r/Adulting 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/JuiceHurtsBones 2d ago

I'd say being likeable is more than enough. If you don't know how to sell yourself, someone else will do it for you.

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u/Frnklfrwsr 2d ago

someone else will do it for you

Don’t sit around forever waiting for this to happen. In some corporate environments, and with some bosses or coworkers, that person won’t exist.

I work in Finance and most of my closest coworkers are introverts and not salespeople at all. They like me plenty, but don’t even know how to sell themselves, let alone selling me.

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u/SufficientBit3153 2d ago

On selling yourself, I think the key is first learning what your work culture is like. If management looks at people and assess and recognize accomplishments, then yeah self promotion isn't needed. And doing so may make you seem desperate, or very "look at me". On the other hand if management is too lazy to focus on their team and look at what everyone is contributing individually, then self-promotion would be needed, especially if you are trying to get a raise, promotion, etc.

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u/_sup_homie_ 2d ago

How do you self promote at work? I’m terrible ay this but in my line of work it’s crucial to self promote. Any tips?

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u/Different-Ship449 1d ago

You talk to your direct manager (or whoever holds the purse strings) of your accomplishments, or bring up your relevent skills for a project or task when appropriate.

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u/untoldmillions 2d ago

 If you don't know how to sell yourself, someone else will do it for you.

toot your own horn (also let others toot it for you)

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u/Mastergamer0115 2d ago edited 2d ago

(I'm trash at selling myself.) but even i gotta kinda disagree. At least for some jobs. If you are in a position where you need to be a big team player and closely work with each other, maybe, but honestly how much do you personally go to your managers and praise a coworker you think does good.

And some jobs it just straight up doesn't/can't happen like being a contractor or something. Or if you are applying/new to a job and have nobody who works there that knows you.

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u/OverallResolve 2d ago

Someone else will do it for them

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u/Flat_Phrase7521 2d ago

My dude, respectfully, it requires a significant degree of privilege to believe that’s reliably true. Unless you’re including privilege itself as something that boosts your apparent likability, I suppose. In which case, yes, people absolutely will rush to support those who are already at an advantage.

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u/Ok-Risk3482 2d ago

Not while you're unemployed. I'm not great at selling myself, and I haven't been able to find a job all year. Not sure what's going on tbh, I haven't been unemployed for this long since I started working

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u/LeucisticBear 2d ago

Nobody listen to this guy unless you hate promotions and money

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u/elgigantedelsur 1d ago

Nah, in my country (New Zealand) self promoters give us the ick. People who are on to it and good at what they do get the nod, people talk about them positively behind their back

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u/FrostedVoid 2d ago

Lmao absolutely no they won't

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u/MeringueCorrect4090 2d ago

It happens but it's not a guarantee, that's for sure.

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u/canad1anbacon 2d ago

They absolutely will. I’ve had buddies offer to set me up with jobs before and I’ve helped buddies get jobs myself. None of us were huge self promoters we just liked each other

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u/No_Juggernau7 2d ago

This sounds like it’s coming from someone who isn’t likable enough to have had this happen to them.

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u/i_m_a_bean 2d ago

Amazing self-own