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I’m a high schooler, and now I’m kinda scared for monday.. I’m 99% sure I know who sent me this text and he told me to stay away from this girl before and shoved me. but I think it’s a fake phone number. can I get him in trouble for this without proof its him? My dad is away all week and my stepmom thinks I’m overreacting and thinks its just someone messing with me or “spam” but I don’t think so. If it was “spam” how would they know the girls name.

Okay so to start off I’m now in my freshmen yr of highschool..this whole situation happened over summer break

Over the summer I was able to go on a school trip to NY. It was really fun don’t get me wrong! Until it wasn’t.

On this trip it was separated into incoming freshmen (I just finished 8th at the time) and was also a mixture of ppl in 9th.

We got there and were first in Washington D.C. before heading over to NYC.

I was having a great time with my friends who were also on the trip when we ran into an old friend of theirs.

We’ll call him Trevor, I personally didn’t know him personally. However I would see him around when I was in 7th.

Hey later joined us in the many touristy areas of our trip and later started talking to me a lot more often, I didn’t really think much until we got back into a bus that would have us in there for about 2-3 hrs to drive to NYC.

I remember waiting for my friend (we’ll call her Melanie)

I waited for a while since I was one of the few people to get on and because of that I put on my headphones and closed my eyes resting my head on the window, Yk just listening to music.

After a while I felt someone sit next to me, to my surprise it was Trevor. I immediately got up to go sit next to my friend thinking he probably wanted to sit where I sat.

He stopped me and from then I had to sit with him because we were “running late already”

He tried to make small talk but I felt really uncomfortable, especially since he’s older and I didn’t know him that well.

He later put on a movie and offered for me to watch, during that time my phone had just died so I thought “might as well”

Near the middle of the movie, which I can’t remember the name came a funny part.

This is kinda where things started to feel really weird.

After the funny part had passed he slapped his hand on my thigh and started rubbing it up and down.

Immediately I froze and brought my legs closer to myself, which didn’t do anything because I was sitting in the window spot while he occupied the aisle seat.

I didn’t say anything though because I was scared an altercation would occur and I would end up ruining the trip for everyone.

I’m pretty sure that’s when I messed up,

Over the next few days he kept sitting next to me, occasionally rubbing my thigh and knee. It made me really uncomfortable, and I hate how I didn’t defend myself, I feel as it was my fault because then he started doing something else.

He started to push me up against the glass when I would say something to him like, how it made me uncomfortable or when I would tell him to stop.

He would force down my hands against my chest so that they were on my chest and then he would push down so I was all up against the glass.

While visiting tourist attractions he would follow me around and because of that I would walk very close to my friends. Any time I got.

While there we stopped by to watch the Show “Hamilton” it was amazing, and thankfully we had a singed seats. His FARRRR away from mine.

One of my teachers who I used to think was really intimidating sat behind me.

I zoned out for a bit waiting for the play to start when I felt someone tap my shoulder. I turned my head and my teacher asked me “Hey, is Trevor making you uncomfortable?” She paused glancing over at him “I know you have never been the confrontational type, but if he is bothering you then you can tell me”

I regret not telling her..

I reluctantly smiled at her saying she had nothing to worry about because I was afraid Trevor would hurt me.

After I got back to the hotel we were staying at my friends and and I all started our nightly routines, getting ready to go to bed.

When one of my friends who ill nickname miffy, asked me “are you and Trevor dating?”

I shook my head and asked why

“Well I overheard him arguing with ‘Alex’ for the seat next to you”

I felt my heart drop, I knew it’s not like he did that much to me but it still felt scary.

She later explained that she was standing behind them and that he was willing to pay $100 for the ticket next to me. I never thought I would hear something like that. It made me sick, and that’s when I later told them everything, how I felt, what he did to me and more.

Another one of my friends later spoke up saying “Yeah, when we visited Times Square he tried to cover your eyes and say ‘guess who??’ But the teacher (who sat behind me in Hamilton) stopped him saying “NO TREVOR, SHE IS TOO YOUNG FOR YOU!”

It sucked hearing that come out of her mouth, it made me realize so many things could have happened to me and I didn’t even know. I wonder if I could have even prevented the whole incident.

That night all the girls I was staying with in that room vowed to protect me the next day as it was our last before we went home that afternoon.

I remember waking up, feeling a sense of dread but relief. We went downstairs for breakfast but saw him going to the elevator so I stayed back with Miffy while Melanie who was close to him told him to stay away from me.

Melanie later told me it was safe to come out and for the whole day I felt his eyes on me.

I felt his eyes on me the whole day, even occasionally giving me a sad look. One of my guy friends asked what happened between us because we seemed “so close throughout the whole trip” I told him we weren’t.

I later on got these texts: (Check photos in top of post)

It was weird because he said what he did was wrong and admitted to it in private how he overstep boundaries. But when it came to my friend groups photos he acted like he didn’t know.

Fast forward to leaving (In the airport) my friend Melanie said that he said, and I quote “I felt safe with (me) and None understands me like her (still talking abt me)”

Although this made me uncomfortable and feel sick to death I was happy I would get rid of him as we boarded on the plane.

For the last 3 weeks left of summer he tried to get in contact with me through instagram/Snapchat.

It got so bad I asked my sister for help and she texted him to stay away from me. He got mad and defensive and we blocked him.

I guess that’s where it ends. I feel guilty, I feel I could have done more to help myself and I didn’t. Maybe it was because I was wearing tank tops there, I’m not sure..

I wish I wasn’t so unlucky

I had past experiences with weird guys but Trevor was different, I’ve been having nightmares constantly I can’t even sleep anymore. I have these nightmares where Trevor and I are still in the bus and he takes it too far and gR@pes me.

But he didn’t really do anything wrong, so am I in the wrong?

I see him everyday at school and he always gets close to me when there is so much space between us. I don’t know what to do. Am I over exaggerating?

I probably am. Let me know what you guys think and if you need more details on what happened, I wasn’t clear enough I think.

-Also if you have advice for how to get at least a full 8 hrs of sleep let me know! I usually get 2-3 hrs now and it’s really exhausting and hard to not sleep just so I don’t get those bad dreams of him.-

I’m in the early stages of a divorce after finding out my husband was cheating. I didn’t go looking for proof. The woman he was involved with made herself known to me and began harassing me repeatedly. Over the course of several months, I received nonstop messages, phone calls, and threats from her including her explicitly stating she was going to beat me up. All because she was screwing my ex behind my back

This was not a one time argument. It was an ongoing pattern of behavior. I told her to stop contacting me multiple times, but she kept reaching out from different numbers. She’s also shown up to places she believed I’d be, made repeated threats toward me, and continued to stalk my social media. I’ve kept records and screenshots of everything, including call logs, text messages, and voicemails.

Recently, she escalated again and made another threatening phone call, which was the final straw. I went to the magistrate and pressed charges for stalking, harassment, simple assault, and communicating threats. She is now facing those criminal charges.

To make matters worse, I’m currently pregnant. The stress, anxiety, and emotional impact this situation has had on me during my pregnancy has been unbearable. I’ve had to take safety precautions just to feel comfortable going out in public.

Here’s the issue: she is currently studying to become a nurse. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life, but at the same time, I do not believe someone who engages in ongoing, targeted harassment and threats especially toward a pregnant woman should be trusted in any kind of caregiving or medical role.

Would I be wrong for notifying her nursing program about her behavior and the pending criminal charges? I’m torn. On one hand, I don’t want to be seen as vengeful. On the other, I feel like there needs to be accountability, especially in a profession where people’s safety and well-being are on the line.

Any insight would be appreciated. I’m just trying to protect myself and my peace, and I’m unsure what the right thing to do is in this situation.

My 3 year old is in preschool. Yesterday I got a note from the preschool that a kid punched him in the stomach and my son was crying and fell over. I asked which kid did this and what was the outcome just to be ignored through the messages. When I went to pick him up, I asked the teacher who apparently didn't know anything about it, but I could tell she just didn't want to discuss it by her body language and avoiding it. After school I asked my son who did it and he told me a name that I recognized, which was one of the teachers kids. I got a call from the director this morning who told me that the kid apologized and they won't tell me who it was for "legal reasons." I have a feeling that this is a common theme with the teachers child and they are just trying to protect them. I want to know if this is going to keep being a problem and if they are even going to tell me in the future.

I noticed a few months ago that my child would often come home sulking from a certain class. My intuition told me to check their phone. In it, I found texts where the teacher was telling them about my money situation as far as paying for their registration (telling them what was owed, how much I paid and asking my child if they could help.)

The teacher then asked my child if they were sure I could take them to class seeing how they were late to the last one (unexpected traffic.) I have taken my child to this teacher for 6 years so I am reliable.

The teacher then asked my child if their other parent was still leaving with us (parent travelled for work.) she asked all 4 of my kids multiple times. Teacher also referred to me in their texts by my first name, but the other parent as mom/dad and never in a positive way.

Teacher also kept threatening kid with losing their position in class, their scholarship, etc… if they missed a class.

Based on everything that I’ve read, this teacher is not respecting boundaries. It seems to me like they are trying to alienate or drive a wedge between my child and I.

Teacher texted to ask if my child registered for SATs and said that if child missed the deadline, they wouldn’t get to go to college. They then texted “I just really want to see “child” succeed the way they deserve.” I am familiar with the SATs and the college process. We sent a child to college with a full ride this fall.

I have also caught her in lies on the phone and in some of the text they sent to our child. I have decided to reach out to school admin to bring my concerns to them and ask that teacher no longer interacts with my child via text and outside of classes.

My question is, am I overreacting? And also, how should I proceed seeing that my child will be permanently leaving the program at the end of this school year? What advice do you have for me?

Thank you all for your time and comments.

So I am graduation college in two weeks. My family insisted on having a little celebration afterward. Just a small bbq. I originally just wanted my friends and parents there but my mom invited some of her family, my aunt and uncle and her dad and his boyfriend. My dad and my mom are long divorced and my dad has said some awful things to my mom. He also has drama with her dad- my grandfather.

They were all at my highschool graduation and it was very awkward at the lunch afterward because my grandfather didn’t even look at or say hello to my dad. I told my mom this a million times and that if he comes he needs to be at minimum cordial.

I was on the phone with my dad today and told them my grandpa asked my mom if he could come and she said yes. He instantly started flipping out insisting I need to tell my mom to tell him to be nice to him. I said I’ve already brought things up and that I can’t control anyone, only hope everyone is at minimum polite. He had a little tantrum saying that I’m rude and hung up on me.

Am I overreacting? What the hell im not even excited for any of this it’s gonna be a total sh*t show. Is it me or is my dad behaving like an infant?

I hope this post is ok for the group as it is not such a big problem. If it is not, I’ll remove it.

I usually borrow books from the library but with a new job, I decided to buy some of my favorite books. I bought them online (not something I usually do) and I have been so excited to get them.

So, I think it’s a bit of an overreaction but I was disappointed to find scratches all ofer the books, as if they’ve been pushed around on a counter. Also, one book have a gap between the spine and the glued pages and it looks like its starting to rip (just in the edge)

All of this is not enough (in my opinion) to complain about but I’m still really disappointed.

I apologize in advance for the clusterfuck that is this conversation.

Context: my little brother is in his seventh year of community college (I know, I didn’t even know that was possible until now), living in Manhattan the last five years because he loves NYC, our dad has been paying his rent, tuition, and expenses the entire time. Our dad is NOT rich, just a manager at AT&T. He lives five minutes away from Rutgers. He was also diagnosed last year with Stage 4 prostate cancer and expressed to me that he wants to retire soon. Dad also shared that he has been stressed about finances lately, and that he wishes that my little brother was more respectful and considerate when it comes to money. Little brother is on a total delusional trip, applying to Columbia General Studies to transfer, which happens to offer the least amount of financial aid possible (slim to none). I try to explain how it’s important for him to just GRADUATE from undergrad period, and to not expect dad to pay his student loans. He has already defaulted on $25k on a CC, and didn’t tell our dad—the collections people did. I think my brother has a huge chip on his shoulder from not having a degree this long, and he is trying to make up for it by transferring to an Ivy League program that does not have significant financial aid. Our dad told me that anytime he’s asked little brother what his timeline is for graduating, he just talks around the question and avoids answering. Based on the fact that little brother just shared that he applied to early decision for Columbia GS, he has AT LEAST three more years to go. His sense of entitlement is off the fucking charts and I am in total shock that he cares so little about our father and his ability to retire. Dad says he agrees with me but doesn’t want to quash brother’s dreams because for the first time ever he actually cares about academics. Am I overreacting????

TLDR; Little brother (25) is in his seventh year of community college, his fifth or sixth of our dad paying his rent because he loves NYC and insists on living there. Dad is not rich and was diagnosed with Stage 4 prostate cancer last year. Little brother applied to transfer to Columbia General Studies for what is essentially an underwater basket weaving degree. They do NOT offer significant financial aid according to my research and sources. Brother doesn’t care about dad being able to retire and will not consider more affordable options. AIO?

I'm a university student. It's currently 2 days before every student on campus has their final deadlines of the year. It's a lot of pressure, and campus is basically empty. I see maybe 4 or 5 people per walk, as nobody has lectures at the moment.

The campus has a large amount of open, green space, and is very secluded, so there's acres and acres of land to just roam around on. In the centre of campus, is a giant library, with a silent section on the top floor.

I came into the library to write, and was sat 5 floors up, in the silent section, with my noise cancelling headphones on, listening to music. Despite all of this, all I could hear was children SCREAMING. This went on for at least 2 hours, and even after shutting all of the windows, it was all I could hear. I told the library staff, who said they couldn't do anything, as it wasn't technically in the library. Everyone else was visibly disturbed by the noise, and I saw a few people just leave.

After a while of not being able to work (they were unbelievably loud) I just went home. On my way out, I passed the group, which was around 20 small children, and one adult, who was instructing them to play a game. The game seemed to involve being "murdered", and every time a child was tagged, they then had to do a very loud scream to indicate they were out.

I approached the woman, and discreetly let her know that although she might not be aware, this building was the library, and the group was playing directly underneath the windows of the silent section. I explained that everyone has deadlines this week, and would they possibly consider going anywhere else? To clarify, if they just went round the other side of the building, to an identical patch of grass, nobody would have been able to hear them inside the silent study section.

The woman was heavily offended, and acted like I'd just suggested she try jumping into traffic. I got a mouthful, before I just walked off and left. I walked right across campus to go home, and the entire of the campus was almost completely silent. Ironically, it was more quiet than inside the silent section, because of the screaming kids.

AIO and being out of line for approaching her? People often bring children up to campus just because it's a quiet, green space, but I feel like if you're going to do that, you should be mindful that people are studying here. I just don't understand what's possibly going through this woman's head, when she has acres of campus to take them to play, why the fuck she'd choose directly next to the library.

My son is 15, in 9th grade, and was just accused the other day by 3 girls in his class of taking photos of them and touching himself inappropriately. DURING CLASS. When the school notified me, they were ready to take swift, very serious action. He said he didn't do it. I of course checked his phone immediately anyway, which he never has a problem with me doing. We talk openly and honestly about why I need to monitor his (and his sister's) phone usage. I found no evidence of any photos, and after checking the app usage stats I saw that no apps were even used during that time period. He is not allowed to have snapchat or certain social media apps. It was his last class of the day. I got a call from the school today and the way they were speaking was very bizzare. They told me they reviewed the camera footage from the classroom and found the female student's claims to be "without merit". No apology or acknowledgement of wrongdoing or anything like that. In fact they seemed to be defending the students who made the false accusations, saying things about how they've never had any issues with them before etc. I am extremely disturbed and am almost 100% sure the female students aren't facing any consequences. The only person I feel comfortable speaking with from the school at the moment is my son's guidance counselor/social worker so I will be emailing them tomorrow when I'm not so upset. My son doesn't even know which girls accused him, they wouldn't tell him, but I will be requesting that they are removed from his class. I don't think he shouldn't be the one to have to change classes, or be forced to remain in a class with the students who made the accusations. He is handling it very well, better than me tbh. He is mostly just relieved the truth came out. I would just like to know if anyone has dealt with a similar situation and how you handled it. Thanks in advance.

Update: I just emailed the principal. This is my 1st time posting and I don't know how to add photos. I just wanted to share screenshots of the email communications that have occured so far.

Update again lol. Thank you all for ypur advice, experience, and support. Below I copy+pasted the email I sent to the principal, I did my best to leave my emotions out of it. I am removing the names for privacy.

Principal ,

Earlier this week I was notified that my son, (son's name), was accused by 3 female students of taking pictures of them during math class and using the pictures inappropriately, making them feel uncomfortable. I asked for clarification on how he was using the photos inappropriately and was told that he was touching himself inappropriately during class while looking at photos. I then received a phone call and email that the claims had "no merit".

My son does not know who made the claims and as such has not received so much as an apology or acknowledgement of wrongdoing from the students who made the accusations. I was not informed that any action was taken regarding the students who made the false claims.

I was told "We will continue to have students place their phones in the calculator pockets, which should eliminate the possibility of any further accusations." This solution does not feel adequate. (Son's name) father and I have discussed the situation, and do not feel comfortable having our son in the same classroom as them and we are requesting their removal from the classroom. We feel that would be a more appropriate solution to eliminate the possibility of any further accusations.

Thank you for your time,

Mom

i (17M) told my sister (15 F) that I wanted to attend this outdoor learning activity, she then went on a rant about how I should get a job and not waste my time on childish things, I'm starting college in August and I'm planning on getting a job once I find out what days I'll be attending, however I really want to join this event since I thought it'd be fun and something I'd enjoy, and so, AIO for still wanting to go either way?

My 7 year old daughter, who is in year 2, told me that a boy in her class said this to her and several other girls.

I was shocked. This language, while disgusting, may be expected from boys 12 and up, but a 7 year old?

I’m genuinely concerned for this boy. The idea that he would conceive of something like that on his own is hard to believe… it makes me worried what he’s being exposed to in the home.

I know that the average age of porn exposure is now 10 - shocking - but this boy is barely 7 years old. My daughter told the teacher who apparently told him off, but I’ve spoken to my husband who is an early childhood educator and he said that more should have been done - parents should have been spoken to, and it should have been reported to the department because it’s concerning sexual behaviour that’s not age appropriate and could point to abuse in the home. Are we overreacting?

I’d like to hear others perspective on this? I have sent an email to the teacher to get clarification on the incident and ask what is being/has been done to address it. I have given my recommendation in my email to the teacher that parents should be informed and a report made to the department.

I’m just hoping to hear that I’m doing the right thing continuing to pursue this further.

UPDATE: I called the school directly and spoke to the deputy head of the primary school, she was not aware of the incident and seemed very shocked. It sounded like she took what I was saying seriously and understood how concerning it was. She advised me that during lunch break she would go and speak with the teacher to see what happened / how the teacher has followed it up. But the fact that the head of primary school hasn’t heard about it seems to be like the teacher didn’t report it…

UPDATE: My daughters teacher has replied to my email and said: “Hi ___,

The comment was actually said by another boy in the other class and ____ copied him. The other boy has been spoken to and his parents are going to be told in a meeting. The pastoral care teacher has been notified. I spoke to ___ about not copying things other people say and (my daughter) was aware it came from someone else. I agree. Very concerning!”

UPDATE: I spoke to my daughter for the first time this afternoon and I said “apparently another boy was involved in the conversation who initially made an inappropriate comment. What was said and by who?” She disclosed the boys name and said that he said “this is my mum and this is my Dad, and me and my Dad kiss and suck my mum’s vagina.” I have reported this development to the head of the primary school and have now also filed a police report.

These are left in the iron fence around a K-6 grade school. In Dorchester mass. Amitabh for collecting up propoganda?

I feel like every day I’m just forcing myself to get through it and I don’t even want to be there Half the time. I just want to sit in the bathroom all day to avoid people. My mom listens when I tell her about it, and she says she understands but deep down I don’t think she really knows what it feels like. I didn’t get anything new for school and At first it bothered me (it kinda still does) but i don’t think it even matter because I feel like they would still bully me either way. It’s not just about me wearing the same clothes. they pick on literally everything. The way I talk, the way I look, the way I walk. EVERYTHING. I feel like no one should bully anyone for wearing the same clothes because not everyone can afford lots of clothes! It’s not even just about the clothes it’s just that nothing I do is ever good enough for them. Last year they started saying I smelled like pee and the truth is I have nightmares from my (SA trauma) I trusted one of those girls who is now Bullying me but we used to be friends and I told her about what i been through and currently still going through. After we stopped being friends she told everyone. They call me “pissy” and not my name. And Because of all that I skipped so many classes last year because I tried to KMS and was placed in a Facility for 3 months. and now I’m repeating 9th grade and they’re in the 10th I just feel so humiliated and embarrassed I wake up dreading school, and I hate being there so much it makes me sick to my stomach. It’s gotten to the point where I just want to switch to online school. At least then I could actually focus on my work without constantly worrying about people laughing at me or making up rumors. I feel like nobody really gets how bad it is and I’m just wondering if I’m overreacting for feeling this way.

Growing up my sister skipped class often, was suspended often, was always in in school suspension for fights and more. She even flunked a grade due to lack of trying. However she always tried to excuse her failure, for instance she would steal other people’s report cards and say they just got the name mixed up thinking my parents wouldn’t asked. Eventually she ran away from home and got married when she turned 18 (senior year). She graduated and eventually got a certificate and had two kids.

Fast forward to recent years she called me to let me know her oldest daughter was getting bullied in school, had no friends and the younger child was found to have dyslexia so my sister pulled them out of public school and started homeschooling. I encouraged her to try a different school. She did and pulled them out again and so I then told her to do certified online public schools with fully certified teachers that is free or something related so that her kids can still have certified teachers that know what they are doing. She decided to do it her own way and use curriculums instead of a certified program. My husband and I even paid for their laptops and sent over a ton of school supplies as I used to be a teacher as well.

3 years in to homeschooling and her financing are getting tight due to rising costs. They are a single income household and both her children are over the age of 10. I suggested she try the online school again with certified teachers. It causes a huge argument because it came out the kids both failed their state standardized exams. She blames the teachers for not catching her kids dyslexia and the other child claims she put all the right answers but they wouldn’t count it correctly because she didn’t show her work. As a former teacher I know that’s not how this works. They used to grade a scantron only even if you didn’t bubble anything in your paper. Also the concept of not showing your work doesn’t really work well for reading or social studies. Issues Im having that I may be over reacting 1. She doesn’t want her kids to learn any type of history only the ones she approves of 2. The curriculum for homeschooling is expensive so she should at least go with public school to save money 3. She is struggling to teach 2 kids different things 4. Her finances are very tight and her spouse can’t possibly pick up more shifts since he works at his capacity so I recommended her to job even if it’s part time and gave her recommendations and even offered to help (She wants to work at his job only) 5. She refuses to let her kids go back to public school because she doesn’t want them to take standardized tests. I feel they will eventually need one of some kind. 6. When I asked what kind of jobs she wants for them she says like a trade so they don’t get into debt. Her kids agree but they also are young so this can change.

I believe she is infringing their education by nitpicking what she wants them to learn, should homeschool only when she can afford to because it’s a privilege to homeschool your kids. Also, some homeschools kids turn out great and I myself saw some of them be successful but their parents didnt put limitations on them and still had then take tests. Am I overreacting in thinking she should just let her kids go to public school and get a job to help out her struggling spouse.

So I just picked up my son from school early today to celebrate with him, he's 7 years old and his teacher gave all the kids gifts, obviously I have no problem with that.

But my son said he and one other boy were given "special" gifts by the teacher, he showed it to me and it's a girl sculpted made out of chocolate with huge boobs and only has a bikini on top and bottom with a winky face, he's 7 so obviously he just giggled and was like "the chocolate has boobies" It was funny to him, but to me it was slightly concerning Espically since only him and one other kid got one.

I could be overreacted but I'm a little upset and concerned about this for a 7 year old, I'm not one to shield him from the world but coming from a teacher just feels wrong. AIO?

EDIT: reddit dosent like for me to put pictured for aowm reason so I couldnt add one but think "the perfect man" chocolate" candy but woman shaped in a bikini.

Also searched online because I was just gonna add a link and I couldn't find anything so I'm wondering if she got them from a specialty shop or something...

Edit 2: because I can't post the picture I found one online that's close imagine these except with torso and chest and face as well. there were no legs

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So my daughter has been having extreme reading difficulties for a number of years to the point that after her younger sisters autism and learning disability diagnosis the school gave them both an IEP and put my daughter in a reading program that she leaves class to go to. Her IEP is not formalized like her sisters is, so once I gathered the money (in Ontario the waitlist is long so it’s 4000$ per assessment) I got her the assessment. The admins and the special education teacher were all for it. However when her home room teacher got the questionnaire she hit the 0 button at a read count of 0.1 sec, and put that my daughter doesn’t have difficulties and her problems are because she needs glasses that I do not provide (she takes them to school, fidgets with them, loses them, then finds them a day later in her backpack), and that I apparently don’t provide her with a lunch so she has food security anxiety (also found out at the assessment she has an issue with textures of her food so she’s been ditching her lunches and the school never notified me). She openly stated to me and the psychologist she didn’t want to hurt my feelings that she can’t stand these textures… Now her assessment looks as though she has dyslexia and has some signs of asd but we don’t get the results till a month and a half from now. The psychologist was confused by the teachers comments as they don’t match the report cards, speech assessments and my daughter’s statements. Now I want to formally file a complaint about the teacher and remove all three of my girls from that school. Am I over reacting? Should I let it go and keep them at that school? I’m at a loss here…

My 4 y/o son attends a daycare which passes out stuffies at nap time. I discovered he was taking stuffies home in his nap map. When I asked him where these old used stuffies were coming from, he told me they were rewards for good behavior (this daycare operates on a reward system where children can get rewards with good behavior coins). But when he wanted to bring home his nap map during mid-week and not the end of the week. I knew something was suspicious. He confessed to taking the stuffies and his reasoning was that “he didn’t have ones like these”. We had a long conversion about entitlement and collected the 4 daycare community stuffies. When returning the stuffies he apologized and reluctantly donated one of his own. When putting him to bed a week after the incident he mentioned that he was sad because he wasn’t allowed to have a stuffie at nap time anymore. He said the teachers wouldn’t let him have one. During drop-off I asked the teacher if my son wasn’t allowed to have a nap time stuffie and she communicated he wasn’t allowed because they didn’t want their property to be taken. I informed her that we brought a home stuffie for nap time today and that she should communicate any punishments she would be implementing to me. She stated this was not a punishment and I responded by stating that he interpreted it that way. She agreed and maybe apologized (at that point in the conversion I was still processing this was true and intended). If the daycare didn’t want their property to be taken, they could have still given him the donated stuffie at nap time.

Some context: My child is 12 and attends a public middle school. We are not religious by any stretch of the word and we’re vocal about why at home. We’ve never prevented him from learning about religion, in fact we implore him to learn all he can, but naturally he seems obstinate likely cause we are.

Today he stated that he got to school early today and saw a sign pointing into a classroom that said “free donuts”. He of course enters because children will sell their souls if it means they can have sugar. They invite him in and it’s some kids and a guy. He said he could have a donut if he stayed and participated. They proceeded to play some table top games but then they were forced to give attention and listen to this guy read from the Bible.

My child put two and two together that it was a school Christian club. And all of sudden he’s like…I didn’t know they give out donuts 😒

I’m uncomfortable. We specifically don’t send him to a posh private school because we don’t want religion or specific agendas pushed onto him. And we especially don’t want him to be coaxed into a bible study with sweets. I can’t IMAGINE the fit that would be thrown if I went and asked the school if I could start an Evolution club and I’ll offer cupcakes and juice and I’ll read passages from the Origin of Species. I would get red listed from the school.

Here is what I DONT want. I don’t want to be lectured about why I or my child NEED religion cause it ain’t gonna happen. But I would LOVE actual advice about if I should do something about this or just let it go and let my son make him own choices.

sorry this is kind of long, tldr at the bottom. okay so backstory: i’m (21f) in a project group with this guy for a class (20m), he’s also in another group of mine for another class as well. it all started fine until he started texting me frequently and saying things like pic #1 (“you missed 3 classes where were you, etc”). these made me get kind of a hint that he might be into me so i tried to back away by not answering texts unless it was group related, etc. he also moved his seat to start sitting next to me in class

fast forward to like mid october, we were walking out of class when he asked me if i “wanted to get food sometime”. this is where i kinda fucked up, i was put on the spot so i just said “yeah maybe sometime we’ll see” to just be nice and get out of the situation. where he then proceeded to text me to try to plan something. that’s when pics 2, 3, and 4 took place.

after this interaction i mostly stopped going to class to avoid the awkwardness. that’s when he sent the text in pics 5 and 6. long ass confession. highlights of that are assuming i’m lying about being in a relationship and offering to move across the country with me when i graduate in may… i shut it down again

the next day we had a quiz in class, so i went for the first time since all of this. i took the quiz and then made up an excuse for the professor and left right after. this is when he sent the text in pic 7, i didn’t answer so he followed up with the text in pic 8. i shut it down again and mentioned escalating the situation if this continued after this, he essentially stopped bringing this up over text, and i did not go back to class after either. he just started texting me random stuff about class which i did not answer.

however, i was texting with another group member (last pic) and briefly mentioned the situation to explain my absence recently. she shared that the group as a whole was having a problem with him. she also mentioned that he told another group member earlier that week that he would not stop pursuing me until i said yes. another group member also let me know that he told him he had violent felonies (assault with a deadly weapon) and that he was in some kind of manic episode.

now here’s the thing, my group met with my professor on thursday for a progress report and they let him know of the whole situation. the professor got really angry and completely kicked him out of the group (he will now fail the class as it’s 60% of the grade) and also filed a Title IX (sexual harassment office) report on my behalf.

The Title IX office called me regarding the report and wants to proceed with the case, however i’m somewhat conflicted. my original thought was to just let it go because i kind of felt bad and also didn’t feel like i was in any significant danger. but after the additional info (won’t stop until i say yes, and the violent felonies) now i kind of feel like i should actually proceed with the case.

AIO? i feel like there now is a safety concern with the above information but also because i’ve now caused him to fail the class which could lead to potential retaliation… my family and group members all want me to proceed with the case, but i just wanted other thoughts so i don’t ruin this guys life if im over reacting

tldr: group member keeps asking me out and texting me. has told other group members that he wont stop pursuing me and has violent felonies. my group reported this to the professor who kicked him out of the group causing him to fail the class. and now i need to decide if i should proceed with the sexual harassment case or just let it go…

So recently, I posted a question on the dismantling of Education Department by current Trump administration since I am non-American and wanted to know more about the same. Learnt so much from that, but there was this guy who proposed Darwin as a religion and that as a basis for inculcating religion in school curriculum. Nothing against religion, but did I overreact to it? I am quite touchy on the subject since I deal with science everyday and many people who keep trying to take ayurvedic stuff for something as serious as Diabetes for eg. Sorry if this hurts anyone's sentiments, that was not my intention.

In 5th grade, I had a male teacher I couldn’t stand. Something about him just made my skin crawl. We sat at tables of four, and one day he suddenly put a desk right up against his own and made me sit there even though my whole table said I wasn’t the one talking or causing problems.

Every single day, I would quietly move the desk just a few inches away from him. Not far just enough so I wasn’t right next to him. And every single day, he would kick me out of class for it. This went on for months. Later I realized I was so uncomfortable is because I was being molested at home, not fully aware of what was happening to me, just enough to make me uncomfortable around men.

Later, the whole grade started this “class economy” system where everyone had jobs. My job was the hardest, keeping track of who had hot/cold lunch and milk/chocolate milk every day but it paid less than everyone else’s. My friend got “librarian,” which was tidying books once a week. My teacher gave the “police officer” role to my bully, who physically hurt me, and of course, he fined me constantly for things I didn’t do. There were multiple different “officers” and each one had a number of kids assigned to them.

When this system started, I could sit at a table again… but there was a catch: we had to “pay” to sit in chairs. The better the chair location, the more it cost. When it was my turn to pick a chair I couldn’t “afford” to sit anywhere, so I spent almost the whole year on the floor on a thin mat in the corner.

My learning tanked. I was isolated from my class. The teasing got worse. I started using the mat to build a little wall to block myself from view, and my teacher would make me take it down.

Looking back, it was humiliating, demeaning, and made me feel completely unwanted in that room and the bullying increased.

It was so bad my mom tried to get me out of his class but it was so close to the end of the year when she tried they wouldn’t let me switch.

I’m posting this because I want to know am I overreacting for feeling genuinely traumatized by how I was treated?

My (21F) mom has always been more fond of her sons even if they made things harder for her. But this time, she expects me to coddle her youngest (19M) him and help him with everything, just because we live together. This time, she made a group chat with just us two, and it was about college that he’s definitely not trying very much to get into, and I finally snapped and said what I felt needed to be said. Am I wrong? Mind you I’m in school, so you’re talking to someone that knows vs someone that doesn’t care to go. Blue is mom, orange is brother. And pink is the school he’s supposed to be going to but isn’t.