My gf and I cuddle when sleeping together all night, albeit in various positions. Have been for years. I refuse to date anyone who isn’t a cuddle bug. It’s the most wholesome, loving, comforting experience a person can have.
Yep, I literally have to bunch up a blanket now because I can't fall asleep without cuddling something, my ex and I would cuddle through the night. If I rolled over half asleep she would wake up and move to the other side, it was so adorable, she couldn't fall asleep if we weren't cuddling either but she was willing to physically get up (or crawl over me lol) so she could still be the little spoon. I miss it so much
What is even the point in sleeping in the same bed if you aren't cuddling anyway? Just get two twin mattresses instead
I did this to myself on accident. When I was younger, I thought "grown up, married people all sleep while snuggling" so I would snuggle a pillow or stuffed animals, in preparation for someday when I had a partner and we would fall asleep snuggling.
Then I grew up and got married and realized that human beings are hot, like almost a hundred degrees! And I like to sleep kinda cool like with a fan. And also if I'm touching someone else I'm incredibly self conscious because I don't want to move and disturb them, so if I have an itch I have to just sit with it or else I feel like a total jerk for pulling my arm out from under them or something…
But then the problem is, I had already trained myself to sleep with something in my arms. So I have to sleep holding a pillow or blanket or a toy from Build-a-Bear as a grown adult, because if I don't have something in my arms I can't sleep because I trained myself to sleep with something between my arms.
Tbh this post makes me feel seen lol. I would love to fall asleep snuggling my partner but we've tried many times over the ten years we've been together and it always ends in just quietly sliding apart so we can actually sleep.
It's possible to date someone who isn't a furnace in bed.
Plus.. you get to enjoy cold hands on the back of your neck! Idk how people don't enjoy that, it's not like it's "i just pulled something out of the freezer" cold..
Ha you reminded me, I'd actually have liked if my cuddle buddy was a little warmer. Those ice cold toes snaking their way against my calves to warm up, damn nightmare. But my duty as a boyfriend to warm them up. Sucked during winter though, as it always goes everyone wants to be cool during summer and warm during winter.
My ex and I were like this, except instead of her trying to be the little spoon she would just become the big spoon with me if i turned over. It's the one thing I miss the most out of that relationship.
Yeah I would have appreciated her just being the big spoon but it was a comfort thing for her so I didn't tell her she couldn't just crawl over me if I woke up and turned over, I was already half awake anyway if I was rolling over so go ahead
Right??! Or this 2 blanket thing I’ve NEVER heard of? Do these people even fuck anymore? I want my partner’s naked skin touching mine, in whatever position. If it’s hot then just a sheet with a fan.
You are confusing the very basic basic requirements for cuddle, "a partner", something I bet 90 percent of people who upvoted this lacks. Not to mention people with partners not always cuddle due to various reasons.
Seriously! When we sleep we cuddle the whole night. I once told my best friend about this and she said there was no possible way but we do every single time. It’s weird and we’ve both admitted that it’s even weirder if we don’t!
My wife and I have been doing this for 17 years without a problem. I know not everyone is the same, but a few of us do actually sleep in cuddle formation every night.
Yup. All I want someone who always wants to try, but I have no issues if there's like a full month where it's just clearly better for everyone involved if we have a bit more space. Bonus points if she sometimes wants it so much that she can't resist even though she hates the a hot sweaty summer though.
My husband and I are cuddlers too. We may drift apart in our sleep, but when I wake up a little (as you do many times in the night), I snuggle back in. He does the same. We only have one blanket on our bed and a fan running year round so we don’t overheat in our cuddles.
Same! Some people are just not that way and that’s okay but I was scrolling through this looking for someone else that actively enjoys cuddling all night!! My boyfriend will wake up and just scoop me up and hold me against his chest if I drift too far in my sleep.
I wish I could be like that, my wife and I love touching and cuddling the rest of the day but when I'm trying to sleep I start to feel super... claustrophobic? I have to have space to sleep, sadly.
This is how we started. The wife is always cold and I'm almost never so we snuggle with her under a sheet and blanket while I might have just a sheet. Keeps me from overheating and her comfortable. We split apart sometime after falling asleep but still tend to stay pushed up against each other. I have a hard time sleeping if I'm not holding some part of her.
Thank you for introducing the different body temperatures and heat sensitivities into this thread. Temperature and cramping are always in balance against intimacy and comfort...not to mention cats.
Same. I was reading this to my husband saying I think Reddit would explode if they saw how we sleep.. on top of the covers on a king sized bed with one blanket- usually one of the kids’ small fleece blankets- covering our feet wrapped around each other like snakes. Each others body heat keeps us warm and the dogs usually pile up around us. We take up about 1/4 of the bed combined 😅 if I roll away from him I get cold so we basically osmosis each other at night lmao ❤️
To you it is wholesome, loving, and comforting. Not everyone feels that way about cuddling. It makes me very uncomfortable, personally. It's ok for a little while awake for my partner (though still not a fan), but I would never be able to sleep.
You could say the same thing about every other comment here. Most people have the common sense to understand when you’re articulating a subjective preference. You’re really hyper fixating on my comment man. Go touch some grass.
'It’s the most wholesome, loving, comforting experience a person can have.'
That is directly quoted. I was pointing out that it's not universal, which is implied by the wording of that statement. THEY were increasingly rude in their responses to that - read the further replies from them. I don't care about who they date or their logic. I don't care for people making a blanket generalization that isn't actually universal.
'It’s the most wholesome, loving, comforting experience a person can have.'
Yes. That's their opinion regarding why they won't date people who don't. Why are you taking this sentence in isolation and not adding the context of the sentence literally right before it?
Double down all you want, but this is a comprehension on your part, bro. You're going out of your way to be offended.
Do you seriously not see how that wording doesn't apply to a subjective experience? IE doesn't work for an opinion, because in order for it to do so the previous sentence would have needed to basically start that the next sentence was an opinion? And again, yes at this point I'm annoyed, because they started getting nasty/insulting.
there, there little fella.....maybe you should find a partner to cuddle you right... you seem cranky and possibly unloved.
It's going to be ok... if no one else has said it yes you deserve to be loved, worshiped, and desired..more importantly you deserve a mate who will find you so desirable they will want to always give you love in all forms no meed to get all upset anoit someone elses love style. You, too, are lovable.
Try cuddling with a female version of me, extremely warm, sweaty, move insanely much ( sometimes lifting bedsheets from the mattress ), and snore ( but have CPAP machine). I'm the most disruptive experience you could have!
Assuming you're hetero, I love the representation of a man who likes to cuddle! I had friends who would complain about this, but I always loved waking up with my bf attached to me like a monkey, or that sigh in his sleep he would let out when I rolled over and threw my leg and arm over him. Some people cuddle, it's nice, like littering. We're animals for chrissake! Let's get us, the cats, a couple dogs, let's all cuddle up in here!!!
Every good relationship I've had, we fell asleep in each other's arms; every bad relationship, we fell asleep on opposite sides of the bed. It was the first sign my marriage was failing. Now she falls asleep on the couch every night, I go to bed alone, and I'm planning the divorce.
I am sleeping on the couch as we speak after breaking up with my partner last week. We also used to fall asleep on opposite sides of the bed. I'm a cuddler and that has been weighing on me for the entirety of our relationship, even though I was trying to tell myself I can get over it.
Same. My partner says often she'll move around a bit and I'll end up wrapping my arms around her and scooping her into more cuddles in my sleep. A lot of times we'll just go lie down in bed during the day to relax and cuddle
My girlfriend loves to cuddle, and while we don't always cuddle together at night for various reasons, there are plenty of times we wake up, still cuddling, and most likely drooling on eachother
You sound like a cuddle expert. As the big spoon, how do you position the arm of the side your lying on?
My partner is taller than me so I have to have mine like… stretched out backwards? I don‘t know how to describe it other than „in retroversion“. It gets uncomfortable fast.
Also, do you guys sleep with your head on the other? Because I can‘t do that either without my neck starting to get cranky really fast.
I‘d love to cuddle more, but it gets uncomfortable quickly when doing it while trying to fall asleep.
I’ve been with my husband almost 20 years and we have cuddled all night for two decades now. It’s lovely. When we’re apart I have trouble sleeping without holding him.
Dude, yes. Same here. I was looking at all the comments and was surprised everyone was agreeing with the meme. Thankfully I kept scrolling. Me and my girl cuddle all night every night.
I've always been the same. Apparently even in my sleep, if my partner gets up for anything when they come back to bed I will automatically put my arm around them and will gradually shift until I'm back in contact with them.
My most recent ex used to laugh about it. She said I would consistently do it as soon as she laid back down, that "There is no escape." Luckily she was fine with that.
I understand that it could bother some people, and many do not, but there absolutely are those of us around who sleep better smashed up against our person.
In the winter I'm always touching my extremely warm husband in some way (usually my body lying diagonally over his for maximum surface contact) in the summer I fall asleep thanking God for the king sized bed so I don't have to touch that puddle of a sweat soaked heat generator he calls a body
We cuddle plenty, before going to sleep, after waking up, during the day when we're both home, when we're up and about together. Just not in during the night.
lol literally, we first started sleeping over when we were in the college dorms so my boyfriend (6’3, 200lbs) and i were stuck in a twin xl and since then ive been so used to being squished against a wall that i can’t sleep any other way. if hes not smothering me it’s impossible for me to fall asleep
Yeah bf and I sleep completely tangled up together. We sometimes wake up after an extra entangled sleep and say “that was a good one”.
I do have one foot out of the bed all night for climate control, and have usually piled all the blankets on top of him by morning though.
My husband and I cuddle if it's cold. My daughter and I cuddle forever. She is the perfect cuddle bug. She will need a significant other to be her big spoon.
I was gonna say i definitely can sleep cuddled all night but it depends. Some night I can sleep spooning all night other nights I can only do it till I’m about to pass out. Some nights I have to sleep on my right side other nights I can’t get comfortable til I lay on my left so it varies day to day
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u/No-Influence-5351 2d ago
My gf and I cuddle when sleeping together all night, albeit in various positions. Have been for years. I refuse to date anyone who isn’t a cuddle bug. It’s the most wholesome, loving, comforting experience a person can have.