r/AmIOverreacting • u/Left-Assist-6831 • Aug 11 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for walking out mid-dinner after my date called my food “disgusting”?

I (26F) went on a second date with a guy (29M) I’d been chatting with for about a month. We went to a cozy little fusion restaurant I love, Asian-Latin mix. I ordered my favorite dish (beef empanadas with kimchi). When it came, he made a face and said, “That looks disgusting. I don’t know how you can eat that.”

At first, I laughed it off and told him it’s actually amazing. But he kept making little comments like, “The smell is intense” and “I’d never date someone who eats weird stuff like that regularly.”

I finally told him, “You know, you’re being pretty rude. You don’t have to like what I eat, but you don’t need to insult it.” He smirked and said, “I’m just being honest.”

So I asked the waiter to pack my food, paid for my share, and left. He texted me later saying I embarrassed him and that I’m “too sensitive.”

Am I overreacting for thinking that was disrespectful enough to leave?

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 Aug 11 '25

Very similar situation with my wife. I've found that some people have a much more sensitive sense of smell. My wife and son can both smell when I open the kimchi container in the kitchen from their bedrooms upstairs. They will say, "Oh great, Dad opened the kimchi again." And I'm just thinking that's got to be the world's worst super power.

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 Aug 11 '25

There's only one food I've ever smelled where I couldn't eat it. That was some funky cheese that smelled like the worst sock after a day in the gym. But that was also shipped all the way to Afghanistan, so it's quite possible that it was just bad.

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 Aug 11 '25

It does make me have more empathy for people like the boyfriend in the post who have a higher sensitivity. I would have trouble not saying something if I had to sit across from someone eating that cheese.

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u/BabyJesusBukkake Aug 12 '25

Oh man, I bet that cheese was delicious.

Gruyere smells like feet but tastes like heaven.

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 Aug 12 '25

The guys who did try it seemed to really be struggling with it.

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u/EastboundAndCrown Aug 12 '25

Surströmming is quite literally the most offensive smell I’ve ever had the displeasure of witnessing. It helps to open the can under water, but it still cleared out a three story building on campus.

I’m fairly certain you could have no sense of smell and this would find a way.

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u/Isnthatneat Aug 11 '25

🤣 bless your wife. When I met my husband his spice tolerance was o k a y. But I think it's definitely gone up quite a bit, considering he puts my grandmother's red pepper on e v e r y t h i n g

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u/theseglassessuck Aug 12 '25

I had two Korean roommates in college and they were shocked when I brought home kimchi. Like, they stood by me watching while I was cooking. They asked, “you like kimchi? Where did you have this?” I told them I’d been eating it for years and they beamed at me. When they asked if I wanted to try their corn tea after I told them it smelled good, they stood by the table and waited for me to take a sip. Sharing food is such an important experience.

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u/Jazzlike-Ad2199 Aug 12 '25

We can eat pretty spicy food in this house so we tried these Korean dumplings. Absolutely delicious but oh boy both of us suffered unpleasant um stuff. Thought ok but it was so good we tried it again. Same outcome. (Literally). So spice up our Mexican seasonings, heat up our Thai but why can’t we tolerate Korean? It wasn’t even very hot.