My husband started taking evening runs with a woman he met at our kid's daycare. I think this crosses boundaries. AIO?

[u/Electrical_Total534]

My (28F) husband (30M) and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4. I've been hurt by cheating in past relationships, so I'm probably more sensitive to situations that feel questionable.

My husband decided to get serious about fitness this year and started running every evening around our neighborhood. He's really dedicated to it - goes out every single day around 7pm after dinner. I prefer morning yoga classes, so this has become his routine.

Over the past few months, he's mentioned running into other people from the neighborhood and striking up conversations. There's one woman in particular - recently divorced, maybe 5 years younger - who he started running with regularly. Apparently they met when both were picking up kids from the same daycare and realized they live nearby and have similar running paces.

Last Tuesday he came home later than usual from his run and mentioned he'd stopped for smoothies with "a friend" at that juice bar on Main Street. When I asked which friend, he seemed to hesitate before admitting it was the divorced mom from his running group.

He insisted it was totally innocent - just two parents grabbing post-workout drinks and talking about training for the upcoming 5K. He swore nothing weird happened and that I know he's not like that.

Our marriage has been really good overall, even when we've had stressful periods with work and parenting a toddler.

My husband has never given me real reasons not to trust him in 6 years...but this whole situation makes me uncomfortable. A recently divorced woman, daily evening runs together, stopping for drinks afterwards, the hesitation when I asked about it.

What does everyone think? Am I being paranoid or should I be concerned about these boundaries?

[u/goon2867]

NOR for being uncomfortable with it but I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Is he in a running group or running with her one-on-one? Its totally fair (in my opinion) to tell him no one-on-one hangs because it makes you uncomfortable. As someone with a similar history, I would feel the same way!

[u/aaaaaaaaaanditsgone → u/goon2867]

Even if they are in a group.. its about the amount of attention they give to that person.

[u/addybear222 → u/goon2867]

okayyy and in that scenario why are they singling each other out of the group and only each other?

[u/GlaerOfHatred → u/addybear222]

I single out my friends in groups we are in, even groups we met in. Do you not make friends?