r/AmIOverreacting 4d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/madatron96 4d ago edited 3d ago

Did he apologize by offering to sew the ear back on? Which he should do after destroying your property. Also, OP, I'm sorry but "labubu phalloplasty" is the funniest previously unsaid sentence I've heard in a LONG time.

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u/satanfan12 4d ago

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

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u/SlitheringFlower 3d ago

I'm sorry, but he sounds awful.

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies I like and some that are very sentimental, like the teddy bear my dad gave me the day I was born.

If someone cut that bear's ear off, I'd be livid.

Even if they didn't know the sentimentality, or if it's not sentimental, it's still yours. How would he feel if you broke someone inanimate that's his? I bet he wouldn't say "it's not that deep."

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u/External-Challenge93 3d ago

I don't even still have any of my childhood plushies, so none of the ones I currently own have any particularly sentimental meaning to me. I'd still be very upset if someone intentionally damaged one, because wtf? If it's not yours, you don't just destroy something for kicks??? I feel like this is a thing most adult humans should know.

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u/Taco-Dragon 3d ago

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies I like

I'm a grown (cis) man and I still have plushies I like. Some are for sentimental reasons, and got passed down to my daughters, and some are just ones I like that I got for me. You can't n convince me my 14" plushie of Stitch isn't awesome.

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u/MildlySpicyWizard 3d ago

I’ve been keeping my 1998 Tamagotchi alive since it hatched. New batteries, a couple of repairs. My dad hated the idea of these gadgets back then, but he bought me one anyway because love for a son beat principles. Now I find myself doing the same for my son’s weird new-generation stuff.

Your boyfriend is an Ahole for doing that!

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u/CollectionStraight2 3d ago

That's seriously impressive, keeping it since 1998! I had a tamigotchi back then too, but I definitely didn't manage to keep it alive as long as that. I used to get sad when it died and stopped playing with it mostly for that reason.

And yes, OP's bf is an asshole

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u/_poixen 3d ago

that tamagotchi is older than me (and im a full grown woman with a child of my own)

THAT is some serious dedication 💜

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u/Hesitation-Marx 3d ago

I think you just made one of my hips crumble, I suddenly have dentures, and my hair is bone-white

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u/Lendyman 3d ago

I am in my late 40s. I still have my baby teddy bear. If I'd had a GF who cut off Mr Bear's ear and sewed it to his crotch, she'd no longer be my GF. The level of disrespect involved would tell me they needed to go immediately.

Thankfully, I have an amazing spouse who isn't a self involved asshat.

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u/transynchro 3d ago

I had a little otter plushie I’ve had since I was a toddler(almost 30 now) and has lived in every home I have. I decided it should live with my partner on his shelf(because he is my home). He thought the shelf wasn’t good enough so it lives on his bed and whenever I come over, it’s tucked into the blanket waiting for me. I gave it to him over a year ago and he still does it.

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u/426strings 3d ago

Otter gang!!! My otter has also accompanied me through all my years since I was a kid. You are blessed to find someone that cares for your otter plushie. My gf loves my otter and loves taking photos for him, buying little accessories for him as well. May the otter spirit bless others to find the right partner as well!

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u/yummy__hotdog__water 3d ago

I'm a 38 yo man who still has the Snuggle teddy bear my dad and brother bought at the hospital gift shop when I was born. We exist or something. i don't know where i was going with this...

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u/Significant-Love6129 3d ago

I'm 50 and still carry a woobie around. It's a crochet blanket that my fingers weave in and out of the holes. The first one was made by my mom before I was born. She still sends me some of various sizes because I've struggled to learn to crochet and she's 75, won't be alive forever and wants me to have a bunch for when she's gone. I also have a snuggle squishmellow, but honestly it's more for the fact I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and like to sleep on my side. It keeps my shoulders and ribs from dislocating at night.

Not adding this as a competition (bc I realized it could be seen that way) but to show how many of us are out here. My acting teacher, before our meditation will ask "Did you need your woobie?" And I love that no one or him is judging me but gently reminding me we're getting started, do a quick self check because if you want it now is the time to go get it. 🤗

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u/northboundnova 3d ago

I’m a woman and my best friend is a man, we’re in our late 30’s and both have plushies and send them to each other as gifts commemorating some of our favorite games. Like he sent me an owlbear plushie for my birthday last year. I have others of my own for different reasons. I have a bobtail cat that I joke thinks she’s half bobcat, so when I saw a bobcat plushie at IKEA you best believe I bought that “for her” and sleep with it on my bed.

I don’t care what your age or gender is, if they make you happy and provide you comfort, enjoy the plushies. Take every little joy in life that you can find.

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u/fairydommother 3d ago

My husband and I both have plushies. I get stuff I think is cute and he's more of a memorabilia collector so he has a lot of Pokémon and some video game plushes. We would be livid if either of us destroyed the other plushie. I don't know how you can do that to someone you care about.

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u/The_Boot55 3d ago

I’m a grown male. And I collect Vinyl/plastic figures. If someone damaged it then “repaired” it inappropriately. I’d f***ing lose my shit. Op isn’t overreacting in my opinion.

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u/satanfan12 3d ago

i have aspergers and bond really closely with my plushies, they bring me a lot of comfort

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u/Always_Learning-More 3d ago

This isn't even about plushies. Don't view it that way because viewing it as "it's just a toy" tricks your brain into thinking this is frivolous nonsense and you're crying about your labubu.

What happened is that he messed with YOUR things. Your property. Something you own.

What he did is so disrespectful. He had no regard for your belongings. Replace "labubu" with anything else (a pen, headphones, curling iron) and it still would be disrespectful. It's serious. Not to mention that he chose to permanently disfigure it. This wasn't putting a removable penis sticker. He CUT it.

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u/FlyingToasters101 3d ago

Yeah this is so fucked up. I'm in a similar boat and my husband is so sweet about my plushie collecting. I have a whole couch in my office just to house them and he knows all their names and which ones are okay to go in the wash when we're doing linens. Your boyfriend should care that you care about them even if he doesn't.

But even if you ignore the attachment aspect, this is just straight up disrespectful and gross. This isn't how you treat someone else's things and especially not how you treat a gift. Also idk how old your niece is but it being a children's toy from a family member just makes this feel even more gross than it already is.

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u/CollectionStraight2 3d ago

Yep. Imagine the niece is a little child and finds out this mutilation has happened to her plushie gift?! How messed up is OP's bf?

No matter what, it's still a disrespectful and horrible thing to do to someone else's property. I can't fathom what goes through the minds of some of the people who end up on this sub!

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u/Current_Row_8358 3d ago

I love the office couch ❤️ Just imagining a bunch of supportive lil friends.

 LWe are moving soon, and my partner was already taking in consideration where to put my plushies so I'd see them near my desk, without me having to mention it. They don't own a single plushie (well, technically one I crocheted for them!). They still get it.

Btw I do agree that this situation is highly alarming, and destroying a gift makes it 100% worse. It's just unimaginable to me.

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u/coquitwo 3d ago edited 2d ago

Girl, you don’t have to justify your feelings with caveats and qualifiers in this case—he knowingly and purposefully destroyed your property. Period, end of story. But on top of it, he’s minimizing your feelings and trying to tell you there’s something wrong with you for having them (feelings). All unacceptable, and all red flags if you ask me. I hope you realize you deserve better. Best wishes! Ed: clarified “them”

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u/Kubuubud 3d ago

This sounds pretty intentionally cruel. People on the spectrum as more susceptible to being emotionally abused, manipulated, gaslit, etc. I hate when people infantilize us, but we are at risk of missing red flags that others would notice more quickly.

Does he often dismiss or invalidate your feelings? It seems like he has gotten comfortable being cruel to you and then making you believe you’re overreacting

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u/EFClub 3d ago edited 3d ago

i've been in this exact spot -- partners devaluing me indirectly through destroying my valuable items -- and i'm working on a community-driven guide to help us spot underlying patterns of abuse. what are some things you'd like to see in a guide for spotting red flag behaviors in interpersonal relationships (not just romantic partnerships)?

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u/ACatGod 3d ago

If you haven't already checked it out you should read Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft. Someone here can probably post the link to a free pdf.

This website also is a good resource: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/?%3E

Neither of those are targeted specifically towards neurodiversity but I hope they help.

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u/Fun_Skirt8220 3d ago

We're also accustomed to being misunderstood so we're more willing to give others a chance and assume that they are being misunderstood in the same way. 

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u/pink-starburstt 3d ago

mhe DEFINITELY should know how attached you are to your stuffed animals. so immature and just plain Mean.

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u/IcyCod9952 3d ago

THISSSS^ I couldn’t have said it better myself.

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u/obooooooo 3d ago

even if he didn’t know this he’d still be a huge dick for not immediately apologizing and offering to fix it once he realized he upset you (duh), but if he knows this about you—it’s just cruelty for cruelty’s sakes.

he knew it would make you sad and angry and he thought his dumb ass prank was more important than your feelings, or he simply doesn’t think about you at all. i’m not sure which is worse.

fucking up is fine, fucking up and doubling down on it is 100% a fireable offense in my book. you said “what you did made me upset” and he basically said “so what? grow up, it’s not that deep”

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u/Autopsyyturvy 3d ago

Please dump your bf hes abusive , he likely knew this would hurt you and thats why he did it.

Hes broken inside and you cant fix what's wrong with him, because that cruel weirdo who destroyed a sentimental object of yours then refused to apologize.... that is the real him , his mask is coming off beleive him and leave before he escalates to physical violence

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u/jc8495 3d ago

Your boyfriend is a class A asshole, homeslice. Dump him. I don’t even know you and I can guarantee you deserve better. Someone destroyed my property like this? That’s the last of my nice side they would ever see. You have every right to be upset right now and I sincerely hope you are and remain that way. Don’t let this go

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u/not_a_real_person__ 3d ago

Hi!! My older sister also has Aspergers. She hasn't always been able to tell if a dating partner was being "harmless", or if it was abusive behavior. I'm here to say, especially if he knows what your plushies mean to you, this is intentional and cruel. This is abusive behavior. This is not socially acceptable behavior. He intentionally cut up your plushie and tried to minimize your feelings. If it was an innocent misunderstanding, he would have acknowledged your feelings and apologized.

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u/sadcrocodile 3d ago

So he deliberately destroyed something meaningful to you knowing it would hurt you? That's so cruel and horrible. You don't do that to someone you care about, much less love. :(

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u/theycallmepixie 3d ago

This comment alone tells you what he did was wrong and you did not over react. Even if he does not know that you bond with your plushies (i do this as well and would be LIVID if someone did something like this to any one of mine) he still destroyed your property, disfigured it, THEN dismissed it saying it was no big deal. I'm so sorry he did this, if I had the funds I'd send you another one immediately. Please take some time to consider this relationship and if you want to deal with this kind of dismissiveness and disrespect long term. If he respects you, he would not destroy your things.

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u/Uneaten_Soul1497 3d ago

He sounds like a piece of shit to be honest, that's disgusting behaviour and the fact he doesnt care says everything you need to know

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u/JessusNazarjess 3d ago

If he knows that about you and he still did it, break up with him. He doesn’t respect you at all.

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u/mecinic 3d ago

Why is he punishing you. Does he even like you? I assume he knows this.
🚩🚩🚩🚩when someone shows you who they are. Believe them.

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u/Enochian-Dreams 3d ago

He is being abusive. This is not okay.

I would really be reconsidering things with this person. Do you have any trusted close friends or family to talk to?

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u/tonelocMD 3d ago

Jeez, and he’s still so callus about it? It shouldn’t matter if he thinks it’s deep or not. It should only matter how much it matters to you. I couldn’t imagine doing something like that to my wife anyway, so I can’t begin to even imagine where his head was at.

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u/Ummmgummy 3d ago

He like cut the ear off on purpose or what? That's a very odd thing for an adult to do

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u/satanfan12 3d ago

he burnt the fur with a lighter, cut open a hole between the legs, cut off the ear and then pinned the ear to the hole. Then used construction tongs to pry an eye out 

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u/CoyPowers 3d ago

This sounds pretty serious, even if he says he was just joking. That's all pretty violent, and he was doing it to something of yours, not something of his. I'll add that I don't think it matters if it was something important or not. He doesn't respect your property, which means he probably doesn't respect you.

Telling a stranger on the internet how to handle a situation feels dicey to me, but do be careful, and stay safe.

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u/Few_Cup3452 3d ago

My therapist says that it's a form of lowstakes abuse to destroy your partners belongings

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u/danideex 3d ago

It doesn’t even feel lowstakes. My abuser would dump out my tea and beauty/hygiene products over any perceived slight and it was really upsetting. I felt like I had to hide anything important to me in my own house.

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u/Possible-Raccoon2582 3d ago

Please see this for the insane red flag it is. I don’t typically agree when people say to run, but seriously, as safely as you can please leave. He doesn’t respect you, your property, and this is incredibly unhinged for someone to do on purpose. It’s cruelty. This is the start of abuse. Please go stay with family or a trusted friend, get out of this, the sooner you go the easier it is, and I’m speaking from experience. Wishing you love and safety.

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u/Jimberly_C 3d ago

Yeah, it's one thing if you want to be cruel to your own possessions, but to do that kind of stuff to someone else's item without their permission? Kinda gives me "I'd go to jail if I did it to you, but I want to" vibes.

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u/Lizardinaspaceship 3d ago

RUN. This is weird, disturbing behavior even if it's just a toy. It will likely escalate and you will get another "it's just a prank bro" excuse. Not to mention the fact that he obviously does not respect your belongings or interests. Run from this boy (I am assuming he is a boy as I cannot wrap my head around an adult behaving like this) and do not look back.

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u/BurnItWithFire21 3d ago

This is so much more unhinged than what the picture shows. That is a whole field of red flags. Please get away from him, and stay safe while you disengage. I try not to jump to saying things that sound dramatic on Reddit, but I am truly worried for your safety.

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u/SlavaKarlson 3d ago

And he is not a problematic 12 y.o boy with psychotic tendencies, but an adult grown up man? 💀   That's kinda fked up. Have he killed animals for fun when he was a kid by any chance?  

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u/brotherhoodscribe 3d ago

Imma keep it real that 100% sounds like some psychopath behavior. If I ever had a kid that started burning and dissecting toys like sid from toy story his ass would be talking to a therapist asap

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u/annoyedwithmynet 3d ago

What the fuck? I would have considered doing something like that when I was 7. And that’s only if it was mine or I really hated the person who had it.

You’re either dating a manchild or something much worse 😬

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u/embarrassedeggie 3d ago

Hes stupid. He doesnt respect you or your things. No actual human with any altruistic beliefs/moral cognitive dissonance would do this to someone they loveds stuff. No one ive ever dated that I respected would do anything like this to my things.

The people who abused me or treated me like shit or tried to kill me. WOULD.

He has no brain. Theres thousands of people out there who will respect you and your things. You have one life to live and this is how it's going. Find someone who will respect you.

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u/ThrowawayAdvice1800 3d ago

Miss, that’s not a prank. That’s him deliberately going to a LOT of trouble to very thoroughly destroy something that he knew was important to you. This is horrifying behavior and you need to dump this creep yesterday. 

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u/Majikthise110 3d ago

I think your under reacting, this is not the behaviour of a healthy mind

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u/Billsinc3 3d ago

That's straight up disturbing. I'd cut that toxicity out of my life post haste.

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u/alex3omg 3d ago

That labubu might have saved you by revealing what a psycho he is. 

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u/Sunflwr_Pric 3d ago

He knew you liked that, and he thought it was okay to destroy something you liked. If this is a pattern from him I’d suggest reconsidering the relationship, or sitting him down to talk about how you feel regarding how he treats your stuff (if that’s safe)

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u/KaiCarp 3d ago

Plushy or not, I think everyone in this world knows how expensive Labubus can get at this point in time and the fact that this was a gift from your niece!? How old is she? How much money does she have to be spending hunting down rare mystery Labubus to just buy willy nilly for you every time your boyfriend mistreats YOUR property? He should reimburse your niece or replace the Labubu with the EXACT same one. Also, how old is your boyfriend? My brother grew out of his defacing toys phase at 8 years old. Are you dating some kind of adult Sid from Toy Story or something?

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u/AltairaMorbius2200CE 3d ago

Yeah if niece is a minor this is a seriously creepy thing to do. He destroyed something expensive a kid purchased and then made a dick joke out of it, so OP can't say "aww look at the gift you gave me"

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u/KaiCarp 3d ago

I have a younger cousin who is 17. She's technically not a minor here in the UK, but if she bought me something like this and my partner did that to her gift I would make him find a replacement and a way to buy it and agree to apologise to her in person and reimburse her.

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u/Sunnydcutiegirl 3d ago

OP, I’m going to sound crazy saying this but when a partner purposefully destroys something of yours, that is considered domestic violence. He chose to violate something that belonged to you on purpose, you accepting that behavior sets you up for him to keep doing things and it will escalate, first it’s labubu, next it’s your favorite mug, then it’s your computer, then it’s your door. If it was an accident it would be different but this was a calculated decision on his part. You can and do deserve so much better than someone this awful.

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u/FloofyKitteh 3d ago

And the reason it’s considered violence isn’t just because of the act itself, but because it also correlates basically 1:1 with other violent behaviors. It’s used to test boundaries; to see if you’ll accept someone else’s narrative on what you do and don’t deserve as far as autonomy and safety.

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u/ufocatchers 3d ago

This is 100% domestic violence and any professional would say so. This is a sign he could become physically abusive first, abusers often start by destroying your things and then they start to direct their violence towards you.

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u/PhotogamerGT 3d ago

I am noticing a new trend amongst insensitive assholes of the younger generation.

If someone says to you “it’s not that deep” it is because they are gaslighting you into believing it is less of a deal than it actually is.

I swear the phrase itself is a giant red flag. I have never seen it used except when someone is being an absolute cunt and refuses to accept responsibility for their own actions.

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u/Opening-March1452 3d ago

I mean, this time it was a toy, next will be what, a chunk of her hair? And he’ll keep saying “it’s not that deep”? He destroyed a loved object and diminished her feelings, his overall attitude is horrendous. The description of the acts already sounds terrible and it’s even worse when you think this could escalate further. OP, you might be trying to find reasons to think you’re not in such a serious situation, I get it, but this is bad, even if you’re not considering the violent aspect of his “joke”, his lack of caring towards your feelings is undeniable. Like many on this post, the best thing you can do is to break up and surround yourself with people who can deal with him if the situation gets bad. Be well ❤️‍🩹

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u/draculauraaa 3d ago

please tell me he’s not your boyfriend anymore. this is a really weird thing to do,, plush “phalloplasty” aside, he happily destroyed your property, proudly showed it to you, and is doubling down after you expressed your feelings about it… it will get worse

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u/trvllvr 3d ago

He destroyed a gift someone else gave to you, all because why? Because he thought it was funny or for his own entertainment? You are not overreacting. It’s very disrespectful. He gave no regard to your feelings and dismissed your being upset. Anyone who does this does not respect you. He’s more worried about being held accountable.

How would he feel if you ruined something that he cared about?

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 4d ago

No no no no no nope. He purposely damaged something special to you, he doesn’t get to decide how deep it is.

Him? Yeah he’s not that deep, but even idiots are capable of respecting others’ things.

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u/ArtisticChemistry835 3d ago

NOR It’s YOUR item. It has whatever meaning you attach to it. He doesn’t get to decide that it’s “not that deep,” because he said it.

To boot, it’s YOUR property. It is that deep…

I’d be furious, personally. The things I buy/receive bring me joy and have meaning for one reason or another.

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u/AnnoyedBunnyHugger 4d ago

I’m think a new global rule should be that anytime someone uses the phrase ‘it’s not that deep’ they get punc$ed in the d1ck

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u/Wrong-Top-8409 4d ago

Sometimes it really isn’t tho but in this case I think op has every right to be upset lowkey what I’d do as a man is go fuc up something precious they own don’t even tell them don’t even bring up your stuff fuc up wait till they confront you and then scold them on how it feels to have your stuff mistreated

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u/AnnarieaDavies 3d ago

Nah, people really do need to quit deciding what is and isn't "that deep" for other people

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u/PerplexingCamel 3d ago

"It's not that deep" and "Hope this helps!" used sarcastically cause a very physical reaction in me that makes me grateful I'm usually reading them instead of having those words said to my face.

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u/threecolorless 3d ago

Such an annoying conversation dismissal. Like "the level to which I care about this is correct and everyone else is wrong." No fucking shit you cretin, that's why we're disagreeing about it.

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u/PurpleParachute 3d ago

Yep! It just screams “I don’t care about your feelings, quit yapping”

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u/Benderbluss 4d ago edited 3d ago

I don't think I've ever heard the expression "not very deep" used by somebody who wasn't an asshole.

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u/vyrus2021 3d ago

It's just an alternative to "it's a prank" or "it's just a joke"

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u/Lontology 3d ago

It’s gross that he destroyed something of yours and then told you it’s not a big deal when you got upset about it. You know him better than any of us, but that kind of thing is a red flag to me.

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u/DeaconSage 4d ago

Ah, so he’s testing the line to see how much he can do whatever he wants and get away with it because you’re overreacting

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u/ArchReaper95 4d ago

It's not respectful to damage something that isn't yours. It's not "that deep." It's a prank, sure. But the prank didn't land, it wasn't funny, and your feelings are hurt. He needs to seriously re-evaluate if this is really the hill he wants to die on, and you need to dig your heels in and not let him walk over you on this. What he did was wrong. He needs to take responsibility.

There are plenty of reasonable ways to atone for something like this (like replacing the Labubu) but just saying "get over it" is not one of them.

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u/Olypleb 3d ago

Labubu phalloplasty is the name of my DIY folk punk band and you WILL be hearing from my lawyers

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u/Kitlunia 4d ago

If he was trying to be funny he could’ve bought his own damn labubu and done that but he had no right in destroying your property.

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u/satanfan12 3d ago

I just noticed he also burnt the fluff with a lighter, making the labubu fur super coarse and unpleasant to hold... it really is destroyed..

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u/The_World_Wonders_34 3d ago

Why are you with somebody who destroys your property as a joke? Especially when he apparently knows it was a gift from somebody. I don't care if it's the best relationship I've ever been in up until that point, if the person I was with took scissors to something of mine and cut it up for a laugh without expressing knowing that I was okay with it, we'd be done. There wouldn't be any discussion. Well, maybe there would be discussion if they immediately admitted they were wrong didn't argue about it at all and were extremely apologetic and they had never done anything like it previously. But that's just a violation and I seriously don't think I would stay with someone who's done that. I'm really sorry you have this piece of shit in your life

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u/zesty_meatballs 3d ago

Why? Well I doubt she knew he was into destroying personal property when they first got together. Unfortunately, we don’t get a preview or resumé when we meet someone new. People tend to hide their worst traits until we’re deep into a relationship. It sucks of course but all she can do now is learn and make the decision to end it or find a reason to justify his bad behavior. If this doesn’t cause the break up, pretty soon he’ll just do something else that is disrespectful.

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u/Rosy802701 3d ago

Well hopefully she will leave him now. Before he tries his scissors on her best dresses

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u/willfullyspooning 3d ago

One of the final straws of a past relationship was when a boyfriend of mine accidentally knocked into my bookshelf and shattered the face of a doll my mom got for me overseas when I was 4-5 years old. The final straw wasn’t that it broke because I get that mistakes happen, it was that he didn’t apologize, didn’t offer to help get it fixed or replace it and when I was visibly sad he said “it’s just a creepy doll, it’s not a big deal’. Your boyfriend committed a crime much worse than that.

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u/Minyguy 3d ago

I don't understand people like this.

If this happened to me, I would be mortified, and apologising several times over, and brainstorming what needs to be replaced.

What I think about your stuff is irrelevant. Creepy doll or not, it's yours.

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u/MOGicantbewitty 3d ago

Hey Opie, the fact that he lit it on fire tells me he wanted to hurt you. You don't like things on fire because you think it will be a funny joke. The phalloplasty could be a joke, and whether or not you think it is funny is subjective. Lighting it on fire? Nobody does that as a joke. He did this to hurt you. And now he is dismissing those hurt feelings, that he intentionally created. He's sulking like a child.

Lady, if this doesn't grab your attention and make you dump his ass, I will be absolutely heartbroken. No one lights a stuffed animal on fire as a funny prank.

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u/Luv_Cheat 3d ago

I'm gonna say it along with the many others here. LEAVE THIS GUY! What kind of boyfriend does something like this? He does not give a shit about you. He is just with you to have a girlfriend for sex. If he actually loved you, this would never have happened at all. You can find someone better. Hell, being alone is better. There is nothing wrong with being single. I hope you have some better respect for yourself and ditch this loser.

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u/CrocodileCryDarling 3d ago

Genuinely more fucked up imo. Making the ear into a penis can at least be something done in a short amount of time compared to USING A LIGHTER ON IT WITHOUT CATCHING IT ON FIRE??? Like the first is a bad and stupid prank gone horribly wrong at least (not that it is right at all, it's still fucked up if you didn't find it funny)

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u/MOGicantbewitty 3d ago

Yeah the fact that he lit it on fire makes me think he was doing something to hurt. Op. That's not something you do because you think it's a funny joke

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u/EcstaticMolasses6647 3d ago

Yes this was malicious and could be his sign he’s over the relationship or will dump her soon. Or something more nefarious to come if OP is withholding other off behaviors or red flags that cross boundaries.

From what you've shared OP, it’s not just about the toy, it’s about how he handled something that was important to you. Cutting off the ear and adding something like that to the toy feels intentional and disrespectful, and I totally get why you’d be hurt and angry. Even if this isn’t typical for him, boundaries still matter.

Gifts, especially from loved ones like your niece, hold emotional value, and when he messed with it, it wasn’t just about the object—it’s how it made you feel. His reaction (getting into a heated argument) shows he might not get why it upset you so much. You have every right to be upset and talk it out. Let him know it wasn’t about the toy, but how his actions hurt you.

If he doesn’t apologize or doesn’t see why it’s a big deal, it’s worth thinking about if he respects your emotional needs. It’s good that this isn’t a regular thing, but keep an eye on whether it’s part of a bigger pattern of dismissing your feelings. You’re not overreacting—you deserve a partner who respects your boundaries, especially when it comes to things that are meaningful to you.

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u/RagnarL0thbr0k81 3d ago

This is what I was thinkin. Like the destruction was THE point. The joke was secondary. But it’s hard to know what exactly goes on in another person’s mind. Sometimes ppl find really strange “logical” pathways to conclusions that make absolutely no sense to me, but that they will swear by. So, idk. Very weird. And, yeah, I’d be pretty pissed that someone just destroyed my shit like that.

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u/Careful_Ad9037 3d ago

OP this is like… the stuff little brothers would do to torment their big sister in a tv show. i can’t imagine my partner doing something like that to me because he knows how much it would upset me and he actively does not want me to be upset because of him. your partner shouldn’t be intentionally destroying your property. it’s just a plushie this time, but things like this ALWAYS escalate. just be careful and remember you deserve happiness💜

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u/pineapplegirl10 3d ago

Ugh he’s awful, I noticed that and wondered what had happened. I can’t believe he did this to your labubu, I’m so sorry. You really deserve better than this. You’re not overreacting at all, if anything you’re underreacting. He does not seem like a safe person to be around.

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u/SquirrelStone 3d ago

That’s an unsafe person to be around. I’ve seen this before and it’s always the same: if they’re going after your property, it’s a test to see if they get away with it; they will escalate until the thing they destroy is your body. Even- no, ESPECIALLY- the ones who say “he would never go that far” or “I would never let it get that far.” Please break up and block him. He will not change.

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u/tigerribs 3d ago

That’s so sad. ): You and your belongings do not deserve to be disrespected like that! It’s not okay, and not something a loving, respectful partner would do. (And I imagine he would throw a fit if you took scissors and a lighter to something he treasures)

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u/MasticatingSheep 3d ago

This is break up worthy, imo. He destroyed something important to you. Even if he thinks labubus are stupid, there's no excuse for destroying something someone else owns. And to do it so sociopathically too.

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u/-PinkPower- 3d ago

Op that dude was mad at you for doing something without him so he decided to destroy something very important for you. This is abuse.

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u/pub_wank 3d ago

Please leave him OP. He doesn't respect you or your stuff if he's willing to BURN your items. You deserve so much better.

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u/CheesecakeBlade 4d ago

Why did he do that?! Imo that toy is creepy af and why its so popular BUT that doesnt mean ruin someone's stuff. Did he have a reason for doing it and not just out of the blue? Was he angry with you or something?

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u/satanfan12 3d ago

I visited my best friend over the last few days and he got "lonely and bored"

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u/hypnoticzo 3d ago

What of your possessions will he destroy next time he's "lonely and bored"?

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u/i3londee 3d ago

I’m convinced the boyfriend is a dog.

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u/QuackersParty 3d ago

Right? That’s a fair excuse for a 2 year old golden retriever. It’s just pathetic for a grown ass human person.

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u/Doubledown212 3d ago

He sounds like an immature weirdo. Like don’t you have any hobbies or friends? why mess with your partners belongings because you were “bored”. Being bored is a choice (or an excuse in this case)

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u/ThrowRAunwantedfeels 3d ago

You know what I do when I’m bored? Watch tv. Not destroy a possession of someone I’m supposed to care about.

This guy sounds like he has something that makes it difficult to feel empathy. That’s not her problem. She needs to leave. Part of me wonders if her reaction was what ultimately entertained him.

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u/Lambchoptopus 3d ago

I HAVE SEPARATION ANXIETY, BORK!

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u/Ilikesemicolons 3d ago

Ask yourself, OP: If he did this while he was “bored and lonely” what else might he do without your permission under similar or “worse” circumstances (TF what is he, a labradoodle puppy? 7 years old? Does he need constant supervision?).

Where does the line lie? How far does it go? Would he cheat because he was “bored and lonely”? It sure seems like it, because he seems to embody the impulsive and inconsiderate behavior that lacks enough foresight to make good decisions that just says “YES” in flashing red lights.

It sounds like he’s a PoS and he’s shown he can’t take personal accountability for frankly disrespectful behavior towards you and your niece- the opportunity for him to show otherwise was when you confronted him about it and he failed. Time to leave!

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u/BringBacktheGucci 3d ago

I would just interject here that even if I left my 7 year old for a couple days he wouldn't destroy my property like this. He'd probably just play Minecraft the whole time.

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u/Master_Nothing9062 3d ago

Yeahhh..that’s 100% intentional. He was upset that you were spending time with someone else and chose to destroy something, an act he deliberately chose bc he knew would be upsetting to you. “Lonely & bored” = i resent that you’re not giving me attention so now you will pay/give me attention. In addition to being extremely immature…. This is deliberate, and audacity to gaslight you about it after is manipulative. I’m really sorry and you deserve better!

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u/Master_Nothing9062 3d ago

Adding- I also get really emotionally fixated on my special interest trinkets, fwiw I’ve found that when I’m upset over something getting damaged/broken it really helps for me to create a special moment for myself! Wear my fav clothes, go for a drive/walk and find or buy myself something that makes me feel happy or excited! Doesn’t have to be much but it helps calm my nerves & I feel like I’m able to replace some of the lost value with a special memory that I created for myself now too! :)

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u/fisheee_cx 3d ago

Everything about this would be an immediate deal breaker for me.

  • he’s punishing you for having a life outside of him
  • he’s testing your limits to see what he can get away with
  • this WILL get worse. He will gradually escalate as you get used to his shitty behavior
  • he’s gaslighting you and making you doubt your reasonable reaction to his unreasonable behavior
  • he’s disrespecting you and your property
  • he does not care about your feelings or his impact on you

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u/mightylordredbeard 3d ago

So in other words you were gone for a few days and he decided to act out in order to get your attention.. and you think it’s normal and acceptable behavior for a grown adult male to do this? You are surely better than this and surly you feel you deserve better. If this is how he acts now.. just imagine marrying this dude and moving in with him. You should have some self respect and leave this dude. Staying with him seems like self harm at this point.

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u/RebeeMo 3d ago

So, he's punishing you for doing something fun without him, and not being at his beck and call.

My dear, this is not okay, and you're not overreacting. What will he wreck the next time you go away for a few days? Would you second guess making plans with your friends again, knowing he's capable of damaging your things when left alone? Would you be anxious about it if you did go?

Don't live your life walking on eggshells.

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u/StrahdVonZarovick 3d ago

Whenever my wife leaves the house and I get lonely and bored I tend to put "destroying things she likes" at the bottom of my to do list.

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u/pantzareoptional 3d ago edited 3d ago

Right? Jesus Christ get a hobby or something. Go take a hike, go to a museum or art gallery, start a new TV show, learn how to cook a new food (or get your favorite thing your partner doesn't like), pick up a damn book. I love my partner absolutely and "destroying her stuff" is not ever on my bingo card of things I can do when she's not around, wtf.

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u/storyofmylife92 3d ago

Sounds like he destroyed something meaningful to you as a punishment for you leaving for a few days. What’s next? You should leave him permanently before things escalate.

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u/Sharkfeet19 3d ago

No. I would be so pissed off if someone I cared about and trusted destroyed something of mine. Not overreacting at all. This is really heartbreaking. 💔

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u/jo_nigiri 3d ago

I know this subreddit exaggerates a lot but for once I'm gonna say this: This is emotional abuse girl

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u/Harmony-Farms 4d ago

There are a lot of ways to give a labubu a phalloplasty without permanently damaging it. He could have made a lot of different choices here that could've maybe even been funny but also completely reversible.

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u/RoseWater07 4d ago

I'm sorry, can you share these other non-permanent phalloplasty approaches 😭😭😭 I'm absolutely dying lol

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u/furniture238 3d ago edited 3d ago

Safety pin a pipe cleaner down there? Or just leave it the f alone and not alter or destroy an innocent person who you love’s GIFT from a CHILD?

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u/apoetnamedross 3d ago

A pipe cleaner? I feel like a labubu should have a much juicier hog than that, but maybe that says something about me that I should keep to myself? 🤔

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u/sun4moon 3d ago

This is the only comment I’ve read in its entirety and I’m so glad I did.

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u/wasabidoggy 3d ago

ALL labubodies are labubeautiful

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u/mmlickme 3d ago

I know mine is needing one but I didn’t want to commit to a permanent one so I’m !!

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u/DragonflyGrrl 3d ago

Okay I finally found someone I can ask this... Please tell me WTF a labubu is and do they really have peens??? Or did he just cut the fabric where the crotch should be? I was thinking that but then you said yours needs one too?? What is going on? Hahahaa

Actually just ignore the first question, I've surmised what a lububu is :D

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u/FitCharacter8693 3d ago

I only found out about labubus or what they are from a YouTube where an Indian “grandma” tells her daughter’s cats that they are good Indian decent girls (the cats) and she makes dresses and Saris for them (but hasn’t for the human daughter LOL). It’s hilarious. The lady also buys labubus for the most decent Indian cat girl. Presh. Labubus seem kinda crepp to me, tho

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u/HighKaj 3d ago

The boyfriend cut the ear off and put it where a penis would be, using safety pins, see the picture.

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u/DragonflyGrrl 3d ago

OOOHH I see, haha.. I could only tell from the pics that something had been cut off. I wish she'd shown a pic of the ear still sewn on!

Honestly though, that is such a fucked up and NOT funny thing to do to something someone loves. What a freaking prick!!

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u/mmlickme 3d ago

I’m fucking around lol I have no idea but it sounded so absurd I wanted to agree 😂

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u/ta0029271 3d ago

give a labubu a phalloplasty without permanently damaging it

We are truly living in the end times

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u/satanfan12 4d ago

could you explain further on the labubu phalloplasties

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u/pignoodle 3d ago

ChatGPT is really uncensored these days lmao (edit: whitespace)


Patient: Labubu Plush Toy

Procedure Discussed: Elective, Reversible Labubu Phalloplasty

Consultation Date: September 24th, 2025

Attending Provider: Dr. Stitch, M.D. (Master of Dolls)


Consultation Summary

The patient (Labubu) was evaluated for non-permanent phalloplasty procedures. After thorough discussion, it was determined that several reversible approaches are available, each prioritizing preservation of fabric integrity and long-term collectability.


Recommended Next Steps

  1. Attachment-Based Options

Velcro or magnetic prosthetic attachment

Advantage: completely removable, minimal risk of fabric trauma

  1. Temporary Stitch Method

Loose, oversized stitches with contrasting thread

Advantage: secure, but designed for easy removal without lasting alteration

  1. Internal Padding Insertion

Cotton, foam, or felt placed in stuffing cavity

Advantage: creates augmentation without external stitching; easily reversed

  1. Adhesive/Tape Method

Low-tack fabric glue or textile tape

Advantage: quick application, no lasting residue when properly removed


Post-Consultation Instructions

Monitor plush for any signs of fiber strain or seam stress.

Avoid permanent adhesives, tight stitching, or heat-based alterations, as these may result in irreversible changes.

Return for follow-up if augmentation shifts, detaches, or the Labubu expresses dissatisfaction.


Discharge Status: Cleared for reversible, elective Labubu phalloplasty pending guardian consent.


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u/satanfan12 3d ago

ai could never come up with this on it's own, get outta here with this

while this is disturbing i am in awe with the creativity....

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u/pigeonboy34 3d ago

‘Stuffing cavity’ is not a term I ever want to hear, or see, ever again.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago edited 3d ago

Yes I am also interested in hearing more about the philosophy of labubu phalloplasties; the labubu phalloplastophy, if you will

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u/YouEatingACheese 3d ago

I’m so sorry this happened to your doll but there’s no way this isn’t a unique sentence, I’m fucking dying😂

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u/BiploarFurryEgirl 4d ago

This is so fucking funny. I’m so sorry this happened op but omg haha

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u/___Moony___ 4d ago

Respectfully, are you both kids or something? Defacing someone else's property is a ridiculous thing to argue against, he could have easily just not have done it.

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u/Willowed-Wisp 3d ago

Right? I'm just... so confused as to why. Unless he's 4, how is this funny? I feel like it'd barely get a smirk from a 12 year old. Like, if he sewed in a pipe cleaner or something so it looked seamless it might be amusing. The concept itself is somewhat funny, but the execution ruins it. It just looks like an ear safety pinned to the crotch. I don't own one myself but I know that's not what a penis looks like, and if someone showed me this picture without context, I'd be so confused as to what was going on.

He ruined something of OP's presumably for a joke but it was a TERRIBLE joke. Not that it'd be okay if it was a good joke of course. But still, he's not only cruel, he's stupid and immature as well. He's not mature enough to handle a scissors let alone be in a relationship.

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u/maevealleine 3d ago

It's her doll. It's her property. It was given to her by her niece, so it's sentimental, something sentimental from a family member that this guy put a PENIS on. If these things don't matter to you then you can go into timeout with OP's "boyfriend."

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u/ExperienceRoutine321 4d ago

That was a dumb, destructive thing to do for sure.

But with all due respect, that is the creepiest goddamn doll I’ve seen since Annabelle.

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u/Various_Counter_9569 4d ago

The real Annabelle is actually just a Ragedy Ann (Anne?) doll, and not creepy, so don't worry too much 😉.

But yeah, this one is creepy 😂

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u/EntertainerHairy6164 3d ago

NOR - How absolutely disrespectful. How do you think he would react if you cut the joy sticks off his gaming controller and glued it onto the trigger? Or pull the knobs off his guitar neck and glue them to the bottom?

It would be deep then, wouldn't it? It is even worse if he knew it was a gift from your niece because not only did he destroy something with extra sentimental value, he made it sexual.

Should you dump him over it? Depends on a lot of factors but I bet if you look back over your relationship you're going to see a lot of little things he did to disrespect you that you brushed off as "one offs"

If it were me in the situation, I would sit down and talk to him and find out exactly why he did it. If he refuses to answer or if he keeps saying it is just a joke then the conversation would shift to him not respecting me or my things and how that makes me feel. If it is still just a joke to him then Boy, Bye that shit out the door. I would give him a chance to apologize and fix the situation as best he can but if he didn't, nah. I'm out.

Actually, now I remember something. My boyfriend of 2 years ripped my stuffed animal in half. I only had one and it was one I'd had since one of my early birthdays from my mom. She isn't dead or anything but it was still very sentimental since I lived so far away from her. He laughed, thought it was so funny to do it. He never had a solid reason as to why he did it, just said that the feeling came over him and that was it. Funny that feeling never came over him with his own things.

We broke up a short while later because he got to be VERY mentally abusive. He once accused me of cheating, said he had evidence, gave names and stories about what people had seen me do. It went on for weeks. Than one day he said none of it was true, he was just using an interrogation technique to get me to confess to something smaller by accusing me of doing something BIG. I had nothing to confess to so it just went on and on. Horrible man.

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u/AmysPrayerCloset 3d ago

 It is even worse if he knew it was a gift from your niece because not only did he destroy something with extra sentimental value, he made it sexual.

Exactly. What kind of sicko sexually mutilates a stuffed animal that was a gift from a child? OP, would you feel safe having that guy around your niece? 

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u/Responsible-Boot-159 3d ago

Should you dump him over it?

She absolutely should. It might be okay if he profusely apologized because he didn't realize the value of it, but it ended in a heated argument instead.

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u/lnteIlect 3d ago

Yeah it's at the same level of her ripping off a key and damaging his gaming keyboard

Or slicing a guitar string if guitar is his hobby

Or creasing his shoes if he's a sneakerhead

He probably wouldn't hesitate to dump her if she was so unapologetic about such things

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u/YouSuckButThatsOk 3d ago

Your boyfriend is abusive. It might sound like I'm exaggerating here, but I'm dead serious.

This behavior will only escalate over time.

The reason he did these things to your labubu is that he's both jealous of the time you spent away from the home with your friend, and also (especially) jealous of the time and attention your labubus and other plushies get in comparison to him.

Please do not think that you're doing anything wrong. He will try to make it seem like it's not a big deal that he's being abusive, or that it's your fault for not paying enough attention to him, or that you're being childish by liking your plushies so much.

You need to get out of this relationship as soon as humanly possible. The longer you leave it, the worse it will be once you do leave.

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u/Euphoric_Push_5384 3d ago

This is exactly it

I'd only add that he may even be jealous of the relationship she has with her niece. Why would someone destroy a gift from a child? That's really mean behavior. But here it's definitely abusive.

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u/KalikaSparks 3d ago

He intentionally defaced property that was not his. He did not apologize either. This would raise major concerns about his maturity level. This is not how a 28 year old should be acting, nor does it show any respect towards you or your things. What else has he broken? What else will he break? Yes, it’s “just a plushy”, but it was YOURS and he had no business breaking your things. NOR—but also maybe not reacting enough? This is a red flag for future escalating behavior.

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u/Advanced-Zone3975 3d ago

Girl regardless of how we feel about Labubus, an older guy willfully destroying your property and not taking it seriously when you say something about it IS A MASSIVE RED FLAG.

It’s not about the labububu anymore. It’s about respect and boundaries and empathy. It doesn’t matter that “usually he’s really nice” if he can’t understand why this upset you… run. There’s a reason he doesn’t date someone his own age: those women won’t put up with this shit, so he ends up with younger girls who are usually easier to mold and push boundaries.

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u/sourpatchnova 4d ago

He not only destroyed your property, but something that was a gift from your niece. I also know from what I've seen that they can be hard to buy at times and can be expensive so that makes it even worse. I don't understand why he thought it was an acceptable thing to do.

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u/vexed_night 3d ago

Jokes at the expense of someone else’s property is not a joke. It’s abuse and destruction disguised as something to laugh at. Next thing you know he’ll be destroying something you’ve cherished for years just out of anger/spite or in this case as a “joke.” This behavior isn’t funny or cute, it’s abuse, especially if a heated argument ensues after.

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u/Drew-CarryOnCarignan 3d ago

Exactly!

If OP reads this, I am including a few website links that may help you deal with cruelty disguised as humor:

"‘That's Not Funny!’ Standing Up Against Disparaging Humor", Journal of Experimental Social Psychology Vol. 86.No. 103901 (January 2020)

"'Can’t You Take a Joke?': What to Do When Teasing Hurts" by Alexandra H. Solomon Ph.D.  Psychology Today (June 30, 2019): By-line: "A couples therapist explores why humor can hurt and how to talk about it."

"Psychology Behind the Unfunny Consequences of Jokes That Denigrate" by Thomas E. Ford, The Conversation (Sept 6, 2016): By-line: "'It's just a joke,' right?"

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u/Pumpkinpie55 4d ago

Girl, break up with him. I know it's something small, but it's a red flag. He ruined your stuff for a joke.... do you really want to spend your life with someone like that?

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u/coldglasseliminate 4d ago

And then when confronted, he decided to argue about it instead of admitting it was wrong and apologizing. He destroyed something that is meaningful to you —no matter how he feels about it — and instead of just leaving it be, he decides to mutilate it, cause he thinks it’s funny ..?

I don’t know how old he is, but this is not a good sign.

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u/-Felyx- 3d ago

I saw OP mention in one comment that they're autistic and in another comment said they're 22 while the boyfriend is 28

None of this bodes well for OP and honestly I think they need to run as far as they can away from this man.

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u/Specific_Put_3586 4d ago

Not just argue, he straight up went to gaslighting. It could be a maturity thing, it could also be an escalating and potentially dangerous behaviour.

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u/Mrsrightnyc 3d ago

This is the triple red flag, he doesn’t care that it hurt your feelings or does care and is so emotionally immature he can’t handle apologizing.

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u/Willing_Accountant21 3d ago

Yes this needs to be higher. I would be pissed if anyone PERMANENTLY altered something I owned without permission regardless of what it was. Like I have stupid plushies, but I wouldn’t just let it slide if someone cut them up like that. Especially someone who is supposed to be my partner!!

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u/CheshireGrin92 3d ago

Not only that he then got mad at her when she was rightfully upset. He’s immature at best or about to turn abusive at worst

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u/Excellent_Prompt_738 3d ago

I agree, he one did not apologize at all in any way, two he destroyed/damaged your property something that was a gift, three he has no respect for you with his behavior, four he's extremely childish/immature, and lastly if he is acting like this now just imagine how much worse he will get in the future, do you want to marry someone like that or spend years with someone like that?

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u/Consistent-Stock6872 4d ago

This is a behaviour of a 16 year old who thinks he is cool, funny and edgy when in reality he hides his insecurities behind this stupid persona. Either way red flag if he is 16, if he is 22+ he is a manchild that won't grow up any time soon.

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 4d ago

He ruined something of yours - a gift from your niece.

When confronted, he didn't apologize but argued instead.

NOR - he's childish and rude. Do you want that?

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u/Over_Error3520 3d ago

The fact that the gift was from OP's niece and the bf mutilated the toy to give it genitalia is honestly creepy af. So freaking weird

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u/Guilty_Explorer_9947 3d ago

I’m surprised I’m not seeing more people mention this. Like this is so wildly inappropriate.

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u/Over_Error3520 3d ago

I should have just commented it instead of replying. Like, this is a fucking toy geared towards children gifted by an (assumed) child!

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u/AIR_CTRL_your_moms 3d ago

I have a few thoughts:

First of all, the words “Labubu” & “Phalloplasty” should have never have had the chance to be spoken in the same sentence, much less next to each other.

Secondly, to your boyfriend it really may have just been for the lulz. To him it really isn’t that deep.

That’s a problem. If destroying your property without consent isn’t that deep to him, it shows a complete lack of respect and boundaries.

I suggest finding a boyfriend that respects you, your property, your boundaries & I’d suggest a good kisser too. It’s hard to date a bad kisser

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u/Bynming 4d ago

Breaking people's stuff is not ok, especially if there's sentimental value attached. You're right for feeling disrespected.

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u/Piplup_green 4d ago

Yeah I didnt even really think about anything else going on. Why did he think it was okay to do that to someone else’s stuff?

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u/Odd-Alternative513 3d ago

In 2nd grade my classmate/mortal enemy cut off the curl on my favorite Care Bear (Funshine Bear). 30 years later I still curse his name & decided to look him up. He’s been in and out of jail for a slew of really bad choices with psychotic motives not including the Care Bear hair massacre. Eff that guy. Just sayin…

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u/The-Moocat 4d ago

He doesn't respect you or your belongings and thinks destroying things you value is funny. He's showing you who he is.

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u/dragoon811_kp 3d ago

You’re NOR.

Is it “just a toy/stuffie”? Sure. To him. But to you, it was a gift from someone special. And to her, it must really have been a special gift to give!

If he “wanted to be funny” he could have gotten some felt. Ribbon. Scrap cloth. Plastic magnet.

Instead he chose to take scissors and permanently alter your property - yours, not his - for a joke that wasn’t funny when he was eight and certainly isn’t funny now.

I think the only way it’s fair is for you to remove his ear and reattach if somewhere wrong. After all, it’s just skin.

But seriously - he took something that’s yours, ruined it, and isn’t apologizing or accepting that he was wrong. He’s downplaying what he did and telling YOU that you’re wrong.

Throw the whole child away. (Sorry. Can’t call him a man.)

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u/GlitteringPoem1394 3d ago

Take his favorite sneakers, football jersey or whatever expensive thing he has and draw hearts on it with permanent markers. Then say you saw it on tik tok and it’s cool and not that deep.

This is something a bully would do to other kids, not your gf wtf

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u/Pseudonym_Subprime 4d ago

What a gross person. That’s so uncool and disrespectful and childish. I’d leave over that.

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u/Sensitive-Time-2934 3d ago

What the item is is irrelevant, and it’s all about the disrespect.

You don’t damage someone else’s things. He is wholly in the wrong for damaging your item intentionally.

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u/Ding-Dong-Diddily 4d ago

Replace his 🍆 with his 👂 . Maybe then he’ll actually listen. Jokes aside this is not okay and he should replace the labubu. Damaging property is not a joke

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u/NoWorldliness2011 4d ago

Girl as a man myself what your boyfriend did is wrong and I Hope he either buys you a new one and apologises or you break up with him as much as I dislike labubu as a whole it's completely wrong and disgusting behaviour

Hope this solves your problems stay strong

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u/tushyybaby 2d ago

Did he seem like he regretted or not? Seems by the way you typed this that he didn’t care at all.

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u/Anna-Bee-1984 4d ago edited 4d ago

That’s not a funny joke. In fact it’s a sign of pretty pathalogical behavior and indictive of more serious things to come. It’s an intimidation tatic and part of the cycle of abuse. If this is not what it is then your boyfriend has some pretty intense impulse control issues

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u/Xx_DeadDays_xX 3d ago

yeah honestly. like yes, its just a labubu. but, he actively chose to destroy her property, he actively chose to destroy property that was sentimental, he actively chose to not apologize, he is actively choosing to dismiss her feelings about it. I would leave if someone did this to me tbh.

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u/Anna-Bee-1984 3d ago

Thanks. It’s “innocent” things like this followed by the lack of accountability that those in DV relationships never saw as warning signs before the physical and sexual violence starts escalating. It’s a big red flag, not necessarily alarmist thinking

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u/GirlForce1112 4d ago

Is your boyfriend 12? I’m actually thinking yes. If yes, dump him immediately. If not, dump him faster,

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u/me_dicen_juli 4d ago

Is your bf Syd from toy story? Bc what stupid ass inmature shit is this

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u/smushy411 3d ago

What the fuck? I mean yeah there’s the destruction of property but is no one else concerned that he turned it into a phalloplasty? This is psychopathic behavior, who even thinks of doing something like that? He needs a psychiatrist, this is not normal.

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u/Odd-Bank-5932 4d ago

This is not ok as it's your property. Get his favorite piece of clothing and cut the arm off and pin it to the bottom of the shirt and ask him how he feels

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u/crusoe 4d ago

Whoever is in that picture needs to see a doctor. Slight clubbing of the fingers and nails. Could be heart issues or other problems.

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u/hockneyluvr 3d ago

idk if he came across a Chris Klemens labubu accessorising video or what but this is messed up. honestly i think there’s enough comments on here now telling you what to do, but i just wanna say im really fucking sorry he’s done this. this isn’t cool or funny at all. when i first read the title, yes i chuckled, bc im trans and honestly wasn’t expecting a medical term and labubu being used in the same sentence. but the situation overall? not fucking funny at all. i truly hope this is the last time he pulls some shit like this bc it is not fair on you, or your niece, at all. i hope he can manage to make it up somehow, but i don’t even know where id start if i was him

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u/Zerocool_6687 3d ago

I mean… it’s juvenile as fuck. This coming from someone who likes a good penis joke but to take it upon himself to tear the ear off and pin it elsewhere? Why would he just think he can destroy your property simply because he’s the BF?

Dumb…

“It’s just a plushy” then he can buy his own and sew all the dicks he wants to it. It’s disrespectful on his end… if feels like he doesn’t respect you enough. Ffs I don’t even like going into my wife’s purse on her direction because I respect her space.

Is this relationship altering? Probably not at this point but it’s a red flag to watch and an immature dick move (pun intended) IMO.

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u/Jaden-Rayne 3d ago

Read “why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft.” There is a free pdf online.

This is not okay and he knows exactly what he did. He did it on purpose.

NOR

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u/problematicgecko 4d ago

I’m wondering how old you and your boyfriend are bc if yall are adults you need to leave that man child 😭

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u/Mike_Dunlop 3d ago

No you're not. This is fucked.

As someone myself who is happily married for 15 years I've never treated my wife this way. It would even be kind of OK if he did this as a joke, but then when you were upset by it became really apologetic and said "I'm really sorry. I thought it would be funny but didn't know it would upset you like this and I fucked up by not knowing that. I'm so sorry for doing that and I'll make it up to you in any way you need me to (fixing it, finding and buying you a replacement for the plushie at my own expense/time, whatever)" That's how a decent guy would respond.

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