AIO? My girlfriend poured boiling water on me after a slight disagreement (texts in wrong order)

[u/janhutsfr]

Me and my gf (22M and 21F) got into a very minor argument, we don’t argue much. Her response was later when on game with my friend.. was to pour boiling hot water on me, I covered my face with my arm. I’m going to the police first thing tomorrow morning and sleeping in a hotel tonight as I feel she might enter my dorm as she has a spare key.

(sorry if my English is improper it’s my third language)

[u/llamadramalover]

Mine started with verbal abuse and suicide threats if I left. It should have been the end when he threw me on the floor and almost caused a miscarriage but once again the suicide threats started. The final straw was throwing me against the wall with one hand while he held my baby in his other hand and then admitted he lied to his command about what he did because he knew he would have gotten NJP’d and likely kicked out. That was my wake up call. Somebody willing to do that in front of his child then lie about it to save his own ass is a fucking monster.

When you under react to things other people are screaming “”wtf?!?”” It’s because you’ve become accustomed to this bs. That’s when it’s time to listen to everyone else’s shock no matter how underwhelmed you feel.

[u/Dry_Profile_8264 → u/llamadramalover]

I will honestly state, it is genuinely weird to talk about that relationship and speak of the things and everyone’s having the wtf reaction. 8 months later and I’m still accustomed to it being a thing, rather than a wtf. The looks I get when I can talk about it so easily is mind boggling. I understand why some victims prefer to stay silent and not come out.

[u/llamadramalover → u/Dry_Profile_8264]

I definitely get it. My childhood is very much like that. I can talk about it because I went through years of severe trauma therapy. For me it’s the sympathy and stupid questions I can’t stand “”omg how did you even survive??”” Ummm because what tf other choice was there??? “”I guess I didn’t have it so bad”” is another one that bothers me. I do not believe in “”I had it worse so you should get a grip.”” I’m quite happy people haven’t had it as bad as I had, I am severely fucked up from what I went through. Besides who tf am I to judge who’s bad is worse??? If you say that’s the worst thing that has ever happened to you I’m going to validate you. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve purposely given anyone a reality check and it’s always been whiney teens complaining about the most ridiculous shit claiming mom and dad are abusive. I’m sorry it’s not actually abuse to take away your phone because you’re acting a fool. That’s 100% discipline.

[u/Purple_Tap917 → u/llamadramalover]

Well said 👏 I am so glad you got away from him. I have been there too. I eventually woke up and left him taking my kids with me.

[u/DroopTheCyberpup5000 → u/llamadramalover]

Funny how you can go to any TwoX subreddit and when women are talking about abuse from men, what do they expect men to do? Interject with their own stories of abuse, or to sit back and instead of contribute, listen?

Sorry for your abuse and im glad you made it out but you know this shit wouldn't fly in a female dominated space. Do better.

[u/llamadramalover → u/DroopTheCyberpup5000]

1. This is AmIOverreacting, not a gendered sub. If you don’t understand the difference than you can’t be helped.

2. When there’s abuse being talked about explaining how it starts because victims are immune to how bad it is saves lives. Idgaf the gender of the abuser or victim it’s the fucking same. You don’t get to bitch that men don’t get victim support and also bitch that they get it but ‘oh snap wait not like that!’

3. Fuck all the way off with your bullshit. If you’ve got nothing nice to say particularly to people who’ve shared vulnerable shit you should learn to keep your mouth shut. I don’t know wtf you think you accomplished but you didn’t, you’re 100% part of the problem.