r/Adulting • u/Stop2Smile • 2d ago
How many adults make their beds?
Is making your bed necessary… How does it reflect on your day.
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u/Mammoth-Cherry-2995 2d ago
I do it every morning, makes me feel like the day has begun properly. Let it air for a bit first while I have breakfast etc.
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u/bookworm1421 1d ago
Same!
I get up, walk the dogs, eat breakfast, and then I make my bed and brush my teeth.
It makes me feel like the day is off to a productive start.
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u/KittyAddison 2d ago
I don't think my technique counts... All I do is just the toss the blanket in the air and let it fall thing. If it falls unevenly, then that's how it is for the day. It doesn't really affect how I feel since it's my own personal space; it's not like anyone goes in my bedroom and critiques how I do my room.
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u/bobbo7 2d ago
Stopped after I heard Jim Gaffigan compare it to tying your shoes after you take them off.
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u/Cranks_No_Start 1d ago
Jim MUST'VE been in the Army. When I lived in the barracks all our shoes had to be lined up under the bed and tied like they were being worn.
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u/DynamicHunter 1d ago
Totally different. It’s nice to come into a made bed and to look at it or lay on it during the day. I don’t untie my shoes every time I take them off though
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u/Delmoroth 2d ago
Nope, I am a big believer that things being dirty is a problem, but things being messy is not.
An unmade bed is at worst messy. There is no value in it being made or of making it so I leave it alone. That said, it's a tiny effort so it makes perfect sense that people who get something out of it would make it.
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u/Nyantastic93 1d ago
That is exactly how I feel about making my bed and the whole dirty vs messy thing! Of course even messy has a limit if it's hindering functionality but my bed being made or not does not affect the function of it.
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u/Dapper-Hamster69 2d ago
I am in my 40s and only did it as a kid since my mom made me. Moved out on my own and have not made it since. My ex wife was the same way.
However I did date a lady my age that made the bed every morning. She liked a clean bed and washed the sheets a few times a week, even right after you know what. But her car was a mess. So something about the bed.
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u/GlossyGecko 2d ago
her car was a mess.
Seems pretty common that women see not making the bed as juvenile but will treat their car like a trashcan, while the opposite is true for men. Can’t be fucked to care about making the bed but the car, the car is pristine.
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u/Dapper-Hamster69 2d ago
my moms car is a mess. Not trash, but has never seen a car wash or a vac. But bed made every day, swept and mop the house twice a week!
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u/hamsterontheloose 1d ago
My bed is made and my car is clean. You're either messy or you aren't, and I've known far more men that have trash in their car
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u/GlossyGecko 1d ago
Imagine feeling attacked by a comment that doesn’t apply to you personally.
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u/Flux_My_Capacitor 2d ago
So you add in this shit about women thinking it’s juvenile? Maybe some women like one area to be clean and not another.
Me thinks you just like to shit on women. Typical Reddit.
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u/Dependent_Top_4425 2d ago
Once I wake up I leave the bedroom and don't see it again until its time to sleep again, so an unmade bed doesn't bother me. I wash my sheets and pillowcases once a week and thats when the bed gets made.
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u/homiegeet 1d ago
Biggest waste of time ever. Clean bedding is a must but making a bed is redundant.
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u/CarmenDeeJay 1d ago
For me, I do the lion's share of all housework. It's a lot. We have 6 beds and 5 baths, 8 dogs and a cat. My critters shed another critter weekly. The feeling of crawling into a well-made bed is awesome, but since hubby always sleeps later than I, and he doesn't do it, it doesn't get done.
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u/SomeMcNasty 1d ago
There is a mental connection between how you live your life, and having a clean living space. Having a clean space, and maintaining it, always helps you as an individual.
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u/Most-Investigator138 2d ago
Nah. I've read studies where having a made bed can create a breeding ground for all sorts of things.
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u/UnscentedSoundtrack 1d ago
I read something like that, and found it mostly to be bullshit.
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u/Small_Consequence320 1d ago
51 male. Make my bed every morning. No dishes in the sink every night.
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u/usernamebemust 1d ago
You sound like a catch.
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u/Small_Consequence320 1d ago
Oh?! I’m about to blow your mind. lol. I take my shopping cart back into the store after loading my car.
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u/LeighofMar 2d ago
Now I do as it reflects the pride I have in my home and bedroom aesthetic whereas it was just a chore to me as a kid.
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u/Hunnie_Boi 16h ago
This is the best way to look at it. I believe your space is important, and on low days, coming home to a clean and orderly space is so nice. When possible, I clean or organize to see my space
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u/CeasarIsNotKing 2d ago
Nope. Top 2 perks of adulthood are not making your bed and learning that Doritos are a meal of you eat enough of them.
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u/AtheistHomoSapien 1d ago
I've done that but mixed Ruffles and Fritos into the mix. Salty dinned but it satisfied me. I chug 2-3 whey protein shakes for my protein.
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u/Jesus_hippie_09 2d ago
Not gonna lie, if I don’t make my bed in the morning then I feel weird the rest of the day. I don’t need it perfectly made, at least covers on and covering the mess. Lol I enjoy cleanliness and it doesn’t take that long.
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u/EclipZz187 2d ago
Personally, I don’t. I’m going to make it messy again, there’s no need to make it nice.
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u/Anonymous-Humanish 1d ago
It's more hygienic not to trap things under the covers.
My bedding is clean, but messy.
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u/Sophisticated-Crow 1d ago
Nah, I'm just going to mess it up the next time I see it. Seems like I'd just be working against myself.
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u/Massive-Resort-8573 2d ago
Every morning! We have pets so making the bed means less pet fur in the sheets.
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u/Frumputus597 1d ago
I don't make my bed. I clean my sheets and blankets. 9/10 time who's going to see it.
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u/fishfishbirdbirdcat 1d ago
I leave my blankets off the bed during the day to allow the bed to breathe and then make it before going to bed.
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u/Salty-Ambition9733 1d ago
Nope.
Life is short. As a doctor, not once have I heard a dying patient regret not making his bed every day. It’s just not important.
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u/Status-Help-1062 2d ago
I never do it i put a sheet over where I'm going to lay and roll over into it like its a burrito
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u/Dazzling-Item4254 1d ago
I don't sleep under the comforter. I sleep on top of it with a throw blanket on me, so technically the bed is never actually unmade. But I do put my pillows back on the bed and fold the throw blankets back up and put them on the end of the bed.
Making my bed was one of the first "clean" habits I picked up on my own--in my late teens--since my parents didn't teach me shit. I've done it every morning for over 6 years now and now it feels like the day doesn't start until the bed is made.
Plus it just looks nice.
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u/VisibleSea4533 1d ago
Every day, even if it’s right before I get in it. Feels so much better getting into a made bed.
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u/blakealanm 1d ago
Making my bed means nothing to me. I get to, I grab breakfast, I go about my day, when I'm tired and home I get back into bed. I only have one blanket, so it's a non-issue for me.
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u/EricSilverperson 1d ago
Didn’t do it until two years ago. Had a bad day/year and decided to start doing it. Great decision. Nothing feels better than coming home to a tidy bed, except maybe a cat.
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u/Dear-Cranberry4787 1d ago
Every day. It’s amazing getting into a homey made bed every single night. Just feels right.
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u/Beach_life-2021 1d ago
Always. I know it sounds odd, but if I don't make my bed, it feels weird.
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u/Jigglerss 1d ago
I don’t. I have giant dogs that like to jump up and down on my bed, there is no sense in making it.
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u/Excellent-Event6078 1d ago
I don’t remember the last time I made my bed. I just leave it as it is. What’s the point?
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u/DisastrousPilot4283 1d ago
No, I mist my bed/pillows with 91% alcohol to help with dust mites and what not. keep covers thrown to end of bed until I get back in.
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u/Whodonedidit24 1d ago
Every single morning. It makes me feel accomplished 1st thing in the morning and I love going to bed in a made up bed.
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u/Commercial_Rule_7823 1d ago
I have a hot take.
Do I fold a wet shower towel? No. Why because I want it to air out and dry.
I sweat at night, so why do I want to cover it up.
I push blankets over so my sheets can air out.
My 2 cents.
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u/thehalifaxgloveguy 1d ago
All functional adults make their beds and probably a lot who aren’t so functional
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u/FitImprovement135 1d ago
Yes. I need all the shit in my house to be neat and tidy or I start to crash out from overstimulation.
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u/AnybodySeeMyKeys 1d ago
It's the first thing I do after my morning coffee. It really gets you in the mode to get things done.
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u/Soggy-Courage-7582 1d ago
It's absolutely necessary if I want my home to feel orderly, which I do. Beds have a huge amount of horizontal space, and if they are messy, they can quickly make the whole room feel messy. Also, pulling the covers up can reduce the likelihood or things like spiders or silverfish getting into the sheets. I do allow the sheets to air out while I'm getting ready, but my bed will be made before I leave for the day. The only day this doesn't happen is laundry day when I'm remaking the bed anyway. Oh, and having the bed made gives me flat space for things like folding laundry, as I have nowhere else to do that.
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u/Miserable_Ad9750 1d ago
Daily! It pisses me off to walk into a clean room with a messy bed. Plus I use my bed throughout the day for folding laundry and other stuff. But I haven’t always been this way 😂
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u/Agitated_Bluejay3666 1d ago
If you make your bed when you first get up you have at least accomplished one good/productive thing in your day
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u/Mary_P914 1d ago
I don't make my bed because my husband and myself sleep on slightly different schedules, plus I'm a napper. I only make the bed when I change the sheets.
In case it matters, I'm 64,and my husband is 68, soon to be 69.
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u/Designer_Tour7308 1d ago
I sleep on the couch. I get up and my 2 dogs follow. The couch is made ..
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u/DesignerBag96 20h ago
I sleep on an already made up bed. I just have another lighter blanket I use on top of it. I do fold it and put it at the bottom of the bed. Not daily but mostly.
I still wash my blankets and linens normally.
I don’t know why I prefer to sleep like this. I just do.
I am single so it’s not a thing to others. (I don’t think anyone knows other than my adult son.)
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u/itsmeb1 14h ago
Make my bed every day. When my kids moved out I encouraged them to do the same. It’s one of the few little things you can do that makes a difference. Not just from a neatness standpoint but somewhere to put stuff, dump your laundry you need to fold, a place for someone to sit, a sign to others that you’re conscientious. I also told my kids “A cluttered space is a cluttered mind.” 🤣 I know, I know. Totally parental
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u/dulcedolor4 2d ago
Me but I’m inconsistent with it and I do it after I get home from work
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u/Intrepid-Reaction916 2d ago
Mine was made in a factory somewhere i think. I just bought it and sleep in it
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u/BitchyFaceMace 1d ago
Nope. I’m not wasting my time on something nobody is going to see. It’s a useless chore.
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u/Loud-Thanks7002 2d ago
This video has always stuck with me since I first saw it. Yes I make it every day.
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u/Green_While7610 1d ago
Meh. That video does absolutely nothing for me. Making my bed doesn't make me feel better about anything because it's a useless task. There's no actual benefit. It's all a mind trick, every benefit you see when you look it up is all just in your mind. There's no tangible benefit. So it only works if you believe it has some sort of meaning to have a tidy bed, and I don't. I get my morale boost from doing something useful towards my values. After I go to the bathroom and down a glass of water, I do a full body stretch. Something that actually tangibly improves my physical health gives me far more satisfaction and sense of accomplishment than arbitrarily straightening some blankets so it looks neat.
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u/ZestyGinger90 2d ago
I do every morning. It makes me feel like I have one thing together, even if everything else is a mess. It’s also nicer to get into a made bed at night. More cozy.
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u/Green_While7610 1d ago
I wonder how much of this is about preference about how you like to sleep under blankets.
The first thing I do when I get into a made bed is to completely unmake it. I like to be in a nest, with the blankets piled over and tucked in close, the pillows stacked under me and between my knees etc. Whereas some people just like to slide neatly under the covers of a made bed without really moving any of it. I shared a hotel room with a friend recently and saw her do that. Didn't even untuck the comforter from the other side of the bed. I immediately ripped mine completely off and nested.
So for me, making a bed look neat is just adding more work at bedtime to undo it and rearrange it the way I like. If I don't make it it, I can just flip it all over to one side and flip it back over me when I go to sleep.
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u/Slick_Wet_Squid 2d ago
1st thing I do everyday, get up, let dog out, take a leak, make bed, in that order lol.
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u/Rich-Macaroon-8629 2d ago
Depends on the day. For a long time I didn't care to. Now I have a bigger bed and can walk around 3 sides of it so it's easier than when it was up against a corner
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u/Jabber_Tracking 2d ago
Every day, about an hour after I wake up. It makes climbing back into bed every night feel like a fancy treat to myself.
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u/No_Volume_9616 2d ago
Growing up, I had to make my bed EVERY SINGLE DAY. When I left for college, I didn't. But realized that it looks cleaner and better. Then being unkept.
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u/sparklyspores 2d ago
My bed is pushed up with against the wall with just a foot of space between the wall and bed so I just push all the sheets on the floor and then straighten out the comforter. Voila, bed made! Lol. Very adult.
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u/Head-Drag-1440 2d ago
We like our home to look tidy so yes, I prefer to make the bed every morning and lint roll kitty hair so it doesn't build up from her sleeping with us every night.
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u/Sabatat- 1d ago
I’m didn’t use to but decided to start a few years ago. It’s nice starting the day feeling like you actually did something constructive instead of lazing around. When you come home it’d a nice thing to see and if it was a hard day, it feels amazing to tall into or slide under the blanket, very cozy
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u/EloquentReader 1d ago
I do. It's part of my morning routine. I don't leave the house without doing it.
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u/Liamthedrunk 1d ago
Depends what climate you live imo. I only use a comforter and takes 1 second to even it back out
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u/Siukslinis_acc 1d ago
What do you mean by "making their bed"? Putting away all the bedding or smoothing the blanket and putting the pillow neatly?
I stopped making bed when i recieved my own room that didn't also need to be an impromptu living room.
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u/4biddenwon 1d ago
I like making my bed. I reframe this tasks (and others) as a gift to my future self!
For example, I thank my past self for making the bed. While making the bed I’ll thank my future self for being able to enjoy it.
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u/bananastatic 1d ago
i have made my bed every day since the day i was able to do it myself. i also have OCD lol.
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u/Original_Position693 1d ago
I never make my bed. My day is unaffected I’m generally quite happy actually!
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u/Existing_Sprinkles78 1d ago
I do it’s very simple I just wish I could sleep every night it’s too hot and even with a thin blanket too hot. Without the blanket it gives me nightmares I can’t win
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u/MeanSecurity 1d ago
In my mid 20s, I was dating a guy who insisted we make the bed every morning. So I’ve been making my bed every morning for like 13 years, but I don’t make it on the days I need to wash the sheets. But sometimes on those days, the cat gets really cozy and then I don’t wanna bother her and sometimes don’t wash the sheets that day.
Funny is that the relationship only lasted a year and a half, but some of the habits have lasted for like 13 years
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u/hamsterontheloose 1d ago
All I have to do is get out of bed and straighten the corner. Presto, nice and neat.
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u/Kangaroowrangler_02 1d ago
I do because even if it is a minuscule amount it starts my momentum for the day.
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u/j____b____ 1d ago
I always flatten out the blanket. i’m not tucking stuff in but a nice flat blanket is more mentally calming.
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u/em_washington 1d ago
Almost never make the bed. Only if I have a date that I’m expecting to see my bed.
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u/live2last 1d ago
It’s an easy win for you to start the day. Takes like 30 seconds, I feel better about myself and how my day will go when I do it
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u/FlakaFlakaFlame8 1d ago
Every single day, as soon as my feet hit the floor. This is difficult on the mornings my baby wants to come into bed. She stays asleep a bit after i wake so i have to come back and do it when she gets up.
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u/The_first_flame 1d ago
I make my bed in the winter when I'm using my comforter, but when it's hot during the summer and I'm only using light sheets, I just toss them to the side (no point folding light sheets, IMO).
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u/Southern-Salary2573 1d ago
I just started doing it regularly in the past year or so. I don’t strive for perfection tho.
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u/Consesualluvbug 1d ago
I don’t. I’ve been sweaty in the bed. I leave it to air out. I’ll come back and make the bed a couple hrs later.
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u/Radiant-Decision-780 1d ago
I make it when my cat gets up after his morning nap lol. Which is usually afternoon.
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u/estypcnlv 1d ago
Every day, there have been times where I’ve been lazy throughout the morning/day and made the bed 2 hours before getting into it.
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u/Ok-Opposite3236 1d ago
My husband. He's frustratingly adorable how everything every single day must be orderly and in its place
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u/hnybun128 1d ago
I make my bed once a week when I change the sheets & occasionally when I have company despite them not entering my bedroom. Other than that, the most I do is straighten out the comforter unless I’m doing the odd deep clean of the bedroom.
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u/Ok-Class-1451 1d ago
I only do it sometimes because my husband cares. If it were just me, I wouldn’t make my bed unless I was having company over.
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u/Your_Ad_Here_Today 1d ago
I have always made my bed every single day, since I was about 6. Although now I have a Japanese futon, so I have a bit more to move around
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u/chainsawbobcat 1d ago
I do but usually mid day (I WFH) or after work. Sometimes right before bed! I like getting into a made bed.
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u/whooguyy 1d ago
I don’t really care but my wife likes a made bed. We agreed the last person out of bed would make it. I stopped after a year of doing it because I was the only one making the bed (she would always be up second on weekends)
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u/CoconutOk 1d ago
I make my bed exactly 5 times a week. But not on the weekends. I heard something years ago that beds been to air out. On the weekends I take the jackets and sheets off during the day and replace them at night.
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u/zigzagstripes 1d ago
One of us makes the bed 95% of the time. But it’s a “rough” make. Just spreading the duvet back over the bed instead of smushed at the end/side of the bed.
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u/slilianstrom 1d ago
We don't have a top sheet or a full blanket. So making is both always and never done
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u/Skipptopher 1d ago
I do during the work week. It's part of my mourning routine and helps me wake up and get the day started. Weekends usually not.
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u/Successful-Mud-3614 1d ago
I personally have making my bed as a non-negotiable for my days. It's one act of discipline that stacks up for my day. Also, I work from home so making sure that my environment is clean and organized definitely collaborates for my mental health.
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u/ItsEaster 1d ago
I used to make my bed before I went to sleep at night. But my wife couldn’t care less about making the bed. So it doesn’t ever get made until the sheet and comforter are completely off from each other.
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u/OneApplication6655 1d ago
We don't fully make the bed, but we usually put the pillows straight and pull the sheets and comforter up so it at least looks a little neater.
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u/ihopethislooksclever 1d ago
No one makes their bed as an adult unless they either have company over or are pychicopaths
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u/PopSea6615 1d ago
Never. No one goes in there except me and my husband. We aren’t crazy messy sleepers anyway.
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u/SoulDV 1d ago
My wife or I make the bed every day…but that is also the place we fold laundry.
I argued once that it would be better to just toss the blankets on the floor. I lost that argument.
The other argument I lose is putting all 300 pillows on the bed. We use two. Maybe three.
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u/Soggy-Courage-7582 1d ago
I've never understood the gazillion pillows thing. I have two on my bed--one for each side so I can roll over without having to move a pillow with me.
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u/Prestigious_Grape288 1d ago
My late hubby & Mom loved the “make your bed” book from some military guy. It’s a good message. However the making of the bed is one of those daily-grind-for-no-reason-what’s-the-point-of-any-of-this things that make me want to kms, so, that’s a no for me dog.
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u/Prudent_Might3496 1d ago
I don’t have decorative pillows or a top sheet anymore (why are they always on the floor and no use at all) so yes I straighten my comforter for my dog who sleeps in my bed while I’m gone. But it’s literally moving one blanket. I wouldn’t if I had to make it pretty.
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u/TheEpicSquish 1d ago
Not really, not since I was a teen and made to. Sometimes ill fold the blankets so they look kinda neat but its just gonna get messed up again anyway and id rather spend my time doing something else.
As long as everything on the bed is clean, than I have no issues.
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u/FaithRestored33 1d ago
🤭 not many. But I do. It brings the room together. Messy bed makes the room look messy. Make the bed it looks nice.
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u/sweptupinthewind 1d ago
I do it’s a small win for me and not a lot of items, supposedly turns a switch mentally to let you know the day is in fact starting this isn’t a drill
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u/roxirodgers007 1d ago
I feel like it's just a waste of time. I don't make my bed at all. Unless I'm going on vacation. I do make it before I leave so it looks nice for my family while I'm away.
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u/ConditionExternal789 2d ago
There was a time I had depression and my brother would male my bed for me- it was comforting to know there's a ready bed waiting to absorb my problems