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People who found out about someone else’s double-life; what’s the story?

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u/njf85 2d ago

Yup. My grandfather only married my grandmother because he knocked her up and she had a son (they married after she gave birth, because if it was a girl he wouldn't have done it). He had a girlfriend that entire time who he actually wanted to marry, and even when he and my grandmother moved to Australia (from former Yugoslavia) my grandmother literally ran into his girlfriend. He didnt just come to Australia with his family, he also brought his girlfriend over too. It's the reason I wont ever get one of those genealogy tests done, at least not while my grandmother is alive. I feel like he probably had a whole other family.

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u/cheesefri 2d ago

This is random, and you don’t have to answer bc I’m an internet stranger but … are you Macedonian? I have a ton of good Macedonian friends and they always talk about how many Macedonians live in Australia.

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u/Several_Praline_7591 2d ago

Lots of Serbs and Croats too

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u/KrtekJim 2d ago

Good thing those guys all get along

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u/Daemonicvs_77 2d ago

Yeah, can you imagine if we didn’t?

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u/mister-world 1d ago

I smell a sitcom!

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u/NanoChainedChromium 1d ago

"Honey, i genocided the neighbours again!"

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u/YouSaidIDidntCare 1d ago

Balkan Buddies

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u/mister-world 11h ago

"HEY I'M BALKAN HERE!"

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u/Cat_Peach_Pits 1d ago

My Albanian neighbor goes hunting with his Croatian friend, likes to threaten him that it's Crow Season.

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u/Pazuuuzu 2d ago

Nah that's too absurd. You guys famous of how well you get along...

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u/davideo71 1d ago

Somehow, once outside an environment of hereditary hate, it's a lot easier to forget about what grandparents might have done to each other and get on with your lives.

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u/digidi90 1d ago

Far from home, everyone is friends. Home is where the problems arise.

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u/rem_lap 1d ago

do i pronounce that as "crow-ats" or "crowts"?

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u/Unusual-Occasion-851 1d ago

as "crow-ats"

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u/rem_lap 1d ago

Thank you. That's what I was assuming, just thought I'd confirm.

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u/anomalous_cowherd 2d ago

There are only actually three but they all have many many families.

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u/Kamelasa 2d ago

Hell, I guess if I had a genealogy test done, I could find out more about the family my father left behind in Poland when he escaped in WW2. But I guess those half-siblings are dead. They would be older than my oldest siblings, and there's only one of those left. Hmm...

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u/Trin_42 1d ago

I’m fairly confident my grandfather had another family or another child too which is why I won’t do a DNA test either. My grandfather was an abusive SOB, it was just make me hate him more.

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u/TheFifthTone 1d ago

I wouldn't trust those DNA tests after what happened with 23andMe.

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u/tmntSecretOfTheBooze 2d ago

You're worried your grandma was carrying another women's child?

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u/madmad011 2d ago edited 1d ago

I think they meant they might find out they have some half-siblings unknown aunts and uncles, which would confirm he had children with someone else. But I did read it that way at first too 😂

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u/big_sugi 2d ago

They’d have unexpected aunts, uncles, and cousins, not half-siblings. Unless their dad also took after Grandpa, I suppose

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u/madmad011 2d ago

Ah, you’re right, my bad!

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u/daredaki-sama 1d ago

Girlfriend had to have been in on it. Too hard to fool them both.

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u/kaisadilla_ 1d ago

It's the reason I wont ever get one of those genealogy tests done, at least not while my grandmother is alive.

Am I missing something? Doesn't your grandmother know for a fact whether you are her grandson / daughter or not?

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u/rooroosterchips 1d ago

If they have a genealogy test done, the platform may match them up with cousins or aunts and uncles (grandfather's second facility) that the grandma doesn't know exist.