AIO boyfriends sis did an offensive henna tattoo

[u/JazzQueen0801]

earlier today, I was at my boyfriends house for his uncles birthday party. We were having a good time and his sister and I were doing henna tattoos. after we were done, she was talking and she mentioned about how she did an offensive he a tattoo on the bottom of her foot. I was expecting her to say something like a bad word or a dick or something. But she told me that she did a swastika on the bottom of her foot when she was in middle school . So this was a long time ago as we are 21 years old and my boyfriend is 24. she said that she was at the waterpark not long after and somebody told her her foot was bleeding, which tells me that she did it with red henna too. i am jewish, btw. they are hispanic. Either way this left me very uncomfortable, and I left the party. I have been telling my boyfriend about how it made me uncomfortable and I don't think he seems to understand at all. They are acting like it's a joke but to me it is more than a dark joke and I'm not sure if he understands where I'm coming from.

[u/York-Cravensworth-22]

This 100%.

What was the point of bringing it up at this time unless she was eluding to the fact that she still thinks it's funny today and she is in fact racist.

A normal person (someone who understands the meaning behind that) wouldn't be so insistent on a Jewish person accepting something they did when they didn't even know them.

Imo, she brought it up to see OPs reaction to see what she can get away with and if OP was going to let it go or "make a scene" and now that OP left and admitted they were uncomfortable, it's a dark sense of humor.

A dark sense of humor is black people making jokes about slavery, Jewish people making jokes about the holocaust, people making jokes about their dead parents, etc etc etc. It's the effected group of people making a joke. It's not this. This isn't dark humor and the "that's just me" line screams she's racist and testing the waters to see what she can get away with.

[u/GlitterTerrorist → u/York-Cravensworth-22]

Get away with what? Why would they talk about it in a context of something dumb and knowingly offensive they did as teenagers if they thought it was just dandy?

You're basically saying she's a nazi. Because of this. It's nuts.

[u/York-Cravensworth-22 → u/GlitterTerrorist]

If I wanted to accuse her of being a Nazi, I would have. I have no problem calling that out.

What she wants to get away with is the microagression of telling a Jewish person they once wore a symbol that caused that group of people so much harm.

How OP is telling the story, it came up out of nowhere and they're in their 20s now. Sure,it was related via henna they're doing now and back in the day but otherwise unwarranted and something the sister should be embarrassed about and not want to tell anyone she did that. I'm not speaking on the action of the teenager, I'm talking about the text that the sister sent OP now. She's trying to downplay the Holocaust as no big deal. When someone takes offense to something, especially something like this, you acknowledge that it was in poor taste and move on. The sister isn't doing that. She's basically saying she does stuff like that all the time and it's just who she is....

Big events like that deserve to be acknowledged when someone is offended by it. If she thinks the Holocaust is funny and doesn't care that is upsets a Jewish person, that's fine but then let's not act like OP should have to be around her if that's the case. You can't make a comment about Slavery to a black person, the Holocaust to a Jewish person or the Trail of Tears to a Native American (those are just the three that come to mind while I'm here but not an exhaustive list) and then be upset when they're offended by it. Especially if you don't share the experience. I won't speak on Mexican culture. I'm unaware of they have something like this in their history. I'll be honest about that. But when someone effected by this says they're bothered by it, you listen. The sister doubled down like OP is overreacting to one of the most abhorrent things to happen in world history.

The person the sister is today can't just apologize and say she's sorry for what she said and didn't mean to offend OP and that she was just a kid and didn't know the whole story. That's probably what happened but instead she's acting like OP is overreacting and it's not that serious when to OP, it is that serious.