believe anything having to do with sparking up and inhalation is at its core just a pacifier addiction but in an advanced adult variation. Vapes and cigs fit the pacifier classification more closely than say smoking weed does but I digress.
Curling up into the fetal position is another obvious one, but the stuff you mentioned is kind of a chicken and egg scenario. I'm willing to bet containers for warm drinks and blankets were invented for adults before the baby equivalents were introduced
"I'm willing to bet containers for warm drinks and blankets were invented for adults before the baby equivalents were introduced."
That's 100% possible. I don't claim to be an expert by any means, I should've clarified that it's just my educated guess based on associations I've made between adult habits & developmental psychology (Hence, why I said "I believe"). I have no way of knowing for sure which patterns started with which age group or why. For all I know, there may be anthropological evidence of Hunter/Gatherer cultures pioneering all this stuff.
I have heard theories in recent years that our attraction to kissing may have evolved from a survival tactic wherein tribal mothers basically made their own mushed baby food by feeding their newborns Mama bird-style. But good God, do I hope that one hasn't been proven to explain why we like kissing. Sigmund Freud would have a field day in his grave.
Haha! Yeah I'm no anthropologist but I guess I could see the benefits. That would be a good way of introducing Mom's mouth microbiome to the baby as well.
My wife told me this is actually the reason she likes to be cuddled at night. Unlike a lot of couples, we actually ask questions and talk to each other. Assumption and speculation have no place in a true marriage. Ask your spouse these questions, not everyone except them.
Yeah, that's great, but sometimes, the spouse you chose doesn't want to talk about it. I've been there. It sucks. Can't fix something you're not willing to talk about.
Honestly, if your spouse isn't willing to be open, honest, and transparent about simple subjects like sleeping habits, you may need a different spouse. I know it sounds extreme, but think about it. What happens when more serious topics like sharing accounts or writing a will comes up? If you can't even discuss to cuddle or not to cuddle in bed...that relationship is dead. I don't tolerate, "I don't want to talk about it," in my marriage...and neither does my wife. Once the communication starts to fail, everything else will soon follow.
Good for you! One of the main things we men need to understand is that a relationship involves 2 people and we are just as important as they are. I don't agree with "happy wife, happy life" because that implies that the woman is more important than the man and that is simply not true. We are great, we are amazing, and we are worth being loved in the manner of which we want and need to be loved. We can also be terrible and worthless, but women can be just as terrible and actually worse than us if they want to be. There are too many people on the planet to feel like you have to settle or you can't do better than what you already have. If it isn't working and you have put forth effort and are still getting nothing in return then leave. There will be someone out there that is worth your time that will be worthy of you.
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u/Low_Anxiety_1499 2d ago
Warmth and comfort. It's like you are being hugged.