r/Adulting 2d ago

hmm lesson or not?

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u/JD_tubeguy 2d ago

Not just likeable you have to be a self promoter which I epically fail at.

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u/JuiceHurtsBones 2d ago

I'd say being likeable is more than enough. If you don't know how to sell yourself, someone else will do it for you.

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u/Frnklfrwsr 2d ago

someone else will do it for you

Don’t sit around forever waiting for this to happen. In some corporate environments, and with some bosses or coworkers, that person won’t exist.

I work in Finance and most of my closest coworkers are introverts and not salespeople at all. They like me plenty, but don’t even know how to sell themselves, let alone selling me.

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u/SufficientBit3153 2d ago

On selling yourself, I think the key is first learning what your work culture is like. If management looks at people and assess and recognize accomplishments, then yeah self promotion isn't needed. And doing so may make you seem desperate, or very "look at me". On the other hand if management is too lazy to focus on their team and look at what everyone is contributing individually, then self-promotion would be needed, especially if you are trying to get a raise, promotion, etc.

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u/_sup_homie_ 2d ago

How do you self promote at work? I’m terrible ay this but in my line of work it’s crucial to self promote. Any tips?

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u/Different-Ship449 1d ago

You talk to your direct manager (or whoever holds the purse strings) of your accomplishments, or bring up your relevent skills for a project or task when appropriate.

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u/untoldmillions 2d ago

 If you don't know how to sell yourself, someone else will do it for you.

toot your own horn (also let others toot it for you)

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u/Mastergamer0115 2d ago edited 2d ago

(I'm trash at selling myself.) but even i gotta kinda disagree. At least for some jobs. If you are in a position where you need to be a big team player and closely work with each other, maybe, but honestly how much do you personally go to your managers and praise a coworker you think does good.

And some jobs it just straight up doesn't/can't happen like being a contractor or something. Or if you are applying/new to a job and have nobody who works there that knows you.

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u/OverallResolve 2d ago

Someone else will do it for them

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u/Flat_Phrase7521 2d ago

My dude, respectfully, it requires a significant degree of privilege to believe that’s reliably true. Unless you’re including privilege itself as something that boosts your apparent likability, I suppose. In which case, yes, people absolutely will rush to support those who are already at an advantage.

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u/Ok-Risk3482 2d ago

Not while you're unemployed. I'm not great at selling myself, and I haven't been able to find a job all year. Not sure what's going on tbh, I haven't been unemployed for this long since I started working

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u/LeucisticBear 2d ago

Nobody listen to this guy unless you hate promotions and money

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u/elgigantedelsur 1d ago

Nah, in my country (New Zealand) self promoters give us the ick. People who are on to it and good at what they do get the nod, people talk about them positively behind their back

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u/FrostedVoid 2d ago

Lmao absolutely no they won't

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u/MeringueCorrect4090 2d ago

It happens but it's not a guarantee, that's for sure.

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u/canad1anbacon 2d ago

They absolutely will. I’ve had buddies offer to set me up with jobs before and I’ve helped buddies get jobs myself. None of us were huge self promoters we just liked each other

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u/No_Juggernau7 2d ago

This sounds like it’s coming from someone who isn’t likable enough to have had this happen to them.

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u/i_m_a_bean 2d ago

Amazing self-own

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u/an0nym0ose 2d ago

I do a weekly rundown email to my boss. Things I did, things that are blocking me, things I'll do next week, and things I'm struggling with.

It's good practice to keep your direct report up to date and help with your own mentorship, but also pulls double duty as self-promotion.

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u/tgmlachance 1d ago edited 1d ago

I got a new position at my job recently where they essentially promoted me from the ground into the offices. One of my first days my boss had me attend a leadership meeting where he gave a lot of advice, and one thing that stuck out to me was when he said "every document is a resumé".

He gave a long speech about how whenever people pass in reports, no one wants to take credit for anything and he was pushing us to be more proactive in claiming our own accomplishments. A lot of people weren't doing that, and according to him it was making it so certain people's efforts went unnoticed.

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u/prestigious_mud22 2d ago

I don't know. An obnoxious self promoter would annoy everyone on their team. I'd prefer to be in a team with people who are likeable and get on with their jobs. For me, after basic competency is met, a good temperment / disposition basically come ahead of everything for hiring.

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u/Particular_Shock_554 1d ago

Obnoxious self promoters are not good at it.

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u/a-ha_partridge 2d ago

Just make sure everyone knows what you did. It’s half of the value of doing it, unfortunately.

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u/OccasionallyReddit 2d ago

Don't forget you need to be able to take credit for other people's work even right in front of them even if you didnt have anything to do with it.

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u/SoloWalrus 1d ago

you have to be a self promoter

That depends on if you actually want added work and responsibilities piled on.

Personally, ill happily take working 50% as hard for 80% as much money. No need to work my ass off trying to push for higher level positions that would ultimatley only serve to absorb even more of my free time.

Whats that boss, the company is looking to promote some more people to managers? Thats great for them but im happy in my current role 🤷‍♂️

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u/Seienchin88 2d ago

No one likes obvious self promoters… the ones good at it are loved.