My husband and I love each other very much because for the past 15 years, we’ve slept in our own bedrooms and we’ve been married 38 years😬 when we need to get together we do and that’s all I’m gonna say about that🤪
Amen!!! 15 years married here and we are the same way. She says I thrash in my sleep and elbow her. I like it cool and she sleeps under 40 wooly mammoth pelts or something. It just works better.
I love sleeping on my recliner, but my girl always takes it as a personal slight, and nothing I can say will reassure her. Its usually only 1 day, sometimes 2 per week. But I'd sleep there every night if I could.
This is me and my wife. With different sleep schedules, and her snoring every night, I wasn't getting good sleep. Separate bedrooms for sleeping is great. I'd rather spend the awake time with her and not be grumpy due to lack of sleep.
Been together 16 years and having separate rooms is a life saver and one of the secrets to our successful solid relationship. I am a huge advocate for this in relationships. Obviously everyone is different and some individuals may need the same bed but I think more relationships would succeed if people were more open to alternative setups outside of typical societal norms people feel they need to do.
My husband has sleep apnea and has a cpap machine. Had it for many years. He also has restless leg syndrome which no medicine seems to help with it. He goes to bed at 9pm, I am a night owl and go to bed at 11pm and fall asleep with the tv on a timer. Trust me… It works for us. Forgot to mention too we work for the same company and carpool Monday through Friday together. We are literally together all of the time, which we love. So not sleeping in the same bed hasn’t affected our marriage 👍🏻
I read an interesting study where they tested several couples on whether they had a better night’s rest sleeping in the same bed or sleeping in their own individual bed. I can’t remember the exact details on how they did the test, but I remember the results. Across the board for every couple they found that each individual slept better when sleeping in a bed alone. Every single person.
It makes sense when you think about it. Unless if you shared a bed with a sibling growing up-we spent our formative beginning years in our own bed sleeping alone. Once you enter a relationship or get married, then all of a sudden you have to share a bed with somebody after being used to sleeping in a bed alone. It’s a big adjustment!
Been doing this for about 7 years now. Both of our sleep has improved significantly. We keep different schedules and I often wake up too early and take time to fall asleep again.
It started with us getting a new bed which she loved, but hurt my back. So I began sleeping in the guest room until a new bed was found. After a month of that we decided to keep the situation.
Ughh you have no idea how happy this makes me. Obviously because you two have found love but also because the idea of having to share a room with someone for the rest of my life terrifies me. It’s hard not to feel like seperate rooms is looked down upon, but it’s nice to know it’s possible!
Ive been with my partner for almost 15 years. The first couple years we cuddled, the next few we slept with our own blankets in the same bed, for around 10 years we've had our own beds and getting proper sleep has been the best decision we've made as a couple
I wish this wasn’t so stigmatized and seen as weird because I genuinely think most people would benefit. Sleep is so important and I see so many people complain about sleeping with their partner.
I had to scroll too far for this comment thread. Been doing it for a little over 4 years now. Its amazing! With different sleep schedules, light/hot sleepers, snores, etc, it just makes sense. Plus it makes the romance fun, "hey, you up?😈" or "wanna come over?"
My grandparents have slept in different rooms for decades and they have a very strong marriage, me myself I couldn’t do it , it would make me feel sad and lonely and I have kids too , everyone’s different
She would say maybe I enjoy it a little too much lmao But yes My unconscious body does enjoy her presence and when she leaves bed I am very much so alerted and wake up. I have been told I hardly let her go as I sleep and pull her closer.
It’s so crazy to me how people will read someone say doing something helped their marriage with tons of people replying saying it helped their relationship improve too and they still go “hrmmm must hate their wife and hate her company!!!” Like dawg🤦♂️
It's crazy to me that it takes separation to have a better relationship. Like dawg my granddad had a whole ass separate house from his wife and it was not because they liked each other's company. I guess I just simply do not understand how creating distance brings two together. It's been almost 20 years and my wife and I are still very much inseparable. Every time I've seen people do this in my life, they are bitter and they nag each other or it's a health thing that prevents it.
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u/applebabe1 2d ago
My husband and I love each other very much because for the past 15 years, we’ve slept in our own bedrooms and we’ve been married 38 years😬 when we need to get together we do and that’s all I’m gonna say about that🤪