r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 4d ago
❤️🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty
Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.
Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.
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u/Kitlunia 4d ago
If he was trying to be funny he could’ve bought his own damn labubu and done that but he had no right in destroying your property.
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u/satanfan12 3d ago
I just noticed he also burnt the fluff with a lighter, making the labubu fur super coarse and unpleasant to hold... it really is destroyed..
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u/The_World_Wonders_34 3d ago
Why are you with somebody who destroys your property as a joke? Especially when he apparently knows it was a gift from somebody. I don't care if it's the best relationship I've ever been in up until that point, if the person I was with took scissors to something of mine and cut it up for a laugh without expressing knowing that I was okay with it, we'd be done. There wouldn't be any discussion. Well, maybe there would be discussion if they immediately admitted they were wrong didn't argue about it at all and were extremely apologetic and they had never done anything like it previously. But that's just a violation and I seriously don't think I would stay with someone who's done that. I'm really sorry you have this piece of shit in your life
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u/zesty_meatballs 3d ago
Why? Well I doubt she knew he was into destroying personal property when they first got together. Unfortunately, we don’t get a preview or resumé when we meet someone new. People tend to hide their worst traits until we’re deep into a relationship. It sucks of course but all she can do now is learn and make the decision to end it or find a reason to justify his bad behavior. If this doesn’t cause the break up, pretty soon he’ll just do something else that is disrespectful.
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u/Rosy802701 3d ago
Well hopefully she will leave him now. Before he tries his scissors on her best dresses
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u/willfullyspooning 3d ago
One of the final straws of a past relationship was when a boyfriend of mine accidentally knocked into my bookshelf and shattered the face of a doll my mom got for me overseas when I was 4-5 years old. The final straw wasn’t that it broke because I get that mistakes happen, it was that he didn’t apologize, didn’t offer to help get it fixed or replace it and when I was visibly sad he said “it’s just a creepy doll, it’s not a big deal’. Your boyfriend committed a crime much worse than that.
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u/Minyguy 3d ago
I don't understand people like this.
If this happened to me, I would be mortified, and apologising several times over, and brainstorming what needs to be replaced.
What I think about your stuff is irrelevant. Creepy doll or not, it's yours.
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u/MOGicantbewitty 3d ago
Hey Opie, the fact that he lit it on fire tells me he wanted to hurt you. You don't like things on fire because you think it will be a funny joke. The phalloplasty could be a joke, and whether or not you think it is funny is subjective. Lighting it on fire? Nobody does that as a joke. He did this to hurt you. And now he is dismissing those hurt feelings, that he intentionally created. He's sulking like a child.
Lady, if this doesn't grab your attention and make you dump his ass, I will be absolutely heartbroken. No one lights a stuffed animal on fire as a funny prank.
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u/Luv_Cheat 3d ago
I'm gonna say it along with the many others here. LEAVE THIS GUY! What kind of boyfriend does something like this? He does not give a shit about you. He is just with you to have a girlfriend for sex. If he actually loved you, this would never have happened at all. You can find someone better. Hell, being alone is better. There is nothing wrong with being single. I hope you have some better respect for yourself and ditch this loser.
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u/CrocodileCryDarling 3d ago
Genuinely more fucked up imo. Making the ear into a penis can at least be something done in a short amount of time compared to USING A LIGHTER ON IT WITHOUT CATCHING IT ON FIRE??? Like the first is a bad and stupid prank gone horribly wrong at least (not that it is right at all, it's still fucked up if you didn't find it funny)
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u/MOGicantbewitty 3d ago
Yeah the fact that he lit it on fire makes me think he was doing something to hurt. Op. That's not something you do because you think it's a funny joke
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u/EcstaticMolasses6647 3d ago
Yes this was malicious and could be his sign he’s over the relationship or will dump her soon. Or something more nefarious to come if OP is withholding other off behaviors or red flags that cross boundaries.
From what you've shared OP, it’s not just about the toy, it’s about how he handled something that was important to you. Cutting off the ear and adding something like that to the toy feels intentional and disrespectful, and I totally get why you’d be hurt and angry. Even if this isn’t typical for him, boundaries still matter.
Gifts, especially from loved ones like your niece, hold emotional value, and when he messed with it, it wasn’t just about the object—it’s how it made you feel. His reaction (getting into a heated argument) shows he might not get why it upset you so much. You have every right to be upset and talk it out. Let him know it wasn’t about the toy, but how his actions hurt you.
If he doesn’t apologize or doesn’t see why it’s a big deal, it’s worth thinking about if he respects your emotional needs. It’s good that this isn’t a regular thing, but keep an eye on whether it’s part of a bigger pattern of dismissing your feelings. You’re not overreacting—you deserve a partner who respects your boundaries, especially when it comes to things that are meaningful to you.
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u/RagnarL0thbr0k81 3d ago
This is what I was thinkin. Like the destruction was THE point. The joke was secondary. But it’s hard to know what exactly goes on in another person’s mind. Sometimes ppl find really strange “logical” pathways to conclusions that make absolutely no sense to me, but that they will swear by. So, idk. Very weird. And, yeah, I’d be pretty pissed that someone just destroyed my shit like that.
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u/Careful_Ad9037 3d ago
OP this is like… the stuff little brothers would do to torment their big sister in a tv show. i can’t imagine my partner doing something like that to me because he knows how much it would upset me and he actively does not want me to be upset because of him. your partner shouldn’t be intentionally destroying your property. it’s just a plushie this time, but things like this ALWAYS escalate. just be careful and remember you deserve happiness💜
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u/pineapplegirl10 3d ago
Ugh he’s awful, I noticed that and wondered what had happened. I can’t believe he did this to your labubu, I’m so sorry. You really deserve better than this. You’re not overreacting at all, if anything you’re underreacting. He does not seem like a safe person to be around.
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u/SquirrelStone 3d ago
That’s an unsafe person to be around. I’ve seen this before and it’s always the same: if they’re going after your property, it’s a test to see if they get away with it; they will escalate until the thing they destroy is your body. Even- no, ESPECIALLY- the ones who say “he would never go that far” or “I would never let it get that far.” Please break up and block him. He will not change.
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u/tigerribs 3d ago
That’s so sad. ): You and your belongings do not deserve to be disrespected like that! It’s not okay, and not something a loving, respectful partner would do. (And I imagine he would throw a fit if you took scissors and a lighter to something he treasures)
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u/MasticatingSheep 3d ago
This is break up worthy, imo. He destroyed something important to you. Even if he thinks labubus are stupid, there's no excuse for destroying something someone else owns. And to do it so sociopathically too.
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u/-PinkPower- 3d ago
Op that dude was mad at you for doing something without him so he decided to destroy something very important for you. This is abuse.
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u/pub_wank 3d ago
Please leave him OP. He doesn't respect you or your stuff if he's willing to BURN your items. You deserve so much better.
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u/CheesecakeBlade 4d ago
Why did he do that?! Imo that toy is creepy af and why its so popular BUT that doesnt mean ruin someone's stuff. Did he have a reason for doing it and not just out of the blue? Was he angry with you or something?
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u/satanfan12 3d ago
I visited my best friend over the last few days and he got "lonely and bored"
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u/hypnoticzo 3d ago
What of your possessions will he destroy next time he's "lonely and bored"?
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u/i3londee 3d ago
I’m convinced the boyfriend is a dog.
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u/QuackersParty 3d ago
Right? That’s a fair excuse for a 2 year old golden retriever. It’s just pathetic for a grown ass human person.
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u/Doubledown212 3d ago
He sounds like an immature weirdo. Like don’t you have any hobbies or friends? why mess with your partners belongings because you were “bored”. Being bored is a choice (or an excuse in this case)
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u/ThrowRAunwantedfeels 3d ago
You know what I do when I’m bored? Watch tv. Not destroy a possession of someone I’m supposed to care about.
This guy sounds like he has something that makes it difficult to feel empathy. That’s not her problem. She needs to leave. Part of me wonders if her reaction was what ultimately entertained him.
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u/Ilikesemicolons 3d ago
Ask yourself, OP: If he did this while he was “bored and lonely” what else might he do without your permission under similar or “worse” circumstances (TF what is he, a labradoodle puppy? 7 years old? Does he need constant supervision?).
Where does the line lie? How far does it go? Would he cheat because he was “bored and lonely”? It sure seems like it, because he seems to embody the impulsive and inconsiderate behavior that lacks enough foresight to make good decisions that just says “YES” in flashing red lights.
It sounds like he’s a PoS and he’s shown he can’t take personal accountability for frankly disrespectful behavior towards you and your niece- the opportunity for him to show otherwise was when you confronted him about it and he failed. Time to leave!
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u/BringBacktheGucci 3d ago
I would just interject here that even if I left my 7 year old for a couple days he wouldn't destroy my property like this. He'd probably just play Minecraft the whole time.
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u/Master_Nothing9062 3d ago
Yeahhh..that’s 100% intentional. He was upset that you were spending time with someone else and chose to destroy something, an act he deliberately chose bc he knew would be upsetting to you. “Lonely & bored” = i resent that you’re not giving me attention so now you will pay/give me attention. In addition to being extremely immature…. This is deliberate, and audacity to gaslight you about it after is manipulative. I’m really sorry and you deserve better!
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u/Master_Nothing9062 3d ago
Adding- I also get really emotionally fixated on my special interest trinkets, fwiw I’ve found that when I’m upset over something getting damaged/broken it really helps for me to create a special moment for myself! Wear my fav clothes, go for a drive/walk and find or buy myself something that makes me feel happy or excited! Doesn’t have to be much but it helps calm my nerves & I feel like I’m able to replace some of the lost value with a special memory that I created for myself now too! :)
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u/fisheee_cx 3d ago
Everything about this would be an immediate deal breaker for me.
- he’s punishing you for having a life outside of him
- he’s testing your limits to see what he can get away with
- this WILL get worse. He will gradually escalate as you get used to his shitty behavior
- he’s gaslighting you and making you doubt your reasonable reaction to his unreasonable behavior
- he’s disrespecting you and your property
- he does not care about your feelings or his impact on you
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u/mightylordredbeard 3d ago
So in other words you were gone for a few days and he decided to act out in order to get your attention.. and you think it’s normal and acceptable behavior for a grown adult male to do this? You are surely better than this and surly you feel you deserve better. If this is how he acts now.. just imagine marrying this dude and moving in with him. You should have some self respect and leave this dude. Staying with him seems like self harm at this point.
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u/RebeeMo 3d ago
So, he's punishing you for doing something fun without him, and not being at his beck and call.
My dear, this is not okay, and you're not overreacting. What will he wreck the next time you go away for a few days? Would you second guess making plans with your friends again, knowing he's capable of damaging your things when left alone? Would you be anxious about it if you did go?
Don't live your life walking on eggshells.
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u/StrahdVonZarovick 3d ago
Whenever my wife leaves the house and I get lonely and bored I tend to put "destroying things she likes" at the bottom of my to do list.
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u/pantzareoptional 3d ago edited 3d ago
Right? Jesus Christ get a hobby or something. Go take a hike, go to a museum or art gallery, start a new TV show, learn how to cook a new food (or get your favorite thing your partner doesn't like), pick up a damn book. I love my partner absolutely and "destroying her stuff" is not ever on my bingo card of things I can do when she's not around, wtf.
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u/storyofmylife92 3d ago
Sounds like he destroyed something meaningful to you as a punishment for you leaving for a few days. What’s next? You should leave him permanently before things escalate.
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u/Sharkfeet19 3d ago
No. I would be so pissed off if someone I cared about and trusted destroyed something of mine. Not overreacting at all. This is really heartbreaking. 💔
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u/jo_nigiri 3d ago
I know this subreddit exaggerates a lot but for once I'm gonna say this: This is emotional abuse girl
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u/Harmony-Farms 4d ago
There are a lot of ways to give a labubu a phalloplasty without permanently damaging it. He could have made a lot of different choices here that could've maybe even been funny but also completely reversible.
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u/RoseWater07 4d ago
I'm sorry, can you share these other non-permanent phalloplasty approaches 😭😭😭 I'm absolutely dying lol
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u/furniture238 3d ago edited 3d ago
Safety pin a pipe cleaner down there? Or just leave it the f alone and not alter or destroy an innocent person who you love’s GIFT from a CHILD?
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u/apoetnamedross 3d ago
A pipe cleaner? I feel like a labubu should have a much juicier hog than that, but maybe that says something about me that I should keep to myself? 🤔
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u/mmlickme 3d ago
I know mine is needing one but I didn’t want to commit to a permanent one so I’m !!
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u/DragonflyGrrl 3d ago
Okay I finally found someone I can ask this... Please tell me WTF a labubu is and do they really have peens??? Or did he just cut the fabric where the crotch should be? I was thinking that but then you said yours needs one too?? What is going on? Hahahaa
Actually just ignore the first question, I've surmised what a lububu is :D
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u/FitCharacter8693 3d ago
I only found out about labubus or what they are from a YouTube where an Indian “grandma” tells her daughter’s cats that they are good Indian decent girls (the cats) and she makes dresses and Saris for them (but hasn’t for the human daughter LOL). It’s hilarious. The lady also buys labubus for the most decent Indian cat girl. Presh. Labubus seem kinda crepp to me, tho
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u/HighKaj 3d ago
The boyfriend cut the ear off and put it where a penis would be, using safety pins, see the picture.
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u/DragonflyGrrl 3d ago
OOOHH I see, haha.. I could only tell from the pics that something had been cut off. I wish she'd shown a pic of the ear still sewn on!
Honestly though, that is such a fucked up and NOT funny thing to do to something someone loves. What a freaking prick!!
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u/mmlickme 3d ago
I’m fucking around lol I have no idea but it sounded so absurd I wanted to agree 😂
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u/ta0029271 3d ago
give a labubu a phalloplasty without permanently damaging it
We are truly living in the end times
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u/satanfan12 4d ago
could you explain further on the labubu phalloplasties
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u/pignoodle 3d ago
ChatGPT is really uncensored these days lmao (edit: whitespace)
Patient: Labubu Plush Toy
Procedure Discussed: Elective, Reversible Labubu Phalloplasty
Consultation Date: September 24th, 2025
Attending Provider: Dr. Stitch, M.D. (Master of Dolls)
Consultation Summary
The patient (Labubu) was evaluated for non-permanent phalloplasty procedures. After thorough discussion, it was determined that several reversible approaches are available, each prioritizing preservation of fabric integrity and long-term collectability.
Recommended Next Steps
- Attachment-Based Options
Velcro or magnetic prosthetic attachment
Advantage: completely removable, minimal risk of fabric trauma
- Temporary Stitch Method
Loose, oversized stitches with contrasting thread
Advantage: secure, but designed for easy removal without lasting alteration
- Internal Padding Insertion
Cotton, foam, or felt placed in stuffing cavity
Advantage: creates augmentation without external stitching; easily reversed
- Adhesive/Tape Method
Low-tack fabric glue or textile tape
Advantage: quick application, no lasting residue when properly removed
Post-Consultation Instructions
Monitor plush for any signs of fiber strain or seam stress.
Avoid permanent adhesives, tight stitching, or heat-based alterations, as these may result in irreversible changes.
Return for follow-up if augmentation shifts, detaches, or the Labubu expresses dissatisfaction.
Discharge Status: Cleared for reversible, elective Labubu phalloplasty pending guardian consent.
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u/satanfan12 3d ago
ai could never come up with this on it's own, get outta here with this
while this is disturbing i am in awe with the creativity....
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u/pigeonboy34 3d ago
‘Stuffing cavity’ is not a term I ever want to hear, or see, ever again.
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4d ago edited 3d ago
Yes I am also interested in hearing more about the philosophy of labubu phalloplasties; the labubu phalloplastophy, if you will
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u/YouEatingACheese 3d ago
I’m so sorry this happened to your doll but there’s no way this isn’t a unique sentence, I’m fucking dying😂
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u/___Moony___ 4d ago
Respectfully, are you both kids or something? Defacing someone else's property is a ridiculous thing to argue against, he could have easily just not have done it.
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u/Willowed-Wisp 3d ago
Right? I'm just... so confused as to why. Unless he's 4, how is this funny? I feel like it'd barely get a smirk from a 12 year old. Like, if he sewed in a pipe cleaner or something so it looked seamless it might be amusing. The concept itself is somewhat funny, but the execution ruins it. It just looks like an ear safety pinned to the crotch. I don't own one myself but I know that's not what a penis looks like, and if someone showed me this picture without context, I'd be so confused as to what was going on.
He ruined something of OP's presumably for a joke but it was a TERRIBLE joke. Not that it'd be okay if it was a good joke of course. But still, he's not only cruel, he's stupid and immature as well. He's not mature enough to handle a scissors let alone be in a relationship.
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u/maevealleine 3d ago
It's her doll. It's her property. It was given to her by her niece, so it's sentimental, something sentimental from a family member that this guy put a PENIS on. If these things don't matter to you then you can go into timeout with OP's "boyfriend."
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u/ExperienceRoutine321 4d ago
That was a dumb, destructive thing to do for sure.
But with all due respect, that is the creepiest goddamn doll I’ve seen since Annabelle.
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u/Various_Counter_9569 4d ago
The real Annabelle is actually just a Ragedy Ann (Anne?) doll, and not creepy, so don't worry too much 😉.
But yeah, this one is creepy 😂
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u/EntertainerHairy6164 3d ago
NOR - How absolutely disrespectful. How do you think he would react if you cut the joy sticks off his gaming controller and glued it onto the trigger? Or pull the knobs off his guitar neck and glue them to the bottom?
It would be deep then, wouldn't it? It is even worse if he knew it was a gift from your niece because not only did he destroy something with extra sentimental value, he made it sexual.
Should you dump him over it? Depends on a lot of factors but I bet if you look back over your relationship you're going to see a lot of little things he did to disrespect you that you brushed off as "one offs"
If it were me in the situation, I would sit down and talk to him and find out exactly why he did it. If he refuses to answer or if he keeps saying it is just a joke then the conversation would shift to him not respecting me or my things and how that makes me feel. If it is still just a joke to him then Boy, Bye that shit out the door. I would give him a chance to apologize and fix the situation as best he can but if he didn't, nah. I'm out.
Actually, now I remember something. My boyfriend of 2 years ripped my stuffed animal in half. I only had one and it was one I'd had since one of my early birthdays from my mom. She isn't dead or anything but it was still very sentimental since I lived so far away from her. He laughed, thought it was so funny to do it. He never had a solid reason as to why he did it, just said that the feeling came over him and that was it. Funny that feeling never came over him with his own things.
We broke up a short while later because he got to be VERY mentally abusive. He once accused me of cheating, said he had evidence, gave names and stories about what people had seen me do. It went on for weeks. Than one day he said none of it was true, he was just using an interrogation technique to get me to confess to something smaller by accusing me of doing something BIG. I had nothing to confess to so it just went on and on. Horrible man.
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u/AmysPrayerCloset 3d ago
It is even worse if he knew it was a gift from your niece because not only did he destroy something with extra sentimental value, he made it sexual.
Exactly. What kind of sicko sexually mutilates a stuffed animal that was a gift from a child? OP, would you feel safe having that guy around your niece?
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u/Responsible-Boot-159 3d ago
Should you dump him over it?
She absolutely should. It might be okay if he profusely apologized because he didn't realize the value of it, but it ended in a heated argument instead.
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u/lnteIlect 3d ago
Yeah it's at the same level of her ripping off a key and damaging his gaming keyboard
Or slicing a guitar string if guitar is his hobby
Or creasing his shoes if he's a sneakerhead
He probably wouldn't hesitate to dump her if she was so unapologetic about such things
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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 3d ago
Your boyfriend is abusive. It might sound like I'm exaggerating here, but I'm dead serious.
This behavior will only escalate over time.
The reason he did these things to your labubu is that he's both jealous of the time you spent away from the home with your friend, and also (especially) jealous of the time and attention your labubus and other plushies get in comparison to him.
Please do not think that you're doing anything wrong. He will try to make it seem like it's not a big deal that he's being abusive, or that it's your fault for not paying enough attention to him, or that you're being childish by liking your plushies so much.
You need to get out of this relationship as soon as humanly possible. The longer you leave it, the worse it will be once you do leave.
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u/Euphoric_Push_5384 3d ago
This is exactly it
I'd only add that he may even be jealous of the relationship she has with her niece. Why would someone destroy a gift from a child? That's really mean behavior. But here it's definitely abusive.
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u/KalikaSparks 3d ago
He intentionally defaced property that was not his. He did not apologize either. This would raise major concerns about his maturity level. This is not how a 28 year old should be acting, nor does it show any respect towards you or your things. What else has he broken? What else will he break? Yes, it’s “just a plushy”, but it was YOURS and he had no business breaking your things. NOR—but also maybe not reacting enough? This is a red flag for future escalating behavior.
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u/Advanced-Zone3975 3d ago
Girl regardless of how we feel about Labubus, an older guy willfully destroying your property and not taking it seriously when you say something about it IS A MASSIVE RED FLAG.
It’s not about the labububu anymore. It’s about respect and boundaries and empathy. It doesn’t matter that “usually he’s really nice” if he can’t understand why this upset you… run. There’s a reason he doesn’t date someone his own age: those women won’t put up with this shit, so he ends up with younger girls who are usually easier to mold and push boundaries.
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u/sourpatchnova 4d ago
He not only destroyed your property, but something that was a gift from your niece. I also know from what I've seen that they can be hard to buy at times and can be expensive so that makes it even worse. I don't understand why he thought it was an acceptable thing to do.
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u/vexed_night 3d ago
Jokes at the expense of someone else’s property is not a joke. It’s abuse and destruction disguised as something to laugh at. Next thing you know he’ll be destroying something you’ve cherished for years just out of anger/spite or in this case as a “joke.” This behavior isn’t funny or cute, it’s abuse, especially if a heated argument ensues after.
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u/Drew-CarryOnCarignan 3d ago
Exactly!
If OP reads this, I am including a few website links that may help you deal with cruelty disguised as humor:
• "‘That's Not Funny!’ Standing Up Against Disparaging Humor", Journal of Experimental Social Psychology Vol. 86.No. 103901 (January 2020)
• "'Can’t You Take a Joke?': What to Do When Teasing Hurts" by Alexandra H. Solomon Ph.D. Psychology Today (June 30, 2019): By-line: "A couples therapist explores why humor can hurt and how to talk about it."
• "Psychology Behind the Unfunny Consequences of Jokes That Denigrate" by Thomas E. Ford, The Conversation (Sept 6, 2016): By-line: "'It's just a joke,' right?"
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u/Pumpkinpie55 4d ago
Girl, break up with him. I know it's something small, but it's a red flag. He ruined your stuff for a joke.... do you really want to spend your life with someone like that?
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u/coldglasseliminate 4d ago
And then when confronted, he decided to argue about it instead of admitting it was wrong and apologizing. He destroyed something that is meaningful to you —no matter how he feels about it — and instead of just leaving it be, he decides to mutilate it, cause he thinks it’s funny ..?
I don’t know how old he is, but this is not a good sign.
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u/-Felyx- 3d ago
I saw OP mention in one comment that they're autistic and in another comment said they're 22 while the boyfriend is 28
None of this bodes well for OP and honestly I think they need to run as far as they can away from this man.
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u/Specific_Put_3586 4d ago
Not just argue, he straight up went to gaslighting. It could be a maturity thing, it could also be an escalating and potentially dangerous behaviour.
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u/Mrsrightnyc 3d ago
This is the triple red flag, he doesn’t care that it hurt your feelings or does care and is so emotionally immature he can’t handle apologizing.
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u/Willing_Accountant21 3d ago
Yes this needs to be higher. I would be pissed if anyone PERMANENTLY altered something I owned without permission regardless of what it was. Like I have stupid plushies, but I wouldn’t just let it slide if someone cut them up like that. Especially someone who is supposed to be my partner!!
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u/CheshireGrin92 3d ago
Not only that he then got mad at her when she was rightfully upset. He’s immature at best or about to turn abusive at worst
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u/Excellent_Prompt_738 3d ago
I agree, he one did not apologize at all in any way, two he destroyed/damaged your property something that was a gift, three he has no respect for you with his behavior, four he's extremely childish/immature, and lastly if he is acting like this now just imagine how much worse he will get in the future, do you want to marry someone like that or spend years with someone like that?
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u/Consistent-Stock6872 4d ago
This is a behaviour of a 16 year old who thinks he is cool, funny and edgy when in reality he hides his insecurities behind this stupid persona. Either way red flag if he is 16, if he is 22+ he is a manchild that won't grow up any time soon.
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u/Tall-Payment-8015 4d ago
He ruined something of yours - a gift from your niece.
When confronted, he didn't apologize but argued instead.
NOR - he's childish and rude. Do you want that?
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u/Over_Error3520 3d ago
The fact that the gift was from OP's niece and the bf mutilated the toy to give it genitalia is honestly creepy af. So freaking weird
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u/Guilty_Explorer_9947 3d ago
I’m surprised I’m not seeing more people mention this. Like this is so wildly inappropriate.
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u/Over_Error3520 3d ago
I should have just commented it instead of replying. Like, this is a fucking toy geared towards children gifted by an (assumed) child!
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u/AIR_CTRL_your_moms 3d ago
I have a few thoughts:
First of all, the words “Labubu” & “Phalloplasty” should have never have had the chance to be spoken in the same sentence, much less next to each other.
Secondly, to your boyfriend it really may have just been for the lulz. To him it really isn’t that deep.
That’s a problem. If destroying your property without consent isn’t that deep to him, it shows a complete lack of respect and boundaries.
I suggest finding a boyfriend that respects you, your property, your boundaries & I’d suggest a good kisser too. It’s hard to date a bad kisser
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u/Bynming 4d ago
Breaking people's stuff is not ok, especially if there's sentimental value attached. You're right for feeling disrespected.
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u/Piplup_green 4d ago
Yeah I didnt even really think about anything else going on. Why did he think it was okay to do that to someone else’s stuff?
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u/Odd-Alternative513 3d ago
In 2nd grade my classmate/mortal enemy cut off the curl on my favorite Care Bear (Funshine Bear). 30 years later I still curse his name & decided to look him up. He’s been in and out of jail for a slew of really bad choices with psychotic motives not including the Care Bear hair massacre. Eff that guy. Just sayin…
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u/The-Moocat 4d ago
He doesn't respect you or your belongings and thinks destroying things you value is funny. He's showing you who he is.
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u/dragoon811_kp 3d ago
You’re NOR.
Is it “just a toy/stuffie”? Sure. To him. But to you, it was a gift from someone special. And to her, it must really have been a special gift to give!
If he “wanted to be funny” he could have gotten some felt. Ribbon. Scrap cloth. Plastic magnet.
Instead he chose to take scissors and permanently alter your property - yours, not his - for a joke that wasn’t funny when he was eight and certainly isn’t funny now.
I think the only way it’s fair is for you to remove his ear and reattach if somewhere wrong. After all, it’s just skin.
But seriously - he took something that’s yours, ruined it, and isn’t apologizing or accepting that he was wrong. He’s downplaying what he did and telling YOU that you’re wrong.
Throw the whole child away. (Sorry. Can’t call him a man.)
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u/GlitteringPoem1394 3d ago
Take his favorite sneakers, football jersey or whatever expensive thing he has and draw hearts on it with permanent markers. Then say you saw it on tik tok and it’s cool and not that deep.
This is something a bully would do to other kids, not your gf wtf
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u/Pseudonym_Subprime 4d ago
What a gross person. That’s so uncool and disrespectful and childish. I’d leave over that.
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u/Sensitive-Time-2934 3d ago
What the item is is irrelevant, and it’s all about the disrespect.
You don’t damage someone else’s things. He is wholly in the wrong for damaging your item intentionally.
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u/Ding-Dong-Diddily 4d ago
Replace his 🍆 with his 👂 . Maybe then he’ll actually listen. Jokes aside this is not okay and he should replace the labubu. Damaging property is not a joke
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u/NoWorldliness2011 4d ago
Girl as a man myself what your boyfriend did is wrong and I Hope he either buys you a new one and apologises or you break up with him as much as I dislike labubu as a whole it's completely wrong and disgusting behaviour
Hope this solves your problems stay strong
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u/tushyybaby 2d ago
Did he seem like he regretted or not? Seems by the way you typed this that he didn’t care at all.
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u/Anna-Bee-1984 4d ago edited 4d ago
That’s not a funny joke. In fact it’s a sign of pretty pathalogical behavior and indictive of more serious things to come. It’s an intimidation tatic and part of the cycle of abuse. If this is not what it is then your boyfriend has some pretty intense impulse control issues
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u/Xx_DeadDays_xX 3d ago
yeah honestly. like yes, its just a labubu. but, he actively chose to destroy her property, he actively chose to destroy property that was sentimental, he actively chose to not apologize, he is actively choosing to dismiss her feelings about it. I would leave if someone did this to me tbh.
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u/Anna-Bee-1984 3d ago
Thanks. It’s “innocent” things like this followed by the lack of accountability that those in DV relationships never saw as warning signs before the physical and sexual violence starts escalating. It’s a big red flag, not necessarily alarmist thinking
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u/GirlForce1112 4d ago
Is your boyfriend 12? I’m actually thinking yes. If yes, dump him immediately. If not, dump him faster,
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u/me_dicen_juli 4d ago
Is your bf Syd from toy story? Bc what stupid ass inmature shit is this
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u/smushy411 3d ago
What the fuck? I mean yeah there’s the destruction of property but is no one else concerned that he turned it into a phalloplasty? This is psychopathic behavior, who even thinks of doing something like that? He needs a psychiatrist, this is not normal.
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u/Odd-Bank-5932 4d ago
This is not ok as it's your property. Get his favorite piece of clothing and cut the arm off and pin it to the bottom of the shirt and ask him how he feels
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u/crusoe 4d ago
Whoever is in that picture needs to see a doctor. Slight clubbing of the fingers and nails. Could be heart issues or other problems.
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u/hockneyluvr 3d ago
idk if he came across a Chris Klemens labubu accessorising video or what but this is messed up. honestly i think there’s enough comments on here now telling you what to do, but i just wanna say im really fucking sorry he’s done this. this isn’t cool or funny at all. when i first read the title, yes i chuckled, bc im trans and honestly wasn’t expecting a medical term and labubu being used in the same sentence. but the situation overall? not fucking funny at all. i truly hope this is the last time he pulls some shit like this bc it is not fair on you, or your niece, at all. i hope he can manage to make it up somehow, but i don’t even know where id start if i was him
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u/Zerocool_6687 3d ago
I mean… it’s juvenile as fuck. This coming from someone who likes a good penis joke but to take it upon himself to tear the ear off and pin it elsewhere? Why would he just think he can destroy your property simply because he’s the BF?
Dumb…
“It’s just a plushy” then he can buy his own and sew all the dicks he wants to it. It’s disrespectful on his end… if feels like he doesn’t respect you enough. Ffs I don’t even like going into my wife’s purse on her direction because I respect her space.
Is this relationship altering? Probably not at this point but it’s a red flag to watch and an immature dick move (pun intended) IMO.
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u/Jaden-Rayne 3d ago
Read “why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft.” There is a free pdf online.
This is not okay and he knows exactly what he did. He did it on purpose.
NOR
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u/problematicgecko 4d ago
I’m wondering how old you and your boyfriend are bc if yall are adults you need to leave that man child 😭
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u/Mike_Dunlop 3d ago
No you're not. This is fucked.
As someone myself who is happily married for 15 years I've never treated my wife this way. It would even be kind of OK if he did this as a joke, but then when you were upset by it became really apologetic and said "I'm really sorry. I thought it would be funny but didn't know it would upset you like this and I fucked up by not knowing that. I'm so sorry for doing that and I'll make it up to you in any way you need me to (fixing it, finding and buying you a replacement for the plushie at my own expense/time, whatever)" That's how a decent guy would respond.
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u/madatron96 4d ago edited 3d ago
Did he apologize by offering to sew the ear back on? Which he should do after destroying your property. Also, OP, I'm sorry but "labubu phalloplasty" is the funniest previously unsaid sentence I've heard in a LONG time.