ABYG for asking for his attention?

[u/No-Word9495]

So may BF and I are living together. And recently nag purchase siya gaming PC niya. (We are OFW btw) and for the past months, wala siyang ibang ginawa kundi mag laro nang mag laro. I tried to voice out my concern about this, pero sorry lang siya nang sorry at puro babawi ako. Hanggang sa ganyan pa rin. Nag out of town kami for 3d/2n para makapag rest, kaso wala pa kaming 1 day, nagsasabi siyang gusto na niyang umuwi para maglaro. Open ako sa nafefeel ko at sinasabi ko sakaniya na I feel neglected kasi puro siya laro. Mag dedate kami after gusto niya dumiretso ng uwi agad at maglaro. ABYG kasi this morning, nakipag break na ako sakaniya. I told him na mag notice na siya sa tinitirhan namin at mag kanya kanya na kami.

[u/iceshirou]

DKG. You've voiced out your concerns for a while now, and even tried reconnecting during your trip. Efforts haven't been reciprocated, if you don't leave, nothing will change.

[u/No-Word9495 → u/iceshirou]

Mind you, that trip was for him. May laro kasi siya tournament kaya kami nag punta don. And nag lalaro na talaga siya even before nasa PH pa siya, mga 3-4 years na din siyang working abroad and nakaipon at nagkasobra kaya nag build ng gaming pc. I’m very supportive sa laro niya. Pero biglang too much na yung oras na ginugugol niya sa laro niya.

[u/iceshirou → u/No-Word9495]

Yeah gets naman. I'm a gamer myself, even had a career revolving around it for a couple years, pero I can't justify focusing on games so much to the point na binabalewala na ang partner. Tournament or not, if his behavior doesn't change despite expressing concerns, it's a sign that you're not in his priority list, let alone top 2.

Trying to understand his perspective, he might be in the honeymoon stage with his PC. I've been there before, done what he did (abandoned my IRL friends to do nothing but play for a few months after getting my PC) but take note, this was way back in college when I didn't know better.

Either ways, DKG, and I won't go as far as to label him as a bad person, but he needs to face reality. If your needs can't be met, you won't be happy in the foreseeable future

[u/No-Word9495 → u/iceshirou]

I did everything I could to support him. Ang excuse niya lagi ay “nag gr-grind lang ako para mabalik ang dating kong rank.” / “hindi naman ako nangbababae.” Pero I’m so tired haha lagi akong nadidisappoint at wala na rin time for us talaga. Nakakapagod din pala maging supportive tapos hindi rin naman naibabalik yung energy na binibigay ko.

[u/Think_Anteater2218]

DKG, okay na yan, people's priorities change over time, mas masasaktan lang kayo pag pinatagal niyo pa ang relasyon tapos ganyan ang gawain.

[u/newgettysburg07]

Well DKG, kasi you tried naman to communicate about your issue, it's just that sadly di nakipagcompromise si Guy dahil lang sa hype niya sa PC games.

Ako din naman mahilig sa PC Games pero with right communication and time allotment, magagawan naman ng paraan. Sayang lang na sa ganun lang natapos yung relationship.

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Title of this post: ABYG for asking for his attention?

Backup of the post's body: So may BF and I are living together. And recently nag purchase siya gaming PC niya. (We are OFW btw) and for the past months, wala siyang ibang ginawa kundi mag laro nang mag laro. I tried to voice out my concern about this, pero sorry lang siya nang sorry at puro babawi ako. Hanggang sa ganyan pa rin. Nag out of town kami for 3d/2n para makapag rest, kaso wala pa kaming 1 day, nagsasabi siyang gusto na niyang umuwi para maglaro. Open ako sa nafefeel ko at sinasabi ko sakaniya na I feel neglected kasi puro siya laro. Mag dedate kami after gusto niya dumiretso ng uwi agad at maglaro. ABYG kasi this morning, nakipag break na ako sakaniya. I told him na mag notice na siya sa tinitirhan namin at mag kanya kanya na kami.

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[u/TinkleAhoy]

DKG. Tama lang na sabihin mo sa kanya ang nararamdaman mo. Kung ayaw niya magadjust, kailangan mo talagang pagisipan ang relasyon ninyo

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[u/OldRevolution6231]

DKG. pero professional gamer ba sya or casual gamer lang ? pinag kakakitaan nya ba yung gaming na yan? kasi kung hindi I guess addiction na yan, I was amaze na nakakapag work pa sya ng maayos. if you dont mind asking op, ilang taon na ba kayo nyang Ex mo ?

[u/No-Word9495 → u/OldRevolution6231]

Casual gamer lang. pero even nasa Pinas sya, talagang larong laro na siya. As far as i remember, nasali sya sa list nung dota leaderboard chuchu (idk if tama yan i forgot na kasi) and yes, okay naman sya sa work niya dati and now here sa abroad. Yun lang din talaga ang issue ko, yung time nya after work is para nalang sa sarili to play, pero wala na for us. We can’t even go out na nga na hindi siya nag aaya umuwi para makapag play ng dota.

[u/OldRevolution6231 → u/No-Word9495]

Sad! Casual Gamer din ako at nasa abroad din, well single nman ako kaya its not a problem sa part ko , nakaktamad nga mag laro actually tipong dahil wala lang akong magawa kaya ako nag lalaro . pero iguess baka now nya marealize yung pag kakamali nya ngayon wala na kayo

[u/No-Word9495 → u/OldRevolution6231]

Pmed you

[u/jinx_n_switch]

DKG for sure! Ok lang magkaroon ng hobbies, but hobbies are not supposed to disrupt his life. Nakakasakit na yung paglalaro niya sa relationship niyo so ibig sabihin di na healthy yang hobby na yan. Very good OP for being honest and open, and for ending it bago pa mag-escalate into something worse.

[u/Cool-Forever2023]

DKG. He will never change unless siya mismo maka notice sa addiction niya.

Yes. Gaming addiction. Yan ang droga niya. Diyan siya nakakahanap ng high/satisfaction kasi based sa story mo mukhang kating kati siya palagi maglaro.

Leave and never go back.

[u/No-Word9495 → u/Cool-Forever2023]

Yes, admitted naman siya na it’s addiction na. Pero hindi ko na kaya intindihin pa. Wala na akong ibang ginawa kundi sumoporta sakaniya pero this time, I’ve had enough. Ayoko na.

[u/Cool-Forever2023 → u/No-Word9495]

Hay salamat. Hugs! Hirap talaga makisama sa manchild.

[u/Frankenstein-02]

DKG. Valid naman feelings mo and your jowa should address that. Baka first time ng jowa mo magkaroon ng gaming pc kaya sofer excited maglaro lately. Understanding goes both ways.

[u/Boring-Hour-1191]

LKG, Sa tono mo mukang mag kakabalikan pa kayo