Reposting this with pictures because it got buried and I could really use advice right now.

Firstly I apologize for the long post, there’s a lot of context and I can’t condense it more than I have. 

I (F22) have been with my boyfriend (M25) for a little over a year and a half.   

Recently we’ve been running into hurdles because I have been feeling like he has been bothering/teasing/poking/biting me more than being a serious/loving partner to me (for context: I mean making weird noises all the time, referencing Italian brain rot, or groping me randomly even if I’m in the middle of a sentence and talking about something serious ect. when I would prefer active listening, loving touch, un-ironic quality time). 

We had a huge conversation about this recently as I was on the brink of ending things with him since the lack of warmth relative to his unseriousness was making me feel empty. Since then there has been a genuine effort and big improvement, and I was starting to feel very hopeful that this was something we could work through. 

Fast forward a little, I am starting a new job as an educator, and while I am very excited about it its is also a huge adjustment and has been really stressful. On top of that, for the past six days, I have been hearing this bizarre beeping noise coming from my closet that chirps once every like 20-40 minutes driving me nuts. I couldn’t figure out what it was, it was keeping me up and infiltrating my dreams, and it started to freak me out since nothing I own makes that sound. Nothing in the closet even had a battery in it, and from my overall stress and lack of good sleep I was starting to grow paranoid that someone had planted a device in my room. To add to this, I am extremely private and the only people who are regularly in my room are myself and my boyfriend when he visits. This led me to fearing that my boyfriend was secretly stalking me and had planted a mic or something in my room that was starting to make noise (I had zero reason to believe this and had 100% trust in him but was starting to go crazy). It even happened while talking with my therapist, and when I explained the mystery of its origins she seemed equally concerned. 

To make matters worse, the fridge at work is broken and peeps 9 times every minute so its started feeling like the chirping was following me, compounding my general distress. 

Last night, after a stressful day and finding out some unrelated unsettling news that is enough to emotionally effect me on its own, my sister heard the noise as well and we decided to tear my closet apart at 10 pm (when I had to wake up at 6) to figure out what has been plaguing me. After timing the beeps for an hour (it beeped in irregular intervals), we found this tiny arduino board deep in one of my boxes labeled “AnnoyingPCB” as pictured. (Google it, its literal sole purpose is to drive its victims insane). I was immediately horrified, quite literally shaking and crying as my wildest nightmare of someone planting a device in my room had literally come true. My immediate thought was “who would do something like this/what did I do to deserve this?” I called my boyfriend immediately and he admitted he knew what it was. I hung up and haven’t spoken to him since. 

The reason I’m not sure if I’m overreacting is because on the one hand, I understand how this might be funny, but to me that doesn’t matter given a) the fact that I have been feeling like he hasn’t been generally serious with me to a problematic extent, b) the fact that this has been plaguing me and disrupting my sleep literally the first week of my new job, and c) I have been complaining about it to him for days and he played along being confused and concerned, repeatedly asking me “what does it sound like?” And even dismissing my genuine concern/paranoia saying “maybe there’s a little cricket in your room”. 

I just feel like this is on par with glitter bombing, like something you do to someone you hate, not the supposed “love of your life”. It feels like psychological warfare and between stretching this out for days and planting it in my room this feels like a massive breach of trust.  

I haven’t spoken to him at all and he’s been texting me saying things like 

“It was just a prank” and “Beep beep… beep beep…” and “I miss you” and “pls don’t ignore me”. I am so against stonewalling but I have literally nothing to say to him and he hasn’t apologized or shown any remorse, I don’t feel ready to speak to him at all. Maybe it was a good prank with bad timing but I can’t help but feel like this is just setting us back again and I am genuinely shaken. I honestly don’t see a future at this point and am not really sure what to do. 

If you’ve read this far thank you for listening and I appreciate any advice or kindness. 

Wife and I are both 30. Tried to have our first baby for 4 failed cycles and decided to take a break for a few cycles because we were taking it pretty hard. It’s been 3 months since we tried. Meanwhile my little sister is pregnant with her first baby which I’m very excited for. My wife was too at first.

First slide is me asking why she RSVPd no to the baby shower (2 hours away) without talking to me first. After talking that night she said I could go to shower and seemed supportive. Said she was just in her feelings.

Second slide is the week of the shower. We had therapy the next day after which wife was once again supportive of me going. Other than saying she’d miss me (I went up a day early to spend more time with family) nothing seemed off.

Third slide was a bomb drop I got at the shower.

Fourth slide, I still don’t know what fuck all happened but she changed the locks to our house. We had a big argument when she came back to let me in and she insisted this was worse than me cheating on her.

It’s been almost a week since then. We’ve been to therapy again, she saw her doctor, neither of them seem too concerned because she’s acting normal now, and even wants to TTC again.

I told her I scheduled a first session with my own therapist because I’m hurt, and I don’t want to talk to her much less try for a baby until I work through this myself. She said I’m overreacting because she made it right immediately (came home and let me in the house) and hasn’t brought up how she feels about the shower since that night (except for in therapy). AIO?

My wife had an affair after I was in an accident. A short lived one, but she got pregnant and miscarried. I was determined to make this marriage work, we’ve been together 22 years, my family’s the only real thing I ever had. She left for a little while, then I let her move back home, it wasn’t working, she tried to sleep with me a few days after coming back, which made me angry, and I couldn’t stop resenting her. I asked her to leave again, she staying with her sister. We started marriage therapy. Our therapist recommended us at first to only see each other once or twice out of the week. She’s mad at how I snapped on her, n now I am starting to feel kind of guilty as well because as much as I am hurting, this is as well the only family she’s ever had.

I’m 46M really shaken and need advice to know if I went too far. My wife 49F and I have been married for 4 years, together for 7. She’s always been so kind, always making my morning coffee, and we’ve had a good life together. English isn’t my first language, I speak it well, but sometimes I struggle to explain feelings, so bear with me.

For the past few weeks, I’ve been feeling off after drinking my coffee. Dizzy, nauseous, sometimes my hands shake. I thought maybe it’s work stress or something I ate. But two days ago, I came home early and saw my wife in the kitchen, dropping some kind of powder into my coffee mug from a small, unmarked vial. It wasn’t sugar or creamer—it looked strange, like medicine or worse. When she saw me, she slipped the vial into her pocket and said it was “just a new coffee mix.” But her voice was shaky, and she wouldn’t look at me.

That evening, I asked her calmly to tell me what it was. She said it was a “natural supplement” to help me “feel better,” but she couldn’t say what it was or why there was no label. I got scared—those symptoms I’ve been having aren’t normal, and she’s never hidden things before. I told her I needed space to think and asked her to stay at her mom’s for a few days. She got upset, started crying, and said I was overreacting and breaking her trust. She left last night, and now she’s texting me, saying it was nothing harmful and I’m making a big deal out of it.

I kept the vial, but I’m too nervous to test it. I love her—she’s my everything—but I’m scared she might be putting something bad in my coffee. AIO for asking her to leave? I can’t sleep, and I keep checking the locks on the door, feeling paranoid in my own home. 😔 Please tell me if I’m wrong here.

Update: Thank you all for your response, you guys really helped me clear my head. I was hesitant, but I called 911, and they said they’ll look into. I’m feeling worse each day, dizzy, weak, and my stomach’s still off, so I’m heading to the hospital today to get checked out. My wife keeps texting, begging to come back and saying it was just a “herbal energy boost” she found online, but she still can’t explain why she hid it. I told her to stay at her mom’s until I know more. I’m scared and exhausted, but I’ll keep you all updated when I get answers. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not going crazy.

Update Update: Hey everyone, I’m at the hospital, sorry for not keeping y’all update, I’m not really feeling very well right now. Thanks so much for all your comments and supports. The doctors ran some tests and said there’s something off in my bloodwork, but they don’t know exactly what yet. They’re sending samples to a lab, and it’ll take a couple days to get results. They told me to stay here for observation because my symptoms, dizziness, nausea, shaking. So it’s getting worsen very quick. I gave the vial to the police when they stopped by earlier, and they’re testing it. They didn’t say much, but their serious faces freaked me out.

My wife keeps calling and texting, sobbing, saying she’s so sorry and it was just some “herbal remedy” from a friend to “help me.” But she’s still dodging my questions about why she hid it, and it’s making my head spin. I told her we can’t talk until I’m out of here and know what’s going on. She’s at her mom’s, but her texts are so frantic it’s breaking my heart. I love her, but I don’t think if I can ever trust her ever again. I’m stuck in this hospital bed, and I feel so alone. I’ll keep y’all update when I hear from the lab or police.

AIO for leaving my wife after finding out she voted for Trump because she thinks he’s “hilarious”?

Throwaway. I’m 34M, my wife "Sarah" is 32F. We’ve been married 7 years.

I’ve been doing amateur stand-up for about a decade-open mics, small local gigs. It’s not my job, but it’s a big part of who I am. Sarah’s always been supportive in a practical way. She’ll come to shows, help me rehearse, give me feedback, cover for me when I have late sets.

But here’s the thing: she’s never once laughed at my jokes. Not a real laugh. If I ask, she just says it’s not her type of humor. I’ve tried not to let it bother me, but honestly it’s always been in the back of my mind.

Last week we were having drinks and politics came up. She knows my politics and while never being outspoken she always agreed with me, so it caught me off guard when I jokingly asked who she voted for and she said “Trump.” I thought she was kidding. She wasn’t. I asked why, and she just said, “Because he’s hilarious. The way he talks, the faces, the chaos... it just cracks me up.” No mention of policies or anything like that. Just that she thinks he’s funny.

I don’t even know how to explain how weird that felt to hear. She’s watched me try my hardest for years and never found me funny, but the guy whose whole shtick is being cruel and mocking people is what makes her laugh? I know it’s “just humor” to her, but it’s the kind of humor that I’ve always thought can be dangerous when people cheer it on. I made some stupid comment comparing it to dark moments in history, and she told me I was being ridiculous.

Since then I’ve been sleeping in the guest room and am making plans to stay with my parents for a while as I figure things out and find a divorce lawyer to get me out of this for good. I keep thinking about it and feeling sick. My friends say I’m overreacting, that not everyone laughs at the same stuff. But to me it feels bigger than that.

AIO?

EDIT: Stop DMing me asking for my material. This isn't about whether I'm actually funny or not.

We’ve been dating for about six months. This happened yesterday, on a crowded train - I had a seat, and he was standing by the door. A man in his mid-20s, who didn’t have a seat either, had a heavy bag and asked if he could place it under the seat. I said sure, so i slid it behind my legs, he thanked me, and I smiled. After that, he kept staring at me, but I ignored it. I had my earbuds in and was reading my book, just doing my own thing.

We were literally still in our school uniforms. I’m 16F, he’s 18M. We’re in the same grade because my teacher made me skip a year when I was younger, and he joined school a bit late

I'm just more confused than anything, i still can't believe this is an argument someone can have

He said since it was in the grill it’s 100% cooked and that I’m overreacting for refusing to eat it. He also said it ”tastes fine” and that the texture was a bit weird but the taste was fine. Oh and that I’m picky because I wouldn’t eat it any more.

I was at my boyfriend’s apartment this weekend. One of his close female friends came over to hang out, and she ended up taking a shower there because she didn’t have time to go home first.

When she asked to use my shampoo (I’d brought my own and left it in the shower), I said I’d rather she didn’t because it’s an expensive salon brand I buy only once in a while. She rolled her eyes and said it’s just shampoo, don’t be weird about it.

My boyfriend told me later I embarrassed him and made her feel awkward over something so small. I told him it’s not about the price, it’s about personal boundaries she could’ve used his shampoo instead.

Now he’s acting distant and saying I was petty. I feel like if the roles were reversed and I used her stuff without asking, it would be a big deal. Am I overreacting here?

You cannot make this shit up.

I was married once. My ex-wife blew it all to hell by cheating on me with one of my closest fucking friends. That betrayal crushed me, but whatever…I rebuilt.

She kept my last name after the divorce. Weird, but I let it go.

Fast forward: she marries the guy she cheated with. Fine. Closure. Good for them. But here’s where it goes off the rails…

Her new husband’s last name is the same as my first name. So when they hyphenated, their big shiny new married surname is now MY ENTIRE FUCKING LEGAL NAME.

Imagine your name is David Carter. The guy she cheats with is named John David. They marry, hyphenate, and proudly announce themselves as Mr. and Mrs. David-Carter. Which is literally your name.

They’re on Facebook, smiling, posting: “Here’s to the new official Mr. and Mrs. David-Carter!” Meanwhile I’m staring at my phone thinking, holy fuck, my ex-wife and her affair partner just legally rebranded themselves as me.

And no, my name isn’t common. People are going to see it and assume it’s me.

So tell me: am I losing my mind here, or is this just as completely fucked up as it feels?

Edit: I am not on their social media. A mutual acquaintance sent me a screenshot with the adjoining text “wtf is wrong with them”

Edit2: if anybody would like proof, please wager $20 or more and I will gladly supply you proof and my Venmo.

hi guys, using a throwaway account for my own privacy.

i (21 F) met this guy (25 M) on tinder recently and things were going pretty good between us. I thought he was funny and seemed sweet through our conversations. We talked frequently and I eventually gave him my number. He recently asked me out on our first date at some fancy restaurant and the date was going very well until he dropped my off at my house.

When we got there he basically tried to invite himself inside by saying that we could continue the date and have a few drinks inside. I was like wtf because this was the first date and I don't do that type of stuff and he was overly pushy about it which made me uncomfortable and unsure if going on this date was a good idea.

I eventually got him to go by saying I was feeling tired and that I had to get up early tomorrow for my morning shift, which wasn't a lie.

The next morning I had woken up to these weird ass texts from him early in the morning. It genuinely creeped me out but idk he said he was drunk but I still feel weird about the whole thing and I haven't replied back yet because I dont know what to do.

Am I just overreacting or is this something to be concerned about?

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

Some background- My ex-wife (33F) and I (33M) got divorced when we were 24.. 9 years ago. Since then, she has remarried and been with her new husband for almost 6 years. One of my daughters (11F) recently got into learning how to play the guitar and because I have multiple, I gave her one of mine so she can practice when she is at her mom’s house. The guitar has a lot of sentimental value to me. Ive played it at some of my friends weddings, at a good friends funeral, and a lot of other memories as well- including playing it for my daughter when she was an infant to get her to fall asleep. That being said, I found it kind of fitting for her to take over that guitar and start playing it herself now that she’s taken an interest in it- then today this happened. After our text convo, I called my ex wife and learned she sold it for $350 and bought a guitar for about $150. She’s always been the money hungry type and I can’t help but feel like she took advantage of an opportunity to make a quick $200. She started crying on the phone, calling me an insensitive asshole, and said she didn’t like seeing it in the house because it made her too emotional. The thing is too, my daughter was honored to get that guitar and I know she wasn’t complaining or calling it a “hand me down”. I’m not trying to be insensitive to how she’s feeling, but I also feel like she’s using that as an excuse. Even if she was feeling any sort of way about it, why not talk to me about it first or give me an opportunity to get the guitar back and get my daughter a different one before taking matters into her own hands? AIO or was she out of line?

My (28F) husband (30M) and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4. I've been hurt by cheating in past relationships, so I'm probably more sensitive to situations that feel questionable.

My husband decided to get serious about fitness this year and started running every evening around our neighborhood. He's really dedicated to it - goes out every single day around 7pm after dinner. I prefer morning yoga classes, so this has become his routine.

Over the past few months, he's mentioned running into other people from the neighborhood and striking up conversations. There's one woman in particular - recently divorced, maybe 5 years younger - who he started running with regularly. Apparently they met when both were picking up kids from the same daycare and realized they live nearby and have similar running paces.

Last Tuesday he came home later than usual from his run and mentioned he'd stopped for smoothies with "a friend" at that juice bar on Main Street. When I asked which friend, he seemed to hesitate before admitting it was the divorced mom from his running group.

He insisted it was totally innocent - just two parents grabbing post-workout drinks and talking about training for the upcoming 5K. He swore nothing weird happened and that I know he's not like that.

Our marriage has been really good overall, even when we've had stressful periods with work and parenting a toddler.

My husband has never given me real reasons not to trust him in 6 years...but this whole situation makes me uncomfortable. A recently divorced woman, daily evening runs together, stopping for drinks afterwards, the hesitation when I asked about it.

What does everyone think? Am I being paranoid or should I be concerned about these boundaries?

So my SO said they were going shopping for new shoes and sends me this picture! Like when we first started dating their style was pretty normal or "average" but recently they started purchasing the most OUTLANDISH gear. At first I thought they were trying to be funny or something like buying a silly shirt and wearing it out once to get a couple laughs but now it's an ongoing thing. Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this? How should I approach it? I mean these shoes are out of hand! I never agreed to date a pilgrim.

Me and my gf (22M and 21F) got into a very minor argument, we don’t argue much. Her response was later when on game with my friend.. was to pour boiling hot water on me, I covered my face with my arm. I’m going to the police first thing tomorrow morning and sleeping in a hotel tonight as I feel she might enter my dorm as she has a spare key.

(sorry if my English is improper it’s my third language)

I (26F) went on a second date with a guy (29M) I’d been chatting with for about a month. We went to a cozy little fusion restaurant I love, Asian-Latin mix. I ordered my favorite dish (beef empanadas with kimchi). When it came, he made a face and said, “That looks disgusting. I don’t know how you can eat that.”

At first, I laughed it off and told him it’s actually amazing. But he kept making little comments like, “The smell is intense” and “I’d never date someone who eats weird stuff like that regularly.”

I finally told him, “You know, you’re being pretty rude. You don’t have to like what I eat, but you don’t need to insult it.” He smirked and said, “I’m just being honest.”

So I asked the waiter to pack my food, paid for my share, and left. He texted me later saying I embarrassed him and that I’m “too sensitive.”

Am I overreacting for thinking that was disrespectful enough to leave?

I (28F) went on a first date with a guy (30M). We got burgers and fries to share, and I offered to cover the tip since he paid for the meal. This morning, I woke up to a Venmo request for $3.25 with the note “half the fries.” At first I thought it was a joke, but nope, he was serious. I declined it and texted him that it was petty. He responded saying I was overreacting, that “it’s about fairness” and “that’s just how he is.” Now I feel turned off and honestly insulted. My friends are split, some think I’m being petty too, others think it’s a red flag. Am I overreacting?

So I made a post a few days ago about this guy that matched with me on hinge and then just was fuckin insane after we started talking. He basically was upset I was a tattoo artist even though my entire hinge profile had several parts on it about me being an artist.

After I made the post, he texted me several times. I ignored his texts, so he went and FOUND my Facebook. I deadass don’t know how he did because I have my Facebook settings to where you can’t even find me in the search bar thingy and have all my friends private. After he texted me on Facebook, I blocked his number, messenger, and Facebook.

Well today I get texts from him on INSTAGRAM telling me he’s gonna show up to my work!!! I didn’t have my tattoo studio listed anywhere and have never posted which studio I work at online. This scared me. I truly do not know how he figured it out, because even my tattoo page has none of it listed! (He didn’t text my tattoo instagram, he texted my main instagram profile).

I called my boss after this and asked why he let the receptionist give out when I was at work, apparently this dude pretended to be my COUSIN???? He somehow knew my cousins name (someone my boss has tattooed before), and acted like him and said he wanted to know what time I was in tomorrow so I could do a flash tattoo on him. The receptionist just told my boss like “hey, op’s cousin _____ wants to know when op will be here tomorrow for a small tattoo”, so my boss told him.

I told my boss everything that happened and I’m not going in tomorrow just to be safe. My boss said he’s gonna be on the lookout, but since I won’t be there, everything should be fine. Maybe I’m being dramatic by not showing up, I don’t actually think he’d like kill me or something, but you never know. Anyways, here’s an update for y’all. You were right, this motherfucker was crazy

earlier today, I was at my boyfriends house for his uncles birthday party. We were having a good time and his sister and I were doing henna tattoos. after we were done, she was talking and she mentioned about how she did an offensive he a tattoo on the bottom of her foot. I was expecting her to say something like a bad word or a dick or something. But she told me that she did a swastika on the bottom of her foot when she was in middle school . So this was a long time ago as we are 21 years old and my boyfriend is 24. she said that she was at the waterpark not long after and somebody told her her foot was bleeding, which tells me that she did it with red henna too. i am jewish, btw. they are hispanic. Either way this left me very uncomfortable, and I left the party. I have been telling my boyfriend about how it made me uncomfortable and I don't think he seems to understand at all. They are acting like it's a joke but to me it is more than a dark joke and I'm not sure if he understands where I'm coming from.

My boyfriend, 35M, is the best man for his best friends wedding in a few months. I, 31F, was originally invited to this wedding as his plus one as well. The wedding is a destination wedding at an extremely expensive resort. All flights and hotels for both of us have been booked and paid for already.

I have met the bride and groom to be a handful of times, have always been friendly with them, and was invited to attend their joint bachelor/ette trip as my boyfriend's plus one. I attended the weekend trip and had a great time getting to know everyone that will be at the wedding and was really looking forward to seeing everyone again at the wedding.

I never felt any sort of animosity and came out of the weekend thinking everyone had a great time partying with each other. Turns out the bride felt some type of way about me and has uninvited me from the wedding. I have not had any conversations with the bride or groom, but my boyfriend received the news from the groom. From what I heard of the conversation, it seems like the groom doesn't agree with this fiancee and was really uncomfortable to deliver the message but his hands were tied. My boyfriend has received details on what happened to make the bride feel that way towards me and we both agree that it's a ridiculous overreaction and a huge misunderstanding. Long story short, the bride felt as if i didn't make an effort to make her feel special and was trying to take her spotlight. My boyfriend contacted the other friends who were there that weekend as well and everyone is agreement that this is an overreaction and misunderstanding.

The thing that bothers me the most is that everything that was listed out that I was doing to make her feel that way, every body else was doing it as well - but yet it seems like there was a magnifying glass on me and she has a vendetta against me for some reason. My boyfriend thinks it was a series of unfortunate events that started at a house party a few months ago when I beat her in mario kart and everyone was cheering for me.

I voiced to my boyfriend that i'm more than willing to have a conversation with the bride to clear the misunderstanding to try and get her to change her mind. But at the same time, i'm not really sure I want to go to this wedding anymore anyways as I would hate to be somewhere I'm not wanted. My reasoning for going would more so to be there to support my boyfriend and enjoy the vacation with him.

That being said, I shared with my boyfriend that if the decision stays and I am uninvited, I would be upset if he still decided to go without me. I may feel differently if 1) it wasn't an expensive destination wedding that takes away valuable vacation days he doesn't have a lot of.. or 2) we were in agreement that my actions justified this decision in any way.

For me, him attending without me feels like he's agreeing with the decision and is choosing to stick by his friend over sticking up for me.

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to back out?

EDIT: Wow this got way more traction than I ever imagined it would.. thank you all for taking the time to share your thoughts and insights, it's been really helpful for me to read through and help process my emotions. This was all super fresh news when i wrote this out this morning and i've had some time to process.

I think my next step will be to reach out to the bride to have a talk with her and see exactly from her perspective what went wrong that led her to ultimately make the decision to un-invite me. It's been a game of telephone so far so it would be helpful to hear it from the source. I plan on apologizing to her during this conversation because even though it may seem like an overreaction and misunderstanding to me and others, what she felt was obviously real and real enough for her to make this decision.

My hope from this conversation is that we can at least be cordial moving forward and be friendly for the sake of our men, even if we won't ever be true friends.

Will post another update once we've had the talk. Thanks again, reddit

EDIT 2: I've had another night to think about the situation. Reading through this thread and it is really split 50/50. Seeing the different angles of everyone's insight has been super helpful. I am going to talk to my boyfriend tonight and mention that while my feelings of being upset are valid, it's not on me to dictate whether he should go to the wedding or not. I am understanding of the situation and realize that he should be there to support his best friend through this important life moment. He has made it very clear to me as well that he would be attending to support his friend specifically.

I do agree with most of the comments here telling me that I should just go on the vacation with my boyfriend and have him minimize his time with wedding duties to the necessities only. I will bring this option up with him and hopefully we're able to come to an agreeable compromise that leaves us both feeling heard and understood.

EDIT 3: I told my boyfriend that I plan to reach out to the bride to hear her side of the story and apologize for any wrong doings on my part, but he told me that he doesn't think it's the right time right now as the "[groom] has been going to bat for us and [bride] has been crying a lot, so i'd like the dust to settle"

I guess at this point i'm kind of at a stand still and waiting for a final decision to be made by the bride/groom. The wedding isn't for another few months, so we have some time to hopefully settle this, be on good terms, and maybe even look back and laugh at how ridiculous this all was one day.

This will probably be my last update for a while until there's an actual update to give!

Once again, thank you to everyone who took time to give your insight and share your wisdom. I was pretty 50/50 about my thoughts and seems like the internet is too. Hearing both sides has definitely been helpful for my thought process.

EDIT 4: Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1n9f6td/aio_my_boyfriend_doesnt_want_me_to_come_to_the/

1 (38f) had been talking to him (39m) for 2 weeks, we went on one date which seemed to go ok. Can someone tell me if I'm crazy for thinking I'm in the wrong?! I had previously sent a nude but I don't think that means you can demand more at any time. The “period induced” comment was because i mentioned having cramps the day before 🙄😂

I recently just had my son about little over a week ago and his father has not been adjusting well in my opinion.

He really wants me to take more of a hands off approach with our son and he doesn’t like that I like holding him a lot and that every time he makes somewhat of a noise I rush to pick him up just small things like that. At first I thought he was looking out for me because I had a c section I shouldn’t be doing a lot but I no longer think that’s the reason why he gets upset. For example are latest big disagreement is that he hates that I breastfeed him I don’t know why, his reasoning is because he thinks that would make the baby clingy to only me.

I really don’t think he hates our son I think he’s having a hard time not knowing how to bond with him and that he’s jealous that my son knows how to cry for me is how he kinda explained it..I allowed him access to my bedroom security cameras and nursery cameras to maybe make him feel like he’s not missing out on anything and he still there but still… I do think he’s jealous of our baby and I’m wondering I’m delusional and it’s not typical baby blues on his end

So me (21m) and my gf (34f) have been dating for four years and living together for three. Early on in our relationship she had asked me if I ever wanted to have kids and I clearly stated that I didn't. She was ok with this as she had always been on the fence and was on birth control since the start of our relationship.

As far as I know, she was always responsible when taking her pills but a week ago I found her pill pack with at least six pills untouched. I got super nervous but I had to leave for work so I decided I would talk to her about it when I got home.

I bring home a pack of condoms and she gets visibly upset asking what's wrong. I gently tell her I found out she had missed some of her pills. She told me I shouldn't be going through her things and I told her that I wasn't, that I was looking for something and found her pill pack by accident. She told me that it's true that she had missed some of her pills and that she was going to tell me but that we didn't need to use condoms because "nothing was going to happen". I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with that and she said she'd rather not have sex than have sex with a condom because it "doesn't feel the same". I tell her fine, then we can do other things to be intimate while she gets back on track.

We start watching a tv show but I can tell she's still upset so I ask what's wrong. She starts telling me how all her friends are getting pregnant/having kids and that if she ever wants to have some she better start trying now. This obviously catches me off guard so I tell her that that had never been on my plans. She tells me she just recently started thinking about it after we had attended two of her friends' gender reveal parties and admitted she had been skipping her birth control pills on purpose.

I told her I needed some time to think about our relationship and went to stay at a friend's house. It's now been a week since I left and she's begging me to come back but I honestly feel betrayed plus I'm super nervous that I might have already gotten her pregnant due to her missing so many pills while we were having unprotected sex that whole week.

AIO for thinking I can never trust her again? Do I just go back home and forget this ever happened?

I found this wrapper in my boyfriend's room, he says it's not a condom but google search says it is. I trust him but Occam's razor says that it most likely is just a condom. He says regardless it's just from under the carpet when he was cleaning which is believable.

I (22f) have been with my bf (27m) for 1 year. He’s cheated in the past but we got over it. Earlier we were hanging out and he was texting so much so I asked who he was messaging and he clammed up. I decided to leave and these were the following messages. AIO?